Steel Roses Podcast

Jenny Benitez

Steel Roses is a podcast created for women by women. Social pressures for women are constant. Professionals, stay at home moms, working moms, we are here to tell you that you are not alone! This podcasts primary focus is providing real honest content shedding light on the daily struggles of women while also elevating women's voices. All women are experiencing similar pressures and hurdles, and yet, no one is talking out in the open. If these topics continue to only exist as whispered conversations then we further permeate a culture of judgement and shame.  Join Jenny weekly as she discusses topics that effect women in a relatable, honest way. 

  1. 5d ago

    Slynd for Perimenopause: My Honest Update, Side Effects & What Changed

    Send us Fan Mail Shout out to my female entrepreneur of the month! bella_crafts_by_k What happens after you’ve been on Slynd for months, especially when you’re taking it during perimenopause? In this episode of Steel Roses, I’m sharing an honest, long-term update on my experience with Slynd (drospirenone), a progestin-only birth control pill, and the changes I’ve noticed as my perimenopause symptoms have evolved. Before starting Slynd, I had reached a point where I could almost predict my “black cloud” days on the calendar. The mood changes were so consistent that I felt like myself for only part of every month. And while I tried many of the things women are routinely told to try—nutrition changes, supplements, magnesium glycinate, fish oil, exercise and lifestyle adjustments—those habits weren’t enough to address what felt like a hormonal pattern. I talk about what happened when I sought help, including feeling dismissed by my OB and realizing I needed to advocate more clearly for what I was experiencing. Sometimes “take a walk,” “reduce stress,” or “wait it out” simply doesn’t capture what it feels like when hormonal changes are affecting your mood, energy and quality of life. Then I get into the part many women want to know about: Slynd side effects and whether they improved over time. I share my experience with: prolonged bleeding when I first started Slyndspotting during the first few monthsheadaches early in treatmentchanges in my menstrual cyclemood stabilitywhat ultimately made me decide to stay on ithow my experience looks several months laterFor me, one of the biggest changes has been no longer feeling like I have to organize my life around the emotional shifts of my cycle. We also talk about an important distinction: Slynd is FDA-approved as a contraceptive, not specifically as a treatment for perimenopause. So rather than treating one woman’s experience—or a viral social media clip—as medical advice, this episode explores how to bring your symptoms, medical history, concerns and goals to your healthcare provider and have a more productive conversation about your options. This is one woman’s experience, not a recommendation that Slynd is right for everyone. But if you’re navigating perimenopause, hormonal mood swings, irregular periods, birth control changes or the frustrating experience of not feeling heard by your healthcare provider, I hope this conversation makes you feel a little less alone—and gives you language for advocating for yourself. If this episode resonates, subscribe to Steel Roses, share it with a friend who may be quietly struggling, and leave a review so more women can find honest conversations about perimenopause and women’s health. What perimenopause symptom has been the hardest for you to explain to someone who hasn’t experienced it? Shout out to my female entrepreneur of the month! bella_crafts_by_k Support the show Love this content? Check out our links below for more! Linktr.ee Content Instagram YouTube Jenny's LinkedIn

  2. Sep 24

    They Didn’t Get Picked: Helping Kids Handle Rejection, Friendship & Disappointment

    Send us Fan Mail How do you help your child handle rejection without letting one disappointing moment become a story about their self-worth? In this episode of Still Roses Podcast, we’re talking about parenting through rejection, childhood disappointment, friendship struggles, ADHD, and the difficult balance between validating our kids’ feelings and helping them build resilience. It starts with a very real back-to-school disappointment. Our fourth graders applied for special school roles, including morning announcements, practiced hard, put themselves out there—and didn’t get picked. When disappointment quickly turns into “I never get what I want” or “I’m not good enough,” what should a parent say? We talk about how to comfort kids without accidentally reinforcing the idea that rejection means failure, how to protect their confidence while still allowing them to feel disappointed, and why asking teachers for constructive feedback can turn a painful “no” into something they can learn from. Then we get into another kind of rejection that can hurt even more: friendship rejection. When your child is being ignored, excluded, or suddenly treated differently by a friend, the instinct to fix it can be overwhelming. We discuss how to teach kids not to chase people who aren’t treating them with respect, why not everyone is going to like us—and why that’s okay—and how ADHD can sometimes make social rejection and changing friendships feel especially intense. We also share how artificial intelligence has unexpectedly become a parenting support tool, helping us slow down and think through the words we use when emotions are high and we aren’t quite sure what to say. If you’re raising a sensitive child, navigating ADHD and friendships, trying to build confident kids, or simply figuring out how to parent through disappointment without creating shame, this conversation is for you. In this episode: • Helping kids cope with rejection and disappointment • Building resilience without dismissing emotions • Protecting confidence and self-worth after failure • Teaching a healthy growth mindset • Friendship rejection, exclusion, and changing relationships • ADHD and sensitivity to social rejection • Teaching kids when to stop chasing a friendship • Using AI to think through difficult parenting conversations Subscribe to Still Roses Podcast for honest conversations about parenting, women, mental load, and the messy moments we’re all figuring out in real time. And tell me: What has been the hardest rejection or disappointment you’ve had to help your child navigate? Support the show Love this content? Check out our links below for more! Linktr.ee Content Instagram YouTube Jenny's LinkedIn

