Where Do Gays Retire Podcast

Mark Goldstein
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Where Do Gays Retire is a podcast where we help you in the LGBTQ+ community find a safe and affordable retirement destination. Join Mark Goldstein as he interviews others who live in gay-friendly places around the globe. Learn about the climate, cost of living, the LGBTQ + community, healthcare, crime and safety, and more.

  1. Jul 1

    The Frying Pan Is Now the Fire — Where Do We Go From Here?

    WHERE DO GAYS RETIRE PODCAST Show Notes The Frying Pan Is Now the Fire — Where Do We Go From Here? Hosted by Mark Goldstein| Solo Episode |April 2026 Sequel to: "Out of the Frying Pan Into the Fire" (July 2025) When Mark recorded "Out of the Frying Pan Into the Fire" last July, he was mostly thinking about political instability in other countries. He wasn't quite expecting the frying pan itself to turn up the heat this dramatically right here at home. In this solo follow-up episode, Mark takes a calm, clear-eyed look at where things actually stand in the United States right now for LGBTQ+ retirees — and more importantly, what your real options are. This is not a political commentary. It is not about panic. It is exactly what this podcast has always been: practical, honest information to help you make informed decisions about where to spend your golden years, openly, safely, and fabulously. In This Episode What NSPM-7 actually says — and what it doesn't say — about our communityWhy listener numbers are growing, and what that tells us about where our community is right nowThe case for staying: U.S. states with the strongest constitutional and legal protectionsThe case for going: why more LGBTQ+ retirees are seriously looking abroadThe honest complications of international living — Medicare, visas, family distanceFive questions to help you figure out where you standMark's personal story — Fort Collins, Peter, and the 1982 Málaga plane crashResources to stay informed and take action U.S. States With Strong LGBTQ+ Legal Protections — Featured in This Episode Mark highlights states where same-sex marriage rights are protected at the state constitutional level or through strong statutory protections — states where your rights would remain intact even if the federal picture changes. Constitutional protection states: New York — equal protection enshrined in state constitution (2024); marriage equality since 2011California — right to marry enshrined as a fundamental right in state constitution (2024)Colorado — constitutional ban removed by voters (2024) + inclusive statutory definition enacted (2025)New Mexico — state Supreme Court ruled marriage equality required under state constitution (2013); codified by unanimous legislative vote (2019)Nevada — marriage equality positively enshrined in state constitution (2020) — no episode yet, but worth watching! Strong statutory protection states are also mentioned: Massachusetts — first state to legalize same-sex marriage (2004); no banVermont — civil unions pioneer (2000); no banRhode Island, Washington State, New Jersey, Maryland, Illinois, Oregon — all with no dormant bans International Destinations Mentioned in This Episode Spain — Torremolinos, Sitges, Malaga, Costa del SolPortugal — Algarve, CascaisMexico — Ajijic, Puerto Vallarta, Mexico City, QueretaroFrance, Netherlands, Costa Rica For our full archive of international destination episodes, see the Episode Resource Guide linked in the show notes for this episode. LGBTQ+ Retirement Communities Mentioned Living Out — Palm Springs, California | livingout.comFountain Grove Lodge — Santa Rosa, California Referenced Episode "Out of the Frying Pan Into the Fire — Why the Political Climate Matters for LGBTQ+ Retirees" Originally aired July 2, 2025. Available in the podcast archive at wheredogaysretire.com. Resources Mentioned in This Episode U.S. Legal & Advocacy: ACLU — aclu.orgLambda Legal — lambdalegal.orgFreedom for All Americans — freedomforallamericans.orgMovement Advancement Project (state-by-state tracker) — lgbtmap.org International Research: ILGA World — global LGBTQ+ rights by country — ilga.orgInternational Living — Global Retirement Index — internationalliving.comSocial Security abroad — ssa.gov/international Episode Resource Guide Download the companion Episode Resource Guide for this episode — a curated list of our top