Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

Karen Bigman
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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. We'll discuss dating and sex post-divorce, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs of rediscovering intimacy. Karen dives deep into the impact of hormonal changes on sexuality, examining how these shifts influence desire, pleasure, and overall sexual health across different ages. The podcast encompasses a wide array of topics, including polyamory, kink, BDSM, and sexual dysfunction, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of modern sexual dynamics. Taboo to Truth is a platform for open, honest conversations about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Join me to embrace your sexuality, empower your journey, and break free from societal taboos. Follow me: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/ *The information on this podcast does not constitute medical advice and is for informational purposes only.

  1. 15h ago

    Do Men Need Emotional Connection to Want Sex? The Real Answer | Ep. 209

    Do men need emotional connection to feel desire? The story we all learned says men just need a body and an opportunity, and women are the ones who need to feel close first. For a lot of men, that story is backwards. They just never say it out loud. I break down why men are taught from adolescence that wanting closeness is needy, and how that unspoken need shows up instead as irritability, withdrawal, or a sudden drop in desire. I explain the difference between vasopressin and oxytocin, why men often bond through shared effort and shared goals instead of long conversations, and how attachment style can make a guarded man disengage from intimacy as a form of protection, even decades into a relationship. Then I walk through the five places connection gets built or lost in long-term and midlife relationships: open communication, active listening, quality time, empathy, and physical touch outside the bedroom. You’ll hear what each one looks like in real life, why empty nest couples often lose quality time to logistics, and the easiest one you can restart tonight. This episode is sponsored by ARYA, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT-certified sexologists. Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code TRUTH15 for 15% off. Check out my S*x Snacks: https://www.taboototruth.com/post/sex-snacks In This Episode: 0:00 – Do Men Need Emotional Connection to Want S*x? 0:07 – The Man Who Proved Me Wrong 0:30 – Why the “Men Just Need a Body” Story Is Backwards 1:20 – Attachment Style and Why He Pulls Away 2:19 – 5 Places Connection Is Built: #1 Open Communication 3:26 – #2 Active Listening 3:56 – Sponsor: ARIA 4:32 – #3 Quality Time: Vasopressin vs. Oxytocin 5:22 – #4 Empathy Without Fixing 6:12 – #5 Touch Outside the Bedroom 6:43 – Final Thoughts: Look for the Disconnection First To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com MORE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES! 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  2. 3d ago

    What Makes a Man Great in Bed? A Researcher Asked 1,067 Women | Ep. 208

    In this episode, I sit down with researcher and men’s relationship coach Melanie Curtin. She asked more than 1,000 women a question most men think they already know the answer to: what actually makes a man great in bed? Her findings blew up a lot of assumptions, mine included. We start with the number that stopped me. 61% of women say they’ve broken up with someone over the sex, and most never said a word to him about it. Melanie explains the pattern she saw again and again. A woman speaks up once or twice, watches nothing change, and decides to grin and bear it so she doesn’t feel like a nag. I share my own version of that story from my dating life right now, plus what menopause and dryness add to the mix. We get into why pain is one of women’s top complaints in bed and never shows up on men’s list, and why so many men touch a woman the way they’d want to be touched. Melanie’s rule is simple: if she asks for anything, multiply it by ten. We also talk about the arousal gap, the shame spiral that follows performance anxiety, and why the women in her research almost never mentioned erections, endurance, or a great body. The best lovers did something much simpler. They paid attention, in and out of the bedroom. Part two is coming next week, so stay close. 💓 This episode is brought to you by OBOO, makers of vibrators, lubricants, and vulva care for women in perimenopause and beyond. Use code TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://oboo.love In This Episode: 0:00 – Sponsor: OBOO 0:34 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 1:08 – Meet Melanie Curtin 2:21 – How the Research Worked (and Why It’s Subjective) 4:59 – Have You Ever Broken Up Over Bad Sex? 6:30 – Why Women Speak Up Once, Then Give Up 8:51 – Men’s vs. Women’s Top Sex Problems 11:12 – Why Her Body Is More Sensitive Than He Thinks 13:05 – Slow and Light: The 21-Minute Arousal Gap 14:30 – Menopause, Dryness & Why Slowing Down Matters 16:12 – Performance Anxiety: Why Some Men Stop Dating 18:33 – Why He Touches Her the Way He Wants to Be Touched 19:30 – The Couples Who Grin and Bear It 20:26 – Turn Her Feedback Up 10x 21:51 – Ask the Right Question, Then Actually Listen 22:25 – Masculinity, Menopause & His Silent Changes 23:16 – What 97% of Women Never Mentioned 24:12 – The Best Lover She Ever Had (No Intercourse) 25:37 – Losing an Erection Without Losing Her 27:30 – What 37% of Women Remembered Most 28:55 – Feeling Seen Is Foreplay 29:46 – Part Two Coming Next... About The Guest: About The Guest: Melanie Curtin is a sex and relationship coach and Stanford-educated sex researcher whose research is published in the Harvard Dataverse. She helps growth-minded men have thriving sex and love lives, whether they’re single or partnered. She surveyed 1,067 women about what makes a man great in bed, what makes him forgettable, and what they wish they’d told a past partner. She’s also the host of the Dear Men podcast. Connect with Melanie Curtin: Website: https://www.melaniecurtin.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniebcurtin LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melaniecurtin Podcast - Dear Men https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-men-how-to-rock-sex-datingand-relationships-with-women/id1347811999 About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

