Before You Cut Bangs

Laura Quick and Claire Fierman
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Hosted by Laura Quick and Claire Fierman, “Before You Cut Bangs” is full of hilarious conversations about real life, common and uncommon crises, and possible cosmetic errors that come along with it. Through storytelling and therapeutic wisdom, Claire and Laura share how to NOT f**k up your hair (and life) while walking through similar situations,Produced by Will Lochamy

  1. MAR 6

    3.11 Are Manners Dead? Claire thinks Southern Etiquette Might Save Us…

    What if “being real” has become an excuse for being rude? In this episode, we explore the line between honesty and etiquette—and why manners are less about politeness and more about keeping relationships intact.  Through stories about raising respectful kids, dressing for the role you want, and meeting a partner’s parents with grace, we unpack the difference between niceness and kindness. We also look at the small gestures that build connection—offering a drink at the door, making one thoughtful effort when hosting, or sending a handwritten thank-you note.

    42 min

  2. FEB 20

    3.10 The News Diet (Blocking Out The Noise)

    Join Laura and Claire as they navigate the weight of the modern 24-hour news cycle without falling into the "doomscroll" trap. By blending mental health boundaries with sharp media literacy, we explore how to verify what’s real, avoid AI-generated outrage, and protect your nervous system from the rise of nightly digital trauma. Stop letting global crisis paralyze your local impact. We make the case for "going analog"—transforming news-induced helplessness into momentum through food banks, neighborly service, and concrete action. It’s time for a saner news diet that allows you to stay informed, set firm limits, and show up steadier for the people who need you most.

    27 min

  3. FEB 6

    3.9 Mid-Life Glow Up: Why the 22 Year Old Version of Us Was Wrong AF

    February honesty hits different. The motivation buzz fades, real life crowds in, and the question sharpens: are we building lives that actually fit? We ditch quick fixes for sturdy rules—starting with Laura’s favorite: never miss twice. Miss a day, reset the next. It’s the cure for all-or-nothing thinking and the backbone of habits that last. Although Claire has inspired with a new aesthetician subscription… Claire is talking about her word of the year- “privacy” and digging into the quiet power of privacy (not secrecy), better boundaries, and fewer explanations. Laura is talking about her filters for Impact and deeming this year as the one where that’s what matters most for her. From kinder no’s and protected relationships to midlife glow-ups that go deeper than skincare (though yes, chemical peels and “don’t cut bangs” still make an appearance), this episode is about moving from performance to alignment. Books, therapy, and responsibility thread it all together. Fiction as soul care. Clarity over buzzwords. Owning harm, apologizing when possible, and living honestly when life won’t wrap things up neatly. If you’re craving sustainable habits, better boundaries, and a midlife reframe that actually works, this one’s for you.

    32 min

  4. JAN 23

    3.8 Claire opens up: her High School BFF was Natalee Holloway & Online Creeps

    A polite “thank you” isn’t consent—but online, it’s often treated that way. This episode unpacks how social media blurs boundaries, why parasocial intimacy feels real, and when curiosity turns into entitlement. Laura shares what happened after going publicly single, including the moment a stranger crossed the line by contacting her hairdresser to ask for a date. Claire adds perspective shaped by years of media exposure as a close friend of Natalee Holloway, exploring harassment, cyberbullying, and the cost of visibility. Together, we lay out clear rules for healthier online boundaries: silence is an answer, block without guilt, and remember—visibility doesn’t equal access.

    28 min

  5. JAN 9

    3.7 Control Freaks and their Timelines

    Are the timelines you live by protecting you, or just keeping you stuck? This episode explores the hidden comfort of "arbitrary clocks"—like the 30-day no-contact rule—and how they often function as temporary pain relief rather than true healing. What We Cover: The "Control vs. Surrender" Test: How to tell when a deadline is useful for work versus when it’s an attempt to control fate.Real-Life Stress Tests: From the anxiety of unread texts and home renovations to the emotional weight of divorce and "fast-forwarding" grief.Practical Tools: Fact-vs-story reframing to help your brain unhook from anxious planning.The Reality of Growth: Why progress is "uneven by design" and how to find freedom from the clock in your head.Join Claire and Laura for an honest, funny, and practical look at releasing the "shoulds" and reclaiming your self-worth. What timeline are you ready to release? If this episode resonates, please subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review.

