Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

Karen Bigman
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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. We'll discuss dating and sex post-divorce, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs of rediscovering intimacy. Karen dives deep into the impact of hormonal changes on sexuality, examining how these shifts influence desire, pleasure, and overall sexual health across different ages. The podcast encompasses a wide array of topics, including polyamory, kink, BDSM, and sexual dysfunction, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of modern sexual dynamics. Taboo to Truth is a platform for open, honest conversations about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Join me to embrace your sexuality, empower your journey, and break free from societal taboos. Follow me: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/ *The information on this podcast does not constitute medical advice and is for informational purposes only.

  1. 4h ago

    When She Wants It More: The Desire Gap Nobody Talks About | Ep. 196

    Everyone pictures the same scene when they think about mismatched desire: he's reaching, she's pulling away. I want you to picture the opposite couple today, the ones where she's the one lying in bed hoping and he's the one already half asleep. That reversal comes with a specific kind of shame nobody names out loud. She starts wondering if she's too much. He starts wondering if something is wrong with his masculinity. Neither one chose that script, and neither one did anything wrong by living inside it. I'm walking through why the old idea that men are simply wired to want more sex doesn't hold up under real research, what's actually driving a lower desire partner's pullback in midlife (stress, exhaustion, hormones, and a wiring difference most couples never learn), and the real reason this dynamic quietly wrecks relationships. Spoiler: it's never the gap itself. It's the silence around it. If you've been in this exact bed, at this exact hour, wondering what's wrong with you or with your partner, this episode gives you the plain, unfiltered picture, and a real way to talk about it. In This Episode: 0:00 – The Assumption We Never Question 0:09 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:29 – Picture This: Who's Really Reaching in Bed? 1:20 – Mismatched Desire Is Normal, Not a Red Flag 1:51 – The Untold Twist: When She Wants It More 2:13 – Debunking the "Men Just Want More" Myth 4:12 – The Shame Loop: Her Side and His Side 6:03 – What's Really Driving the Gap 6:34 – Silence Is the Real Relationship Killer 7:05 – The Reframe: What Do You Actually Need? 7:45 – Closing Thoughts, CTA & Sign-Off To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook. LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  2. 3d ago

    "My First Threesome Went Viral": Ali Imperiale Tells All | Ep. 195 (Part 1)

    Open relationships get a bad reputation. People hear "ethical non-monogamy" and assume it's a free pass to cheat, or a fantasy dressed up with a fancier name. I sat down with Ali Imperiale, who documents her open relationship and sex-positive travels for her audience, and she walked me through what actually happens when two people agree to rewrite the rules together. We get into the real version of ethical non-monogamy: the renegotiating, the boundary that got crossed, the sex therapist she called in, and the moment she developed feelings for someone outside her primary relationship and had to figure out what that meant. Ali is candid about the difference between a fantasy threesome and an actual one, including her first experience and the surprise threesome she planned for her partner's birthday.. This conversation strips the shame off every part of it: the labels, the logistics, the awkward moments. If you have ever been curious about non-monogamy, polyamory, or what a threesome actually looks like, this episode gives you the plain, unfiltered picture. Part two is coming, so stay close. NOTE: Due to technical difficulties during recording, the audio and video quality in this episode may vary from our usual standard. We appreciate your understanding and hope you enjoy the conversation nonetheless. In This Episode: 0:00 – Open Relationships Aren't a Free Pass to Cheat 0:30 – Meet Ali Imperiale: Sex-Positive Storyteller 1:11 – Talking About Sex Without Being Explicit 5:04 – From Monogamous to Ethically Non-Monogamous: Ali's Story 7:22 – Meeting Gab and Opening Up Together 10:15 – Values Over Rules: Renegotiating as a Couple 13:19 – Lessons Learned: Communication and Sex Therapy 17:36 – When Feelings Get Complicated 19:44 – Polyamory, Labels, and Loving More Than One Person 22:44 – The Nitty Gritty: Her First Threesome, a Viral Hawaii Story 28:58 – Gab's First Threesome: A COVID Birthday Surprise 30:35 – Setting Boundaries and Performance Anxiety 34:11 – Why Aftercare Matters 36:43 – Wrap-Up: Part Two Is Coming To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About The Guest: Ali is a content creator, sex education student, and host of a YouTube channel exploring sex, relationships, pleasure, intimacy, and alternative lifestyles. Through candid conversations, travel experiences, and educational content, she helps normalize discussions around sexuality while encouraging curiosity, critical thinking, and self-discovery. Her work focuses on reducing shame, challenging assumptions, and creating space for nuanced conversations about pleasure, relationships, and the many ways people choose to live and love. Connect with Ali Imperiale: Website: https://aliimperiale.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aliimperiale YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@aliimperiale About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  3. Aug 14

