Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal is a podcast for couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. Whether you’re a betrayed partner making sense of the pain, or the partner who caused harm and wants to repair what was broken, this show offers trauma-informed tools, honest conversations, and grounded hope. Hosted by Hali Roderick, the podcast explores trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, boundaries, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness or pushing a one-size-fits-all outcome.

  1. 2d ago

    #183 "Why Men'sGroups Matter in Recovery" with Alonso Pool

    A lot of men in recovery are doing the work: therapy, transparency, maybe even a formal disclosure. But many of them are doing it alone. They tell their partner they've "got this," and they white-knuckle their way through, avoiding the one room that might help them most: a room full of other men doing the same work. In this episode, Hali is joined by Alonso Pool, a Certified Professional Coach and certified sex addiction specialist coach who works with men in recovery and with couples moving through full disclosure and the rupture of betrayal. Alonso and his wife, Jill, lead Hope in the Havoc, where they work with couples and individuals to bring healing and hope where damage has been done. Together they explore why so many men hesitate to join a group, and what a man can gain there that he can't get from individual work alone. Alonso talks about how group can help deconstruct shame, rebuild relational safety and trust, and help men learn to co-regulate, and why seeing vulnerability, emotional expression, accountability, and empathy modeled by other men can offer a real template for emotional maturity. Whether you're the partner who broke trust and you've been putting off walking through that door, or the betrayed partner wondering why "is he in a group?" matters so much, this conversation is for you. Connect with Alonso:  Hopeinthehavoc.com  Instagram: @hopeinthehavoc  Facebook.com/hopeinthehavoc Email: Info@hopeinthehavoc.com Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join my FREE Boundaries That Build Safety Workshop Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Learn more about Reclaiming You: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. Click the EVENTS tab on my web site for upcoming events. If you are a navigating parenting in the aftermath of betrayal, you will find insightful information and tips on how to talk to your kids in my self-paced course called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠. I created this course alongside my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, LMAFT, CCPS.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  2. Oct 22

    #182 She's Not Coming At You — She's Coming To You

    "Why is she coming at me?" It's one of the most common things men say after betrayal — when their partner's pain shows up as tears, anger, a raised voice, or questions that come fast and hard. In this solo episode, Hali speaks directly to men who broke trust and want to stay. She explains why a man's nervous system reads his partner's emotion as a threat — through neuroception, shame, and patterns learned long before this relationship — and why that reaction, while real, is almost never an accurate read of what's happening. She then turns to the other side of the kitchen counter: what a betrayed partner's emotion actually is after a rupture like this, why her bringing it to him matters, and what it costs both partners when that pain gets defended against, avoided, or shut down. Hali closes with seven concrete practices for staying present — from catching the first body signal to taking a break the right way — plus a clear boundary on what this episode is not saying, and a word directly to the betrayed partner who's been told she's "too much." Written primarily for men who broke trust; betrayed partners are welcome to listen too. If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Join my FREE Boundaries That Build Safety Workshop Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Learn more about Reclaiming You: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. Click the EVENTS tab on my web site for upcoming events. If you are a navigating parenting in the aftermath of betrayal, you will find insightful information and tips on how to talk to your kids in my self-paced course called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠. I created this course alongside my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, LMAFT, CCPS.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  3. Oct 15

