The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce Club

Erica Bennett

Welcome to The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, a podcast dedicated to helping women navigate the emotional journey of divorce and all that comes with it. Whether you're struggling with the decision to leave, dealing with the aftermath of a difficult divorce, or trying to figure out how to co-parent with your ex, this podcast has got you covered. The Crazy Ex-Wives Club offers advice, tips, and strategies to help women move through each stage of the process.

  1. 4D AGO

    Are you a Crazy Ex-Wife? How to Reclaim Your Power When You’ve Been Labeled “Crazy”

    Being labeled “crazy” is often what happens when a woman has been unheard, dysregulated, and pushed past her limits for too long. In this episode, Erica unpacks the difference between being reactive and being powerful, and why emotional healing starts with regulating your nervous system, rebuilding self-trust, and reconnecting with the woman you were before survival mode took over. This conversation is for any woman who has ever been called too much, too emotional, too reactive, or too hard to handle. Erica shares how to stop giving your power away, interrupt old emotional patterns, and begin choosing grounded responses that align with the life you actually want to build. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways Being called “crazy” is often a way society dismisses women’s emotional truth.There is a real difference between emotional reactivity and grounded personal power.Unprocessed pain, chronic stress, and years of not being heard can dysregulate your nervous system.Healing is not about controlling other people. It is about owning your response.You cannot think your way out of a nervous system response. Regulation has to come first.True power lives in the pause between the trigger and the reaction.Rebuilding your internal compass is how you reconnect with your voice, your needs, and your next chapter. ⏱️ Episode Timestamps 00:00 — Crazy or Powerful? 00:33 — Why This Message Matters 01:23 — When “Crazy” Becomes a Label 02:05 — Emotions as a Superpower 03:00 — What Reactivity Really Is 04:14 — The Trap of Blaming Others 04:55 — What “Unfuckwithable” Means 05:35 — Her Lowest Reactive Moment 07:16 — What Was Under the Rage 09:09 — Emotions Beg to Be Heard 09:41 — A Dysregulated Nervous System 11:03 — From Bad Crazy to Good Crazy 12:48 — The First Step: Stop Running 13:48 — Regulate, Rewire, Realize 15:29 — Your Inner Wild Woman 16:22 — Reconnecting With Who You Were 17:18 — Rebuild Your Internal Compass 18:38 — Why Talk Therapy Isn’t Enough 19:49 — Power Is Owning Your Response 21:01 — The Trigger-to-Spiral Pattern 22:00 — A Real-Life Future Tripping Moment 24:31 — The Shift Back to the Present 26:07 — What Do I Need Right Now? 27:14 — Sitting in the Feels 28:09 — Becoming the Woman You Trust 29:36 — Building the Next Chapter 30:51 — Ways to Work With Erica 31:46 — Reclaim the Word “Crazy” 🌟 Resources & Links The Blueprint: Your at-home guide to define who you want to be in your next chapter. LEARN MORE HERE Unfuckwithable Coaching: 30-days to a regulated nervous system, healed triggers and an energy that is born to rise. LEARN MORE HERE Visit https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com to learn more about the podcast and how to work with Erica. Ratings and Reviews help other women find the show. If this episode spoke to you, make sure to subscribe then share it with a woman who has ever been called “too much” when she was really just overwhelmed, unheard, or hurting.

    28 min
  2. MAR 18

    Feeling Lonely After Divorce: The Lesson Hidden in Solitude

    Feeling lonely after divorce can make it seem like everyone else has somewhere to be, someone to call, or a life that feels more connected than yours. In this episode, Erica unpacks why loneliness can feel so loud in this chapter and how it may actually be pointing you back to yourself in a deeper way. She shares how being alone is not a punishment, but an invitation to rebuild self trust, reconnect with your desires, and create a life that felt good from the inside out. If you’ve been struggling with quiet weekends, solo evenings, or the stories your mind tells you when no one reaches out, this conversation will remind you that loneliness is not the end of the story. It may be the beginning of learning how to truly enjoy your own company. If you wonder why being alone feels heavier than you thought it would or catch yourself thinking that if you just had someone, all of this would feel easier, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore how loneliness after divorce can stir up old stories about worth, belonging, and being chosen — and how healing begins when you stop trying to outrun the quiet and start listening to what it’s here to teach you. In this episode, we will explore: why loneliness feels bigger than just being alonethe old beliefs that get triggered in the silencewhy having a partner does not automatically solve lonelinessthe shift from proving you can be alone to actually enjoying your own companyhow contentment becomes the starting point for rebuilding joysimple ways to reconnect with yourself when loneliness hits ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 — The Quiet You Took for Granted 00:35 — Why This Topic Matters 01:40 — When Loneliness Still Hits 03:20 — Partnership Isn’t the Cure 05:08 — The Fear of Being Unchosen 07:24 — The Story Loneliness Tells 09:44 — Divorce as a Turning Point 12:07 — Nights That Felt the Hardest 14:03 — From Proving to Contentment 16:28 — It Was Never About Worth 18:35 — Learning to Love a Solo Life 20:48 — Follow What Feels Good 22:53 — Why Contentment Comes First 25:18 — Let Loneliness Teach You 🌟 Links Mentioned in the Show: The Wild Woman — Reconnect with your deepest desires and feminine power The Club — Join the Club for support, sisterhood, and deeper healing The Blueprint — Build your blueprint to release the past and step into who you’re becoming with confidence The Emotional Ladder PDF — Download the Emotional Ladder PDF to help shift your thoughts one step at a time What ah-ha hit you the hardest? Leave a comment on Spotify. 🌟 Contact with Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club Ratings & Review mean the world to us! Join the Club Buy some Crazy Merch https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok

