RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

NLP master life coach, Betrayal Recovery Coach, FDN-P
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RecoverU is a podcast where we talk about sex addiction, betrayal trauma, mental, emotional and physical health, faith, and anything and everything needed to RecoverU to your most authentic self that God created you to be.

  1. 2d ago

    189 - Doing the Hard Thing to Achieve the Benefit of Freedom in Recovery

    Today Kylene answers a listener's submitted question about what to do if the betrayer won't go to a support group?    Books mentioned:   How to Untie a Balloon: (book around dealing with pressure) https://amzn.to/471SJYw Nothing to Fear:  (book about end of life choices) https://amzn.to/3TKZnzk     The Big Relief: (book about grace) https://amzn.to/4ALa9GB     Anatomy of the Soul: (emotions, neuroscience and faith) https://amzn.to/4AVRKaa     Help her Heal: (understanding partner betrayal trauma)  https://amzn.to/4hHOwxQ     Unwanted:(importance of connecting the WHY underneath the behaviors) https://amzn.to/4jpqlaj     Altogether YOU:(book about internal family systems/parts work) https://amzn.to/4xYRmop     Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: (combination of emotional and spiritual maturity)  https://amzn.to/3U4Kfgi     Unbroken - The trauma response is never wrong: https://amzn.to/3Vy7qjt     Biology of Trauma: https://amzn.to/4dWlyJD   *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.     Podcast episode mentioned - Ep 90 Sobriety vs Recovery: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000684064277     Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

  2. Sep 30

    188 - How are we showing up in the world? Do our behaviors match our values?

    Today, Kylene walks through some questions from chapter 4 of How to Untie A Balloon: A negotiator's Guide to Avoid Popping Under Pressure byRyan Dunlap, and shares some of her thoughts around them.   Get the book (amazon affiliate link): "How to Untie A Balloon": https://amzn.to/4xR4Rq6   Listen to episode 204 from Inner Work podcast with Maryann Walked about stories we tell ourselves vs facts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/inner-work-with-maryann-walker-life-coach-for-people/id1644798383?i=1000756120920     1  - what physical sensations or feelings are happening inside of me that are contributing to the pressure i'm feeling    2 - what thoughts or emotions am I currently experiencing that are contributing to the pressure I'm feeling  - is it fear, sadness, anxiousness, surprise, apprehension,  or disgust?   3 - What is the story I'm telling myself about the emotions I am experiencing? Have I interpreted the emotions positively?  Or negatively?   4 - how are my emotions influencing my decision making and behavior? Are they hindering or helping my ability to lead myself and others effectively? In what way   5 - When did I first recognize I was feeling this way? What signs might I have ignored that could have helped me recognize my feelings sooner?   6 - what previous experiences or painful feelings and I filtering my current challenges through that might be coloring my response to it   7 - have I made a habit of exercising restraint? Or do I regularly give in to impulses when I'm feeling emotional?   8 - has my conduct and behavior been consistently in alignment with my personal values and how I see myself as a leader?   9 - when all is said and done, how would I like to be remembered by others? What story do I want others to share about me?   10 - how do my physical and emotional states change when I am under significant leadership pressure   ***   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

  3. Sep 23

    187 - What Ingredients Make a Happy Marriages?

    This week's episode focuses on 4 things that couples have who are happy in their marriages:   1) Individual health 2) Regulating each others nervous systems  3) Conflicts are constructive 4) They love being together    We discuss our thoughts on each of these and how they apply through the recovery journey.     Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

  4. Sep 16

    186 - Helping Your Betrayed Partner Heal

    In this week's episode, Patrick shares his story and how he related to Kylene through recovery. While every couples specific journey is a little different, Patrick hits on several key points that are universal pillars that we see help couples successfully heal including: 100% honesty and transparency Personal investment and proactive behaviors in your own recovery Empathy and compassion for the betrayed partners pain Listening to the betrayed partner and holding space for their feelings and emotions  If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

  5. Sep 9

    185 - The Importance of Proactive and Intentional Connection Through Recovery

    Today Patrick discusses the importance of connection through recovery. It's not just going to group, it's being proactive in reaching out. Your recovery is your responsibility which means that in order to build these relationships, you also need to initiate, be consistent, and utilize the connection and friendships before an emergency arises.   Patrick shares some of his personal experiences and the benefits of getting perspective from others who can encourage you through this process.   Patricks recommendations: Set a regular schedule Connect weekly (if not more) Be proactive and take initiative Reach out when you feel good (don't skip it) Reach out when you need support Take ownership of your behaviors and accept the natural consequences Encourage your betrayed partner to get the support and connection they need    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

  6. Sep 1

    184 - When Touch Feels Unsafe After Betrayal

    In this week's episode Kylene is discussing why a betrayed partner may not want to be touched after discovery. There are many reasons a betrayed partner may struggle with touch or physical intimacy after discovering infidelity in their relationship - Kylene walks through several reasons and highlights the importance of safety as the foundation of moving forward.   Check out these previous episodes about sexand intinmacy: Episode 53- Rebuilding trust After betrayal: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000648185653   Episode 54: Sex Through Recovery - Year 1: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000649141817   Episode 55: Establishing True Intimacy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000649843594   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

  7. Aug 26

    183 - How Modesty Culture Shifts Responsibility and Keeps You Stuck

    Today's episode is about modesty - should we focus on it? Should we even have "modesty standards?"    We discuss how focusing on this is focusing on the wrong thing and actually keeps people stuck. When we focus on a micro point instead of a macro value and then try to project it onto others as their responsibility to follow it in order for me to be healthy, we are missing the mark.   Alternatively - what does healing and freedom really look like? What if we raise a new generation of children who are taught how to value themselves and others? This shift can prevent and resolve many issues just by learning how to love ourselves and love others.   Previous episodes that are similar: Episode 127: noticing vs Arousal: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000720874791   Episode 128: Is attraction the same as lusting?: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000721175129   Episode 138:  Where Modesty Culture Goes Wrong: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000731965520   ***   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

  8. Aug 19

    182 - Stop Fighting Bad Habits - Start Building Better Ones

    In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss the strategy of crowding out the "bad" with the good. Whenever you want to change habits or patterns they recommend using 3 steps:   1) Identify the change that needs to be made (what are you temping, adding in or changing?)   2) Take some time to identify what that current thing or pattern offers you (Is it stability? Comfort? Distraction?)   3) Replace the old habit with a new habit that offers the same thing or better.   Whether it's hanging our diet, recovering from addiction or healing from trauma, the patterning is the same. One of the things we often miss when changing our habits is step 2- identifying what the habit offers us. This is key to understanding why we keep going back to it.   Episode 67 where talk about the Faster Scale: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000658758308   Episode 69 where we discuss the 3 circles tool: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000660296518   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

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