  3. Oct 9

    Could Your Penis Be Telling You Something? ED, Diabetes & Heart Health After 50 | Ep. 206

    In this episode, I’m talking about what diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart health have to do with your sex life, and why a change in your erections deserves a doctor’s visit, not a private panic. Most men who notice a change ask themselves the wrong questions first. Am I still a man? Am I still desired? Is this the beginning of the end? That identity filter is exactly what keeps them out of the doctor’s office. Erectile difficulties are not a verdict on who you are. They’re a health signal. I walk through how high blood pressure and diabetes affect blood flow and nerves, why some blood pressure medications can be the real culprit, and why the arteries in the penis often show damage years before the heart does. I also get honest about where the shame comes from. Men were taught that masculinity lives in their erections, so any change feels like an indictment. It isn’t. It’s information. My ask: find a doctor you see regularly, so when the harder conversations come up, you already have someone you trust. And if this lands for you, send it to a man in your life who needs the nudge. ‼️ Your erections can flag a blood flow problem years before your heart does. That’s why I partnered with FirmTech, a smart ring that tracks your erectile health so you get real data instead of guesswork. Get 15% using my link and code TABOO15 at myfirmtech.com/karenbigman Sign up for my free newsletter, where the real, unfiltered stuff lives: https://www.taboototruth.com In This Episode: 0:00 – Your Erection Could Be a Warning Sign 0:18 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:44 – The Identity Filter That Keeps Men From Getting Checked 1:06 – ED by the Numbers: Diabetes & High Blood Pressure 1:29 – How Blood Pressure and Diabetes Affect Erections 1:47 – When Your Blood Pressure Meds Are the Problem 2:10 – Your Body’s Barometer: The Heart Connection 2:47 – Newsletter Break 3:06 – Embarrassment, Quick Fixes & Where the Shame Comes From 3:36 – The Biggest Obstacle: Not Seeking Help 3:58 – Find a Doctor Before You Need One 4:34 – Final thoughts To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com MORE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES! 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  4. Oct 6

    Sex after prostate cancer: what men need to know before surgery with Dr. Amy Pearlman | Ep. 205 (Part 2)

