Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
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Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal is a podcast for couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. Whether you’re a betrayed partner making sense of the pain, or the partner who caused harm and wants to repair what was broken, this show offers trauma-informed tools, honest conversations, and grounded hope. Hosted by Hali Roderick, the podcast explores trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, boundaries, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness or pushing a one-size-fits-all outcome.

  1. 5d ago

    #176 The Fight Under the Fight — Decoding What Betrayal Trauma Does to Your Everyday Arguments

    If you're rebuilding trust after infidelity, you've probably noticed something strange: small disagreements can escalate way faster and way bigger than the topic seems to deserve. A dish in the sink. A short text back. Being fifteen minutes late. In this episode, we talk about why that happens — and it's not because either of you is being dramatic. After betrayal, your nervous system starts running everyday moments through a threat filter, not just an annoyance filter. That means ordinary conflict can carry real weight underneath it: questions about safety, about control, and about repair work that hasn't fully landed yet. Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. The Awakening The Man Within men’s Somatic Intensive is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men who have already begun their recovery and self-awareness journey, and are ready to go deeper. This takes place November 8-11, 2026.  Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed for women who have already done significant inner work and are ready to move beyond surviving into deeper joy, embodiment, and wholeness. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali for a powerful fusion of methods—all guided by trauma-trained facilitators. If you are a navigating parenting in the aftermath of betrayal, you will find insightful information and tips on how to talk to your kids in my self-paced course called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠. I created this course alongside my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, LMAFT, CCPS.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  2. Sep 3

    #175 The Separation Plan Guide: Navigating Time Apart After Betrayal Trauma with Shawna Meek, PCC, CPC-S

    "Separation" doesn't have to mean divorce. In this episode, I'm joined by Shawna Meek of Living Stones Coaching to talk about the therapeutic separation — a structured, intentional time apart designed to create safety and clarity for couples navigating betrayal. Whether you're considering time apart or just trying to understand your options, this conversation offers a grounded starting point.  Connect with Shawna Meek:  www.livingstonescoaching.com or shawna@livingstonescoaching.com Determined for More book Six Episode Podcast Series Get the resources mentioned in today’s episode:  ⁠The Separation Plan Guide⁠ ⁠Relational Safety Plan for Couples⁠ Shawna is a Professional Certified Coach, author, and coaching consultation supervisor. Her specialized focus is supporting woman experiencing betrayal trauma from problematic sexual behavior and are in a neurodiverse marriage, primarily with autism and Asperger profiles. She currently reaches those around the world through her podcast appearances, individual coaching, couples workshops, and supervising other professionals. She is also a brainspotting practitioner. She is the author of the book, Determined for More, based on her own 25 year marriage journey, available on Amazon. Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  3. Aug 29

    ***BONUS Choosing Different Mini Series: What I Wish I'd Done Differently with my daughters, Mataia and Morgan

    In this episode of the Choosing Different mini-series, Hali is joined by her daughters, Mataia and Morgan, for an honest conversation about betrayal trauma's impact on the whole family — not just the marriage. Hali reflects on what she believed she was doing right at the time (staying reassuring, keeping hard details between the adults) and what she's since learned she missed about how her daughters were actually experiencing it. Mataia and Morgan share what that season of family trauma recovery looked like from where they were standing as kids, and how it's shaping the choices they make now as young moms of their own. Together they talk about the protective patterns that form in the middle of survival mode, why validating both the parent's experience and the child's experience matters for real healing, and what it looks like to break old patterns on purpose instead of by accident. The episode closes with an invitation to the Becoming Together mother/daughter retreat. Mentioned in this episode:  If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. Get support for your children:  Witnessed Group Coaching program led by Morgan Ellsworth.  Connect with Morgan Ellsworth: morgan.ellsworth98@gmail.com Instagram: @healing.betrayed.families  Podcast: Healing Betrayed Families Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  4. Aug 27

    #174 It's Not Too Late: Healing an Affair You Thought Was Behind You

    If the betrayal in your relationship happened years ago — and life moved forward, but the deepest layers of healing never actually happened — this episode is for you. Maybe the resources weren't available at the time. Maybe neither of you had the language for what betrayal trauma actually is. Maybe you got through the facts but never did the deeper grief work. Whatever the reason, when real repair gets skipped, the pain doesn't disappear — it waits. Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. The Awakening The Man Within men’s Somatic Intensive is a powerful, immersive experience designed for men who have already begun their recovery and self-awareness journey — and are ready to go deeper. This takes place November 8-11th.  If you are a navigating parenting in the aftermath of betrayal, you will find insightful information and tips on how to talk to your kids in my self-paced course called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠. I created this course alongside my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, LMAFT, CCPS.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  5. Aug 20

    #173 Betrayed Men: Why Their Trauma Looks Different — and What Actually Helps with Dr. Laney Knowlton

    When we talk about betrayal trauma, the picture most people carry is of a betrayed woman. But men experience betrayal too — and their pain often goes unseen, misread as anger, or dismissed entirely. In this episode, Dr. Laney Knowlton joins us to look honestly at what betrayal trauma looks like for men. We talk about the support gap, look at the cultural messages men carry, and how those make healing challenging. Most importantly, we talk about what actually helps and what genuine healing looks like whether a man chooses to stay or leave. Dr. Laney Knowlton is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor and clinical sexologist with a PhD in Clinical Sexology. She maintains a private practice, Knowlton Counseling with physical offices in TX and UT and is licensed across more than a dozen states. She specializes in sexual abuse, betrayal, and problematic sexual behavior. Dr. Knowlton is the author of Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors (Routledge, 2025) and the developer of the Connected Recovery® framework. She currently serves as President of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH).  KnowltonCounseling.com & ConnectedRecoveryTraining.com Laney@KnowltonCounseling.com linktr.ee/connectedrecovery Free Handouts Most Recent Book SASH podcast Other Resources in this Episode:  Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction Helping Couples Heal From Infidelity and Find Love Again The Intimacy Pyramid The Betrayal Shrink Enjoyed This Episode? Here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing You don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  6. Aug 13

