The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce Club

Erica Bennett
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Welcome to The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, a podcast dedicated to helping women navigate the emotional journey of divorce and all that comes with it. Whether you're struggling with the decision to leave, dealing with the aftermath of a difficult divorce, or trying to figure out how to co-parent with your ex, this podcast has got you covered. The Crazy Ex-Wives Club offers advice, tips, and strategies to help women move through each stage of the process.

  1. 21h ago

    Are You Consciously Uncoupling Solo?

    What if you could consciously uncouple—even when your ex refuses to participate? In this episode of The Crazy X Wives Club, Erica explores what it really means to move through divorce, co-parenting, grief, and conflict from a place of values instead of wounds. Drawing from a deeply triggering experience in Hawaii, Erica shares how she spiraled, processed the anger and grief, rewrote the story, and ultimately chose to take her power back. Because conscious uncoupling doesn't require two people. It only requires you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways Conscious uncoupling can be a choice you make alone. Your ex doesn't have to agree, participate, or even know that's what you're doing.Pause before you react. When you're triggered, give yourself space to feel everything before deciding what deserves to be said or done.Get the ugly truth out somewhere safe. Write it down, journal, or record a voice memo—but don't necessarily hand your rawest emotions to someone else and fuel the spiral.Rewrite the story without judgment. Once the emotion settles, challenge the assumptions, blame, and “us vs. them” thinking. Ask what is actually true and what your values would have you do instead.You can rise above without giving up your boundaries. Choosing compassion doesn't mean letting people walk all over you. You can hold your ground while responding from care rather than hurt.Put your child's well-being ahead of your personal pain. Co-parenting may require you to carry difficult emotions without allowing them to spill onto your child.Stop waiting for your ex to change. Your healing and your identity after divorce are not dependent on whether your ex apologizes, validates your perspective, or becomes a better person.Your rebirth has to become a priority. Healing means learning your own heart, understanding where your wounds came from, and intentionally rebuilding the life and identity you want. 🌟 Resources & Links The New You Blueprint is a 90-minute guided experience designed to help you: Get clear on who you're becomingRelease grief that's still sitting in your bodyIdentify what needs to changeCreate a plan for rebuilding your lifeDecide what—and who—needs to come with you into your next chapter Use code FRIENDS for $100 off the New You Blueprint. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/blueprint https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/blueprint https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/blueprint Connect with Erica, take her freq quiz or submit an episode topic at www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com

  2. Aug 12

    50/50 Custody: Is Equal Time Actually Best for Your Kids?

    What if 50/50 custody isn’t always the same thing as doing what’s best for your kids? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica gets real about custody arrangements, 2-2-3 schedules, transitions between homes, and the emotional toll divorce can take on children. After living through the realities of co-parenting herself, Erica shares why she ultimately chose a custody arrangement based less on what felt “fair” and more on what gave her son stability, predictability, and the support he actually needed. The goal isn’t to tell every family what their custody schedule should look like. It’s to help parents step back, put ego aside, and ask a harder question: What arrangement works best for my child? 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways Equal time doesn’t automatically mean equal benefit. A 50/50 schedule may work beautifully for some families and create unnecessary stress for others.Reduce transitions when you can. Constantly moving between two homes can be difficult for young children. A predictable schedule with the same days each week may provide more stability.Make custody schedules predictable. A simple visual calendar can help children understand where they’ll be, what’s coming next, and when they’ll see each parent.Parenting time should reflect reality. If a parent consistently isn’t available during their scheduled time, it may be worth reconsidering whether the schedule actually serves the child.Separate what you want from what your child needs. Fighting for equal time because it feels fair is different from advocating for the arrangement that genuinely supports your child.Custody arrangements can evolve. What works for a toddler may not be what works for a school-age child or teenager. Keep paying attention to what your child needs in each season.Help kids through transitions instead of trying to eliminate their feelings. Give them language for the sadness, anger, or resistance that can come with moving between two homes.The quiet nights matter, too. Time away from your kids can be painful, but it can also become an opportunity to heal, rebuild your identity, and strengthen your internal authority. 🌟 Resources & Links If the quiet nights feel too long, the emotions feel too big, or you’re struggling to find yourself after divorce, The Wild Woman is a monthly container designed to help you rebuild your relationship with yourself and develop your internal authority. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/wildwoman