international destination episodes and our top U.S. protective state episodes, organized and ranked by downloads. Available at wheredogaysretire.com/fryingpan2 Connect With Mark & the Community Facebook: Where Do Gays Retire — facebook.com/groups/wheredogaysretireFacebook: Gay Men 60 and Better (27,700+ members) — facebook.com/groups/gaymen60andbetterEmail Mark — mark@wheredogaysretire.comSchedule a call with Mark — savvycal.com/MarkscalendarFull episode archive — wheredogaysretire.com Support the Podcast If you enjoy the Where Do Gays Retire podcast, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs it. You can also support the show by buying Mark a coffee at wheredogaysretire.com — each $5 coffee helps keep the podcast going. "Retirement is not just about warm weather. It is about living openly, safely, and fabulously, wherever in the world that may be for you." — Mark Goldstein, Where Do Gays Retire Episode Resource Guide: Where to Retire — International & U.S. Destinations Companion resource to: "The Frying Pan Is Now the Fire — Where Do We Go From Here?" Whether you are thinking about staying in the United States or exploring a life abroad, this guide brings together the most-listened-to episodes from the Where Do Gays Retire podcast archive. U.S. episodes are curated to include only states where LGBTQ+ legal protections are strong and where same-sex marriage would remain protected even in the absence of a federal ruling. All episodes are available wherever you listen to podcasts, or at wheredogaysretire.com. PART 1: Top International Destination EpisodesThese are the international episodes your fellow listeners have returned to most. Spain leads by a wide margin, appearing seven times in the top fifteen. Exploring Retirement in Spain: Valencia vs. Malaga for LGBTQ Expats with Dave Piccolo, Jesus Bartoli and Steve AronbergAjijic, Mexico: A Vibrant LGBTQ+ Haven Revisited with Steve Cross and Harold WattsSitges vs. Torremolinos, Spain With Richard Jasicki and Leo BoniMalta, with Eric Tenin and Michael SaloneRetire in Style: Why Nice, France is the Ultimate LGBTQ Destination With Jameson FarnTwo Countries, One Community: LGBTQ+ Retirement Insights from Spain and Portugal with Bruce Joffe and Russ WarrenAthens, Greece with Steve Gantzos and Ken CookNerja, Spain: A Mediterranean Hideaway with Richard CarnabyAmsterdam, The Netherlands with Jeremy BierbachOloron Sainte-Marie, France with Mykle FlatleyDon't Just Visit — Live! Americans Moving To Spain with Christopher HugheyMadrid, Spain with Renato PadillaFrom the Heart of Gran Canaria — Raquel Rojas on LGBTQ+ Life and Island LivingEmbracing Retirement: Waldron McGinnis's Journey to Courtown, IrelandWeather, Wine, and Wonder: Retirement Life in Madeira With Paul Corning and Kevin McKay Key destinations in the archive: Spain (Valencia, Malaga, Sitges, Torremolinos, Nerja, Madrid, Gran Canaria) • Mexico (Ajijic, Puerto Vallarta, Mexico City, Oaxaca, San Miguel de Allende) • France (Nice, Oloron Sainte-Marie, Paris, Dordogne) • Portugal (Lisbon, Cascais, Algarve, Braga, Tavira, Porto, Ericeira, Madeira) • Greece, Netherlands, Malta, Ireland, Germany, Argentina, Colombia, Costa Rica, Thailand, Ecuador, Uruguay PART 2: U.S. Episodes — States with Strong LGBTQ+ Legal ProtectionsThese episodes cover states where same-sex marriage rights are protected at the constitutional level or through strong statutory protections — states where your rights would remain intact even if the federal picture changes. ⭐ Note: Nevada has the strongest constitutional protection of any state — marriage equality is positively enshrined in its state constitution. A Nevada episode is not yet in the archive! ——— CONSTITUTIONAL PROTECTION STATES California — Right to marry enshrined as a fundamental right in the state constitution (2024) Inside Living Out: The LGBTQ Community That Feels Like Family — With Loren OstrowFinding Your Gay Retirement Paradise: Fountain Grove Lodge with Chuck Finch & Ed CambronPalm Springs, CA with Robyn Meltzer and Susan BrennanCathedral City, California With Keith ColemanSacramento, California with Greg WineSan Diego With Stephen Keiley New Mexico — State constitution requires marriage equality (Griego v. Oliver, 2013); codified by unanimous legislative vote (2019) Albuquerque, New Mexico with Pamm MeyersChoosing Your Desert Oasis: Albuquerque, NM vs. Tucson, AZ for LGBTQ+...

