UnYoked Living: The Post Divorce Thriving Guide

Todd Turner
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UnYoked Podcast, hosted by Todd Turner, explores divorce, recovery, and rebuilding for Christians. 🎙️ Buckle up, Believers! UnYoked isn't your typical podcast about God's view on marriage or when God allows divorce. We're diving into the complexities of divorce and post-divorce life, providing a safe space to discuss the milestones and challenges we face as Christians navigating this journey. https://www.toddturner.com/donate/ 🌟 God's grace extends beyond the statement "I hate divorce." On UnYoked, we explore the standards, restoration, and renewal God graciously offers, even when His standards aren't met. Whether you're two months into a divorce, just out of it, or two years into singleness, find advice to help stabilize yourself, discover your single identity, and become the 2.0 version of YOU. 💔 Christian marriage and divorce advice often clash with the harsh realities of pain, abuse, and loneliness. UnYoked is here for those of us navigating the life-changing event of unYoking from a spouse or uprooting a family. It's a safe space to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps through divorce, singleness, and the future. 🌈 More than a Divorce Recovery Podcast, UnYoked is a journey into self-discovery and self-help, blending faith, practical advice, and community. Remove the mask, let's get real about the ripple effects of divorce, and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as Christians. Explore the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world. Join us on this transformative journey at http://www.ToddTurner.com #UnYokedPodcast #DivorceRecovery #ChristianLiving #RealTalk #FaithJourney

  1. Why Smart People Stay in Toxic Relationships (And How to Break Free)

    APR 30

    Why Smart People Stay in Toxic Relationships (And How to Break Free)

    Most people don’t think they’re in a toxic relationship… until it’s too late. In this episode, Todd sits down with Dr. Brooke Jones to unpack what really defines a toxic or abusive relationship—and why even smart, self-aware people end up stuck in them. Resource Mentioned: https://youtu.be/dNvt_zSiIkg?si=4d3ZYPqn1ZXwSYL7 This isn’t just about obvious abuse. It’s about the subtle patterns:  Love bombing that feels like “real love”  Control disguised as care  Walking on eggshells and calling it normal  The cycle of staying, hoping, and repeating You’ll learn how to:  Spot the difference between dysfunction and abuse  Recognize manipulation, control, and narcissistic behavior  Evaluate your current relationship honestly  Know when it’s time to leave—and how to do it safely  Break the cycle so you don’t repeat the same mistakes If you’ve ever ignored your gut, justified bad behavior, or found yourself in the same kind of relationship more than once… this episode is for you. 👉 Resources mentioned:  Power & Control Wheel (domestic violence tool)  StrongerWomen.com for support and guidance Dr. Brooke Jones is the founder and CEO of Stronger Women, where she helps survivors of domestic violence rebuild their lives with strength, clarity, and faith. With years of hands-on experience working with women in crisis, she specializes in identifying abusive patterns, guiding emotional healing, and equipping women to move forward safely and confidently.  To support the UnYoked Podcast and to help others... PLEASE subscribe and rate.. right now. And if this resource is helpful, please tell a friend. Support the show UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace. Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.  God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met. Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place. The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian. Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

