The Paula Faris Show

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Join Emmy-Award winning journalist, Founder of CARRY™ and America’s most curious mom, Paula Faris, as she and her frequent co-host, husband John, talk about the hottest topics that parents are talking about. This listener driven show tackles your big questions: "When to have the sex talk with my kid? Why are we fighting about the dishes again? How can I juggle work and life? Why are teenagers and toddlers so hard?" If you’re talking about it, Paula is talking about it in a real, relatable and authentic manner. Join Paula as she engages in a conversation style of no sugar coating, authenticity and keeping it real. She will have you laughing and learning. Life Happens. Let's Talk About It!

  1. 5d ago

    SOCIAL HEALTH: How Do You Actually Find Your People?

    “I just can’t find my people.” We heard some version of that over and over from you. Maybe you’ve moved. Maybe your closest friends live across the country. Maybe you have plenty of people around you, but still don’t have the kind of deep, vulnerable friendships you’re craving. So in Episode 3 of our series on social health, Liz Bohannon and I get very specific about how you actually find your people and what might be holding you back. Liz argues that if we want richer friendships, we have to get a little more “chalant.” We have to name what we're looking for, be willing to initiate, and get comfortable with the possibility of rejection. She shares how she intentionally built her own close circle and why it took about three years to find the right people. We also tackle your questions about making friends when you're constantly moving, how to turn casual friendships into deeper ones, and whether everyone really needs to be a “best friend.” And Liz has a pretty radical—and liberating—idea: you don't have to wait for your village to appear. You can create it. Let’s Talk About It.  Listen in to learn more : 0:00:00 Relational Fortune Favors the Bold 0:01:05 Social Health as a Longevity Superpower 0:03:30 Three Ingredients of Deep Friendship 0:06:45 Naming Your Longings Up Front 0:11:40 Weekly Rhythm as the Path to Relational Wealth 0:18:10 Be Shallant, Not Nonchalant 0:25:00 Friendship by Design, Not by Accident 0:33:20 Proximity Over Perfect Compatibility 0:44:10 Split Emotional vs Practical Support When You Move 0:54:30 Lower the Bar, Raise the Connection 1:00:40 Treat Everyone Like a Potential Best Friend 1:06:20 Paula’s 3 Big Takeaways: Rhythm, Proximity, Naming In this episode, we are digging into establishing healthy rhythms in friendship, prioritizing proximity, naming your desires in your friendships and relationships, navigating the risk of rejection, why deep friendship requires long-term investment, and building strong friendships even when you move often. Links + Resources  SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. Connect with Paula on Instagram  Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!!  THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter  is on Substack!!  Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  2. Sep 8

    SOCIAL HEALTH: Why am I always the one reaching Out?

    Why am I always the one reaching out?” That was hands down, by far the biggest complaint we heard from you when we asked about friendship. The texts that go unanswered. The friends who say, “We need to get together!” but never actually make a plan. The feeling that if you stopped reaching out, the friendship might just… disappear. So in Episode 2 of our series on social health, Liz Bohannon and I are tackling reciprocity and asking a complicated question: Do friendships actually need to be 50/50? What should we expect from our friends? When does being the one who always initiates become exhausting? And how do you know whether you're investing in a friendship that's actually giving something back? Liz challenges the way we think about keeping score in friendship and offers a completely different framework for thinking about who reaches out, who shows up and what we're really asking of one another. If you've ever thought, “Fine. I'm done reaching out. Let's see if they ever call me…”then this episode is for you. (I’m guilty of this!)  Because friendship isn't always as simple as who texted first. Let’s Talk About It.  Listen in to learn more : 0:00:00 Initiation Is the Price of Admission 0:04:20 Social Health Is Your Job, Not Theirs 0:09:05 From Consumer to Co‑Creator of Connection 0:14:30 Replace Reciprocity with Long‑Term Mutual Benefit 0:19:45 When Unequal Initiation Still Works 0:25:10 Rhythms and Rituals Beat One‑Off Hangouts 0:30:20 Make Recurring Plans Your Social “Rock” 0:35:40 Handling Mismatched Commitment Like an Adult 0:41:15 Naming Your Needs with “Big Kid Words” 0:46:30 Treat Inner‑Circle Friendships Like a Marriage 0:51:00 Clear Expectations to Prevent Silent Resentment In this episode, we are diving into reciprocity in friendship and relationships, two things to consider if you are always the one initiating, how American culture shapes our view of friendship and community, mutual benefit in relationships and why that matters more than reciprocity, personal responsibility in friendship and social health, good communication with friends, and healthy expectations in friendship.  Links + Resources  SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. Connect with Paula on Instagram  Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!!  THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter  is on Substack!!  Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All YOUTUBE SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. https://tinyurl.com/RONSeedsApp  Connect with Paula on Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en  THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms is on Substack https://officialcarrymedia.substack.com/  Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!! https://paulafarisofficial.substack.com/  Grab a copy of Paula’s book, You Don’t Have To Carry It All  : https://amzn.to/4e80WyF  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  3. Sep 1

