Straight Wife Trans Life

Liese

Follow the real journey of a straight wife as her husband of 13+ years comes out as transgender and they adjust to the changes.

  1. 6d ago

    S4E6: Performative Allyship

    We've all seen it and some of us have done it: the people or companies who show allyship during Pride month and then pack it all up at the end of June and store it away until next year, like it's a holiday. In this episode, let's explore what performative allyship is, why it is harmful, and how to avoid it. Mentioned or related to this episode: Library of Congress: 1969: The Stonewall Uprising Rizing Tide Foundation: Identifying and Dismantling Performative Allyship IGLTA: Pride Calender Outright International: Pride Around the World Volvo Group: LGBTQ+ Flags and What They Stand For We Shape Tech: Performative Allyship: How to Spot it and Avoid Engaging with it Seventeen (video): What is Performative Allyship? Workplace: GLAAD's Recommendations for Corporate Allies Workplace (PDF): LGBT Great: Striving for More - Authentic Allyship Guide Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

    11 min
  2. May 1

    S4E5: My LGBTQ+ Family is a Nuclear Family

    I call baloney on anyone who suggests that only a man and woman can lay the foundation for a so-called nuclear family. As someone whose marriage began in the heterosexual sense and morphed into a mixed orientation marriage, we remain more traditional than most. In this episode, my spouse and I chat about the term nuclear family and why it is anti-LGBTQ+ at the core. Mentioned or related to this episode: Advocate: June is Pride Month. Tennessee Republicans Say it's 'Nuclear Family Month' Raising Children Network: How to Support LGBTQ+ Families in Your Community QueerAF: Challenging the "Nuclear Family" Helps Everyone, Not Just Queer Families Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

    11 min
  3. Mar 27

    S4E4: The Root of Anti-Transgender Laws

    A brief dive into how anti-transgender hate bills and laws are set in motion. It is a well-coordinated, 50-year-running long con to dismantle democracy.  Mentioned or related to this episode: PBS LearningMedia: How Laws are Made in Congress Rock the Vote: State Legislatures, An Explainer  American Bar Association: What is an Executive Order? Video: Human Rights Campaign - Who's Behind the Anti-LGBTQ+ Movement?  ACLU: Project 2025 Explained Greenpeace: The Heritage Foundation PBS News Hour: What is Christian Nationalism and Why it Raises Concerns about Threats to Democracy Common Cause Foundation: Why Does Big Oil Bankroll the Anti-Trans Movement?  Open Secrets: Top Contributors, Federal Election Data for DT, 2024 Open Secrets: Companies that Publicly Condemned Anti-LGBTQ Legislation, Sent Political Contributions to Advancing Anti-LGBTQ Legislation Greenpeace: The Fossil Fuel Industry is Inherently Patriarchal and Criminal Williams Institute: The Impact of Anti-Transgender Legislation on Youth ACLU: The Impacts of Anti-Transgender Laws and Policies ACLU: Mapping Attacks on LGBTQ Rights in State Legislature Erin in the Morning to follow for transgender legislation updates Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

    13 min
  4. Mar 4

    S4E3: The Attempt to Erase Transgender People

    New laws are trying to erase transgender people and Law SB 244 that recently passed in the U.S. state of Kansas is a prime example. Transgender people are here to stay and in this episode, I touch on how wasteful and cruel this law is for the transgender community, a sliver of the population who are people like the rest of us.  Mentioned or related to this episode: ACLU: Understanding the SB 244 Law in Kansas Kansas SB 244 Law Details Request Assistance from ACLU Kansas Transgender Law Center Resources Lamda Legal LGBTQ Foundation of Kansas Trans Lawrence Coalition Boots on the Ground Midwest  Transgender Institute (Kansas City, MO) PFLAG Kansas City (including KS)  Erin in the Morning to follow for transgender legislation updates Advocate & Educator to follow on Instagram Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

    12 min
  5. 11/30/2025

    S3E18: Season Finale with Encore Interview

    The season ends with a message of hope and an encore interview with special guest, Abbe Kruger. Abbe is a life coach who dedicates herself to supporting cisgender and straight spouses or partners, and couples, managing changes in sexuality, gender identity and gender expression. Abbe can help you anywhere in the world, you can contact her here.   The podcast returns in January. Thank you for listening and here's to hoping for a wonderful year ahead. Mentioned in or related to this episode:  Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  Them: How to Prepare for your First Visit Home after Transitioning TransVitae: Helping Your Family Accept a Transgender Partner Pronoun Pins: Human Rights Campaign pronoun pins , PFLAG pronoun buttons, Dissent pins, Etsy pronoun pins  Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

    23 min
  6. 11/16/2025

    S3E17: The Decision to Tell or Not to Tell

    It is an ongoing calculation to decide when to tell someone new that your spouse is transgender. Everyone in your circle may know, but one still has to decide if it is necessary, if you think your spouse will be okay with it if they're not there, and whether it is even up to your spouse when you feel like it is the right moment to share that piece of information with someone new. In this episode, my spouse and I discuss a recent situation where we were caught off guard and another where I made the decision to tell someone that she happens to be transgender. Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

    16 min
4.8
out of 5
26 Ratings

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Follow the real journey of a straight wife as her husband of 13+ years comes out as transgender and they adjust to the changes.

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