The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce Club

Erica Bennett
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Welcome to The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, a podcast dedicated to helping women navigate the emotional journey of divorce and all that comes with it. Whether you're struggling with the decision to leave, dealing with the aftermath of a difficult divorce, or trying to figure out how to co-parent with your ex, this podcast has got you covered. The Crazy Ex-Wives Club offers advice, tips, and strategies to help women move through each stage of the process.

  1. 6D AGO

    Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship (And How to Stop)

    If you feel like you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person, this episode explains why. In the Season 12 premiere of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica breaks down the real reason relationship patterns repeat after divorce. Not because you’re broken, unlucky, or choosing the “wrong” people, but because unhealed wounds, nervous system responses, and unconscious expectations are still running the show. This episode explores the space between rushing back into dating and avoiding it altogether. Erica walks through the three core lessons that determine whether you’re actually ready for a new relationship. She explains how partners become emotional stand-ins, why asking someone else to regulate your happiness creates resentment, and how to tell the difference between a “me problem” and a “we problem.” You’ll also hear why even the right person can trigger you, how old wounds from betrayal and infidelity resurface in new relationships, and why triggers are information, not proof that you’re failing at healing.  You’ll learn: Why repeating relationship patterns after divorce is common and preventableHow to tell the difference between a personal trigger and a real relationship issueWhat “jumping through hoops” looks like and why it destroys connectionHow divorce rewires your nervous system and impacts dating readinessWhy asking a partner to make you happy creates resentmentHow unhealed wounds from betrayal show up in new relationshipsWhy triggers are data, not red flagsHow to stop outsourcing emotional regulation to a partnerWhat it means to enter a relationship whole instead of looking to be completedHow divorce can become a blueprint for healthier relationships moving forward We talk about: 00:00 Wondering if you’re ready to date again 02:00 Why people rush back into dating or avoid it completely 04:00 Divorce as a nervous system reset 06:00 “Me problem vs we problem” in relationships 08:00 How relationships mirror unhealed wounds 10:00 Why expecting a partner to complete you creates pressure 12:00 Jumping through emotional hoops and resentment 14:00 Self-imposed expectations and burnout 16:00 Cleaning up your side of the street 18:00 The stories your mind creates when triggered 20:00 Infidelity wounds and anxiety in new relationships 22:00 Communicating triggers instead of assuming meaning 24:00 Why even good partners will trigger you 26:00 Using triggers as information, not danger 28:00 Recognizing repeating conflict patterns 30:00 Choosing new responses instead of old reactions 32:00 Why divorce gives you tools to never let it get that bad again Links Mentioned in the Show Looking for support on your journey? Join THE CLUB Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com  Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok Did you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.

    34 min

  2. FEB 4

    Dating After Divorce, How to Choose Better the Second Time with Anna Howerton

    Dating after divorce can feel like standing in the middle of a wide-open field with no map, no rules, and a nervous system still recovering from impact. Some people jump right back in, others swear off dating forever, and many find themselves repeating patterns they thought they’d already healed. In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by relationship coach and fellow divorcee Anna Howerton for a deeply honest, grounded conversation about what dating after divorce really requires. Not strategies, not swipes, but self-awareness, clarity, and the courage to choose differently. They unpack why divorce can actually be one of the greatest gifts for future partnership, how to recognize red flags versus yellow flags, why “manifesting the perfect partner” can backfire without inner work, and how unmet needs from your first marriage often show up in disguised ways the second time around. This episode is for anyone who wants partnership again, but refuses to lose themselves in the process. You’ll learn: Why divorce gives you the rare opportunity to choose again with wisdomHow to tell the difference between red flags, yellow flags, and growth edgesWhy dating too soon can turn you into an “energetic mess”How unmet needs from your first marriage shape who you’re attracted to nextWhy clarity around your core emotional needs matters more than chemistryHow independence, attraction, and compatibility can clash if you’re not honestWhy trying to change a partner often signals inner work that still needs doingHow to stay whole in a relationship instead of looking to be completed by oneWhat it really means to choose someone “warts and all”How to date with intention instead of chasing validation or potential We talk about: 00:00 Dating after divorce, jump back in or stay out 02:00 Why most people aren’t taught how to choose a partner 04:00 The gift of divorce, choosing again with self-awareness 06:00 Why many first marriages were right at the time, but not forever 08:00 Losing yourself in marriage and rebuilding identity 10:00 Dating too soon and becoming emotionally reactive 12:00 Boundaries, swiping fatigue, and dating with intention 14:00 Codependency patterns that surface after divorce 16:00 Manifestation, clarity, and calling in the wrong container 18:00 Seeing people as they are, not as potential 20:00 Red flags vs yellow flags and why they’re personal 23:00 Why surface-level deal breakers can sabotage connection 26:00 Choosing someone with complexity, not perfection 29:00 The danger of trying to change your partner 31:00 Accepting someone exactly as they are today 34:00 Emotional needs, attraction, and long-term fulfillment 37:00 Why second marriages can feel harder but more honest 40:00 Staying whole inside partnership instead of outsourcing happiness 43:00 Using divorce as a blueprint for a healthier future Links Mentioned in the Show Looking for support on your journey? Join THE CLUB Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT Loved this week’s guest? LEARN MORE Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com  Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok Did you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.