    SOCIAL HEALTH: Why Friendship Might Matter More Than Your Diet

    What if one of the most important things you can do for your health has nothing to do with what you eat, how much you exercise, or how many hours you sleep? It might be your relationships. I'm kicking off a month-long series on social health with my friend Liz Bohannon, and we're starting with the big question: Why do we treat friendship and connection like an optional extra, a “bonus”, when research suggests they're one of the strongest predictors of how long and how well we live? Liz breaks down what “social health” actually means, why it's not as soft or fluffy as it sounds, and why the quality of our relationships may matter more than we realize. Possibly more than diet, exercise and sleep (controversial, I get it!).  We also talk about the uniquely American tendency to prioritize work, achievement, family and busyness while squeezing friendship into whatever time is left over. Throughout this series, Liz and I are tackling the questions and frustrations you sent us—from Why am I always the one reaching out? to How do I find my people? to When is a friendship worth saving? Because maybe the secret to living longer isn't another supplement, another workout or another diet. Maybe it's the people we do life with. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : [0:00:26] Social Health Takes Center Stage [0:04:06] Defining Social Health Clearly [0:05:42] Data Proves Relationships Drive Longevity [0:09:25] Loneliness Compared to Heavy Smoking [0:15:18] America’s Hyper-Individualist Trap [0:18:16] Career Over Community: The “Radical” Misalignment [0:21:57] Sacrifice and Inconvenience as the Price of Friendship [0:22:58] Redefining Friendship: Grocery Aisles Over Girls’ Trips [0:25:11] One Friend Can’t Meet All Your Relational Needs [0:26:30] It’s a Design Problem, Not a You Problem [0:28:40] Move Closer to Your People, Not Just Better Schools [0:29:48] Two Choices: Go to Your People or Befriend Neighbors [0:30:29] Reciprocity as the #1 Pain Point in Friendship In this episode, we are digging into social health, the impact of relationships, friendship, and community on our longevity and overall quality of life, how culture shapes our view of relationships and connection, why we need to prioritize relationships and community instead of treating them as a bonus, practical ways to build stronger social connections when we feel lonely or disconnected, the importance of being willing to be inconvenienced for friendship, and how to adjust our expectations about friendship. LINKS  SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. Connect with Paula on Instagram  Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!!  THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter  is on Substack!!  Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  4. Aug 25

    Mom-encholy: The Weird Grief of Watching Your Kids Grow Up.

    I pulled an audible this week, and I'm so glad I did. My hubby John was supposed to join me for another episode about sending our daughter off to college. Instead, he went golfing (on a 90-degree day, no less), so I called one of my closest friends, Michelle, and asked her to jump on the podcast with about an hour's notice.  You’ll love Michelle! She’s a preschool teacher, a mom of three, and a fellow mom navigating that strange middle season of parenting: one kid out of the house, two still at home, and a whole lot of feelings in between.  We talk about “mom-encholy,” that bittersweet and very strange mix of pride and grief that hits when your kids grow up and leave home. We talk about parenting older kids from a little farther away, the quieter house, and why friendship has become such a lifeline.  I’m learning that we can’t rush the grief or talk ourselves out of missing our kids. We have to feel it, keep moving, and more importantly, let our friends help carry it.  Honestly, this was the perfect accidental episode, because next week I'm launching a month-long series on friendship, connection and social health. I can't think of a better way to begin than with one of the mamas who has reminded me what friendship is supposed to look like. Because when we’re going through something hard, the best thing we can do is call a friend.  Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It.  Here’s the prayer I read from Dr Roland Ashby:  “Heavenly Father, I lift my children into your hands. Go into the rooms I can not walk into. Stand at the doors I am not there to lock. Guard their hearts from bitterness, their minds from fear, their bodies from harm. Lord, you see what they carry, that they will never bring home to me. The worry they decided not to mention. The thing that went wrong that they handled alone. When they are tired, be their rest. When they are unsure, be their answer. When they are far from me, do not let them be far from you. Keep them close to you even in the seasons they drift from me. And let them find out one day that somebody was praying over their whole life before they ever thought to ask. In Jesus’ name, Amen.” Listen in to learn more: [0:00:00] Calling an Audible With Michelle [0:03:32] Friendship Chemistry and Personality Clash [0:03:47] Lightning Round: Meet Michelle [0:07:02] Real-Life Paula vs Expectations [0:08:42] A Year of Show-Up Friendship [0:10:08] John’s Golf-Day Cameo [0:11:08] Naming Mom-Melancholy [0:15:13] From Helicopter to Quiet Watcher [0:18:58] Grief, Growth, and Letting Them Fly [0:20:12] Weekly Girl Time as Lifeline [0:22:38] Rethinking Coed Dorm Life [0:23:10] Inside a Pre-K Teacher’s World [0:25:26] Building Independence in Little Kids [0:28:03] Why Summer Break Keeps Shrinking [0:31:20] Gratitude for a Once-in-a-Lifetime Friend [0:33:40] A Nightly Prayer for Launched Kids In this episode, we are digging into parenting older children; the difference between first-time college drop-off and when college students return to school; encouragement for parents launching their kids or who have recently launched them; different perspectives on co-ed bathrooms in college dorms; and what back-to-school is really like for teachers. Connect with Paula on Instagram  Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!!  THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter  is on Substack!!  Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  5. Aug 18

