I was just recently broken up with, for the 3rd time, by my ex gf who I believe is high on the spectrum of a covert narcissist. I can’t say for sure, because she is covert, but it does feel as if she has bad mouthed me to co workers here at my job, and I know she has undoubtedly in other areas of life. She was extreme in her emotional abuse, she ‘loved’ me as long as I was doing something for her and praising her, but would seek to destroy me emotionally, any and every time I opposed her behavior, stood my ground, or didn’t provide her with supply in anyway, shape, or form she deemed necessary in the moment. She used triangulation tactics for nearly the entire relationship with her best friend roomate and her parents, as well as, others. She also refused to make it known that we were in a relationship or post that we were in a relationship on any social media platform, yet would constantly like other mens selfies, post sexually based content, including sexy selfies, vids, songs, etc… while adding many men followers and friends, including co workers of mine. She constantly would bait me in to a reactive abuse scenario, so she could cancel plans with me, walk out on me, or justify her behavior with other men. Not to mention the verbal abuse, the threats, and constant negativity toward me… And I literally treated her better then anyone I ever dated. It’s a circle of manipulation and abuse, where she would breadcrumb me when she went a bit too far or wanted something, then immediately attack me after… I know the severe pain, trauma, anxiety, and physical, emotional, and mental stress and pain from loving someone, who says they are ‘in love’ with you and wants to get married and start a family, just to get what she wanted from me then dump me and take off… She left me just before Christmas, called me the narcissist, and blocked me, after I had taken her Christmas shopping and thought we seemingly had a great night… Every other man and person was above me and meant more to her, even people she just met. She went through a lot of trauma growing up, a ton, and I felt for her because of that and kept trying, just to get destroyed by her… Still dealing with the pain and heartbreak, worst part is I am still in love with and miss her, because I am rational and reasonable, even though she may already be with someone else, who’s to say… I wasn’t perfect, I made mistakes admittedly, yet when your living through a life with a covert narcissist, everything is so stressful, you try your best to seek the right words to say to them, so as not to upset them, while still trying to maintain your personal respect and dignity in the relationship, so your kind of damned if you do and damned if you don’t… It’s horrifically painful to experience… And again, I feel your pain as another man who has gone through this, we need support and awareness for men who are abused this way… Without question. Thank you for starting this podcast