    47 min

  3. JAN 28

    Divorce Your Divorce Lawyer? Red Flags Your Divorce Attorney Isn’t the Right Fit with Heather Quick

    Wondering when to switch divorce lawyers because your attorney isn’t calling you back, isn’t explaining things clearly, or keeps pushing you to “just sign it”?  In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica sits down with Heather Quick (Founder and CEO of Florida Women’s Law Group) to break down the biggest divorce attorney red flags, what good representation actually looks like, and how to trust your gut when you’re already overwhelmed. They talk about how to find a lawyer when you’re not ready to tell anyone you’re divorcing, how to read reviews with discernment, and why the “best lawyer” is the one who matches the phase and complexity of your divorce (collaborative vs contested, calm vs high-conflict).  If you’ve been spiraling in the waiting, second-guessing your legal support, or feeling like you’re asking “too many questions”, this episode will give you a grounded checklist, smarter consult questions, and the confidence to advocate for yourself, without turning your legal bill into an emotional support subscription. You’ll learn: How to choose the right divorce lawyer when you’re not ready to tell friends or familyWhat divorce attorney red flags look like early (before you waste time and money)Why your divorce “phase” matters (collaborative vs contested, calm vs high-conflict)What healthy communication expectations look like (and what’s actually reasonable)Why local court and judge experience changes outcomes more than most people realizeHow to avoid paying legal fees for emotional processing (and where that support belongs)Why “just sign it, you can change it later” can lock you into years of expensive regretHow to advocate for yourself without spiraling, second-guessing, or feeling like “too much” We talk about: 00:00 Divorce your divorce lawyer, what it means and why it matters 02:00 How to find a lawyer when you’re not ready to tell anyone you’re divorcing 04:00 Google, reviews, and what the “bad reviews” can reveal 06:00 Consult wait times, and why urgency hits when you’re finally ready 07:00 Collaborative vs contested divorce, and how mindset shapes outcomes 08:00 What a good lawyer actually does (empathy, truth, strategy, reality checks) 10:00 Unrealistic expectations, and why a good lawyer will tell you “no” 14:00 When you need a different lawyer for a different phase of divorce 15:00 When it’s time to stop waiting and set a hearing 18:00 “You know who you married, you know who you’re divorcing” 20:00 Why local court knowledge matters (judges, patterns, the legal landscape) 23:00 Cheap now, expensive later, why expertise can save you money 26:00 Divorce court isn’t about fairness, it’s about process and law 28:00 Why legal conversations trigger spirals, and how to stay grounded 30:00 The biggest red flag: “Just sign it, you can change it later” 32:00 Your lawyer isn’t your best friend (and why community support matters) 36:00 The waiting game, nervous system stress, and slow timelines 38:00 Trust your gut, advocate for yourself, and switch if it’s not the fit Links Mentioned in the Show Looking for support on your journey? Join THE CLUB Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT Loved this week’s guest? LEARN MORE Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com  Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok Did you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.

    41 min

  4. JAN 21

    Unhitched and Understanding Divorce: Grief, Identity Loss and Your Path Forward with Oona Metz