    24 min
  3. MAR 11

    Manifesting Maize: Rebuilding Self Trust for Clearer Decisions

    In this episode, Erica shares the story of how bringing a new puppy home became a lesson in rebuilding self-trust, quieting decision fatigue, and learning how to recognize the right decision without forcing it. What starts as a puppy story turns into a deeper conversation about inner guidance, emotional clarity, and the difference between chasing an answer versus calmly knowing what’s true. You'll Learn: Self-trust is rebuilt by listening to your own signals. Erica walks through what it looked like to stop overriding herself and start paying attention to what felt calm, clear, and aligned. Decision fatigue is a sign to pause, not push harder. When a choice starts to feel muddy, frantic, or overcomplicated, that can be the cue to step back and go general again. The right decision often feels calm, not chaotic. Erica describes how the path toward Maize felt easy, safe, and flowing once she stopped forcing outcomes that didn’t fit. Inner guidance becomes clearer when your nervous system is regulated. You can’t hear your truth clearly when everything feels urgent. Regulation creates the space to discern what’s fear and what’s real. You have to line yourself up with the decisions you need to make. Clarity doesn’t always come from thinking harder. Sometimes it comes from creating the internal alignment to recognize what is actually right for you. We Talk About: 00:05 — Meet Maize 01:43 — When Decision Fatigue Hits 04:05 — Knowing There Was No Capacity 06:24 — Getting Clear on What Matters 08:16 — The Holding Pattern Ends 10:42 — Wrong Turns and Red Flags 13:05 — When the Signs Got Loud 15:17 — The Secret, the Deposit, the Momentum 17:37 — Why Trusting Yourself Feels So Hard 20:03 — The Difference Between Forcing and Knowing 22:30 — Manifesting Through Your Guidance System 24:54 — Rebuilding With Focus and Trust Links Mentioned in the Show The New You Blueprint - Coming March 25th! Divorce doesn’t just end a relationship. It can blur your identity. The New You Blueprint is here to help you come back to yourself so you can move forward with clarity, intention, and self-trust. The Club Divorce Membership Transform your greatest heartbreak into your biggest comeback. Wild Woman A guided, monthly ritual to clear the noise, stop second-guessing, and feel deeply rooted in who you are, so you can build a life that actually feels like yours. Did you love this episode? If this episode spoke to you, let us know! Ratings and Reviews, along with sharing this show with others, help new listeners find there way here. Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com Instagram Facebook YouTube

    22 min
  4. MAR 4

    Bougie on a Budget After Divorce. How to Rebuild Your Finances Without Feeling Restricted | Shana & Vanessa, Budget Besties