    1h 4m
  2. Sex as Currency: Unhealthy Power Struggles

    APR 23

    Sex as Currency: Unhealthy Power Struggles

    “Sex as currency” might grab your attention… but that’s not really where this conversation stays. In this episode, Todd Turner sits down with Dr. Brooke Jones of Stronger Women and quickly moves beyond surface-level dating talk into something deeper—trauma, abuse, identity, and the patterns that quietly shape relationships. What starts as a conversation about sex in modern dating turns into a powerful look at how people—especially those coming out of abuse or broken homes—learn to use what they have to survive, feel loved, or regain control.  This isn’t about judgment.  It’s about understanding the “why” behind behavior—and what it actually takes to heal. 🔍 What you’ll hear in this episode:  Why “sex as currency” often starts as a survival response, not manipulation  How abuse (emotional, physical, spiritual) shapes relationship patterns  Why people stay in or return to unhealthy relationships  The “aha moment” that finally leads to change  Why healthy relationships can feel boring after chaos  How dopamine, trauma, and attention-seeking behaviors are connected  The truth about boundaries—and why people struggle to set them  Why communication is one of the most important relationship skills  The role of identity, healing, and taking ownership after divorce or traumaCall to Action: If this episode hit home, take a step forward. Learn more about Dr. Brooke Jones and her work helping women heal and rebuild at:  👉 strongerwomen.com And don’t forget to subscribe to the UnYoked Podcast for more real conversations about faith, relationships, and rebuilding your life the right way. To support the UnYoked Podcast and to help others... PLEASE subscribe and rate.. right now. And if this resource is helpful, please tell a friend. Support the show UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace. Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.  God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met. Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place. The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian. Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

    1h 7m
  3. The Truth About Church After a Crisis

    APR 2

    The Truth About Church After a Crisis

    In a previous episode, I spoke honestly about how the church can fail people after divorce. And I stand by much of that. But I also need to correct something. Pain is a good diagnostic tool, but it’s a terrible navigator. In this episode, I share a personal story about how God challenged my assumptions, removed my excuses, and led me back into a healthy church community. This isn’t a walk-back. It’s a course correction. If you’ve been hurt by the church… if you’ve stepped away… or if you’ve convinced yourself that “me and God” is enough, this conversation is for you. We’ll talk about: Why isolation feels right but leads you wrongWhat the Bible actually says about communityHow divorce can distort your view of churchWhy there is no “Plan B” for Christian communityHow to find a healthy church (without rushing your healing)You don’t need a perfect church.  But you do need a church. To support the UnYoked Podcast and to help others... PLEASE subscribe and rate.. right now. And if this resource is helpful, please tell a friend. Support the show UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace. Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.  God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met. Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place. The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian. Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

    22 min
  4. Anger: What It Reveals About You

    10/29/2025

    Anger: What It Reveals About You

    Most of us think anger just happens to us. But Jesus says anger starts in the heart. In this honest episode of UnYoked Living, Todd Turner unpacks where anger really comes from — our worldview, our idols, our expectations — and how it exposes what we value most. We’ll explore:  ✅ What makes you angry vs. what makes God angry ✅ Why men pretend instead of healing ✅ The false script of “Christian manhood” ✅ How to process anger without sinning ✅ The path from cultural manhood to authentic discipleship If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’m not an angry person,” this episode will make you think again. 👉 Subscribe for more real conversations about faith, freedom, and finding your footing after loss. Watch next: 🎙 When You Feel Forgotten by God → [link] 🎙 Dating After Divorce: Why We Swipe When We’re Not Ready → [link] #UnYokedLiving #ChristianMen #AngerAndFaith #DivorceHealing #ToddTurner To support the UnYoked Podcast and to help others... PLEASE subscribe and rate.. right now. And if this resource is helpful, please tell a friend. Support the show UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace. Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.  God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met. Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place. The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian. Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

    22 min
  5. Divorced Christian Men, Get Back in the Game

    09/29/2025

    Divorced Christian Men, Get Back in the Game

    We live in a culture that measures God’s blessing by comfort—bigger paychecks, promotions, vacations, health, and smooth sailing. But what if that’s not how God keeps score? What if our obsession with success is blinding us to true faith? In this episode of the UnYoked Podcast, Todd Turner pulls from the book of Habakkuk to expose how American Christianity has drifted into shallow, cultural faith—and why men recovering from divorce are at a crossroads. Too often, we’ve become fans of Jesus rather than followers. We wear the jersey, shout on Sundays, and post Bible verses in our dating profiles, but our daily lives look no different than the world’s. Todd challenges divorced men to stop chasing comfort, money, and empty relationships and instead embrace authentic discipleship. This is about more than church attendance or checking the box. It’s about repentance, rebuilding after divorce, and learning to trust God even when the fig tree doesn’t blossom, the bank account is empty, or the job is gone. Key themes you’ll hear in this episode: Why Habakkuk’s story speaks directly to divorced Christian men todayHow American Christians confuse success with blessingThe danger of compartmentalized faith (Sunday vs Monday Christianity)Why so many of us are “fans of Jesus” instead of players on His teamA call to men: repent, reset, and build your new life on the rock of ChristIf you’re tired of shallow Christianity and ready to stop wasting years chasing the wrong scorecard, this episode is for you. 👉 Subscribe to UnYoked Living for honest, raw conversations about faith, divorce recovery, and rebuilding a life that actually lasts. To support the UnYoked Podcast and to help others... PLEASE subscribe and rate.. right now. And if this resource is helpful, please tell a friend. Support the show UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace. Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.  God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met. Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place. The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian. Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