  3. Sep 15

    Mom Is Not the Household Manager: ADHD, School Chaos & Raising Capable Kids

    Send us Fan Mail Back-to-school season can expose every weak spot in a family’s routine—from overflowing paperwork and packed schedules to expensive school shopping, forgotten supplies, and the mental load that somehow always seems to land on Mom. In this episode of Steel Roses, I’m talking honestly about what back-to-school looks like in my house, why this year feels different, and how my recent adult ADHD diagnosis and treatment are changing the way I think about focus, emotional regulation, parenting, and the systems we create for our families. After years of feeling overstimulated, scattered, mentally exhausted, and like I had to force my brain through everyday tasks, I’m finally experiencing what it feels like to have better support. And that raises a much bigger parenting question: if getting the right support can make such a difference for me, how should I think about ADHD support for my kids? How do we help our children without letting them spend years struggling unnecessarily? I’m also digging into one of the biggest sources of mom burnout: carrying the entire household mental load. The towel left in the hallway. The school supplies no one mentions until 9 p.m. The clothes they suddenly outgrew. The empty shampoo bottle nobody thought to replace. These moments may seem small, but together they create an enormous amount of invisible work. Instead of simply assigning more chores, I’m thinking about how we teach kids to actually notice what needs to be done—to plan ahead, recognize when something is running low, prepare for school, take responsibility for their belongings, and become active participants in running a household. We’ll talk about: • Back-to-school stress and the invisible mental load of motherhood • Adult ADHD, medication, focus, and emotional regulation • Parenting children with ADHD and deciding what support may look like • Teaching kids independence instead of constantly reminding them • Moving from chores to shared household responsibility • Back-to-school shopping costs and kids’ endless growth spurts • Creating routines that reduce last-minute chaos • Protecting your own self-care, workouts, and mental health during the school year If you’re a mom trying to manage school schedules, ADHD, household responsibilities, parenting, work, and your own well-being without completely burning yourself out, this conversation is for you. What is one household responsibility you wish your kids would notice and handle without being reminded? Subscribe to Steel Roses, share this episode with another overwhelmed parent, and leave a review if the conversation resonates with you. Keywords: back-to-school mental load, adult ADHD in women, ADHD moms, parenting kids with ADHD, motherhood mental load, mom burnout, raising independent kids, household responsibilities for kids, back-to-school routines, working moms, emotional regulation, executive dysfunction, parenting and ADHD, invisible labor, family routines Support the show Love this content? Check out our links below for more! Linktr.ee Content Instagram YouTube Jenny's LinkedIn

  4. Sep 10

    Adult ADHD in Women: Late Diagnosis, Perimenopause, Executive Dysfunction & Finally Getting Help