    #181 Emotional Infidelity: When the Affair Was Never Physical with Jill Pool

    What counts as cheating if nothing physical ever happened? In this episode, Hali sits down with Certified Partner Coach, Jill Pool to name what so often goes unnamed: the betrayal that leaves no physical evidence but reshapes a person's entire sense of safety. This conversation holds both partners with care and offers language for a kind of pain that's too often minimized. About the guest: Jill Pool is an APSATS Certified Partner Coach who helps individuals navigate the complexities of betrayal recovery. As the co-owner of Hope in the Havoc (with her husband, Alonso) and a contracted coach for Hope Redefined, Jill specializes in supporting those facing unique life challenges, such as special needs parenting, homeschooling, and child loss. As a Christian, she also offers clients the opportunity to incorporate their faith into the healing journey. She develops resources that utilize straightforward language, enabling betrayed partners to express themselves more effectively. As a homeschooling mom of 12, she knows firsthand how to balance demanding family dynamics with personal healing. Connect with Jill: Website: hopeinthehavoc.com Emotional Betrayal DNA resources: hopeinthehavoc.com/resources Instagram: @hopeinthehavoc Facebook: /hopeinthehavoc Email: info@hopeinthehavoc.com Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Women: Attend my FREE live weekly Workshop: Boundaries That Build Safety MEN: Join the ⁠Help Her Heal weekly support group⁠ Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Learn more about Reclaiming You: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Awakening The Man Within men’s Somatic Intensive is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men. This takes place November 8-11th.  Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali. If you are a navigating parenting in the aftermath of betrayal, find insightful information and tips on how to talk to your kids in my self-paced course called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠. I created this course alongside my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, LMAFT, CCPS.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  4. Oct 8

    #180 Doing Recovery vs. Living Recovery: What Actually Heals a Relationship After Betrayal with Mike Tiede

    You've done the work. So why does healing still feel like something you're performing instead of living? In this episode, Hali sits down with psychologist and partner specialist Mike Tiede to unpack the difference between doing recovery and living it — and why so many couples get stuck in the gap between the two. About Mike Tiede: Mike is a Master 's-level, Licensed Psychologist (MA, LP) in Minnesota with over 30 years of experience, and a Board Certified Coach (BCC), helping individuals of all ages navigate life's challenges and improve their emotional well-being. His approach is grounded in evidence-based practices and tailored to each client's unique needs. As a Certified Partner Coach through APSATS and a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist in the MPTM (Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model), Mike specializes in working with male partners who have betrayed their wives, male partners who have experienced betrayal, and couples impacted by sexual betrayal. He is also certified as a Certified Restoring Truth Disclosure Guide and a Christian Addiction Specialist International Candidate (C-SASI-C). Mike and his wife, Vicki, assist couples in all areas of recovery, with a particular focus on Phase 2 and Phase 3 work—helping couples who have established initial stability move toward deeper healing, relational repair, and genuine intimacy. Mike integrates a trauma-informed, attachment-sensitive, and multidimensional approach to recovery. He also offers integration of Christian faith and values as a meaningful part of the healing process.  liferenovationcc.com Enjoyed This Episode? ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You⁠ is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah. The Awakening The Man Within men’s Somatic Intensive is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men — this takes place November 8-11th.  Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali for a powerful fusion of somatic healing, breathwork, sound, energy work, Human Design, meaningful cultural experiences, adventure, rest, and connection. If you are a navigating parenting in the aftermath of betrayal, you will find insightful information and tips on how to talk to your kids in my self-paced course called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠, created alongside my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, LMAFT, CCPS.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  5. Oct 1

    #179 - 5 Ways to Stay in Your Marriage Without Losing Yourself After Infidelity and Betrayal

    When you're trying to heal a marriage after infidelity or betrayal, it's easy for recovery to become the center of everything. In this episode, Hali explores five ways couples can rebuild trust and emotional safety after betrayal without either partner disappearing in the process. Whether you are the betrayed partner or the partner who broke trust, healing after infidelity isn't just about keeping your marriage together. It's also about learning how to stay connected to yourself while choosing connection with each other. Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Learn more about Reclaiming You: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. The Awakening The Man Within men’s Somatic Intensive is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men who have already begun their recovery and self-awareness journey — and are ready to go deeper. This takes place November 8-11th.  Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed for women who have already done significant inner work and are ready to move beyond surviving into deeper joy, embodiment, and wholeness. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali for a powerful fusion of somatic healing, breathwork, sound, energy work, Human Design, meaningful cultural experiences, adventure, rest, and connection—all guided by trauma-trained facilitators. If you are a navigating parenting in the aftermath of betrayal, you will find insightful information and tips on how to talk to your kids in my self-paced course called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠. I created this course alongside my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, LMAFT, CCPS.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  6. Sep 24