    What happens when divorce forces you to look at your money differently? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Shana and Vanessa of Budget Besties to talk about the B word. Budgets. Not the restrictive, shame-filled kind. The bougie kind. The kind that supports your next chapter instead of shrinking it. Divorce often brings financial fear to the surface. Whether you managed the money before or not, stepping into full financial responsibility can feel overwhelming. Shame creeps in. Avoidance sets in. The credit card becomes the emotional buffer. Shana and Vanessa break down how to move from fear to clarity using a simplified, automated budgeting system designed specifically for women. They explain how most women don’t have a spending problem. They have an organization problem. If you’re navigating financial independence after divorce, feeling behind with money, or afraid to look at your bank account, this episode will remind you that you are capable of being the CFO of your own life. You’ll learn: Why money feels heavier after divorce The difference between a spending problem and an organization problem How shame keeps women stuck financially The three-step simplified budget system: create, separate, automate What a digital envelope system is and how it replaces outdated cash envelopes How separating accounts creates natural guardrails Why automation eliminates financial stress How to stop relying on credit cards to fund your life Why adding cushion prevents rebound overspending How paying off debt creates financial freedom How to let your money work for you instead of against you Why your version of “bougie” is allowed We talk about: 00:00 Reframing the B word after divorce 02:00 Why budgeting feels emotional and overwhelming 04:00 Money shame and “I should know this already” 06:00 Avoidance and head-in-the-sand habits 08:00 The simplified five-column budget structure 10:00 Digital envelopes and separating accounts 12:00 Why guardrails create freedom 14:00 Overspending and emotional justification 16:00 Designing a budget you actually want to follow 18:00 Becoming the CFO of your own life 20:00 Adding buffer and flexibility into your spending 22:00 Automating your bills and savings 24:00 Debit cards versus credit card reliance 26:00 Paying off debt and reclaiming income 28:00 Financial independence in your next chapter 30:00 Letting your money multiply while you sleep 32:00 Small shifts that create financial momentum 34:00 Why budgeting is self-respect, not restriction 36:00 Your first simple step this week Links Mentioned in the Show Need a monthly reset and rhythm? Explore The WILD WOMAN Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT Want to grab your own bougie budget? Grab your download from the podcast HERE Loved this week’s guest? LEARN MORE Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com  Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok Did you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.

    40 min
  5. FEB 25

    Stories from the Other Side: Choosing Yourself and Rebuilding After Divorce with Simona Costantini

    What happens when there’s no cheating, no explosive betrayal, no dramatic final straw, yet you still know the marriage is over? In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Simona Costantini to share her powerful life after divorce transformation story. Together, they unpack what it means to end a marriage that simply ran its course, how to navigate family disappointment, and how to rebuild when there’s no obvious villain. Simona shares how growing in different directions, misaligned life goals, and emotional distance led her to choose divorce after nearly a decade together. She opens up about the reality of separating without children, co-parenting a dog, buying out a home in one of Canada’s most expensive housing markets, and doing whatever it took to keep a roof over her head, from dog sitting to grocery delivery to Airbnb hosting. This conversation explores what rebuilding after divorce really looks like. Not dramatic reinvention. Not overnight healing. But small daily choices, mindset shifts, energy awareness, and consuming content that supports growth instead of grief. If you’re navigating divorce without a “big reason,” struggling with family judgment, or questioning whether choosing yourself was the right decision, this episode will remind you that growth seasons are real, alignment matters, and life on the other side can be more beautiful than you imagined. You’ll learn: Why divorce without a dramatic betrayal can be harder to explain but just as valid How growing in different directions slowly erodes connection Why family disappointment can be one of the hardest parts of divorce The emotional impact of separating without closure What co-parenting a dog after divorce really looks like How to handle a marital home during divorce Creative ways to stay financially afloat after separation Why what you consume during divorce shapes your healing The power of tiny daily choices in rebuilding your life How to move from feeling stuck to becoming an active participant in your life Why “this is not forever” can be a grounding mantra in hard seasons How alignment and energy shift your post-divorce experience We talk about: 00:00 Invitation to join the club and rise together 02:00 Simona’s divorce story and asking for the separation 04:00 Expecting an amicable divorce and navigating respect 06:00 Growing apart and realizing life goals were misaligned 08:00 Video games, emotional distance, and coexistence 10:00 The moment she knew it was over 12:00 Navigating family disappointment and cultural expectations 14:00 Living together after separation and lack of closure 16:00 Divorce without cheating or betrayal 18:00 Why people need a “reason” for divorce 20:00 Learning what conversations should happen before marriage 22:00 Buying out the house and staying during separation 24:00 Financial pressure and creative income solutions 26:00 Dog sitting, Instacart, and Airbnb as survival strategy 28:00 Letting go of the house and releasing attachment 30:00 Making the best decision with the information you have 32:00 The power of consuming uplifting conversations 34:00 Music, mindset, and choosing different energy 36:00 Tiny choices that create transformation 38:00 Rebuilding life after divorce one decision at a time Links Mentioned in the Show Need a monthly reset and rhythm? Explore The WILD WOMAN: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/wildwoman Looking for support on your journey? Join THE CLUB: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/blueprint Loved this week’s guest? LEARN MORE: https://www.voltproductions.co Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com  Tag us @ Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub/ Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub TikTok : https://www.tiktok.com/@thecrazyexwivesclub Did you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.