    34 min

  2. Jun 17

    Gay Retirement in Querétaro, Mexico: Real Costs, Healthcare, Visas & LGBTQ+ Life

    🎙️ Where Do Gays Retire Podcast wheredogaysretire.com Gay Retirement in Querétaro, Mexico: Real Costs, Healthcare, Visas & LGBTQ+ Life Featuring Bryan Hutson & Juan Gomar •Hosted by Mark Goldstein Most people think of Puerto Vallarta or San Miguel de Allende when they imagine retiring in Mexico. Bryan Hutson and Juan Gomar — the gay couple behind boutique candle brand Casa Beige — chose something different: Querétaro, a modern, walkable, affordable city in Mexico's highlands that almost no one in the LGBTQ+ retirement conversation is talking about yet. In this episode, they share what it's really like to live there — real costs, healthcare experiences, how they got their residency, and what the gay community is actually like on the ground. 🎯 What You'll Learn Why Querétaro beats tourist towns on price — and why that matters for expatsWhat a doctor visit, specialist, and prescriptions actually cost out of pocketHow Bryan and Juan got their 4-year residency through a COVID-era regularization program — and why you should still hire a facilitatorThe rental screening process (poliza juridica) that surprises most AmericansWhat the LGBTQ+ scene looks like: community centers, gay bars, Pride parades, and social lifeHow important Spanish really is — and what happens if you only speak EnglishThe senior discount card (60+) that gets you free museum entry and medical discounts across MexicoWhy Querétaro is a great fit for some people — and a poor fit for others 🌺 About the Guests Bryan Hutson has over 40 years of experience in horticulture, retail leadership, landscape design, and nonprofit arts. Juan Gomar is an accomplished floral and event designer originally from Guatemala, known for bold, expressive work with high-end clients in Dallas. Together, they founded Casa Beige, a boutique soy candle and lifestyle brand inspired by Mexican culture and memory, now based in the hills of Tejada outside Querétaro's city center. 💡 Key Takeaways Querétaro is driven by business and manufacturing investment — not tourism. That keeps prices real.Grocery run for two with meat and fish: roughly 2,000–3,000 pesos ($125–$190 USD)Internet: ~$50–60/month. Trash pickup: free, daily except Sundays.Specialist visit in the public system: as low as 100 pesos (~$6). Private specialist with tests and medication: around $60.Most common medications — including blood pressure meds — are available over the counter.Uber to the city center: about $2–3. Buses: 10 pesos (50 cents).The gay community is active and welcoming — even in a city known for being Catholic and conservative.Their single strongest advice: hire a local facilitator for residency. Do not try to navigate it alone. 🎧 Listen & Watch Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and all major platforms. Visit wheredogaysretire.com to listen and explore every destination episode 💬 Stay Connected Email: mark@wheredogaysretire.comWebsite: wheredogaysretire.comSupport the show: buymeacoffee.com/wheregaysretire If this episode helped you, please share it with someone thinking about retiring abroad. It really does make a difference. The information shared in this episode reflects the personal experiences of our guests and is for general informational purposes only. Visa rules, healthcare policies, and costs change frequently. Please consult qualified legal, medical, immigration, and financial professionals before making any decisions about retiring or living abroad.