    #178 Understanding Intimacy Anorexia — with Dr. Janice Caudill, PhD

    "Intimacy anorexia" is one of the most talked-about — and most misunderstood — terms in betrayal recovery. In this episode, I set out to understand it honestly, with one of the most credentialed voices in the field - Dr. Janice Caudill. This conversation is built for couples. Whether you're the betrayed partner or the one working to rebuild trust, we look at how intimacy breaks down, how to tell the difference between active withholding and a trauma response, and what realistic, body-aware recovery can look like when two people choose to heal together. It's a grounded, compassionate, and refreshingly honest look at a hard topic — with practical takeaways you can both carry into the week. Connect with Dr. Janice Caudill:  Janice is a psychologist, licensed through PSYPACT for tele-therapy in most states. She is a certified Intimacy Anorexia Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist-Supervisor, Certified Clinical Partner Specialist-Supervisor, Certified Partner Trauma Therapist–Supervisor and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. She is one of the founding members of the APSATS, and participated in the development of a trauma model for partner betrayal.  Janice is the founder of Intensive Recovery Healing and Intensive Recovery Coaching. Janice and Dan Drake are the authors of his and hers companion workbooks for helping couples navigate a therapeutic disclosure of sexual betrayal:  Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal – 3 Volume Series Full Disclosure: Sharing the Truth After Sexual Betrayal https://intensivehope.com/ info@intensivehope.com https://www.facebook.com/IntensiveRecoveryHealing?mibextid=ZbWKwL Intimacy Anorexia Freebies: https://intensivehope.com/resources/freebies Enjoyed This Episode? ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Learn more about Reclaiming You: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners: The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  7. Sep 17

    #177 One Hour a Week Was Never Going to Be Enough

    If you're a woman and you’re doing the work — therapy, coaching, reading everything you can get your hands on — and you're still white-knuckling it alone most days of the week, this episode is for you. I talk about why healing from betrayal trauma was never going to happen in one hour a week, including from my own experience, and about a pattern I see constantly: how much of our time, money, and energy goes toward his healing while ours quietly gets put on the back burner. Then I introduce Reclaiming You, the group program built to put your healing first — with community and high-touch support to get you through the hardest days. ⁠Click here to learn more⁠. Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Learn more about Reclaiming You: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. The Awakening The Man Within men’s Somatic Intensive is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men who have already begun their recovery and self-awareness journey — and are ready to go deeper. This takes place November 8-11th.  Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed for women who have already done significant inner work and are ready to move beyond surviving into deeper joy, embodiment, and wholeness. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali for a powerful fusion of somatic healing, breathwork, sound, energy work, Human Design, meaningful cultural experiences, adventure, rest, and connection—all guided by trauma-trained facilitators. If you are a navigating parenting in the aftermath of betrayal, you will find insightful information and tips on how to talk to your kids in my self-paced course called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠, created with my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, LMAFT, CCPS.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  8. Sep 10

    #176 The Fight Under the Fight — Decoding What Betrayal Trauma Does to Your Everyday Arguments

    If you're rebuilding trust after infidelity, you've probably noticed something strange: small disagreements can escalate way faster and way bigger than the topic seems to deserve. A dish in the sink. A short text back. Being fifteen minutes late. In this episode, we talk about why that happens — and it's not because either of you is being dramatic. After betrayal, your nervous system starts running everyday moments through a threat filter, not just an annoyance filter. That means ordinary conflict can carry real weight underneath it: questions about safety, about control, and about repair work that hasn't fully landed yet. Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. The Awakening The Man Within men’s Somatic Intensive is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men who have already begun their recovery and self-awareness journey, and are ready to go deeper. This takes place November 8-11, 2026.  Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed for women who have already done significant inner work and are ready to move beyond surviving into deeper joy, embodiment, and wholeness. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali for a powerful fusion of methods—all guided by trauma-trained facilitators. If you are a navigating parenting in the aftermath of betrayal, you will find insightful information and tips on how to talk to your kids in my self-paced course called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠. I created this course alongside my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, LMAFT, CCPS.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

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Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal is a podcast for couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. Whether you’re a betrayed partner making sense of the pain, or the partner who caused harm and wants to repair what was broken, this show offers trauma-informed tools, honest conversations, and grounded hope. Hosted by Hali Roderick, the podcast explores trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, boundaries, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness or pushing a one-size-fits-all outcome.

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