    35 min

  6. 12/26/2025

    3.6 Adult Fears and Phobias Unpacked

    From the absurd (snakes through sunroofs) to the profound (the fear of being unlovable), we’re diving into the vivid world of adult anxiety. This episode categorizes our fears into three distinct lanes: practical risks that need a plan, anxiety loops that need a nervous-system reset, and tender wounds that require compassion and community. We explore why "white-knuckling" through phobias doesn't work and how tools like EMDR and exposure therapy can rewire your brain. Whether you need a checklist, a deep breath, or a witness to your story, this framework helps you balance grit with gentleness. Tune in to learn how to turn your "what-ifs" into actionable, brave steps.

    40 min

  7. 12/12/2025

    3.5 Receiving 101: A Holiday Survival Guide for Overfunctioners.

    This episode on Before You Cut Bangs, we’re talking about something that should be simple… but somehow feels like advanced emotional calculus: Receiving gifts, compliments, help, and kindness. Maybe a casserole you didn’t ask for. Perhaps a gorgeous candle from a friend when you... you guessed it... got them nothing. Why is it SO HARD to say thank you without immediately blurting out, “Oh, this old thing? I’ve had it for 12 years,” or “Girl, it was $5 at Target,” or the classic Southern special:  “You didn’t have to do that!” (Spoiler: They wanted to.) Claire walks us through her brilliant “garland” practice—yes, garland, like the Christmas kind—and why we need to throw away the emotional tinsel that keeps us from letting good things in. Laura gets vulnerable about walking through a season of capacity and emotional poverty and how hard it was to learn how to receive from her friends.  We cover: Why women self-deprecate the minute anyone says something nice Why receiving feels like guilt, debt, or competition Why you panic when someone brings you a gift and you have nothing for them How receiving is actually a spiritual practice Why receiving is the gateway to giving (and to healing) How to stop making it weird and just say… THANK YOU. Listen now and share with the friend who says “I don’t need anything…” while absolutely needing everything.

    29 min

  8. 11/28/2025

    3.4 Is ChatGPT Your Therapist, Best Friend, and Situationship — JK (But Also…?)

    This week on Before You Cut Bangs, we’re talking about what happens when ChatGPT stops being a helpful tool… and starts becoming your entire emotional ecosystem. We kick it off by letting our own ChatGPTs ROAST THE LIVING DAYLIGHTS out of us — Laura, Claire, and Will each asked their ChatGPT, “What am I using you for in an unhealthy way?” and the answers were… brutal. (Because nothing says self-awareness like being dragged by a robot.) From there, we get into the real conversation:     •    how ChatGPT’s positive bias makes you feel deeply seen — but also deeply isolated     •    why it’s becoming people’s best friend, therapist, hype woman, and soulmate     •    the slippery slope from “this is helpful” → “this is my emotional lifeline”     •    how relying on AI for emotional support keeps you from building real community     •    why vulnerability with a chatbot feels safer than vulnerability with your people     •    the intimacy problem: ChatGPT can mirror you, but it can’t connect with you     •    and why some of us are telling AI secrets we’ve never told a human We’re not anti-AI — we’re pro-connection. And we think it’s time to ask: If your AI knows more about your life than your friends do… is that helping you, or isolating you? Plus: hear the unhinged ways we personally use ChatGPT, and why our AI called us out for treating it like a therapist, house manager, co-parent, creative partner, Google replacement, and occasionally a spiritual advisor.

    30 min
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Hosted by Laura Quick and Claire Fierman, “Before You Cut Bangs” is full of hilarious conversations about real life, common and uncommon crises, and possible cosmetic errors that come along with it. Through storytelling and therapeutic wisdom, Claire and Laura share how to NOT f**k up your hair (and life) while walking through similar situations,Produced by Will Lochamy

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  • Creator
    Laura Quick and Claire Fierman
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    60
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Before You Cut Bangs
  • Show Website
    Before You Cut Bangs

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