    Divorce doesn’t come with a single moment of grief.It arrives in waves, quietly, loudly, and often long after the paperwork is signed. In this deeply validating episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by therapist and author Oona Metz, whose new book Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women reframes divorce not as failure, but as a profound emotional restructuring. Together, they unpack why divorce grief is often misunderstood, why women feel “crazy” for still hurting months or years later, and why traditional grief models fall short when applied to divorce. Oona introduces her five-phase model of divorce grief, heartbreak, the emotional rollercoaster, mending, letting go, and moving on. A framework built from decades of clinical work with women navigating divorce. This conversation normalizes the emotional chaos, identity loss, and nervous system overwhelm so many women experience, while offering a grounded roadmap forward. This episode is not about rushing healing. It’s about understanding it, honoring it, and trusting that rebuilding happens one stabilizing step at a time. You’ll learn: Why divorce grief is different from bereavement grief Why healing after divorce is never linear The five phases of divorce grief and what each one actually feels like Why hope keeps women stuck longer than they expect How emotional rollercoasters are a normal part of divorce recovery Why legal processes intensify emotional dysregulation What “mending” really means after emotional depletion How self-love restores nervous system safety Why letting go includes releasing identity, myths, and future fantasies How to rebuild traditions without forcing old ones Why moving on doesn’t mean forgetting, it means re-investing energy How community accelerates healing when friends and family can’t relate We talk about: 00:00 Why divorce grief shows up in unexpected ways 03:00 Why Oona wrote Unhitched after 30 years of clinical work 06:00 Why women feel isolated even though divorce is common 09:00 Why traditional grief models don’t fully apply to divorce 12:00 Phase one, heartbreak and the loss of hope 15:00 Why women hold on longer than they want to 18:00 Phase two, the emotional rollercoaster explained 22:00 Why feeling “crazy” is actually a healthy response 25:00 How the legal process amplifies emotional instability 28:00 Phase three, mending and reclaiming emotional energy 32:00 Why loving yourself changes how you parent and relate 35:00 Divorce as family restructuring, not failure 38:00 Phase four, letting go of identity and future myths 42:00 Rebuilding traditions without self-betrayal 46:00 Phase five, moving on without erasing the past 49:00 Why healing happens faster in community 52:00 Trusting the process when you’re still in the pain Links Mentioned in the Show Looking for support on your journey? Join THE CLUB Ready to Define the New You? Create your BLUEPRINT Loved this week’s guest? LEARN MORE Contact Erica & The Crazy Ex-Wives Club www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com Tag us @ Instagram | Facebook | TikTok Did you love this episode? Make sure to follow for more.

    42 min

  5. JAN 14

    How Divorced Women Rebuild Identity, Money, and Confidence After Divorce | Meagan Norris

    Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage. It dismantles an identity. In this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica is joined by certified life coach and retired attorney Meagan Norris for an honest conversation about what it really takes to rebuild life after divorce, without repeating old emotional, financial, or relational patterns. Together, they explore why so many women remain stuck in survival mode long after the divorce is finalized, how nervous system dysregulation quietly drives decision-making, and why healing after divorce requires more than insight, it requires embodiment, emotional resilience, and self-trust built through experience. Meagan shares her four foundational pillars for post-divorce rebuilding, emotional resilience, financial sovereignty, lifestyle design, and vision-based decision-making. These pillars help women move out of fear-based choices and into intentional living that aligns with who they are becoming, not who they had to be to survive. This episode dismantles the pressure to “fix everything at once” and offers a grounded, sustainable path forward, one focused decision, one stabilizing choice, and one self-trusting action at a time. You’ll learn: Why divorce often requires letting go of an old identity, not just a relationshipHow survival mode shapes post-divorce decisions without you realizing itWhat emotional resilience actually looks like in real lifeHow nervous system regulation supports clarity and self-trustWhy money struggles after divorce are often about identity, not incomeHow comparison fuels scarcity, regardless of how much you earnWhy focusing on one priority accelerates healing and momentumHow lifestyle design helps you embody your future self nowWhat vision-based decision-making really means after divorceWhy self-trust is built through action, not affirmationsHow to stop outsourcing decisions to fear, statistics, or outside voicesWe talk about: 00:00 Why divorce is an identity shift, not just a legal process 02:30 What it means to divorce the old version of yourself 05:00 How past beliefs recreate future emotional patterns 06:30 Emotional resilience and nervous system regulation after divorce 09:00 Financial sovereignty and scarcity thinking 12:00 Comparison, money, and attachment patterns 15:30 Rebuilding trust with yourself through aligned action 18:00 Why trying to change everything at once leads to burnout 21:00 Choosing one priority and stabilizing the rest 24:00 Lifestyle design and reclaiming physical space after divorce 28:30 Vision boards, energy, and embodiment 31:00 Vision-based decision-making versus fear-based choices 36:00 Letting go of statistics, judgments, and “good enough” thinking 41:00 Designing a future that feels expansive, not reactive 45:00 Why your vision evolves as you evolve 48:00 Falling in love with the long-term rebuilding process The Defining the New You Blueprint is a 90-minuteguided mini-retreat for divorced women ready to move beyond survival and step into their next chapter. Through grounding reflection, vision casting, and self-reconnection rituals, you’ll rediscover who you are now, create emotional clarity, and begin consciously designing a life you love. Come home to yourself— one breath, one revelation, one rise at a time. https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/blueprint The Club Looking to claim your post-divorce bad ass? Put yourself in the room with other women redefining what it means to be a divorcé. Join the Club - https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub  Instagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub  Website: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com    Connect with Meagan: Website: https://www.meagannorris.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meagannorriscoaching/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@meaganthedivorcecoach?_t=ZT-8xCoZWQzlOc&_r=1

