This Farm Girl Cooks Podcast

Deanne Frieders

Are you a farm wife or rural family looking for easy strategies to feed your farmers in the field and your family on the go? Wanting to connect with other farm families who understand the ins and outs of life on the farm? Welcome to This Farm Girl Cooks Podcast where we tackle recipes, meal ideas and of course, feeding our family to accommodate our busy lifestyle. Host Deanne Frieders will bring you practical tips, field meal ideas and a dose of real farm life that you can use to juggle this crazy thing called like. Tune in every episode as I share what I've learned and entertain you along the way. Hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Website: https://www.thisfarmgirlcooks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisfarmgirlcooks Facebook://www.facebook.com/thisfarmgirlcooks

Episodes

  1. 1d ago

    Grace, Casey's Pizza & Getting Through Hard Seasons

    Some seasons of life are just plain hard. And when you're in the thick of one, the last thing you need is another checklist of things you should be doing. In this episode of This Farm Girl Cooks, I'm continuing my conversation with Adrienne DeSutter of Sow Hope, Grow Hope about managing stress, finding small moments of joy, and giving ourselves a little grace when life feels overwhelming. We're talking about why the usual self-care advice doesn't always work during harvest (or any other busy season), how to recognize your personal stress triggers, and why making life easier might be as simple as having your Casey's pizza order saved in an app. We also talk about glimmers—those little moments of goodness that don't make the hard stuff disappear but can make it feel a little lighter. In this episode, we talk about: Why grace matters more than another self-care checklist Recognizing your stress triggers before you're overwhelmed Creating simple routines that take decisions off your plate Why five minutes of progress—or five minutes of rest—both count Finding glimmers in the middle of difficult days Remembering that hard seasons don't last forever Plus, we share a little about our upcoming Mocktails & Mental Health conversation at the Illinois Farm Bureau Annual Meeting. Whether you're navigating harvest, raising kids, or simply trying to keep all the plates spinning, I hope this conversation reminds you that you don't have to do everything perfectly. Sometimes grace looks like ordering the pizza. And that's okay. Mentioned in this episode Adrienne DeSutter — Sow Hope, Grow Hope Illinois Farm Bureau Annual Meeting — Monday Morning Motivation This Farm Girl Cooks — thisfarmgirlcooks.com If you missed our first conversation with Adrienne about why mental health matters for farm families, be sure to listen to that episode, too.

    Grace, Casey's Pizza & Getting Through Hard Seasons
  2. Oct 6

    Why Farm Mental Health Matters (with Adrienne DeSutter of Sow Hope, Grow Hope)

    Season 2, Episode 4: Why Farm Mental Health Matters (with Adrienne DeSutter of Sow Hope, Grow Hope) The corn is being harvest right outside my kitchen, and we've spent weeks getting ready. The equipment is serviced. The meals are planned. The schedules are figured out. But we don't always prepare ourselves for what harvest asks of us mentally. In part one of my conversation with my friend Adrienne DeSutter of Sow Hope, Grow Hope, we talk about why farm life can be so heavy, and why that weight doesn't stay with the person in the combine. It lands on the whole family, kids included. IN THIS EPISODE 00:00 Harvest is here, and what we forget to prepare for 01:02 How Sow Hope, Grow Hope got its name, and why mental health is about everyday life 04:03 Adrienne's path from school counselor to farm wife 05:26 What makes harvest so uniquely hard 07:02 What to do when so much is out of our control 08:56 Sit with it first: the lesson from a hot bath 10:30 Why talking about it is finally becoming normal 12:02 Harvest stress lands on the whole family 14:27 What the research says about farmers and their kids 15:28 Your kids are watching how you take care of yourself 16:47 Why I stopped trying to be Superwoman 18:16 Resources and what's next THE RESEARCH ADRIENNE MENTIONS About 60% of farmers and their teenage children surveyed met the criteria for at least mild depression. Most of the adults still rated their own mental health as good or excellent, which suggests many of us have gotten used to living with it. Source: Rudolphi & Berg, "Mental health of agricultural adolescents and adults: Preliminary results of a five-year study," Frontiers in Public Health, 2023. Read the University of Illinois summary:  IF YOU NEED SUPPORT You don't have to figure it out alone. 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988, anytime, anywhere in the U.S. Illinois Farm SOS Helpline: 1-833-FARM-SOS (1-833-327-6767). Free, confidential, 24/7 support for Illinois farmers and farm families, plus up to six free counseling sessions by phone. https://ilfarmsos.com Farm Aid Farmer Hotline: 1-800-FARM-AID (1-800-327-6243). https://www.farmaid.org/our-work/resources-for-farmers/ ABOUT ADRIENNE Adrienne DeSutter is the founder of Sow Hope, Grow Hope. She has a master's degree in counseling, worked as a school counselor, and married into farming. She brings those two worlds together to help farm families talk openly about mental health. Find her on Facebook at Sow Hope, Grow Hope. NEXT EPISODE Part two (Episode 5), Practical Tools for Hard Seasons: knowing your stress before you're in the middle of it, why "Grace and Casey's" might be the best harvest advice ever, and what glimmers are. A NOTE This podcast is for encouragement and conversation. It isn't professional medical or mental health advice. If you're struggling, please reach out to one of the resources above or a professional you trust.

