The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse

Amie Woolsey Certified Brainspotting Practitioner; APSATS-CPC, ICF-PCP,
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When you have experienced CPTSD due to your partner's infidelity, addiction and abusive behaviors, it's chipped away at your sense of self and empowerment. Divorce is hard enough, but divorcing after betrayal, abuse and a narcissist is another level of hard. I help women navigate a life saving divorce from a place of empowerment, dignity and strength. Learn tools to practice each week, hear from other women & professionals to help you feel supported along your healing journey. Divorce doesn't have to be the story of your life, YOU create the story and are the chooser in it. Because You Can!

  1. 1D AGO

    181. Self objectification after betrayal, and how to come back

    In this episode I talk with you about self objectification and how it quietly pulls you out of your own life. Many women learn to experience themselves from the outside in, constantly evaluating how their body looks instead of feeling what their body needs. This can come from sexual abuse, purity culture, early exposure to pornography, body shaming, or sexual betrayal in adult relationships. Over time your body stops feeling like home and starts feeling like a project to fix, present, or protect. I walk you through the difference between healthy self awareness and self objectification, and why living under the imagined gaze of others creates anxiety, shame, perfectionism, and disconnection from your own internal cues like hunger, desire, and intuition. I also talk about how pornography culture and sexual betrayal intensify this pattern, turning your nervous system toward constant comparison, threat detection, and body monitoring. The invitation here is not to convince yourself you are beautiful. The invitation is to become a person again, not a body first and a person second. I offer simple, practical steps to notice when you leave your body, gently return, and build an internal sense of safety that is not dependent on being attractive. This is about reclaiming your humanity, softening the bracing in your body, and learning to live from the inside out. ___________________________________________ ✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING 📍 Dating From Within Workshop- Get on the Interest List 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cli⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ck here to register⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month. 👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal. 📍 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Group Coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Reserve your spot⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey Need support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    39 min

  2. FEB 12

    180. Betrayal Trauma and the Nervous System: Building Safety Within

    In this episode, I’m talking about something that gets misunderstood all the time: what safety actually is when your nervous system has lived in chronic relational threat. If you’ve noticed triggers around Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, kid exchanges, family gatherings, Target runs, or even a simple text from your ex, you are not crazy. Your body learned to scan for danger because it had to. And while getting more truth can matter, truth alone does not automatically create safety inside your body. I break down why healing after betrayal is a different kind of divorce, why “just move on” advice does not work, and how self love grows when you learn to become a safe place for you. I also teach the four parts of “safety within” so you can start practicing it in real life: internal permission, internal protection, internal soothing, and internal choice. We’ll talk about the pendulum swing between retreat and over exposure, why avoidance sometimes gets mislabeled as boundaries, and how to tell the difference between real present day danger and trauma activation. If you feel like you have done all the mindset work, all the books, all the therapy, and you still feel stuck, I also share why that is often a sign it’s time for somatic work. You cannot think your way into safety if your body is still living in the old threat. This episode will help you stop treating triggers like a prophecy and start using them as information, so you can stay connected to yourself even when life is messy, because you are the chooser in your life and you get to create that internal safety one step at a time. ___________ ✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING 📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced Course :Want real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU. 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://intimacywithin.amiewoolsey.com/intimacy-within-page⁠ 📍 Dating From Within Workshop- Get on the Interest List 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://datingfromwithin.amiewoolsey.com/dating-from-within-page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month. 👉 https://theempowereddivorcecoach.com/live-question-and-answer 👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal. 👉⁠https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/body-love-class/⁠ 📍 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Group Coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast! 👉⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amiewoolsey.com/believing-in-you-coaching-program⁠ 📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step. 🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://theempowereddivorcecoach.com/when-youve-exhausted-all-of-your-options⁠ 📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it. 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shouldistayorgo.amiewoolsey.com/⁠ 💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://choose.clientsecure.me/request/clinician⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey Need support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    34 min

