Adult Child of Dysfunction

Tammy Vincent

“Child of Dysfunction” is your guide into the world of resilience and healing. Hosted by Tammy Vincent, the adult child of two alcoholic parents, this podcast delves deep into the experiences of growing up in a chaotic and dysfunctional environment, facing childhood neglect, abuse, and trauma while overcoming adversity. With personal insights and expert interviews, we explore the challenges and triumphs of adults who grew up in these toxic environments, and healed. We Learn how to navigate these profound inner wounds though a variety of modalities including, but not limited to mindfulness, NLP practices, transformational coaching. We will help people uncover the darkness and emerge into the light as confident, thriving, empowered adults. This podcast is literally for anybody that has been subject to the complexities and cruelties that life can send our way. It is for people at any stage of their healing journey, or even those that want to help a loved one navigate their pain. Tammy Vincent, a survivor and thriver, has transformed her life from the challenges of being an adult child of two alcoholic parents. With a Masters in Education and addiction and recovery certifications, shes a beacon of hope for others on their paths to transformation. You can reach Tammy at any time at www.tammyvincent.com

  1. 1D AGO

    E 270: Maybe You Brought the Ick Into The Relationship

    As a follow-up to the recent episode with Bryan Power, this conversation looks at a familiar experience many people encounter in long-term relationships—often referred to as “the ick.” That subtle but persistent feeling of irritation, resentment, emotional distance, or shutdown can be unsettling and easy to misinterpret. Rather than suggesting these feelings mean something is wrong with your partner or your relationship, this episode offers a different lens: the ick as a response from a dysregulated nervous system. When stress, emotional load, and unresolved experiences accumulate, the body can shift into protection mode, altering how we perceive connection, closeness, and safety within our relationships. Building on themes discussed in the episode with Bryan, this conversation focuses on how nervous system dysregulation can distort interpretation and amplify reactivity. What feels like loss of attraction or emotional disconnection is often the nervous system signaling overload—not a lack of love or compatibility. When the body is dysregulated, clarity is limited, and familiar behaviors can suddenly feel irritating or overwhelming. This episode invites listeners to pause before assigning meaning to these reactions and instead notice what’s happening internally. By viewing the ick through a nervous system lens rather than as a relationship verdict, it becomes possible to move out of blame and into awareness, creating space for regulation, compassion, and more grounded connection. If this perspective resonates and you want support understanding how your nervous system may be influencing your relationships, you’re invited to book a Clarity to Calm call here: 👉 https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/clarity-and-calm-call Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you. If you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/Tammyvincentcoaching I work with people who are ready to heal from the inside out — especially those dealing with chronic stress, anxiety, inflammation, gut issues, or burnout. If you’ve been struggling with symptoms your doctors can’t fully explain, it may be that your past is still living in your body. Unhealed emotional wounds and nervous system dysregulation often show up as physical and mental health challenges — and I’m here to help you break that cycle. If you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves. My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies, 🔑 Start Your Healing JourneyFind ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here 🧠 Work With Me – Head-to-Toe Wellness Consultation Let’s explore what’s really going on in your body,...

    19 min
  2. 5D AGO

    E 269: Attachment Theory and Relationship Breakdown: A Path to Healing: Guest: Bryan Power

    In this episode, Bryan Power shares his personal experience of a major breakdown in his marriage and the journey that followed. What appeared to be a stable relationship in 2024 quickly unraveled, leading to a period of separation that required deep self-reflection and personal accountability. Rather than focusing solely on fixing the relationship, Bryan explains how this time became an opportunity to examine his own emotional patterns, reactions, and behaviors. Bryan discusses how learning about attachment theory helped him understand the subconscious wounds and nervous system responses that were influencing his relationship. He explains how attachment styles develop early in life and can shape communication, emotional safety, and responses to conflict in adult partnerships. Gaining awareness of these patterns allowed him to better understand both his own behaviors and his wife’s emotional responses. The episode explores the importance of emotional regulation in healthy relationships. Bryan shares how learning to regulate his emotional reactions reduced reactivity and made communication more effective. He also emphasizes the role of boundaries, explaining that boundaries are not meant to control a partner, but to support emotional safety, clarity, and mutual respect. Bryan introduces Integrated Attachment Theory as a framework that supported growth and repair during a very difficult period. He outlines key principles such as taking responsibility for one’s own emotions, communicating needs clearly, and engaging in repair after conflict. The conversation highlights that conflict itself is not the problem in relationships; rather, the ability to repair and reconnect after moments of disconnection is what determines long-term relational health. Throughout the discussion, Bryan reflects on how separation, while painful, created the space necessary for meaningful change. Time apart allowed both partners to work on their individual emotional patterns, reduce defensiveness, and build a stronger foundation for reconnection. He emphasizes that relationship breakdowns, though deeply challenging, can become opportunities for growth, awareness, and transformation. This episode offers insight into how understanding attachment patterns and emotional regulation can change the way individuals experience relationships. Bryan’s story provides a thoughtful perspective for listeners navigating relationship challenges and illustrates that healing and growth are possible even after significant relational strain. To learn more about Bryan Power and his work, visit https://www.myrelationshipfail.com. You can also find him on: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanwpower/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@myrelationshipfailInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/myrelationshipfail/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/myrelationshipfail Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you. If you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a