    34 min
  6. Reputation vs. Reality: When Your Faith Just Looks Alive

    09/17/2025

    Reputation vs. Reality: When Your Faith Just Looks Alive

    What does the ancient church in Sardis have to do with divorced Christian men in America today? A lot more than you might think. In Revelation 3, Jesus warned Sardis that they had “a reputation of being alive, but were dead.” They looked good on the outside, but inside they were complacent, careless, and spiritually asleep. In this raw and direct Season 4 opener, Todd Turner speaks to divorced Christian men about the same danger we face today—living off reputation instead of reality. Being single after divorce feels like freedom: you can do what you want, when you want. But that freedom often turns into hidden hypocrisy, shallow faith, and a lazy drift into cultural Christianity. Todd unpacks the landmines: dating without accountability, hiding behind politics, numbing with comfort, and confusing American values with the kingdom of God. With personal honesty and biblical depth, he calls men to wake up, repent, and strengthen what remains. This episode is for the man who knows he’s been coasting—or who suspects he might be. It’s a wake-up call to move past surface-level Christianity, abide in Christ, and embrace authentic discipleship. 📖 Revelation Study Resources Mentioned Matt Chandler – Revelation Series (The Village Church) https://www.thevillagechurch.net/resources/series/revelation Craig Cabaniss – Grace Church Frisco Revelation Series https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLKszt7BORNdp14vbGIQitR2wwzqkISgVA Dallas Theological Seminary Free Online Revelation Course https://www.dts.edu/free-online-courses/ 📘 For Men Walking Through Divorce Men’s Workbook: Healing and Growth After Divorce  https://www.toddturner.com/books/mens-divorce-recovery-workbook-your-first-step-toward-healing-and-empowerment/ Divorce Recovery Class with Todd Turner https://www.toddturner.com/unyoked-divorce-recovery-online-course/ To support the UnYoked Podcast and to help others... PLEASE subscribe and rate.. right now. And if this resource is helpful, please tell a friend. Support the show UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace. Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.  God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met. Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place. The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian. Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

    45 min
  7. Divorced Men: You’re Not the Captain of Your Own Ship

    08/12/2025

    Divorced Men: You’re Not the Captain of Your Own Ship

    Seven years after my divorce, I thought I was doing everything right. I rebuilt my career. I got healthy. I dated. I “put in the work.” I thought I was healed. But God showed me I had been building my new life on sand. In this episode, I’m speaking directly to divorced Christian men—men who are still carrying invisible wounds, hiding behind success, and chasing money, relationships, and validation instead of Christ. We’ll talk about: The “arrow in the back of the head” every wounded man carries (and hides)Why dating too soon after divorce often leads to more painHow loneliness, numbing, and pride keep us stuck for yearsThe dangerous lie behind “I am the captain of my soul”What repentance, discipleship, and abiding in Christ really look likeWhy the church, broken as it is, is still God’s plan A for your healingThis is not a pep talk. This is a warning and an invitation. God will let you keep chasing your idols until they break you—or He will graciously burn them to the ground Himself so you can start over with Him at the center. If you’ve been trying to lead your life on your own terms, it’s time to stop. Lay down your pride, pick up your Bible, plant yourself in a church, and let God rebuild you from the inside out. Scriptures Referenced: Matthew 7:16–20, Luke 15:20, John 15:5, Proverbs 3:5–12, Galatians 5:22–23, James 2:19 To support the UnYoked Podcast and to help others... PLEASE subscribe and rate.. right now. And if this resource is helpful, please tell a friend. Support the show UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace. Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.  God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met. Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place. The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian. Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