    1h 42m

  3. Jun 3

    Cologne, Germany: The Gay Capital of Europe That No One Talks About

    🎙️ Where Do Gays Retire Podcast Episode: Cologne, Germany — The Gay Capital of Europe That No One Talks About Guest: Bryson Kelpe Have you ever considered Cologne, Germany, as a place to retire or live abroad? Most people haven't — and after this episode, you just might add it to your list. This week I sat down with Bryson Kelpe, an American expat therapist who left Tennessee behind in 2019 and built a full, rich life in Germany's gay capital. Bryson brings a unique perspective — not just as someone who lives there, but as a therapist who works daily with expats navigating the real challenges and joys of life in Germany. 🏙️ Where Is Cologne?Cologne is a city of about one million people situated in northwest Germany on the Rhine River, close to the borders of Belgium, the Netherlands, and Luxembourg. It's famous for its stunning UNESCO World Heritage cathedral, its legendary Carnival season, and its warm, welcoming culture, which sets it apart from other German cities. Bryson describes it simply as a "gay village on the Rhine." 🌈 Why They Chose ItAfter honeymooning in Germany in 2016, Bryson and his husband kept coming back — scouting both Berlin and Cologne before his husband's work gave them the opening to make the move permanent in 2019. What kept them? The people. The community. The connectivity to the rest of Europe. And yes, the fact that Switzerland was just too expensive. 🏳️‍🌈 LGBTQ+ Life in CologneCologne is widely considered Germany's gay capital — and it earns that title year-round, not just during Pride. Highlights include: A vibrant gay bar scene centered around Schaafenstrasse — home to Cologne's famous Bermuda Triangle*Gay sport clubs, bear clubs, rugby teams, and men's chorusesThe Rainbow Symphony and gay carnival clubsCologne Pride — still rooted as a political protest, with two full weeks of eventsCologne Bear Pride every November at the start of the Christmas marketsFour same-sex couples holding hands on a 20-minute walk — just a regular Tuesday 🏡 Daily LifeCologne is highly walkable, and car-free living is entirely realistic. Public transportation is excellent, and car-sharing apps like Flinkster and Miles make day trips easy without owning a vehicle. Weekly outdoor markets, international cuisine, and a thriving cafe culture make everyday life comfortable and enjoyable. Sundays, however, grocery stores are closed — so plan ahead! 💶 Cost of LivingCologne is considered moderate by European standards. Some real numbers from Bryson: Groceries: ~60 euros per week for twoFarm fresh eggs: 2.50 euros for a pack of tenEspresso: 1.50 euros at a local cafeFurnished one-bedroom apartment: 1,200–2,000 euros/monthComfortable retired couple budget: 2,500–3,000 euros/month (excluding insurance)Average dinner out: 20–30 euros 🏥 HealthcareGermany has both a public and private healthcare system. Public insurance is available to those working in Germany who earn below a certain income threshold — you pay part, your employer pays part. With public insurance, you simply use your chip card at the doctor's or pharmacy. Private insurance requires paying up front and getting reimbursed. Many foreign retirees opt for private international health insurance, at least initially, until they establish residency and determine their eligibility for the public system. Emergency care is dramatically more affordable than in the US — Bryson's ER visit, including an X-ray on a weekend, came to just 128 euros. Note: Healthcare eligibility and costs vary based on your employment status, visa type, and residency situation. Consult a qualified advisor before making decisions. 📋 Visas — Pathways for American RetireesGermany does not have a formal retirement visa, but there are several pathways for American retirees: Residence Permit for Financially Independent Individuals — The most direct route for retirees. Prove you can financially support yourself through pensions, Social Security, savings, or investments, and that you have comprehensive health insurance. This falls under Section 7 of the German Residence Act and is the most realistic option for most retired Americans.Language School Visa — Valid for up to 12 months while enrolled in an intensive language course. Can be a good first step to get established in Germany.Family Reunification Visa — If you have a spouse, partner, or close family member who is a legal resident or citizen of Germany, this is a viable pathway.Settlement Permit (Permanent Residency) — Available after five years of legal residency in Germany. The US and Germany also have a Social Security totalization agreement, which can benefit Americans who have worked in both countries. Note: German immigration rules can change and vary by local immigration office. Always consult a qualified German immigration attorney before making decisions. ⚖️ Honest Trade-offsWhat you gain: Walkability, connectivity to all of Europe, affordable food and healthcare, a rich LGBTQ+ community, safety, and a culture that will push you out of your comfort zone in the best way. What you give up: American-style convenience and instant gratification. Banking, bureaucracy, and apartment hunting all require patience. And learning German — while not strictly required — will meaningfully deepen your experience and friendships. 🎧 Listen NowFind this episode wherever you get your podcasts, or visit www.wheredogaysretire.com 💬 Join the ConversationWould YOU retire in Cologne? Drop a comment, send me a DM, or email me at mark@wheredogaysretire.com — I'd love to hear your thoughts. "I live in Cologne for the people and the community you'll make here." — Bryson Kelpe Warmly, Mark Goldstein 🎙️ Host, Where Do Gays Retire 🌐 www.wheredogaysretire.com ✉️ mark@wheredogaysretire.com 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/wheredogaysretire 📸 Instagram: @wheredogaysretire ☕ Enjoyed the show? Buy me a coffee! The Cologne Bermuda Triangle refers to the cluster of gay bars, clubs, and restaurants concentrated around the Schaafenstrasse neighborhood — so called because once you enter, you may never find your way out! It's the heart of Cologne's LGBTQ+ nightlife and one of the most well-known gay entertainment districts in all of Germany. This episode is intended for informational purposes only. Immigration, tax, and healthcare rules change frequently and vary by individual circumstance. Always consult qualified legal, tax, and financial professionals before making major life decisions.