    Why Farm Mental Health Matters (with Adrienne DeSutter of Sow Hope, Grow Hope)
  3. Aug 12

    The Best Field Meal Isn't Always Your Best Plan

    Harvest Starts in the Kitchen This episode is a practical, encouraging solo conversation about why harvest prep is really kitchen prep. Deanne shares how trying to control every detail only adds stress, and why a flexible food system matters more than a perfect meal plan when the season gets unpredictable.The main takeaway: you do not need to reinvent dinner to survive harvest. You need a realistic kitchen, a few backup meals, and a lower-pressure mindset that helps you feed your family without carrying extra weight. Key topics Harvest chaos exposes, it does not create, the problem Deanne explains that harvest usually reveals what was not ready in advance rather than causing all the stress itself. The mental load starts weeks before the combine rolls She talks about the invisible work of thinking through meals, groceries, and timing while crops are still green. Meal planning breaks down when harvest timing changes A full grocery haul can go bad if rain delays fieldwork, or meals can be wasted if plans shift suddenly. Dinner gets harder because the questions multiply It is not just about cooking - it is about who is home, when they eat, and whether anyone actually wants the meal you made. Perfection adds pressure without helping feed anyone Deanne says perfection makes harvest heavier, not easier, and that "doing your best" is the more useful standard. Preparing your kitchen matters more than preparing one meal She draws a clear distinction between a meal plan and a kitchen that can handle whatever the day throws at it. Backup food and shortcut tools reduce decision fatigue Examples include browned hamburger, cooked chicken, bread and lunch meat, paper plates, grocery pickup, and a short list of fallback meals. You are not failing if your routine looks different in harvest season The season asks for something different, and that difference is normal for farm families. A small audit can create a lot of calm Deanne encourages listeners to check what they already have in the freezer, fridge, and pantry, then write down three meals from those ingredients. Timestamps 00:00 - Why trying to control harvest early only leads to exhaustion 00:31 - Harvest starts in the kitchen, not in the field 01:10 - Buying groceries too early and watching plans change 01:41 - The combine shows up and the whole schedule shifts 02:09 - Harvest prep begins weeks ahead in the pantry and kitchen 02:38 - The invisible mental work of planning meals before school starts 03:07 - Why dinner feels hard even when you know how to cook 03:33 - When the meal is ready but nobody wants to eat 04:04 - How farm life changes the stakes around family meals 04:34 - Why corporate-style meal scheduling does not work in harvest 05:03 - Switching from strict meal plans to a flexible wish list 05:33 - Working with whatever you have instead of chasing perfect meals 06:02 - Why wasted meals feel personal after all that effort 06:31 - The newborn season story that changed her perspective 07:30 - "You can either have a perfectly curated tidy house or you can have your sanity" 08:09 - Every harvest family has a different rhythm, and none of them are perfect 08:38 - Why perfection makes harvest heavier 09:07 - The difference between preparing food and preparing a kitchen 09:35 - What a harvest-ready kitchen actually looks like 10:02 - Tools and shortcuts that make field meals easier 10:31 - Decision fatigue and the daily question of what is for dinner 11:11 - You are not failing - you are living in a different season 11:30 - One small action to take this week: inventory and list three backup meals 11:59 - Preparing your kitchen is about realistic expectations, not a stuffed freezer 12:38 - What is coming next and the Field the Fed harvest guide Action Items Look through your freezer, fridge, and pantry. Do not reorganize everything - just take inventory. Write down three meals you could make with what you already have. Keep that list nearby for the weeks when decisions feel hardest. My Harvest Prep Routine, From Field to Fed: https://tfgc.myflodesk.com/fieldtofed

    The Best Field Meal Isn't Always Your Best Plan
  4. Jul 21

    Farm Roots, Farm Stories: Ava Splear on Ag Careers, Scholarships, and Why Safety Can't Wait

    My guest today is someone a little special because she's my oldest daughter, Ava, and she has officially surpassed my level of agricultural knowledge entirely. Ava Splear grew up on our family farm in northern Illinois and went on to earn a degree in agricultural communications and leadership from the University of Illinois. Today she's a staff writer at Prairie Farmer magazine, where she interviews farmers across Illinois and tells the stories that help people make decisions on their operations. In this episode, Ava talks about finding her place in the ag industry through FFA, the scholarship strategy that helped her graduate with less debt (including her breakdown of the hourly rate of scholarship applications - parents take note; it's brilliant!), what she's learned covering farming across all of Illinois, and the grain bin safety series that she says has stayed with her. She also has advice for new graduates entering agriculture that I think is worth writing down. Plus, she's 23, she works remotely, and she really wanted you to know the pool just opened. 🤣 Love this girl. In this episode: How FFA helped Ava find her people — and her career path The scholarship strategy that works (and why an hour of work is worth more than you think) What covering farming across Illinois taught her about how different agriculture can look from county to county Grain bin safety — and the human stories that make it impossible to ignore What young people in agriculture are actually doing (spoiler: they're showing up) Advice for new graduates: be kind, be curious, and say yes Resources mentioned: Prairie Farmer Ava Splear Farm Progress Bio: farmprogress.com Ava on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ava-spler

    Farm Roots, Farm Stories: Ava Splear on Ag Careers, Scholarships, and Why Safety Can't Wait

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About

Are you a farm wife or rural family looking for easy strategies to feed your farmers in the field and your family on the go? Wanting to connect with other farm families who understand the ins and outs of life on the farm? Welcome to This Farm Girl Cooks Podcast where we tackle recipes, meal ideas and of course, feeding our family to accommodate our busy lifestyle. Host Deanne Frieders will bring you practical tips, field meal ideas and a dose of real farm life that you can use to juggle this crazy thing called like. Tune in every episode as I share what I've learned and entertain you along the way. Hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Website: https://www.thisfarmgirlcooks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisfarmgirlcooks Facebook://www.facebook.com/thisfarmgirlcooks

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