    52 min

  6. JAN 7

    Stop Dragging Your Divorce Into the New Year (A Guided Post-Divorce Reset)

    If divorce has left you irritable, numb, exhausted, or feeling like you don’t recognize yourself anymore, this episode is for you. In this special episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica shares audio from a live Divorce Detox Hour inside her membership, The Club. This is not a traditional podcast conversation. It’s a guided nervous system reset designed to help divorced women step out of survival mode and return to steadiness, clarity, and self-trust before entering the new year. Through intentional breathwork, grounding practices, visualization, and symbolic release, Erica guides listeners through closing the emotional chapter of 2025 and consciously choosing what does and does not come with them into 2026. You’ll be led through a powerful “theater of your new year” visualization, a release ritual for what you’re done carrying, and a future-self encounter that helps clarify who you are becoming without pressure or forced goal setting. This episode is not about fixing yourself or rushing healing. It’s about creating safety in your body, honoring what you survived, and making space for a version of you that isn’t built around endurance or emotional overfunctioning. If you’re post-divorce and feel stuck in fight-or-flight, unsure who you’re becoming, or afraid of repeating the same emotional patterns in the new year, this episode offers a grounded way to reset and move forward without dragging the past behind you. You’ll learn: Why divorce often keeps women stuck in long-term survival modeHow nervous system regulation supports emotional healing after divorceWhy “new year, new you” pressure can actually slow recoveryHow breathwork creates safety before emotional processingWhat it means to consciously choose what you carry forwardHow to release resentment, shame, and self-blame without rehashing the pastWhy healing requires embodiment, not just insightHow to reconnect with your future self after identity lossWhy choosing qualities matters more than rigid goalsHow community accelerates healing and prevents emotional isolation We talk about: 00:00 Why post-divorce irritability and numbness aren’t personality traits 02:00 What a Divorce Detox Hour is and why it works 04:00 How survival mode shows up after divorce 06:30 Grounding the body to create emotional safety 09:00 Breathwork to calm the nervous system 12:00 Moving out of the head and into the body 14:00 The “Theater of Your New Year” visualization 18:00 Witnessing what you survived in 2025 20:30 The Release Box ritual and letting go of emotional weight 23:30 Choosing who you are becoming in 2026 26:00 Meeting your future self and receiving guidance 28:00 Making promises and boundaries that support healing 30:30 Why community matters during identity rebuilding 33:00 Releasing the past without erasing it 35:00 Closing the session with steadiness and self-trust The Club Looking to claim your post-divorce bad ass? Put yourself in the room with other women redefining what it means to be a divorcé. Join the Club - https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub  Defining the New You: a new six week intensive to help you move the hell on and define who you want to be in your new chapter.  Get on the Early Invite list - https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/blueprint Looking for More Support? Let’s Connect Instagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub  Website: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com

    35 min

  7. 12/31/2025

    Why “New Year, New You” Fails After Divorce (And What Actually Works)