    1h 2m

  4. May 20

    Why LGBTQ+ Retirees Are Discovering Vienna, Austria as Their Perfect New Home

    Living in Vienna, Austria with Nikolett Kustos: An Expat’s PerspectiveDiscover the nuances of life in Vienna through Nikolett Kustos's experiences as a Hungarian-born photographer and resident. From cultural differences to practical cost-of-living insights, this episode offers a comprehensive view of what makes Vienna a unique and appealing place to live. In this episode:Nikolett’s journey from Hungary to Vienna and her reasons for stayingThe cultural similarities and differences between Austria and HungaryVienna’s social attitude and community dynamicsClimate, geography, and proximity to neighboring countriesCost of living: housing, utilities, transportation, and groceriesWalkability and public transportation systemThe vibrant LGBTQ community and safety in ViennaResidency, visa options, and bureaucratic processesLanguage considerations and expat integrationHealthcare system quality and accessCrime levels and safety perceptionsAustrian cuisine and culinary sceneCoffee culture and social habitsTrade-offs of living in Vienna compared to the USWhy Vienna is an ideal place for retirementAustria’s tax environment: no wealth tax, no inheritance or estate taxes Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction to Nikolett and her background 02:00 - Reasons for moving to Vienna and cultural similarities with Hungary 05:15 - Vienna’s social attitude and community feel 07:30 - Climate, geography, and travel opportunities around Austria 10:00 - Cost of housing: old vs. new buildings 13:00 - Cost of utilities and telecommunications 15:00 - Transportation costs, public transit, and walkability 19:00 - Safety and crime rates in Vienna 21:45 - Food culture: traditional and international cuisine 25:30 - Coffeehouse scene and social habits 29:00 - Expat community and language in Vienna 33:50 - LGBTQ visibility, pride, and community safety 36:45 - Residency options, visa processes, and bureaucracy 43:00 - Healthcare system and quality of medical services 50:00 - Taxes, income tax, and international tax liabilities 55:30 - Austria’s healthcare coverage and private insurance 60:00 - Crime, safety, and gun laws 65:00 - Suitability for different demographics and lifestyle preferences 75:00 - Trade-offs: what might not appeal to everyone 78:30 - Why Vienna is a great retirement destination Resources & Links:Vienna Tourism BoardAustrian Tourist OfficeÖGK (Austrian Social Insurance)Vienna Public Transport (Wiener Linien)Book: “Living and Investing in Vienna” — Amazon searchAustrian Embassy to the USForeigners and Expats in Vienna and Austria (Facebook Group) Connect with Nikolett:LinkedIn — Nikolett Kustos Austria’s Tax EnvironmentAustria has no wealth tax and no inheritance, estate, or gift taxes. The inheritance and gift tax was abolished back in 2008. A few nuances worth knowing: Real estate transfers — While there’s no inheritance tax per se, real estate received through inheritance or gift is subject to a transfer tax, and a land registration fee of 1.1% of market value is also owed by the heir.Gift reporting obligations — Even though gifts aren’t taxed, gifts of cash, shares, and similar assets must be declared to the tax authorities if they exceed €50,000 in the case of relatives, or €15,000 in the case of third parties. Failure to report can result in fines.Could this change? — There’s been some political discussion about reintroducing these taxes, though it is considered rather unlikely under the current government. Austria’s Healthcare System: What American Retirees Need to KnowResidents are defined as individuals who have legally resided in Austria for 6 months or more and are entitled to healthcare under the state social insurance system. However, access to the public ÖGK system depends heavily on employment status: If you’re employed, you’re automatically enrolled through your employer the moment you start working.If you’re retired and not working, individuals living permanently in Austria who are not covered by the state health system may get coverage by paying monthly fees, similar to coverage from a private insurance company, with a six-month waiting period.If you’re self-employed or a freelancer, you can register with a separate body called the SVS, though these individuals need to pay 20% of the cost of treatment, and healthcare will not be completely free. The visa requirement wrinkle Persons from third countries (non-EU) will only get a residence permit for staying more than six months if they can first provide proof of having health insurance covering “all risks.” So you essentially need private insurance before you can even get the visa — and then you can transition to the public system once you’re established as a resident. Monthly costs Contributions to the public ÖGK amount to approximately 7.65% of gross income, split between the employee and the employer.For those self-insuring voluntarily (not employed), student self-insurance at the ÖGK costs around €63 per month.Private plans for expats run roughly €30–€100 per month, depending on age and coverage. Bottom line for listeners: An American retiree moving to Austria would likely need to start with private health insurance to obtain their visa, then, after establishing legal residency, could potentially transition to the public system — but it’s worth consulting an immigration specialist given the complexity. Note:Each section offers practical insights for prospective expats and retirees considering Vienna as their new home Please always consult a professional tax and immigration attorney before making a move. A note on long-term residency for non-EU citizens: Retiring to Austria as a US citizen is possible but genuinely difficult. The primary pathway is the Settlement Permit (Gainful Employment Excepted), which requires sufficient passive income, comprehensive health insurance, proof of accommodation, and basic German language skills. The catch is that only approximately 300 of these permits are issued nationwide each year, quota places are assigned on a first-come, first-served basis at the start of each calendar year, and immigration attorneys note that securing a spot is rarely possible without legal support. If you are serious about Austria, start the process early in the year and budget for professional immigration help.