    In this episode, I'm back with urologist Dr. Amy Pearlman for part two of our conversation. We start with a question I hear all the time: does ejaculating often protect your prostate? She walks me through the research, why masturbation counts, and the plant-forward way of eating that protects your prostate along with every other organ. Then we get into prostate cancer. Dr. Pearlman explains why most men die with it rather than from it, when active surveillance makes sense, and why you should get more than one opinion before choosing a treatment. Most importantly, she explains how men can protect their sex lives: starting penile rehab before surgery, seeing a pelvic floor physical therapist, practicing with a vacuum pump, and using Trimix injections when Viagra and Cialis aren't enough. She even believes many men can have the best sex of their lives after treatment. We finish with penis size. Dr. Pearlman shares why she asks every patient about size concerns, what traction therapy can realistically do for length, why she uses dissolvable hyaluronic acid for girth enhancement, and why you should always ask what the worst-case scenario is before any procedure. Her final advice: go to every appointment prepared, with a list of questions and a goal. Most men have no idea what's actually happening with their erections until something goes wrong. That's why I partnered with FirmTech, a smart ring that tracks your erectile health so you get real data instead of guesswork. Get 15% off at myfirmtech.com/karenbigman ‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. In This Episode: 00:00 – Intro 00:45 – Does ejaculating more protect your prostate? 02:05 – The diet that protects your prostate (and every other organ) 03:18 – Prostate cancer and your sex life 04:26 – Active surveillance: when you don't need treatment yet 05:00 – Why prostate cancer usually has no symptoms 06:14 – Your treatment options, and why to get more than one opinion 07:44 – Why penile rehab starts before surgery 08:24 – Pelvic floor PT before prostate surgery 09:26 – Learning the vacuum pump before you need it 10:00 – Trimix: penile injections explained 11:08 – How men learn to do their first injection 12:05 – Why injections work when Viagra doesn't 13:46 – Better sex after prostate cancer? 15:23 – Why men are obsessed with penis size 17:16 – Girth enhancement with hyaluronic acid 20:00 – Can you actually gain length? 21:30 – The worst-case question before any procedure 22:38 – What is Phallofill? 25:11 – Use ChatGPT to prep for your doctor's visit 26:47 – Where to find Dr. Amy Pearlman 27:38 – Outro To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About The Guest: Dr. Amy Pearlman is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained specialist in sexual medicine, male hormonal health, and genitourinary reconstruction. She is the co-founder of Prime Institute in Miami, where she takes a modern, evidence-based approach to optimizing sexual health, hormones, and longevity. A nationally recognized educator and speaker, Dr. Pearlman is passionate about making conversations around sexual health more practical, approachable, and engaging. Her work bridges traditional medicine with emerging therapies and technologies, helping patients better understand their bodies and the growing number of options available to improve sexual function, confidence, and quality of life. Connect with Dr. Amy Pearlman: Website: https://www.primeinstitute.us Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amypearlmanmd YouTube: @DocAmyUrology Podcast: Fertility and Other F Words About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com MORE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES! 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  5. Oct 2

    Erectile Dysfunction After 50? Let’s Talk Penis Rings, Pumps & What Actually Works | Ep. 206

    In this episode, I'm opening up the toolbox most men refuse to touch: penis rings, vacuum pumps, and prostate massagers. Men avoid these products for the same reason they avoid the doctor. They think needing help means something is wrong with them. It doesn't. Your body at 50 isn't your body at 25, and a tool that works with it is a way to enjoy the body you're in right now, not an admission of failure. I break down what a ring can and can't do (it holds what's already there, it doesn't create it), why your overnight data can be an early warning sign for your vascular health, and the 30-minute rule I repeat every single time. I explain why pumps started in urologists' offices, why going slow matters more than going fast, and why this part of your body really does follow a use-it-or-lose-it rule. Then I get into the prostate, the gland most men ignore, the myth that keeps them from exploring it, and how it can support pelvic health. If there's a man in your life who's been quietly struggling, or just curious, send him this one. ‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. In This Episode: 0:00 – Rings, Pumps & Prostate Massagers 0:09 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:35 – Why Men Avoid These Tools 1:14 – How a Ring Actually Works 1:43 – When to Talk to Your Doctor 2:13 – Beginner Silicone Rings 2:28 – FirmTech: Hook Ring, Tech Ring & Add-On 3:17 – MyHixel & Lasting Longer 3:43 – Ring Options for Couples 3:58 – Ring Safety: The 30-Minute Rule 4:16 – The Ohnut: Comfort for Couples 4:51 – How Vacuum Pumps Work 5:09 – Dr. Joel Kaplan's Clinical Pump 6:02 – Go Slow: Pump Safety 6:23 – Use It or Lose It 6:44 – Bathmate Water Pumps 7:17 – Why Pumps and Rings Work Together 7:28 – Why the Prostate Matters 8:04 – The Myth That Holds Men Back 8:25 – Prostate Massage for Pelvic Health 8:44 – MysteryVibe Molto 9:04 – Aneros: Hands-Free Massagers 9:58 – Patience & Safety Basics 10:19 – Final Thoughts 10:37 – Outro To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! Shop the products I mention: FirmTech Penis Rings (15% off) with my link: https://myfirmtech.com/karenbigman Couples: Kiiroo's Lux Him/Lux Her or FirmTech's vibrating attachment. Mystery Vibe Molto Prostate Massager (10% off) with Code: TABOO10 Silicone beginner rings (Amazon) MyHixel Pressure-point ring MyHixel Endurance Trainer Ohnut Buffer Rings Dr. Joel Kaplan Vacuum Devices (10% Off) with code TABOO10 Bathmate Penis Pumps (15% off) with code TABOO15 Jim Benson's The Multi-Orgasmic Lover ($50 off using my link) About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