    Is Male Menopause Real? The Truth About Testosterone After 40

    If you're exhausted, your gut is expanding, your motivation is gone, and your sex drive has quietly disappeared, someone has probably told you it's male menopause. In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I explain why the term Male Menopause isn't medically accurate, how men's hormonal aging differs from women's, what low testosterone actually feels like versus what just looks like it, and when a symptom deserves a doctor instead of a supplement. I get into the research on testosterone replacement therapy, the difference between libido and erectile function, the tools I recommend for supporting sexual function, and what happens in a relationship when desire changes and nobody talks about it. Your sexuality isn't controlled by one number on a blood test, and getting older doesn't mean the end of desire, pleasure, or satisfying sex. In This Episode: 00:00 Intro 00:13 Welcome to Taboo to Truth 00:35 What We're Covering Today 01:41 Does Male Menopause Actually Exist? 03:22 Male vs. Female Hormonal Aging 04:30 What Low Testosterone Actually Feels Like 05:42 Other Causes That Mimic "Male Menopause" 06:46 Testosterone, Desire & the 2017 Trials 08:24 Libido vs. Erections: Two Different Systems 09:51 Tools That Support Sexual Function 11:27 How This Affects Your Relationship 12:37 When to See a Doctor 13:44 How Low T Is Actually Diagnosed 15:06 TRT: Benefits & Risks 16:49 What Else You Can Do 18:17 So... Does Male Menopause Exist? 19:05 Final Thoughts & Where to Learn More To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! Products mentioned: FirmTech Tech Ring – tracks nocturnal/spontaneous erections overnight to give you data on erectile function (not a diagnostic tool, but useful info to bring to a doctor). https://myfirmtech.com/ Dr. Joel Kaplan's Pump – a vacuum erection device (penis pump), affiliate link mentioned. https://drjoelkaplan.com/affiliate/affiliates/ Bathmate's Pump – a water-based penis pump, affiliate link mentioned. Use code TABOO15 for 15% off at https://bathmatedirect.com/ MysteryVibe Tenuto 2 – a wearable vibrator that provides stimulation for both partners during sex, especially helpful when erections need more direct stimulation. Use code TABOO10 for 10% off at https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF Uberlube – a lubricant recommended for comfort during sex. https://uberlube.com/ 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook. Research/ Sources * [American Urological Association: Testosterone Deficiency Guideline](https://www.auanet.org/guidelines-and-quality/guidelines/testosterone-deficiency-guideline) * [Endocrine Society: Testosterone Therapy for Hypogonadism](https://www.endocrine.org/clinical-practice-guidelines/testosterone-therapy) * [Mayo Clinic: Male Menopause—Myth or Reality?](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/mens-health/in-depth/male-menopause/art-20048056) * [National Institute on Aging: Testosterone Trials—Mixed Results](https://www.nia.nih.gov/news/nih-supported-trials-testosterone-therapy-older-men-report-mixed-results) * [FDA: 2025 Testosterone Labeling Changes](https://www.fda.gov/drugs/drug-alerts-and-statements/fda-issues-class-wide-labeling-changes-testosterone-products) * [New England Journal of Medicine: Cardiovascular Safety of Testosterone Therapy](https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa2215025) * [National Institute on Aging: Sexualipjurnd Intimacy in Older Adults](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/sexuality/sexuality-and-intimacy-older-adults)

  4. Aug 11

    Inside a 5-Year Open Relationship: What Nobody Tells You About Polyamory | Ep. 192 (Part 2)