    Send us Fan Mail What does adult ADHD in women actually look like when you’ve spent your whole life appearing organized, successful, and completely “fine”? In this episode of Steel Roses, we talk about the surprising path to a late ADHD diagnosis—and how getting our children evaluated for ADHD led to an uncomfortable realization: many of the symptoms being discussed sounded incredibly familiar. We unpack the ADHD symptoms women often miss or learn to compensate for, including inattention, executive dysfunction, procrastination, overwhelm, internal restlessness, emotional reactivity, difficulty with multi-step tasks, forgetfulness, and hyperfocus. We also talk about what it feels like to have a brain running 30 tabs at once while everyone around you thinks you have everything under control. Why can you spend hours completely absorbed in something interesting but struggle to start one simple, boring task? Why do deadlines suddenly unlock your ability to focus? Why do you reread the same paragraph multiple times, forget what someone just told you, or rely heavily on calendars, alarms, lists, and routines just to stay on top of everyday life? We also challenge one of the biggest misconceptions about ADHD in adult women: that doing well in school, building a career, raising a family, or being highly organized means you cannot have ADHD. For many women, those achievements may actually hide years of compensating, masking, and working significantly harder just to keep up. Then we dive into the connection between ADHD and perimenopause. Hormonal shifts, sleep changes, brain fog, and increasing demands during midlife can make previously manageable ADHD symptoms much harder to compensate for—sometimes leading women to finally seek an evaluation in their 30s, 40s, or beyond. We share the experience of pursuing an ADHD evaluation, receiving a diagnosis, advocating for care, and beginning treatment with extended-release Adderall (Adderall XR). We talk candidly about the early experience of ADHD medication, including timing, caffeine, food, appetite, sleep, and what it can feel like when the mental fog finally starts to lift. Most importantly, this episode is about self-advocacy. If you’ve spent years wondering why everyday tasks seem harder for you than they do for everyone else, why motherhood has made the mental load feel impossible, or why your usual coping strategies suddenly stopped working during perimenopause, this conversation may feel very familiar. A late ADHD diagnosis does not mean ADHD suddenly appeared. Sometimes it means you finally have language for something you’ve been managing your entire life. Subscribe to Steel Roses, share this episode with a woman who might recognize herself in it, and leave a review telling us: What was your biggest “wait…that’s me” moment? Support the show Love this content? Check out our links below for more! Linktr.ee Content Instagram YouTube Jenny's LinkedIn

  5. Sep 7

    The Lindsay Clancy Case: Postpartum Psychosis, the Insanity Defense & Where Accountability Meets Mental Illness

    Send us Fan Mail The Lindsay Clancy case has reignited difficult conversations about postpartum psychosis, postpartum depression, maternal mental health, the insanity defense, and criminal accountability. But when social media reduces a complicated case to a headline or a 60-second take, important questions can get lost. In this episode of Steel Roses, we look beyond the true-crime spectacle and examine what the Lindsay Clancy case can teach us about how society understands—and often misunderstands—postpartum mental illness. We break down what an insanity defense actually asks a jury to decide, why being mentally ill is not necessarily the same as being legally insane, and whether two uncomfortable truths can exist at once: a person can be responsible for an unimaginable act while also suffering from profound psychiatric illness. At the center of this case are three children whose lives matter, and we discuss why conversations about maternal mental health cannot allow their deaths to become secondary to courtroom arguments or diagnoses. We also explore the critical difference between postpartum depression and postpartum psychosis, why confusing the two can increase stigma for mothers experiencing mental health symptoms, and what medical guidance says about recognizing warning signs that require urgent psychiatric care. Most importantly, we ask a bigger question: Why does our healthcare system so often wait until a mother is in crisis before taking postpartum mental health seriously? What should happen when a new mother says: “Something is wrong.” “I can’t sleep.” “I’m afraid to be alone.” “I don’t feel like myself.” And why can postpartum care not simply end with a screening questionnaire and a six-week follow-up appointment? This episode is about more than one criminal case. It is about maternal mental healthcare, postpartum support, stigma, advocacy, accountability, and what happens when women ask for help but the systems around them are not equipped to respond. If this conversation hits close to home, share this episode with someone who needs it and save it as a resource. Subscribe to Steel Roses, leave a review, and join the conversation: What would meaningful maternal mental health support actually look like in your community? Support the show Love this content? Check out our links below for more! Linktr.ee Content Instagram YouTube Jenny's LinkedIn