    Divorced women don’t need another “new year, new you” speech.You need a clean break. In this New Year’s Eve episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica guides you through a powerful emotional closing ritual for 2025 and a grounded, realistic way to step into 2026 without dragging old identities, survival patterns, or unfinished grief with you. This episode is not about fixing yourself or forcing goals. It’s about retiring what you’ve outgrown, honoring the lessons of the past year, and consciously choosing what comes next. Erica breaks down why 2025 marks the end of a nine-year cycle, why endings after divorce often feel heavier than expected, and how the “Year of the Snake” has been quietly asking you to shed roles, relationships, and stories that no longer fit. She then introduces the bold, forward-moving energy of 2026 and explains why this is not the year to play small, rush healing, or live by default. Through reflection, journaling prompts, and a flexible mind-mapping framework, you’ll learn how to gather the gold from the hardest moments of 2025, choose a guiding word for the year ahead, and take aligned action without pressure or overwhelm. If you’re entering a new year post-divorce feeling emotionally tired, uncertain about who you’re becoming, or afraid of carrying the past forward, this episode will help you close the chapter with clarity and step into what’s next with confidence. You’ll learn: Why “new year, new you” advice often fails after divorceWhat it actually means to create a clean emotional breakWhy 2025 is an ending year and why that matters for healingHow to stop dragging old identities and survival patterns forwardWhy discomfort and vulnerability are signs of growth, not failureHow to consciously retire roles, relationships, and expectationsWhat the Year of the Snake teaches about shedding and releaseWhy 2026 invites courage, freedom, and forward movementHow to dream again without pressure or rigid goal settingA simple mind-mapping method to call in what you want nextWhy alignment matters more than hustle after divorceHow community accelerates healing and prevents emotional recoil We talk about: 00:00 Why divorced women don’t need “new year, new you” 02:00 Setting intention and closing the container on 2025 03:00 The end of a nine-year cycle and post-divorce identity shifts 05:00 Reflecting on how far you’ve actually come 08:00 Why we judge years too harshly and miss the gold 11:00 A guided reflection through each month of 2025 14:00 Choosing the feeling and frequency you want in 2026 16:30 The Year of the Snake and shedding what no longer fits 20:00 Outgrowing roles, relationships, and old expectations 23:00 From snake energy to bold forward momentum 24:30 Why 2026 is not the year to play small 27:00 How to set intentions without overwhelm or pressure 30:00 Using mind-mapping instead of rigid goal setting 33:00 Calling in alignment without forcing outcomes 36:00 Why community matters during transformation 41:00 What’s coming next and how to stay supported The Club Looking to claim your post-divorce bad ass? Put yourself in the room with other women redefining what it means to be a divorcé. Join the Club - https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/theclub  Looking for More Support? Let’s Connect Instagram: https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub  Website: https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com

    44 min

  8. 12/24/2025

    Why the Holidays Are So Hard After Divorce (And Why You’re Not Failing)

    The holidays after divorce don’t just feel different.They hit deeper, harder, and in ways no one prepares you for. In this solo episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica breaks down the emotional reality of surviving the holidays after divorce, especially when you’re navigating grief, comparison, loneliness, co-parenting transitions, or your first holiday without your kids. This episode goes beyond surface-level advice and gets to the truth about why the holidays amplify emotional pain after divorce, even years later. You’ll learn why healing isn’t linear, why you’re not behind, and why feeling unsettled, emotional, or exhausted during the holidays is not a sign of failure, but a sign of deep transition. Erica explores the unspoken parts of post-divorce life, the quiet moments when the house is empty, the pressure to create “magic,” the comparison to intact families, the financial stress, and the internal voice that says you should be over this by now. If you’re asking yourself why the holidays after divorce feel heavier than expected, why emotions resurface when you thought you were doing fine, or why peace feels just out of reach this season, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening and how to move through it without abandoning yourself. This is a permission slip to stop rushing your healing, stop judging your timeline, and find peace inside the season you’re actually in. You’ll learn: Why the holidays are so emotionally hard after divorceThe hidden reason grief resurfaces during holidays, even years laterWhy healing after divorce is cyclical, not linearHow comparison and money anxiety intensify holiday stressWhat no one warns you about the first holidays without your kidsHow to navigate loneliness without letting it define youWhy you’re not failing, falling behind, or doing this wrongHow to create emotional safety during the holidays after divorceWhy mindset shifts change emotions faster than changing circumstancesHow to find peace when everything feels differentWe talk about: 00:00 Intro 03:42 Navigating Holiday Comparisons 08:18 Embracing Alone Moments 14:38 Balancing Grief and Joy 24:23 Reflecting on Wins and Growth 28:15 Looking Ahead to the New Year 30:25 Final Thoughts and Encouragement The Emotional Ladder Download Want the Emotional Ladder I talked about in this episode? Grab the free PDF guide and learn how to name what you’re feeling, shift your mindset, and take one grounded step up at a time HERE: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/emotionalladder Waitlist: Defining The New You Blueprint (6-Week Experience) Divorce doesn’t just end a relationship. It disrupts identity. Defining The New You is a six-week guided experience designed to help you meet who you’rebecoming after divorce, not who you were trying to survive as. Join us HERE: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/blueprint   Looking for More Support? Let’s Connect Instagram: ⁠https://instagram.com/thecrazyexwivesclub⁠    Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/thecrazyexwivesclub⁠  Website: ⁠https://thecrazyexwivesclub.com⁠

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Welcome to The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, a podcast dedicated to helping women navigate the emotional journey of divorce and all that comes with it. Whether you're struggling with the decision to leave, dealing with the aftermath of a difficult divorce, or trying to figure out how to co-parent with your ex, this podcast has got you covered. The Crazy Ex-Wives Club offers advice, tips, and strategies to help women move through each stage of the process.

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