    In part two of my conversation with Susan Bratton and Karl Eberhardt, we go even deeper into what actually holds a non-monogamous relationship together. We talk about why communication can make or break an open relationship, what Karl learned about himself after six years of practicing polyamory, and the concept they call "Team Sweetie" — showing up for each other through illness, grief, and everything in between. Susan shares her free "Alchemy of Intimacy" guide for couples considering this kind of relationship, and we get into the practical side of staying safe: their fluid-bonded screening process, the STI most people have never heard of, and why standard insurance testing doesn't catch everything. We close with what it really means to love your partners through their mistakes. In This Episode: 0:00 – Welcome Back: Picking Up Where We Left Off 0:24 – Intro: Redefining Life & Sex After 50 0:46 – Why Good Communication Makes (or Breaks) an Open Relationship 3:35 – Six Years In: What Polyamory Taught Karl About Himself 4:59 – "Team Sweetie": Showing Up for Each Other Through Crisis 7:15 – Susan's Advice: The Alchemy of Intimacy & 10 Rules for Success 8:45 – Karl's Advice: Build the Framework Before You Open Up 10:23 – The Screening Document: Where New Partners Start 11:07 – Inside the STI Testing Protocol: Mycoplasma, Incubation Periods & Protex Health 14:00 – Nobody's Perfect: Loving Your Partners Through Mistakes 15:08 – The Testing Gap: Why Insurance Won't Screen for Herpes 17:09 – Final Takeaways To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! Testing before getting physical is non-negotiable for me — ProDx Health makes it easy. First PASS-certified at-home STI kit, herpes testing included. 15% off: http://prodxhealth.com/discount/taboo 📩 Want more real talk on sex, dating, and relationships after 50 delivered straight to your inbox? Join my newsletter: https://www.taboototruth.com/subscribe About the Guests: Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including S*xual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She’s the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company. She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing. Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including Diary of a CEO, You Are Not Broken, S*x with Emily, The Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey, Good Moms Bad Choices, Heal Thyself, IDIOT with Laura Clery, The Infamous “C**t Camp” Music Video, LuvBites with Dr. Tara, and The Chalene Show. Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their s*xual joy. Her message resonates across gender and age because it’s rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection. Connect with Susan Bratton: Website: https://susanbratton.com https://tenintimacy.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Karl Eberhardt is a nationally recognized New Car Owner Trainer on correct care of modern car paint finishes. Karl has a life long passion for design and is the brewer of beer//Cicerone CBS, and custom jewelry. He has built surfboards for 25+ years. Connect with Karl Ebhardt: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karleberhardt_ About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  5. Aug 7

    The Exact Words to Use When You Want More Sex | Ep. 193

    I'm tackling one of the most avoided conversations in long-term relationships: how to actually bring up sex with your partner. In this episode, I break down why this conversation feels so impossible — the shame, the missing communication skills, the fear of rejection — and I hand you exact scripts to use instead of the accusatory lines that shut your partner down before you even start. I walk through how to open "the conversation about the conversation," deeper questions to ask once you're talking, and what to do if you get shut down. Couples with better sex lives have better, longer-lasting relationships, and this episode gives you the words to get there. The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 In This Episode: 0:00 – The Words to Use 0:14 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:40 – The Slow Fade: When You Stop Noticing Each Other 1:15 – Reframing It: This Isn't Really About Sex 1:45 – Why the Conversation Is So Hard 2:20 – The Lines That Put Your Partner on the Defensive 2:55 – Language Shifts: What to Say Instead 3:45 – The 3 Rules: Curiosity, "I" Statements, Tone 4:15 – Subscribe + Grab the Pleasure Playbook 4:35 – Starting "The Conversation About the Conversation" 5:30 – Going Deeper: Questions to Reconnect 6:05 – If You Get Shut Down (And When to Get Help) 6:25 – Final Thought: Better Sex, Better Relationships To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  6. Aug 4

    Inside a 5-Year Open Relationship: What Nobody Tells You About Polyamory | Ep. 192 (Part 1)