  6. Aug 7

    The Dangerous Myth of “Building Tolerance” to Food Allergies

    Send us Fan Mail "Just eat a little every day and your body will get used to it” is common advice given to people with food allergies and sensitivities—but repeating something often does not make it safe or scientifically sound. In this episode, we explore the complicated intersection of parenting, food allergies, health myths, and internet misinformation. As always, we approach the conversation through personal experience, honest opinions, and a commitment to understanding the facts behind the advice families receive. We begin with a personal story from our home. Frequent baby spit-up, vomiting, diarrhea, bloating, and skin problems led us to question whether dairy was contributing to our children’s symptoms. Removing milk was not a health trend or a casual parenting decision. It was an attempt to improve their quality of life, and the changes we observed were difficult to ignore. From there, we discuss why parents are often pressured by relatives, friends, and even well-meaning acquaintances to reintroduce foods for calcium, nutrition, or supposed “tolerance.” We examine why that advice may be especially risky when someone has a true food allergy rather than a digestive intolerance. We also break down several conditions that are frequently confused online, including IgE-mediated food allergies, lactose intolerance, non-IgE reactions, and autoimmune diseases such as celiac disease. These conditions can cause overlapping symptoms, but they involve different biological processes and require different approaches to diagnosis and management. The conversation also covers why allergic reactions can be unpredictable and why casually consuming small amounts of a suspected allergen at home is not the same as oral immunotherapy, or OIT. Medically supervised food-allergy treatment involves structured dosing, careful monitoring, and guidance from qualified allergy specialists—not simply “pushing through” symptoms on your own. We also talk about the possibility that repeated exposure may continue triggering digestive, skin, or inflammatory symptoms rather than helping the body become stronger. Most importantly, this episode is about personal agency: recognizing patterns, taking symptoms seriously, asking better questions, and making informed healthcare decisions for yourself and your children. If you have ever second-guessed what you were seeing because someone told you to ignore your instincts or “just keep trying,” this conversation is for you. Subscribe to Steel Roses, share this episode with a parent or friend who needs a fact-checked perspective, and leave a review answering this question: What food or health myth have you heard so often that it started to sound true? Support the show Love this content? Check out our links below for more! Linktr.ee Content Instagram YouTube Jenny's LinkedIn

  7. Aug 5

    Is Strength Training Safe for Kids? Exercise Facts Every Parent Should Know

    Send us Fan Mail The fastest way to get kids moving usually isn’t a lecture about health—it’s turning exercise into a game they actually want to play. In this episode, I’m sharing how our family made children’s fitness a normal and enjoyable part of everyday life, starting when my kids were toddlers and we lived in a tiny apartment with almost no extra space. From supervised “hang time” on a securely installed pull-up bar to wheelbarrow-style bear walks, we explore simple activities that help children build strength, coordination, balance, body awareness, and confidence without making exercise feel like a chore. We also talk about how to create a simple home gym for kids as they grow. You don’t need expensive equipment or a large workout space. A mat, light dumbbells, and a few basic movement lessons can be enough to introduce children to exercise safely while emphasizing proper technique, control, and consistency—not heavy weights. If you’ve ever wondered whether strength training is safe for kids, when children can begin using light weights, or how to create family workouts that actually stick, this conversation offers a practical and realistic approach. We discuss how parents can encourage active kids even when they’re tired, busy, or not interested in completing a full workout themselves. Then we take a closer look at common health myths that continue to spread because they sound believable. We address the long-standing fear that lifting weights will stunt a child’s growth and discuss why age-appropriate, properly supervised strength training is different from unsafe or excessive lifting. We also connect this conversation to another deeply rooted health belief: the idea that everyone must eat a large breakfast. How much of what we consider basic nutrition advice comes from science, and how much has been shaped by culture, advertising, and food marketing? This episode is for parents looking for realistic kids’ exercise ideas, safe youth strength-training guidance, simple family fitness routines, and a more thoughtful way to evaluate everyday health claims. Subscribe to Steel Roses, share this episode with a parent who wants to make movement more enjoyable, and leave a review telling us: What health or parenting myth should we unpack next? Support the show Love this content? Check out our links below for more! Linktr.ee Content Instagram YouTube Jenny's LinkedIn

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Steel Roses is a podcast created for women by women. Social pressures for women are constant. Professionals, stay at home moms, working moms, we are here to tell you that you are not alone! This podcasts primary focus is providing real honest content shedding light on the daily struggles of women while also elevating women's voices. All women are experiencing similar pressures and hurdles, and yet, no one is talking out in the open. If these topics continue to only exist as whispered conversations then we further permeate a culture of judgement and shame.  Join Jenny weekly as she discusses topics that effect women in a relatable, honest way. 

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