    #172 Why the Right Words Aren't Enough: Embodied Empathy in Betrayal Recovery

    You can say all the right words and still leave your partner feeling completely unsafe. If you're the partner who caused harm, that may be the most frustrating thing you've encountered in recovery — you apologized, you said "I understand," you told her you're here, and somehow it still landed wrong. In this episode, Hali explains why your partner isn't responding to your words. She's responding to your body — to whether your presence feels safe or braced, whether you're actually with her or just managing her. That's embodied empathy. Hali walks through what embodied empathy actually is and why a traumatized nervous system is exquisitely tuned to detect the mismatch between what you say and the state you're actually in. Then she lays out two concrete lists: the behaviors that model embodied empathy and build safety (staying regulated and present when she's activated, accountability without minimizing, letting her be angry without firing back, transparency over time), and the behaviors that get in the way (defensiveness, minimizing, blame-shifting, gaslighting, withdrawal, empty promises). Drawing on the response patterns in the book Courageous Love alongside a somatic, nervous-system lens, this episode gives both partners a clear, behavior-level map of what genuine presence after betrayal actually looks like. Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your Body Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are. Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.  Free Resources & Downloads Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  7. Aug 8

    *** BONUS Choosing Different Mini Series: Three Words Every Parent Owes Their Child: "I Believe You" 

    What happens when a child no longer has to convince their parent that their pain was real? In this episode of Choosing Different Mini Series, Hali sits down with her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, for a short, unscripted conversation about one of the most healing things a parent can offer: belief. They talk about the three quiet ways parents unintentionally dismiss a child's experience - through differing memories, good intentions, and simple unawareness - and why none of those things make a child's pain any less real. Mentioned in this episode:  If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. Join us: FREE Parenting Through the Wreckage Webinar on Wednesday, August 12, 2026 at 5pm Pacific Get support for your children:  Witnessed Group Coaching program led by Morgan Ellsworth.  Connect with Morgan Ellsworth: morgan.ellsworth98@gmail.com Instagram: @healing.betrayed.families  Podcast: Healing Betrayed Families Enjoyed This Episode? If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review — Reviews help other people in the betrayal trauma community find this podcast when they need it most. It only takes a minute and means the world. 💬 Join the Community — Connect with others who are navigating this same journey. You don't have to do this alone.  📲 Share This Episode — Know someone who needs to hear this? Send it to them. Share it on your social media. You never know who might be waiting for exactly this conversation. Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing Upcoming Group Coaching: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a group coaching program focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. 👉 ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist!⁠ Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉The Six Ways Trauma Hides in the Body  👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Join My Newsletter Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

  8. Aug 6

    #171 Elements of Healthy Relationships in Recovery with Randi Gray

    What does a truly healthy relationship look like after infidelity and betrayal — and is it even possible to get there? In this episode, Hali sits down with Dr. Randi Gray, Licensed Professional Counselor and PhD in Psychology, to break down the real, practical elements of healthy relationships in betrayal recovery. Dr. Gray has spent 12 years specializing in pornography and sex addiction and betrayal trauma, and in this conversation she gets specific — no vague advice, no platitudes. If you've been told to "set boundaries" or "communicate your needs" but never really understood what that looks like in real life after betrayal, this episode is for you. Learn more about Dr. Randi Gray:  Dr. Gray is the owner of Randi Gray Counseling where she works as a counselor and as a board approved clinical supervisor. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Board Certified Counselor. She has a Master’s Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and her doctorate degree is a PhD in Psychology with an emphasis on cognition and instruction. She is EMDR trained and she is trained in Somatic Experiencing. She specializes in working with trauma, betrayal trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction, and improving overall self-esteem and wellbeing. She has facilitated women’s trauma recovery groups and addiction recovery, groups. Website randigraycounseling.com And booksbydrgray.com Email randigraycounseling@gmail.com Phone: 480 553-7743 Instagram: @randigray_counseling Facebook: Randi Gray Counseling TikTok: @randigraycounseling Enjoyed This Episode? ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review — Reviews help other people in the betrayal trauma community find this podcast when they need it most. It only takes a minute and means the world. 💬 Join the Community — Connect with others who are navigating this same journey. You don't have to do this alone.  📲 Share This Episode — Know someone who needs to hear this? Send it to them. Share it on your social media. You never know who might be waiting for exactly this conversation. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing: Upcoming Group Coaching: Reclaiming You After Betrayal If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a program focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. 👉 ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist!⁠ Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect.  Join me at a Retreat or Intensive If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th. The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉The Six Ways Trauma Hides in the Body  👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal 👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal Join My Newsletter 👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠ Connect With Me Between Episodes 👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠ 👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠ 👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠

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Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal is a podcast for couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. Whether you’re a betrayed partner making sense of the pain, or the partner who caused harm and wants to repair what was broken, this show offers trauma-informed tools, honest conversations, and grounded hope. Hosted by Hali Roderick, the podcast explores trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, boundaries, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness or pushing a one-size-fits-all outcome.

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