    And Then We Drove Away

    Well…we dropped Caroline off at college. And I’m not gonna lie…. it’s been a week. I knew I would be emotional. I just didn’t realize how emotional I’d be after we left. The actual drop-off was surprisingly easy. But then you come home, walk past their empty bedroom, smell their pajamas because they still smell like them (yes, I did that), and it hits you: this chapter of childhood is over. This week, John and I are talking about what it’s really been like: the pride, the sadness, the excitement and the very weird realization that our family dynamic has changed. We’re talking about how the transition affects the siblings, how much we should be checking Life360, and how you let your kid go experience this new life without emotionally hijacking it for them. And I’m also sharing some of the advice I’ve gotten from moms who have done this before, because apparently this is one of those things you just have to go through to understand. I’m learning that you can be incredibly happy for your kid and still really miss them. You can be proud and heartbroken. Cheers and tears can exist at the exact same time. So if you’ve dropped a kid at college or you’re about to—come sit with us for a little bit. We’re figuring this out, too. And maybe the only way through it is…through. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: [0:00:00] Empty Nest Transition Hits Home [0:00:46] Coping by Wearing Daughter’s Clothes [0:01:53] Preserving Her Room as a Shrine [0:02:24] Turning College Drop-Off into a Smooth Operation [0:02:45] Clemson’s Hyper-Efficient Move-In System [0:03:20] Dining Hall Discoveries and Cafeteria Bliss In this episode, we are diving into the experience of dropping your first child off at college, navigating college move-in day and the emotions that come with it, how moms and dads experience the transition differently, how a child moving out impacts family dynamics and siblings at home, opinions on Life360 and location tracking for college students, young adults living closer to home after college, and advice from parents who have been there.  LINKS Connect with Paula on Instagram  Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!!  THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter  is on Substack!!  Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  6. Aug 11

    Why Nothing Prepares You for Letting Go 

    As we drop off our oldest child at college this week, we’re having the conversation every family eventually faces. People try to prepare you for this moment. They really do. But I don’t think anything truly prepares you for letting go. And I want to be honest…we’re not coming at this from a place of having all the answers. This week, my husband John, our daughter Caroline, and I talk through what this transition actually feels like from both sides. Caroline tells us what she needs from us as parents (it’s probably less than we think… and more than we realize). John is handling it in his very John way, steady and practical. And me? I’m somewhere between incredibly proud and completely undone. We also share the best college advice we’ve ever received.  If you’re sending a child to college or you’ve already been there, I hope this episode feels like a hug and a reminder that this isn’t the end of your relationship. It’s the beginning of a new one. And if you hear me trying not to cry… just know I didn’t succeed. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It.  Listen in to learn more:  [0:01:42] Dad’s Excitement vs. Mom’s Grief-Wrapped Celebration [0:03:51] Caroline’s Request for Support and Space [0:06:21] Dorm Prep, Pinterest Boards, and Move-In Madness [0:09:39] Communication Expectations After Move-In [0:11:37] Free Meals, Church Visits, and Staying Connected [0:13:18] Setting a Fixed College Budget for All Kids [0:14:13] Learning Financial Responsibility Through College Choice [0:16:36] College Is What You Make It, Not Where You Go [0:20:24] Siblings, Changing Home Dynamics, and Goodbyes [0:21:31] The Numbers 6:24–26 Family Blessing [0:23:21] Who Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up? [0:24:16] Caroline’s Vision of the Person She Wants to Become [0:25:44] Letting Go, Trusting God, and Looking Ahead In this episode, we are digging into the emotional highs and lows of dropping a child off at college, how family members process and navigate this transition differently, practical advice for parents preparing to launch their kids, the financial realities that influence college choices, and why who our kids become matters more than the college or career paths they choose. LINKS Connect with Paula on Instagram  Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!!  THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter is on Substack!!  Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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    Why We're Ready for School to Start