  3. FEB 5

    179. Why Valentine’s Day ( and Love) Is Triggering After Betrayal Trauma

    February can feel like love is being shoved in your face. Cards, candy, flowers, couples, social media, and if you’re healing from betrayal trauma and a life saving divorce, it can feel like the world is celebrating something your body doesn’t trust yet. In this episode, I’m talking about Valentine’s Day triggers, anniversary triggers, and why being activated right now does not mean you’re not healing. I’ll help you look at triggers as information, not a verdict, and walk you through how to tell the difference between past threat and present day threat. I also talk about the anniversary response or body calendar, why you can feel off before you even realize what date is coming, and why progress often looks like less intensity, less time, and a faster return to center. And if you’re in that place of “how could he” or “why wasn’t my love enough,” I’ll help you reframe it so you can honor the love you gave without abandoning yourself again. We’ll end with practical ways to choose safer love right now, without forcing romance, and without shutting your heart down. _________________________________ ✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING 📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced Course :Want real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU. 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://intimacywithin.amiewoolsey.com/intimacy-within-page 📍 Dating From Within Workshop- Get on the Interest List 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://datingfromwithin.amiewoolsey.com/dating-from-within-page⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month. 👉 https://theempowereddivorcecoach.com/live-question-and-answer 👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal. 👉https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/body-love-class/ 📍 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Group Coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast! 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amiewoolsey.com/believing-in-you-coaching-program 📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step. 🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://theempowereddivorcecoach.com/when-youve-exhausted-all-of-your-options 📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it. 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shouldistayorgo.amiewoolsey.com/ 💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://choose.clientsecure.me/request/clinician⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey Need support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    25 min

  4. JAN 29

    178. Breathwork After Betrayal: How Somatic Healing Helps Release Trauma Stored in the Body W/ Hali Roderick

    Breathwork can feel intimidating after betrayal trauma, yet it can also be one of the most powerful ways to release what the body has been holding. In this episode of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, Amie is joined by her friend and colleague Halle for a grounded, trauma informed conversation about somatic breathwork. Together they explore why breathwork can feel intense after trauma, how betrayal lives in the body, and why healing often requires more than talking things through. They discuss nervous system activation, emotional release, and the importance of safety and co regulation when doing somatic work. Halle shares how breathwork helps quiet the survival brain, clear stored trauma, and allow women to reconnect with their bodies in a way that feels empowering rather than overwhelming. This episode also introduces the upcoming Costa Rica women’s retreat and offers practical ways to begin reconnecting with your breath today, even if you are not ready for a formal breathwork session. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why breathwork can feel scary or intense after betrayal trauma How trauma is stored in the body and why somatic healing matters The difference between activation and regulation in healing Why being witnessed is essential for emotional release How breathwork can help you let go of what you no longer need to carry Simple ways to start reconnecting with your breath right now __________________ Connect with Hali - haliroderickcoaching@gmail.com ✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING 📍 Dating From Within Workshop- Get on the Interest List 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cli⁠⁠⁠⁠ck here to register⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month. 👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal. 📍 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Group Coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Reserve your spot⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey Need support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Musicbed -January 8, 2024The Music Bed, LLC ("MB") approves the use of "Today Will Be The Day - Instrumental" (Composition(s) and Master(s)) for intro"intro" (the "Production") pursuant to your request date January 8, 2024 as follows:SECTION IComposition/Master: Today Will Be The Day - InstrumentalArtist(s): Summer Kennedy

    38 min

  5. JAN 22

    177. January Live Q&A; Self Compassion, Self Regulation, and Rebuilding Trust With Yourself

    January can feel overwhelming after betrayal, separation, or divorce. It is often called “divorce month,” a time when pressure to change, decide, or move forward quickly is everywhere. In this episode of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, Amie shares a powerful portion of her January live Q and A, offering grounded guidance for women who feel emotionally exhausted, dysregulated, or unsure how to care for themselves right now. Amie walks listeners through four foundational areas of healing that help rebuild safety and trust within the body after betrayal trauma: self compassion, self regulation, self advocacy, and self trust. She explains why these are not things you have to earn or fix, but capacities you already have access to, even when healing feels slow or messy. You will hear Amie unpack why self compassion never disappears, even when you choose rest over productivity, how to untangle unhealthy co regulation with an ex, and how learning to say no to yourself in small ways can become a powerful form of self advocacy. She also answers a thoughtful question from the group about how to balance self compassion with self discipline without turning healing into another perfectionistic checklist. This episode is especially supportive if you are navigating January after betrayal, feeling pressure to make big decisions, or wanting to reconnect with yourself without forcing change. In this episode, Amie explores: Why January can feel emotionally intense after divorce and betrayal How self compassion supports nervous system regulation What unhealthy co regulation with an ex can look like The difference between self compassion and self advocacy How small daily choices rebuild self trust over time Why healing does not require rushing or forcing change If you are longing to feel steadier, safer, and more connected to yourself, this episode offers a gentle place to begin. ______________________________ ✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING 📍 Dating From Within Workshop- Get on the Interest List 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cli⁠⁠⁠ck here to register⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month. 👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal. 📍 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Group Coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Reserve your spot⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey Need support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    17 min