    46 min
  8. When Christian Doesn’t Mean Christlike: Dating, Faith, and Authenticity

    07/29/2025

    When Christian Doesn’t Mean Christlike: Dating, Faith, and Authenticity

    In this episode of the UnYoked Podcast, Todd Turner and Jessica Kastner dive deep into the challenges of dating as a Christian after divorce, focusing on how to vet someone’s faith. In the digital age, where claiming "Christian" on dating apps is as easy as checking a box, how do you truly discern if someone's faith is genuine? Through personal stories, practical advice, and Biblical insights, Todd and Jessica share how to recognize red flags, ask the right questions, and ensure that you're aligned with a partner who truly shares your Christian values. Tune in for tips on how to avoid heartbreak, spot empty claims, and find someone genuinely walking the same faith-filled path. Key Topics Discussed: The challenge of defining "Christian" in the digital dating worldHow to vet faith early in the dating processRecognizing the difference between cultural Christianity and true faithHow to discern the gospel and grace in a partner's lifeThe importance of shared Biblical views and prayer in a relationshipTo support the UnYoked Podcast and to help others... PLEASE subscribe and rate.. right now. And if this resource is helpful, please tell a friend. Support the show UnYoked - The Post Divorce Podcast:  Navigating your divorce and recovery with grace. Divorce and the new single life is hard but it is even more complex when you made a promise to God to "keep your marriage till death do you part." American Christian culture doesn't make navigating the decisions and ripple effects of divorce any easier. Christian marriage and divorce advice runs rampant yet often conflicts with the realities of pain, abuse, loneliness, and the real world.  God has a lot more to say than, “I hate divorce.” God gives a standard and then graciously restores and renews people even when His standard isn't met. Those of us who are navigating the life changing event of unYoking from a spouse and/or uprooting a family have to journey through some dark, lonely, and confusing places. Our issues aren't frequently tackled from the pulpit and the advice we receive isn't always relevant to our current place. The UnYoked podcast is just for you. A safe place to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps of navigating a divorce, singleness, and the future. A place where we live in the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world with broken people and broken relationships. Buckle up... remove the mask.. and let's get real about discussing the ripple effects of divorce and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as a Christian. Visit ToddTurner.com/Divorce for more resources.

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UnYoked Podcast, hosted by Todd Turner, explores divorce, recovery, and rebuilding for Christians. 🎙️ Buckle up, Believers! UnYoked isn't your typical podcast about God's view on marriage or when God allows divorce. We're diving into the complexities of divorce and post-divorce life, providing a safe space to discuss the milestones and challenges we face as Christians navigating this journey. https://www.toddturner.com/donate/ 🌟 God's grace extends beyond the statement "I hate divorce." On UnYoked, we explore the standards, restoration, and renewal God graciously offers, even when His standards aren't met. Whether you're two months into a divorce, just out of it, or two years into singleness, find advice to help stabilize yourself, discover your single identity, and become the 2.0 version of YOU. 💔 Christian marriage and divorce advice often clash with the harsh realities of pain, abuse, and loneliness. UnYoked is here for those of us navigating the life-changing event of unYoking from a spouse or uprooting a family. It's a safe space to wonder, ponder, relate, and consider your steps through divorce, singleness, and the future. 🌈 More than a Divorce Recovery Podcast, UnYoked is a journey into self-discovery and self-help, blending faith, practical advice, and community. Remove the mask, let's get real about the ripple effects of divorce, and equip ourselves to survive being unYoked as Christians. Explore the tension between God's plan and the realities of living in a broken world. Join us on this transformative journey at http://www.ToddTurner.com #UnYokedPodcast #DivorceRecovery #ChristianLiving #RealTalk #FaithJourney

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