    I'm back after my annual July hiatus, and we've got a lot to catch up on. John is turning 50, we checked Europe off our family's bucket list, and I'm finally learning to play golf (I am still terrible LOL).  But let's be honest: as much as we love summer and our kids by August, we're ready for the routine that school brings. We're talking about birthdays, bucket-list memories, why golf might be the best family sport you've never considered, and how we’re gearing up to launch our oldest to college.  Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It.  Listen in to learn more : [0:00:00] July Reset & College Launch Season [0:01:06] Turning 50 and Midlife Perspective [0:02:26] Legacy of John's 90-Year-Old Dad [0:04:18] Healthy Aging in the Kruger Family [0:06:39] Entering the Empty-Nest Years [0:09:11] Asheville Getaway & Couple Time [0:10:23] Golf as a Family Connection Tool [0:13:15] Back-to-School Relief and Routine [0:15:26] Summer Sports and “Voluntary” Commitments [0:18:42] Bucket-List Europe Trip Recap [0:21:05] Airbnb Strategy for Family Travel [0:22:05] Guided E-Bike Tour in Rome Highlight [0:23:19] European Food, Activity, and Health Contrast [0:24:52] Venice’s Engineering and Charm [0:26:00] Future Golf Trip Dreams for JJ [0:26:13] Preparing Emotionally to Drop Caroline off at College In this episode, we are sharing a summer recap and reflecting on turning 50, discussing why golf is a fun way to spend quality family time, the value of shared hobbies, navigating busy summer sports schedules and practices, the excitement of a new school year and getting back into routines, plus family travel ideas and tips for making meaningful memories together. LINKS Connect with Paula on Instagram  Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!!  THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter is on Substack!!  Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  8. Jun 30

    MOMFESSIONS: Why Youth Sports Are Out of Control (And We’re Part of the Problem)

    Youth sports are out of control. And the worst part? We might be part of the problem. Spoiler alert: I know I am. I’m the mom with a packed sports calendar, a trunk full of Chick-fil-A, and a competitive streak that sometimes gets the best of me. Guilty as charged. I’m also a coach's wife, so this topic hits close to home.  We’re closing out Momfessions, our month-long series where we’ve said the quiet parts of parenting out loud. And for our final confession, I’m joined once again by my teammate at CARRY Media, Kristen White, a mom of three boys. This week: Why youth sports are out of control—and why we might be part of the problem. Kids are specializing younger. Parents are spending more money than ever. And somewhere along the way, sports stopped being about kids having fun and started feeling like a full-time job for the whole family. Here’s the wild part: When kids were asked what makes sports fun, winning ranked 48th. They cared more about playing with friends, getting better, feeling supported, and having fun. So maybe the question isn’t, “How far can my child go in sports?” Maybe it’s, “What do I want sports to teach my child?” This one might ruffle a few feathers (or cleats 😉). But as always with Momfessions... we’re willing to look in the mirror. Let’s Talk About It.  Listen in to learn more:  [0:00:00] Youth Sports Are Out of Control [0:05:15] Kids Quit Because It’s Not Fun [0:06:40] Early Specialization and Burnout [0:09:06] Parents’ Behavior Driving Pressure [0:10:53] Winning Matters Less to Kids [0:13:25] The Scholarship and Pro Fantasy [0:16:20] Chasing Travel Ball and Private Coaches [0:17:56] Parent Ego and Living Through Kids [0:18:32] Remembering the Real Purpose of Sports [0:19:40] Power of Great Coaches and Other Adults [0:20:35] You Either Win or Learn [0:22:07] Core Question: What Should Sports Teach Our Kids? In this episode, we are digging into youth sports culture, the benefits and costs of youth sports, why kids want to play sports versus why parents want them to play, the odds of playing college sports or becoming a professional athlete, the importance of great coaches and trusted mentors in the lives of kids and teens, and how to keep the focus on the value of youth sports and why kids play in the first place. Resources Connect with Paula on Instagram  Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!!  THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter  is on Substack!!  Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All Download the Savor Your Summer Guide HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Join Emmy-Award winning journalist, Founder of CARRY™ and America’s most curious mom, Paula Faris, as she and her frequent co-host, husband John, talk about the hottest topics that parents are talking about. This listener driven show tackles your big questions: "When to have the sex talk with my kid? Why are we fighting about the dishes again? How can I juggle work and life? Why are teenagers and toddlers so hard?" If you’re talking about it, Paula is talking about it in a real, relatable and authentic manner. Join Paula as she engages in a conversation style of no sugar coating, authenticity and keeping it real. She will have you laughing and learning. Life Happens. Let's Talk About It!

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  • Creator
    That Sounds Fun Network
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    144
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