    Non-monogamy is one of the topics I get asked about more than almost anything else, so in this episode I sit down with Susan Bratton and Karl Eberhardt to dig into what open relationships, polyamory, and relationship anarchy actually look like day to day — not the theory, the lived experience. We talk about how to know you're ready to open a relationship, the STI screening protocol that makes it work, how jealousy and compersion actually show up, and the moment a 35-year marriage nearly ended over what gets called "husband thievery." We also get into how an adult daughter found out her parents were non-monogamous in one short conversation, and how a "summer boy toy" earned a promotion to full-time boyfriend. Whether you're curious, skeptical, or already living this life, this conversation is going to challenge some assumptions. Mentioned in this episode: Testing before getting physical is non-negotiable for me — ProDx Health makes it easy. First PASS-certified at-home STI kit, herpes testing included. 15% off: http://prodxhealth.com/discount/taboo In This Episode: 0:00 – Redefining Relationships in Midlife 0:28 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:52 – Meet Susan Bratton & Karl Eberhardt 2:25 – Defining Non-Monogamy vs. Cheating: The Relationship Tree 7:29 – How Susan Knew She Was Ready to Open Her Marriage 8:25 – How Karl and Susan Met (The Pool Story) 12:02 – Why Karl Is "Well-Suited" for Polyamory 14:34 – The Non-Negotiable: STI Testing & Screening In 15:39 – "Polyamory Means Love Many": Susan's Two Love Relationships 17:27 – Karl's San Diego Girlfriend & Traveling as a Throuple 19:59 – What Is a "Bambi"? A Different Kind of Intimacy 21:26 – Susan's Young Lover & the Jealousy That Followed 23:57 – Karl's Turn: Facing Jealousy Over an Old Flame 26:29 – Compersion, Husband Thievery & Almost Losing Tim 29:44 – Telling Their Daughter Taylor 31:11 – From "Summer Boy Toy" to Full-Time Boyfriend 34:05 – Outro To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About The Guest: Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including S*xual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She’s the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company. She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing. Susan has been a featured guest on over 1,000 podcasts and TV shows, including Diary of a CEO, You Are Not Broken, S*x with Emily, The Human Upgrade with Dave Asprey, Good Moms Bad Choices, Heal Thyself, IDIOT with Laura Clery, The Infamous “C**t Camp” Music Video, LuvBites with Dr. Tara, and The Chalene Show. Her books and interviews have helped millions take control of their s*xual joy. Her message resonates across gender and age because it’s rooted in agency, body literacy, and connection. Connect with Susan Bratton: Website: https://susanbratton.com Mentioned in this episode: https://tenintimacy.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Karl Eberhardt is a nationally recognized New Car Owner Trainer on correct care of modern car paint finishes. Karl has a life long passion for design and is the brewer of beer//Cicerone CBS, and custom jewelry. He has built surfboards for 25+ years. Connect with Karl Ebhardt: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karleberhardt_/ About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

  7. Jul 31

    The #1 Reason She Doesn't Want Sex Anymore

    The reason your marriage is sexless has nothing to do with sex. If you think a lack of intimacy in your relationship is a sex problem, I need you to hear this — it's almost never about the bedroom. In this episode, I break down emotional availability: what it really means, why so many good, hardworking, faithful men struggle with it, and how childhood shapes the way we handle conflict as adults. I explain the biology behind emotional shutdown, walk through attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant — and show why emotional safety is the real path to physical intimacy for most women. Then I give you five practical shifts to become more emotionally reachable, plus real scripts you can use tonight. This isn't about blame. It's about understanding the blueprint you were handed — so you can build something better. Join the waitlist for my upcoming coaching program for midlife men: https://taboototruth.wixforms.com/f/7424226439106397420 In This Episode: 0:00 - Cold Open: "It's Almost Never About the Bedroom" 0:20 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth 1:05 - The Emotionally Unavailable Man: What Today's Episode Covers 2:15 - "He's a Great Guy, But I Can't Get Close to Him" 3:45 - What Emotional Availability Actually Means 5:30 - Real Examples: What He Says vs. What She Hears 7:15 - How Boys Are Taught to Suppress Emotion 9:15 - The Biology of Shutdown: Flooding, Adrenaline & the Amygdala 11:00 - What Are You Really Protecting? 12:00 - Attachment Styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant & Fearful-Avoidant 15:30 - Your Brain Can Change: Neuroplasticity Explained 16:45 - Why Sexless Marriages Are Rarely About Sex 19:00 - The 5 Shifts to Become Emotionally Available 21:15 - Real Scripts: What to Say Instead 22:10 - The Client Story: "I Thought I Had a Sex Problem" 22:35 - Final Thoughts & Coaching Waitlist Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