    38 min
  6. FEB 18

    Why Nothing Changes After Divorce (Even When You’re Doing the Work)

    If nothing seems to change after divorce, even though you’re doing the work, this episode explains why. In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica breaks down what actually creates real, sustainable change after divorce. Not just mindset. Not just strategy. But the combination of internal alignment, external action, and small habits that compound over time. Erica introduces her simple 1-2-3 framework for building a year, and a life, that actually feels good to live. She explains why visualization without action keeps you stuck, why action driven by fear leads to burnout, and how divorced women can rebuild their lives without trying to fix everything at once. This episode explores the importance of getting clear on what you truly want, using tools to stay accountable when life gets chaotic, and creating a rhythm that supports growth instead of forcing progress. Erica shares how tiny daily resets, from morning routines to environmental cues, create stability, confidence, and forward momentum over time. If you’re tired of waiting for “someday” and ready to stop rebuilding your life from pressure, fear, or exhaustion, this episode shows you how to blend the woo and the do, one small choice at a time. You’ll learn: Why mindset alone doesn’t create lasting change after divorce How fear-based action keeps you stuck in the same cycle Why small daily habits matter more than big promises How to get clear on what you really want beyond surface goals Why focusing on energy and experience creates better outcomes How tools and environment support accountability during hard seasons Why starting tomorrow delays healing and growth How rhythm creates consistency when motivation fades Why enjoyment is required for sustainable change How tiny choices compound into long-term transformation We talk about: 00:00 Why 2026 can’t be built the same way as 2025 02:00 Growth seasons versus healing seasons 04:00 Why mindset alone doesn’t work 06:00 The 1-2-3 framework for real change 08:00 Getting clear on what you truly want and why 10:00 Energy, experience, and frequency versus rigid goals 12:00 Letting go of control and allowing surprise 14:00 Accountability tools when life feels chaotic 16:00 Using your environment to support your nervous system 18:00 Why waiting for the perfect time keeps you stuck 20:00 Choosing small daily actions over overwhelm 22:00 Creating rhythm instead of forcing timelines 24:00 Flowing with natural cycles instead of rigid calendars 26:00 Why fun and enjoyment matter in rebuilding 28:00 Manifestation as alignment plus action 30:00 Knowing when you’re forcing instead of flowing 32:00 Rebuilding your life one small choice at a time Links Mentioned in the Show Need a monthly reset and rhythm? Explore The WILD WOMAN Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Clubwww.thecrazyexwivesclub.com

    24 min
  7. FEB 11

    Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship (And How to Stop)

    If you feel like you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person, this episode explains why. In the Season 12 premiere of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica breaks down the real reason relationship patterns repeat after divorce. Not because you’re broken, unlucky, or choosing the “wrong” people, but because unhealed wounds, nervous system responses, and unconscious expectations are still running the show. This episode explores the space between rushing back into dating and avoiding it altogether. Erica walks through the three core lessons that determine whether you’re actually ready for a new relationship. She explains how partners become emotional stand-ins, why asking someone else to regulate your happiness creates resentment, and how to tell the difference between a “me problem” and a “we problem.” You’ll also hear why even the right person can trigger you, how old wounds from betrayal and infidelity resurface in new relationships, and why triggers are information, not proof that you’re failing at healing.  You’ll learn: Why repeating relationship patterns after divorce is common and preventableHow to tell the difference between a personal trigger and a real relationship issueWhat “jumping through hoops” looks like and why it destroys connectionHow divorce rewires your nervous system and impacts dating readinessWhy asking a partner to make you happy creates resentmentHow unhealed wounds from betrayal show up in new relationshipsWhy triggers are data, not red flagsHow to stop outsourcing emotional regulation to a partnerWhat it means to enter a relationship whole instead of looking to be completedHow divorce can become a blueprint for healthier relationships moving forward We talk about: 00:00 Wondering if you’re ready to date again 02:00 Why people rush back into dating or avoid it completely 04:00 Divorce as a nervous system reset 06:00 “Me problem vs we problem” in relationships 08:00 How relationships mirror unhealed wounds 10:00 Why expecting a partner to complete you creates pressure 12:00 Jumping through emotional hoops and resentment 14:00 Self-imposed expectations and burnout 16:00 Cleaning up your side of the street 18:00 The stories your mind creates when triggered 20:00 Infidelity wounds and anxiety in new relationships 22:00 Communicating triggers instead of assuming meaning 24:00 Why even good partners will trigger you 26:00 Using triggers as information, not danger 28:00 Recognizing repeating conflict patterns 30:00 Choosing new responses instead of old reactions 32:00 Why divorce gives you tools to never let it get that bad again Links Mentioned in the Show Looking for support on your journey? Join THE CLUB Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com  Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok Did you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.

    34 min
4.7
out of 5
23 Ratings

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Welcome to The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, a podcast dedicated to helping women navigate the emotional journey of divorce and all that comes with it. Whether you're struggling with the decision to leave, dealing with the aftermath of a difficult divorce, or trying to figure out how to co-parent with your ex, this podcast has got you covered. The Crazy Ex-Wives Club offers advice, tips, and strategies to help women move through each stage of the process.

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