  3. Aug 5

    Don't Let Your Ex Steal the Woman You've Become

    You've done the work to heal after divorce. You're finding your confidence, rebuilding your identity, and finally starting to feel like yourself again. Then one interaction with your ex leaves you feeling like you've lost all of that progress. If you've ever wondered, "Why do I become a different person around them?" this episode is for you. In this episode, Erica explains why healing after divorce happens in two layers: discovering who you are and learning how to stay rooted in that identity when old triggers, co-parenting dynamics, and emotional patterns show up. You'll also learn a simple practice that helps you stop giving your power away and start protecting the woman you've become. 🔑 What You'll Learn Why healing after divorce is about more than finding yourself.The two layers of post-divorce growth—and why both matter.Why your nervous system pulls you back into old patterns around your ex.How to stop letting someone else's behavior determine how you feel.The "pre-paving" practice to help you stay grounded before difficult interactions.Why every interaction is an opportunity to strengthen your identity instead of losing it. 🌟 Resources & Links The Wild Woman Your monthly support to claim who you are and let go of what is in the way. Stop waiting for time to heal your wounds and start doing the work to move forward. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/wildwoman https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/wildwoman https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/wildwoman

  4. Jul 29

    Toxic Dating Advice After Divorce and How To Get Past It

    Have you ever been told, "You just know" when you've met the right person? After divorce, that advice can feel less comforting and more confusing. In this episode, Erica unpacks why that phrase can actually make healing harder—and how to rebuild trust in yourself without confusing fear, trauma, and intuition. If dating after divorce feels like an emotional roller coaster, this conversation will help you understand what's really happening inside your nervous system and how to make decisions from a place of peace instead of panic.  🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways Why "you just know" can be damaging after divorce.The difference between intuition and a trauma response.Why your "picker" isn't broken—your nervous system is simply trying to protect you.How fear creates doubt even in healthy relationships.Erica's four-step process for making calmer, healthier relationship decisions.Why removing the pressure of "forever" creates more emotional safety.How healing allows you to trust yourself again. 🌟 Resources & Links The Club is a private membership for women who are ready to stop letting divorce define their lives and start building a future they're genuinely excited about. Through live coaching, nervous system healing, practical tools, and a supportive community of women who truly get it, you'll learn how to stop spiraling, rebuild your confidence, and create your comeback—one step at a time. Because divorce may be part of your story, but it doesn't have to be your identity. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub The Wild Woman is your monthly lifeline back to yourself. Through guided rituals and nervous system practices, you'll quiet the constant second-guessing, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and release what's keeping you stuck. It's a simple monthly practice that helps you regulate your emotions, hear your own truth beneath the noise, and build the life you truly want—one month at a time. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/wildwoman

  5. Jul 22

    Divorce Financial Planning: Avoid Costly Mistakes & Build Your Divorce Team with Melissa Murphy-Pavone

    Divorce isn't just an emotional transition—it's one of the biggest financial decisions you'll ever make. In this episode, Erica sits down with Certified Financial Planner®, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, and author Melissa Murphy-Pavone to unpack the costly mistakes many people make during divorce and how to avoid them. Melissa explains why equal numbers on paper don't always translate into equal financial outcomes, why your attorney shouldn't be your only advisor, and how building the right support team can save you time, money, and unnecessary stress. Whether you're quietly considering divorce, actively negotiating a settlement, or rebuilding afterward, this conversation will help you make informed decisions with confidence. 🔑 Key Takeaways Why fear around divorce is usually rooted in the unknown.The five financial numbers everyone should understand before negotiating.Why "equal" asset values are often anything but equal.The hidden tax consequences that can dramatically impact your settlement.Why "I just want to be done" can become one of the most expensive decisions you'll ever make.The difference between financial advisors and Certified Divorce Financial Analysts (CDFAs).Why your divorce team should include more than just an attorney.How mediation can reduce conflict, time, and legal expenses.What every woman should know before deciding whether to keep the family home.Why preparing financially doesn't mean you've decided to divorce. 🎙️ Meet this Week's Guest: Melissa Murphy-Pavone Melissa Murphy Pavone is a highly respected financial expert specializing in collaborative divorce. As both a Certified Financial Planner (CFP®) and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA®), Melissa offers a unique blend of expertise that empowers individuals to make informed financial decisions during one of life’s most challenging transitions. https://mindfuldivorcepartners.com Divorce by Design: Order your own copy of Melissa's book and learn how to build your divorce dream team. Divorce Prep Workbook: Not ready to file the divorce, but curious to understand your finances? Download Melissa's prep workbook. 🌟 Resources & Links The Wild Woman: Unleash your inner Wild Woman so that your past no longer controls your future. A powerful monthly ritual to help you get clear on what you want and release what is in the way - for less than your therapy co-pay. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/wildwoman The Club: Your monthly membership to connect with real women navigating divorce and get the support, clarity and help you need to know how to move forward. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub Connect with Erica: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thecrazyexwivesclub If today's conversation helped you feel more informed or empowered, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who may need it. And if you're navigating divorce yourself, join The Crazy Ex-Wives Club for support, education, and a community of women rebuilding stronger than ever.