  8. Jul 28

    Premature Ejaculation Is More Common Than You Think — Here's What Actually Works | Ep. 190

    Most men would rather suffer in silence than admit they have a problem in the bedroom —Let’s change that. On this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sat down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, to talk about one of the most common yet least discussed issues in men's sexual health: premature ejaculation. We get into the real clinical definition of PE, why the "arousal gap" between men and women makes this a near-universal issue, and why anxiety — not selfishness — is usually driving the problem. Jeff breaks down the physiological and psychological causes of PE, why shame keeps so many men from seeking help, and why over 4,000 doctors recommend Promescent's Delay Spray. We also cover how the product actually works, how to use it correctly, dosing and titration, safety data from 3 million bottles sold, and how it compares to Viagra. Jeff gets personal too, sharing his own story of turning 69, how porn distorts expectations for young men, and the reality of the refractory period as we age. We close out talking about female pleasure, non-ejaculatory orgasms, and why using every tool available in the bedroom is nothing to be ashamed of. This is a candid, funny, and genuinely useful conversation for any man — or any partner of a man — who wants better sex and less anxiety about it. Use this link for 15% off Delay Spray: https://promescent.sjv.io/QY44bY In This Episode: 00:00 — The Silent Struggle Millions of Men Face 00:33 — Podcast Intro & Meet Your Host 01:05 — Welcome Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent 02:10 — What Really Counts as Premature Ejaculation 04:15 — The Arousal Gap & Why Anxiety Kills Intimacy 06:45 — Physical vs. Psychological Causes of PE 09:00 — Breaking the Stigma Around Men's Sexual Health 11:00 — Kegels, Combo Therapy & Why Urologists Trust Promescent 14:00 — The Old (Bad) Solutions: SSRIs and Numbing Creams 16:30 — Treating PE Step by Step & Weaning Off 19:30 — How Jeff Discovered Promescent (Origin Story) 22:30 — The Eutectic Formula That Changes Everything 25:00 — How to Use the Delay Spray: Application & Timing 27:30 — Dosing, Titration & Finding Your Sweet Spot 29:30 — Is It Safe? 3 Million Bottles, Zero Red Flags 31:00 — Promescent vs. Viagra & Doctors' Favorite Combo 33:30 — Does Age or Ethnicity Affect PE Rates? 35:15 — The PE-ED Connection & the Fragile Male Ego 37:00 — Jeff's Personal Story: Aging, Porn & Regret 38:30 — Where to Find Promescent, Discount Code To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube! About the Guest: Jeff Abraham is the CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness brand focused on making intimacy solutions more accessible and effective. After discovering a groundbreaking treatment for premature ejaculation developed by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert, Jeff invested in the product and became the majority owner, launching the company’s flagship Delay Spray. Connect with Jeff Abraham: Website: https://www.promescent.com Instagram: https://www.facebook.com/Promescent/ Delay Spray: https://promescent.sjv.io/QY44bY About the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com Want more Taboo To Truth? Join the community HERE LINKS, RESOURCES, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. We'll discuss dating and sex post-divorce, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs of rediscovering intimacy. Karen dives deep into the impact of hormonal changes on sexuality, examining how these shifts influence desire, pleasure, and overall sexual health across different ages. The podcast encompasses a wide array of topics, including polyamory, kink, BDSM, and sexual dysfunction, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of modern sexual dynamics. Taboo to Truth is a platform for open, honest conversations about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Join me to embrace your sexuality, empower your journey, and break free from societal taboos. Follow me: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/ *The information on this podcast does not constitute medical advice and is for informational purposes only.

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