  6. Sep 29

    What Really Happens At The Urologist (and why men avoid it) with Dr. Amy Pearlman | Ep. 205 (Part 1)

    In this episode, I sit down with urologist Dr. Amy Pearlman to talk about what men actually need from their doctors and so rarely get. We start with the urology visit most men dread: why she spends an hour or more just talking before she ever asks for an exam, what a prostate exam actually checks, and why your colonoscopy isn't telling you anything about your prostate. She explains why erectile dysfunction is so much more than a quick questionnaire and a Cialis prescription, and why she sees it as a door into a man's overall health. Then we get into testosterone. Dr. Pearlman explains why she's seeing low T in healthy-looking men in their 20s and 30s, why it's about health and not age, and what testosterone really does for mood, muscle, energy, and brain fog. She shares the question she asks every man before prescribing it, no matter how old he is, why so many men are turning to the black market, and why there's no age at which a man stops being a candidate. Most men have no idea what's actually happening with their erections until something goes wrong. That's why I partnered with FirmTech, a smart ring that tracks your erectile health so you get real data instead of guesswork. Get 15% off at myfirmtech.com/karenbigman ‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. In This Episode: 00:00 – Intro 00:40 – Meet Dr. Amy Pearlman 02:17 – What's a woman's role in men's health? 06:52 – Why men dread the urologist 08:29 – The opt-in exam: what a visit should really feel like 09:55 – The prostate exam, explained (and the colonoscopy myth) 11:38 – Why ED is more than a questionnaire 12:29 – FirmTech 12:58 – When should men start seeing a doctor? 15:27 – The warning signs men shouldn't ignore 16:47 – Why men need a "well man" visit 17:21 – Viagra with no exam: when ED is a warning sign 18:58 – Why testosterone is dropping, even in young men 21:16 – What testosterone actually does 22:41 – The fertility question before any testosterone 24:30 – Black market testosterone and why men go there 25:50 – Is low T the new Viagra? 27:45 – Testosterone after 55: is there an age cutoff? 28:36 – Outro To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About The Guest: Dr. Amy Pearlman is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained specialist in sexual medicine, male hormonal health, and genitourinary reconstruction. She is the co-founder of Prime Institute in Miami, where she takes a modern, evidence-based approach to optimizing sexual health, hormones, and longevity. A nationally recognized educator and speaker, Dr. Pearlman is passionate about making conversations around sexual health more practical, approachable, and engaging. Her work bridges traditional medicine with emerging therapies and technologies, helping patients better understand their bodies and the growing number of options available to improve sexual function, confidence, and quality of life. Connect with Dr. Amy Pearlman: Website: https://www.primeinstitute.us Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amypearlmanmd About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com MORE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES! 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  7. Sep 25

    Testosterone for Men vs. Women: The Truth About Libido, Energy & Orgasm | Ep. 204