  6. JAN 15

    176. Why Me? Making Sense of Betrayal, Pain, and Unanswered Questions

    In this episode of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, Amie talks about the deeply human question so many betrayed partners ask: “Why me?” When you’ve loved well, worked hard, forgiven, tried, gone to therapy, and betrayal or divorce still happens — your nervous system searches for meaning, justice, and safety. Amie gently explores why this question shows up, how rumination can keep you stuck, and how self-compassion, nervous system awareness, meaning-making, and agency can slowly help shift the question from “Why did this happen to me?” to “What do I choose now?” You’ll also hear a powerful story from the life of speaker John O’Leary and how post-traumatic growth does not mean minimizing pain — but learning to live forward with more self-honor and grounding. This episode will validate your pain, normalize your questions, and remind you that your worth and future are not defined by betrayal. Keywords: betrayal trauma podcast, why me after betrayal, post traumatic growth after divorce, healing betrayal trauma, nervous system healing, meaning making after trauma, empowered divorce podcast ______________________________ ✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING 📍 Dating From Within Workshop- Get on the Interest List 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cli⁠⁠ck here to register⁠⁠⁠ 💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month. 👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal. 📍 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Group Coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Reserve your spot⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey Need support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    27 min

  7. JAN 8

    175. How Do I Know If It’s Trauma or Intuition After Betrayal?

    If you’ve lived through betrayal, it can feel almost impossible to know whether your body is warning you… or whether trauma is pulling the alarm. In this episode, I talk with you about the difference between intuition and trauma responses, why your nervous system reacts before your brain does, and how you can gently start trusting yourself again. I’ll walk you through simple ways to check in with your body, notice what’s happening in the moment, and separate old fear from present-day truth. You’ll also hear how safe relationships and somatic healing can slowly help your nervous system relax so your intuition doesn’t have to scream to be heard. If you’re scared to date again, afraid you’ll miss the red flags, or worried you can’t trust your gut anymore, this conversation will help you begin rebuilding self-trust in a compassionate, grounded way. • How betrayal trauma changes your nervous system• What intuition usually feels like vs trauma alarm• Simple grounding tools to use when you feel triggered• Why strong feelings are real, but not always accurate• How to slowly trust yourself again after betrayal • You keep asking, “Is this trauma or intuition?”• You want to date again but don’t trust yourself yet• You feel like your body reacts before your brain catches up ______________________________ LIVE -FREE Monthly Q&A Session Dating After Divorce Workshop- January 8th-10th Somatic Healing Session ✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING 📍 Dating From Within Workshop January 8th-10th 2026\ 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cli⁠⁠ck here to register⁠⁠⁠ 💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month. 👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal. 📍 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Group Coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Reserve your spot⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey Need support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    29 min
  8. 174. Returning to You: Reconnecting With Your Body After Betrayal and Divorce

    JAN 1

    174. Returning to You: Reconnecting With Your Body After Betrayal and Divorce

    When you’ve lived through betrayal, emotional abuse, or a life-saving divorce, your nervous system learns to survive by disconnecting from your own body. You become hyper-attuned to everyone else — their moods, needs, reactions — while abandoning your own. And when the world chants “new year, new you,” it can feel like pressure stacked on top of pain. In this episode, I talk about what it really means to heal: not reinventing yourself, but gently returning to the you who has always been there. We explore why your body still feels braced, numb, foggy, or unsafe — and how to slowly rebuild self-trust through compassion, awareness, and safety. I share deeply personal stories, real-life examples, and supportive ways to reconnect to your sensations, intuition, voice, limits, and needs… without forcing anything or judging the pace. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I just move on?” — this conversation will remind you that your body is not the problem. It’s the witness. And you are not broken — you are becoming. __________________________________________ ✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING 📍 Dating From Within Workshop January 8th-10th 2026\ 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cli⁠ck here to register⁠⁠ 💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month. 👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal. 📍 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believing In You Group Coaching ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Reserve your spot⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey Need support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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When you have experienced CPTSD due to your partner's infidelity, addiction and abusive behaviors, it's chipped away at your sense of self and empowerment. Divorce is hard enough, but divorcing after betrayal, abuse and a narcissist is another level of hard. I help women navigate a life saving divorce from a place of empowerment, dignity and strength. Learn tools to practice each week, hear from other women & professionals to help you feel supported along your healing journey. Divorce doesn't have to be the story of your life, YOU create the story and are the chooser in it. Because You Can!

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