    1h 22m

  5. May 6

    Retirement in Cape Town: The Pros, The Trade-Offs & The Truth - With William E

    Living in Cape Town: Insights on Retirement, Culture, and Practical Life Explore the diverse and vibrant city of Cape Town through the eyes of local William E., as he discusses its changing landscape, LGBTQ community, cost of living, safety, healthcare, and cultural scene. Whether you're considering retiring there or just curious about life in South Africa, this episode offers valuable, firsthand perspectives. Key Topics: How Cape Town has evolved post-apartheid, especially in terms of LGBTQ acceptance and inclusivityThe impact of geography and seasons on daily life, weather surprises, and scenic drivesCost of living trends, rent prices, and affordability for retireesNavigating safety, crime levels, and preventative measures as a residentHealthcare system overview: private vs public, costs, and access to medications including HIV preventionTransportation options: buses, taxis, walkability, and getting around without a carThe food scene: diverse cuisines, popular neighborhoods, and local culinary influencesArts, culture, museums, theater, and community activitiesDaily routines, lifestyle, and what makes residents happyCurrent political climate, economic conditions, and misconceptions about South Africa Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and William’s background in Cape Town 02:53 - Changes in Cape Town for LGBT community over the years 05:03 - Common misconceptions about Cape Town’s climate 07:38 - How geography influences daily life and seasons 09:43 - Winter lows and summer highs in Celsius 12:11 - Climate change observations and environmental challenges 14:11 - Cost of living: inflation, property prices, and affordability 16:23 - Popular areas for retirees and their accessibility 17:43 - Retirement income potential and local utility costs 20:35 - Surprising expenses for newcomers, like gym memberships 21:42 - Transportation history and options in Cape Town 23:36 - Walkability and car independence in different neighborhoods 25:18 - Evolution of LGBTQ life and acceptance in Cape Town 27:03 - Safety considerations and legal protections for LGBTQ residents 31:56 - Nightlife, gay bars, and community spaces 34:26 - General safety, crime trends, and precautions 40:26 - Healthcare system, private vs public, costs, and medication access 52:55 - Visas, residency, and legal requirements for retirees 58:59 - Food scene, dining culture, and regional cuisines 69:38 - Arts, museums, theater, and cultural happenings 71:58 - Daily routines, hobbies, and what makes residents happy 74:52 - Political climate, social tensions, and current issues 80:17 - Infrastructure challenges such as load shedding and climate adaptation 82:51 - Final thoughts: the diversity and contradictions of Cape Town 84:10 - Closing remarks and William’s final advice for prospective retirees Resources & Links: Cape Town Tourism - Official SiteSouth African Cost of Living Data Note: The episode offers a nuanced understanding of life in Cape Town, emphasizing its contradictions — from natural beauty to infrastructural challenges. Ideal for prospective retirees, expats, or anyone curious about South Africa’s most iconic city.

    1h 19m

  6. Apr 22

    HIV+ And Retiring Abroad Which Countries Actually Have Your Back? With Host Mark Goldstein