  6. Jul 15

    Healing Codependency After Divorce: How to Find Yourself Without Losing Love

    Are you confusing codependency with love? After divorce, it's easy to believe that anxiety, constant togetherness, or always needing reassurance are signs of love. But what if they're actually signs of codependency? In this episode, Erica shares how healing after divorce helped her move from anxious attachment to interdependence, rebuild trust, and reconnect with herself. Learn the signs of codependency, how your nervous system shapes relationships, and practical steps to create healthier, more secure love. Together, we'll unpack what codependency really looks like, why healthy relationships can initially feel unfamiliar, and how learning to trust yourself changes everything. If you've ever lost yourself in a relationship or wondered why secure love feels so different, this episode will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways The difference between codependency, independence, hyper-independence, and interdependenceWhy calm can feel uncomfortable after years of survival modeHow betrayal and divorce can reinforce old attachment woundsThe surprising ways we unknowingly abandon ourselves inside relationshipsWhy quality time isn't the same as emotional dependenceHow your nervous system influences the stories you tell yourself about lovePractical ways to become curious instead of reactive when old fears resurfaceWhy healing isn't about finding the "right" partner—it's about becoming the healthiest version of yourself 🌟 Resources & Links The Wild Woman is the monthly space where we practice this work together. Through intentional rituals, nervous system healing, coaching, and a community of women committed to growth, you'll learn to quiet the noise, trust yourself again, and become the woman you were always meant to be. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/wildwoman

  7. Jul 8

    How to Lower Conflict During Divorce & Co-Parenting with Therapist Jill Kaufman

    Divorce conflict is inevitable—but constant fighting doesn't have to be. In this episode, Erica sits down with therapist, divorce coach, mediator, and co-parenting expert Jill Kaufman to share practical strategies for reducing conflict, communicating more effectively, and protecting your children during and after divorce. If conversations with your ex leave you feeling triggered, frustrated, or emotionally exhausted, this episode will help you understand why—and give you simple tools to respond differently. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways Why conflict is normal—but escalation is optional.The biggest emotional triggers that keep exes stuck in unhealthy cycles.Why your brain literally goes into "fight, flight, or freeze" during conflict.How emotional regulation changes every conversation.The communication habits that reduce unnecessary arguments.Why email is often better than texting during high-conflict co-parenting.How to stop taking your ex's behavior personally.Practical breathing and visualization techniques to calm your nervous system.Why choosing your battles leads to healthier co-parenting.The small shifts that can completely change your relationship over time. 🌟 Resources & Links Join The Club: The Club is your private space to find yourself and your confidence again, stop second guessing every decision, build a badass post-divorce life you’re actually excited to wake up to. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub The Shift by Komuso Micro-calming tools designed to help your reset in real the through the power of a slow exhale. SAVE 20% WITH MY LINK Meet This Week's Guest: Jill Kaufman Jill Kaufman is a Therapist, Divorce Coach, Mediator & Co-parenting Expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, she made it her life’s mission to make the process less overwhelming for others. Her book, online course and transformational group coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce both emotionally and strategically with less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace. Jill also co-founded Divorce Network Pro, a directory of divorce professionals committed to a low-conflict, family-focused approach. www.divorcecoachjill.com INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK YOUTUBE Connect with Erica https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK TIKTOK

  8. Jul 1

    Stories From the Other Side: Rebuilding After Betrayal & Divorce with Sona

    Starting over after divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when betrayal turns your world upside down. In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Sona Avetisyan from @Sonastartsfresh to talk about rebuilding your life after heartbreak, navigating co-parenting, protecting your mental health, and discovering the strongest version of yourself. If you're wondering whether healing is possible after divorce, this conversation is proof that one day you'll find yourself on the other side. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways Why betrayal can become the catalyst for discovering your authentic self.The moment Sona knew her marriage couldn't be saved.Learning to let go of trying to control your co-parent's choices.Why protecting your mental health is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children.How self-compassion helped Sona overcome financial fear and rebuild her confidence.The power of trying new hobbies, rediscovering joy, and creating a life that's truly your own.Practical mindset shifts to stop future-tripping and stay grounded in the present moment. 🌟 Resources & Links⁠ The Club - Divorce Membership:⁠ Some days you feel like you've got this. Others you are back at square one wondering why it keeps coming back up. The Club has you covered. Weekly calls, a community of women who get it and the support you need to move forward. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub Meet this weeks guest: Sona Avetisyan Hi. I'm Sona, a single mom of 2 girls in my 40s. I was married for 17 years. I separated from my then husband in 2021 and have been on a self-discovery and rebuilding journey ever since. Follow along at:⁠ INSTAGRAM⁠ www.theminimalist.me Connect with Erica Free Divorce Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/ericabennett/15minhttps:// www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com⁠ INSTAGRAM⁠ FACEBOOK⁠ TIKTOK⁠

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Welcome to The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, a podcast dedicated to helping women navigate the emotional journey of divorce and all that comes with it. Whether you're struggling with the decision to leave, dealing with the aftermath of a difficult divorce, or trying to figure out how to co-parent with your ex, this podcast has got you covered. The Crazy Ex-Wives Club offers advice, tips, and strategies to help women move through each stage of the process.

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