    In this episode, I'm talking about testosterone in midlife, menopause, low sex drive, and why so many women on hormone therapy are still missing the one hormone nobody thought to check. I learned this the hard way: after my divorce, I was dating again and having more sex than I had in years, and my pleasure started to disappear, even though I was already taking estrogen and progesterone. It took finding a sexual medicine practice before anyone mentioned testosterone. I use that experience to take apart some of the biggest myths about testosterone. It isn't only a male hormone (when we're younger, women actually make more of it than men). A "normal" result doesn't mean much if your provider doesn't know how to read it. More isn't better. And a men's product at a much smaller dose isn't dangerous when the right clinician prescribes it. I also explain why low T in men builds so slowly that many don't notice it until their 50s and 60s, what men who want children should know before starting treatment, and why testosterone can help a relationship but will never fix one on its own. If you've been told your libido loss is "just menopause" or "just age," this episode gives you the language to go back to your provider and ask better questions. And a friendly reminder: don't take your partner's testosterone. The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 In This Episode: 0:00 – Low T Isn't Just a Men's Problem 0:14 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:46 – Testosterone: More Than the "Male" Hormone 1:24 – How Men and Women Make Testosterone 1:56 – How Testosterone Changes as We Age 2:34 – Signs of Low Testosterone in Men 3:30 – Signs of Low Testosterone in Women 3:58 – My Story: Why My Orgasms Stopped 4:23 – It's Not Always Testosterone 4:56 – Total T, Free T & SHBG Explained 6:08 – Why Testing Units and Timing Matter 7:09 – Arya.fyi 7:35 – There's No Magic Number for Women's Desire 8:12 – How Men Are Diagnosed and Treated 9:11 – What Testosterone Can Do for Women 10:02 – Side Effects for Men 10:40 – Side Effects and Dosing for Women 11:24 – Creams, Pellets, Injections & Compounding 12:22 – Off-Label Testosterone for Women 13:41 – Don't Diagnose Yourself: Final Thoughts 14:12 – Final thoughts ‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook. MORE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES! 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  8. Sep 22

    Inside a Sex Club and a Kink Club for the First Time: What I Learned | Ep. 203

    In this episode, I'm sharing something completely different: a firsthand account of a weekend I had in Montreal. I was there for an Advanced SAR — a Sexual Attitude Reassessment, the kind of training clinicians and sex educators take to get comfortable with behaviors and experiences outside their own — and it happened to land the same weekend as the Montreal Fetish Festival. So I went. I walk through everything, starting with the cabaret show on night one that included flogging and, in a moment that genuinely jarred me. I talk about sitting down with a woman deeply involved in the BDSM community, who explained electric play and needle play to me — including how she experiences needle play as creating art on someone's body, and why the buildup to pain can trigger something called subspace, a genuine chemical shift in the brain. I also get honest about my own reaction as someone who calls herself vanilla: I turn away when someone draws blood, so understanding how pain becomes pleasure for someone else took real effort. I take you inside both a sex club and a kink club for the first time in my life — the gear, the setup, the consent culture, the "vacuum bagging," the group room that turned out to be nothing like what I expected, the St. Andrew's Cross, and the costume culture that included everything from latex and leather to pup play and collaring. Through all of it, my point stays the same: understanding why something is pleasurable for someone else doesn't mean you have to practice it yourself. It just means approaching it with curiosity instead of judgment. In This Episode: 0:00 – The Staple Gun Moment 0:29 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:56 – My Unexpected Path to Becoming a Sex Educator 2:09 – What Is a SAR? Inside the Advanced Class 3:22 – The Vanilla Sex Educator: My Background Before This Weekend 4:32 – Kink Isn't Always About Sex 5:20 – Night One: Cabaret, Flogging & the Staple Gun 6:17 – Curiosity Over Judgment: Talking to the Kink Community 8:31 – Sex Club vs. Kink Club: What's the Difference 10:23 – Inside the Sex Club: Gear, Consent & a Peep Show Surprise 12:14 – Inside the Kink Club: Electric Shocks, Rope & the St. Andrew's Cross 14:22 – The Costume Party: Latex, Pup Play & Collars 15:51 – What I Learned: Curiosity Is Power To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! ‼️ Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men HERE. About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach. She tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. On this show, we explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing this transformative phase. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES! 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. We'll discuss dating and sex post-divorce, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs of rediscovering intimacy. Karen dives deep into the impact of hormonal changes on sexuality, examining how these shifts influence desire, pleasure, and overall sexual health across different ages. The podcast encompasses a wide array of topics, including polyamory, kink, BDSM, and sexual dysfunction, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of modern sexual dynamics. Taboo to Truth is a platform for open, honest conversations about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Join me to embrace your sexuality, empower your journey, and break free from societal taboos. Follow me: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/ *The information on this podcast does not constitute medical advice and is for informational purposes only.

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