    🎧 WHERE DO GAYS RETIRE PODCAST HIV+ and Retiring Abroad: Which Countries Actually Have Your Back? Solo Episode •Host: Mark Goldstein • 46 min 17 sec Episode Description If you are HIV-positive and thinking about retiring abroad, you have probably researched the cost of living, visas, and LGBTQ+ rights. But there is one question almost nobody addresses directly: what actually happens to your antiretroviral medications when you move? Will you be able to get them? Will they be covered? Or will you arrive in a country where you are suddenly paying thousands of dollars out of pocket every month for medication you cannot live without? In this solo episode, Mark Goldstein digs into the research to give you real, sourced, country-by-country answers. He opens with a surprising look at Spain — where a legal paradox means undocumented residents have more HIV treatment rights than Americans on a legal Non-Lucrative Visa — then walks through ten countries evaluated against three clear criteria: LGBTQ+ rights, retirement visa access, and genuine HIV treatment availability. The research draws on positivedestinations.info (HIV Justice Network), the 2024 InfoVIH legal guide from gTt-VIH in Barcelona, and a series of legal guides provided by the HIV Legal Clinic at the University of Alcalá in Spain — backed by rulings from the Spanish Supreme Court. This episode is for anyone living with HIV who wants honest, accurate information before making one of the most important decisions of their life. In This Episode The Spain NLV situation — what the Convenio Especial does and does not cover, confirmed by Spanish Supreme Court rulingsThe extraordinary legal paradox: why undocumented residents in Spain have more HIV treatment rights than NLV visa holdersThe three criteria used to evaluate every country: LGBTQ+ rights, retirement visa access, and HIV treatment accessWhy do all featured countries have domestically funded HIV systems unaffected by the 2025 PEPFAR funding freezeA country-by-country breakdown of HIV treatment access, visa options, and LGBTQ+ legal statusThe legal paradox in Colombia: HIV criminal laws that distinguish it from every other country featuredItaly’s November 2025 ECJ ruling and what it does — and does not — mean for American same-sex couplesA call to action for HIV-positive listeners who have already made a move abroad to share their story Countries Covered Full Feature — All Three Criteria Met 🇵🇹 Portugal — The Gold Standard D7 Passive Income Visa: ~€920/monthHIV treatment is free for all, regardless of migration status — praised by UNAIDSARVs dispensed at hospital pharmacies, refilled every 3 months, zero costSame-sex marriage legal since 2010 🇦🇷 Argentina — The Latin America Leader Pensionado/Rentista visa: ~$1,500–$2,000/monthFree HIV treatment in all public hospitals, regardless of immigration statusPath to citizenship in just 2 years of continuous residenceSame-sex marriage legal since 2010 — first in Latin America 🇺🇾 Uruguay — The Underrated Gem Rentista visa: ~$1,500/monthMigrants have the same health rights as Uruguayan nationals by lawNo HIV-specific criminalization laws — zero documented prosecutionsSame-sex marriage legal since 2013 🇨🇷 Costa Rica — Central America’s Progressive Gem Pensionado visa: just $1,000/month — lowest threshold in the AmericasCAJA social security system covers HIV treatment for legal residentsNon-nationals who cannot afford contributions still have the right to HIV care without interruption — Article 11, Comprehensive HIV and AIDS ActSame-sex marriage legal since 2020 — first in Central America 🇫🇷 France — The European Option Beyond Spain Visiteur long-stay visa for passive income retireesAnyone resident 3+ months is entitled to public health cover, including ARVsArticle 313-11: residence permit granted to those who cannot access treatment in their home country — accounts for discrimination as a barrierSame-sex marriage legal since 2013 🇩🇪 Germany — Europe’s Structured Approach Full ARV coverage through the statutory health insurance systemMigrants in deportation proceedings will not be deported if ARV treatment is unavailable in their home countrySame-sex marriage legal since 2017 🇪🇨 Ecuador — The Surprise Standout Pensionado visa: ~$800/month — most accessible threshold in this episodeFree HIV treatment regardless of nationality or documentation statusFirst-person verified: 7-year expat confirms zero HIV restrictions at any residency stageSame-sex marriage legal since 2019 Include With Caveats 🇲🇽 Mexico — Strong Policy, Real-World Complications Strong legal framework: NOM-010-SSA-2023 guarantees HIV treatment access regardless of immigration statusCAVEAT: Documented ARV supply shortages reported 2024–2025 across multiple public health institutionsSame-sex marriage legal in all 32 statesPermanent Resident Visa: ~$2,500–3,000/month 🇹🇭 Thailand — The Wildcard — Verify Before You Go Same-sex marriage legalized in January 2025 — first in AsiaExcellent, affordable private healthcare; ARVs available privatelyCAVEAT: Long-stay residency policy for people with HIV is genuinely unclear — the list of prohibited diseases is not publicly accessibleVerify with the Royal Thai Embassy and CHARM Thailand before committing Honorable Mentions 🇨🇴 Colombia — Good Access, Important Legal Concern HIV treatment is available through the AHF network in multiple citiesIMPORTANT: Active HIV-specific criminal laws with documented prosecutionsSame-sex marriage legal since 2016 🇮🇹 Italy — Excellent HIV Access, Evolving LGBTQ+ Rights Free HIV treatment even for undocumented non-nationals at the Servizio Sanitario NazionaleCivil unions have been recognized since 2016; same-sex marriage has not yet been performed domesticallyNovember 2025 ECJ ruling: Italy must now recognize same-sex marriages performed in other EU countries by EU citizensFor American couples: US marriage is still registered as a civil union under Italian domestic law Key Resources Mentioned Positive Destinations — Global HIV Travel & Residency Database: https://www.positivedestinations.infoInfoVIHtal 2024 (Spain NLV + HIV treatment, English): https://www.gtt-vih.orgHIV Legal Clinic, University of Alcalá — Free legal consultations on HIV rights in Spain: https://www.uah.esGAT Portugal — HIV healthcare access guide for migrants: https://www.gatportugal.orgFundación Huésped — Argentina’s leading HIV advocacy organization: https://www.huesped.org.ar HIV Legal Clinic, University of Alcalá — Free, anonymous, confidential consultations on HIV rights in Spain: clinicalegal@uah.es Share Your Story Are you HIV-positive and living abroad? Mark would love to hear about your experience accessing antiretroviral treatment in any of these countries or elsewhere in the world. Your story is confidential. You do not have to appear on the podcast. Email: mark@wheredogaysretire.com Connect & Support the Show Website: https://www.wheredogaysretire.comSupport the Podcast: https://buymeacoffee.com/wheregaysretire The information in this episode is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or medical advice. Always consult qualified healthcare and legal professionals before making decisions about living abroad.

    46 min

  7. Apr 8

    Living in Braga, Portugal: An Expat's Personal Journey Toward Peace, Community, and Tranquility

    Living in Braga, Portugal: An Expat's Personal Journey Toward Peace, Community, and Tranquility Join us as we sit down with John Pistana, a retired American expatriate who moved from New York and Fort Lauderdale, FL, to the charming city of Braga, Portugal. Discover his insights on cost of living, community integration, healthcare, and what makes Braga a peaceful haven for retirees seeking safety, walkability, and authentic culture. In this episode:John's personal journey from Upstate New York to Braga, PortugalWhy Braga's climate, cost, and lifestyle attracted himThe local real estate market: rentals and renovationsCost of living comparison: Braga vs. Lisbon, Porto, and the USAHealthcare system overview: public vs. private options and costsNavigating visas and residency as a retireeLocal transportation, walkability, and connectivityLGBTQ+ community presence and integrationThe vibrant food scene: regional dishes, international cuisine, and marketplacesCultural norms: outdoor living, social habits, and community safetyPractical tips on language, banking, and managing taxesThe emotional and practical aspects of downsizing and starting anew Timestamp Highlights:00:00 - Welcome and John's story: From New York to Braga 02:22 - Why John fell in love with Braga's vibe and community 04:41 - Braga's geographical location and local environment 06:11 - Weather and climate patterns across seasons 08:40 - Cost of living essentials: rent, utilities, and groceries 12:57 - Comparing Braga's expenses with Lisbon and Porto 15:00 - Public services, transportation, and walkability 19:49 - Train travel between Braga, Porto, Lisbon, and beyond 23:17 - The local dining and wine scene 27:55 - Embracing the peaceful lifestyle and community safety 42:15 - Cultural approaches to neighborliness and outdoor living 45:16 - Portugal’s acceptance and safety for LGBTQ+ residents 54:22 - Practical tips for managing belongings and downsizing 58:17 - Tax considerations for US retirees living in Portugal 62:26 - Transportation options, owning a vehicle, and exploring the country 64:03 - Safety and crime: Braga’s secure community environment 66:55 - The political climate regarding LGBTQ+ rights 71:20 - Final advice for those considering Braga as their retirement haven Whether you're contemplating retirement abroad or just curious about life in Portugal, John's experience offers valuable insights into creating a peaceful, connected, and fulfilling life in Braga.

    1h 15m

  8. Mar 25

    Exhale in Cascais: A Laidback Retirement Paradise with Alastair Cull and Wes Williams

    Today, we're diving deep into the sunny shores of Cascais, Portugal, and trust me, it’s not just a pretty postcard! Our guests, Alastair and Wes, share their journey from bustling city life to the chill vibes of this coastal gem, where they’ve found a safe haven to retire. They spill the tea on what it’s like to live in a place that’s all about art, food, and a good dose of relaxation, while also touching on the LGBTQ-friendly atmosphere. Whether you're curious about the cost of living, healthcare, or just how to hold hands without an audience, we've got you covered. So, grab your shades and let’s take this virtual trip together! Cascais, Portugal is a vibrant spot where Alastair Cull and Wes Williams have found their happy retirement after years of dreaming about life in Europe. In this episode, Mark Goldstein takes us through the pair's journey from the hustle and bustle of North America to the serene coastlines of Portugal. Alastair and Wes share how they navigated the challenges of relocating during a pandemic and embraced the new lifestyle that came with it. They fell in love with the warm climate, stunning beaches, and the friendly atmosphere that welcomed them with open arms. Listeners get a peek into their daily lives, filled with relaxing walks along the beach, engaging with the local community, and enjoying delightful meals at charming cafes. The duo emphasizes how easy it is to blend into the vibrant culture of Cascais while still feeling safe and accepted for who they are. They talk about the significance of finding a place that allows for true self-expression, where love can be celebrated freely, and life can be enjoyed at a more leisurely pace. Through witty anecdotes and heartfelt discussions, Alastair and Wes provide insights into the practical aspects of retiring in Cascais, such as healthcare, cost of living, and the overall quality of life. They reflect on the beauty of their new life, filled with joy and adventure, and encourage anyone considering retirement abroad to dive in and explore the possibilities. This episode of Where Do Gays Retire? is not just about finding the perfect location; it’s about discovering a lifestyle that resonates with one’s true self. Takeaways: Cascais, Portugal is a chill place for LGBTQ retirees, offering safety and a decent cost of living.Mark interviews Alastair and Wes about their move to Cascais and life post-retirement.Life in Cascais is all about relaxation, art, food, and enjoying the calm ocean vibes.Public displays of affection are totally cool in Cascais, no weird looks, just love!The cost of living in Cascais is manageable, especially if you're smart about your choices.Cascais offers beautiful beaches, rich history, and a welcoming community for everyone. Links referenced in this episode: wheredogaysretire.com Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

    1h 34m
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Where Do Gays Retire is a podcast where we help you in the LGBTQ+ community find a safe and affordable retirement destination. Join Mark Goldstein as he interviews others who live in gay-friendly places around the globe. Learn about the climate, cost of living, the LGBTQ + community, healthcare, crime and safety, and more.

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  • Creator
    Mark Goldstein
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    129
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2024 Where Do Gays Retire Podcast
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