    39 min
  3. FEB 11

    E 268: The Day My Son Said He "DIdn't LIke This Mommy"

    In this solo follow-up episode, Tammy speaks directly to parents who are doing the healing work—but still feel overwhelmed by guilt, regret, and fear that they started too late. With honesty and compassion, Tammy shares what it was like to begin her healing journey after her children were older, the unbearable guilt that surfaced with awareness, and the moment her eight-year-old son told her he didn’t like who she was when she was drinking—a turning point that changed everything. This episode is both deeply personal and practical. Tammy explains why knowing better doesn’t automatically mean doing better, how the nervous system drives reactions before logic can step in, and why children often trigger our deepest, unhealed wounds. She also offers five simple, grounding practices listeners can begin using immediately to build regulation, repair after mistakes, and move forward with greater presence and connection. If you’re a parent navigating healing in real time—especially if you grew up in dysfunction—this episode is a reminder that you can’t go back and change the past, but you can show up differently now. And that matters more than you think. Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you. If you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/Tammyvincentcoaching I work with people who are ready to heal from the inside out — especially those dealing with chronic stress, anxiety, inflammation, gut issues, or burnout. If you’ve been struggling with symptoms your doctors can’t fully explain, it may be that your past is still living in your body. Unhealed emotional wounds and nervous system dysregulation often show up as physical and mental health challenges — and I’m here to help you break that cycle. If you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves. My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies, 🔑 Start Your Healing JourneyFind ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here 🧠 Work With Me – Head-to-Toe Wellness Consultation Let’s explore what’s really going on in your body, mind, and spirit. During this free discovery call, we’ll assess where you are and what tools can support your healing. 👉 Book your session: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/head-to-toe-wellness-consultation ✈️ Bonus for Travel Lovers!Did you know I also offer access to an amazing travel savings program that can help you save up to 70% on hotels, resorts, cruises, and more? Let’s compare your next upcoming itinerary and see how much you could save. 👉 Try the Trip Check: a href="https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/trip-check" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

    25 min
  4. FEB 8

    E 267: Breaking Generational Patterns of Guilt and Anger in Motherhood Guest: Misun Oh

    In this heartfelt episode , Tammy sits down with Misun, a spiritual life coach who supports mothers navigating the complex emotional terrain of parenting after deep personal growth. This conversation is especially resonant for women who have done the inner work, yet still find themselves caught in cycles of guilt, anger, emotional overwhelm, and self-judgment. Misun shares her powerful personal journey of growing up in a dysfunctional family and how those early experiences shaped her identity, relationships, and approach to motherhood. Through vulnerability and insight, she explains how unresolved childhood patterns can resurface in parenting — not because mothers are failing, but because identity-level wounds are asking to be seen and healed. Central to the discussion is Misun’s Soul Print approach, which focuses on healing at the identity level rather than simply changing behaviors. She emphasizes that lasting transformation begins when mothers reconnect with their true selves, release victimhood, and take compassionate responsibility for their inner world. From this place, emotional regulation, calmer homes, and deeper connection with children naturally emerge. Together, Tammy and Misun explore the importance of emotional intelligence in parenting, including how honest, age-appropriate communication with children can foster safety and trust. They discuss how acceptance, self-awareness, and compassion — rather than perfection — are the foundation for breaking generational patterns and creating healthier family dynamics. This episode offers reassurance to mothers who feel overwhelmed or ashamed for struggling, reminding them that healing is not about being a perfect parent, but about being a present, self-aware one. Listeners are encouraged to continue their own healing journeys through supportive resources such as the ACA program and Misun’s coaching work. To learn more about Misun and her work, you can connect with her on Facebook: 👉 https://www.facebook.com/misun.oh.16 Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you. If you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/Tammyvincentcoaching I work with people who are ready to heal from the inside out — especially those dealing with chronic stress, anxiety, inflammation, gut issues, or burnout. If you’ve been struggling with symptoms your doctors can’t fully explain, it may be that your past is still living in your body. Unhealed emotional wounds and nervous system dysregulation often show up as physical and mental health challenges — and I’m here to help you break that cycle. If you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves. My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies, 🔑 Start Your Healing Journeya...

    41 min
  5. FEB 5

    E 266: Five Signs Your Anxiety Stems From An Old Belief

    Today Tammy builds on the last episode, the powerful conversation with Peak Performance Hypnotist Tim Shurr. to explore a critical reframe many people have never been offered: What if anxiety isn’t a stress problem — but a belief your nervous system learned long ago? Drawing from Tim’s insights and her own trauma-informed coaching work, Tammy walks listeners through five clear signs that anxiety may be rooted in subconscious beliefs rather than current circumstances. She explains why affirmations and mindset work often fall flat, how the body responds to meaning instead of logic, and why adult children of dysfunction frequently remain stuck in survival mode even when life appears “fine.” Listeners will learn how core beliefs like “I’m not safe,” “I’m not good enough,” or “I’ll be rejected” quietly shape nervous system responses, influence self-sabotage and perfectionism, and keep the body in chronic alert. Tammy offers compassionate explanations for behaviors like freezing, procrastination, hypervigilance, and emotional shutdown — reframing them as protective responses rather than personal failures. This episode is especially supportive for those who: Experience anxiety without an obvious causeFeel their body reacts faster than their thoughtsStruggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, or self-doubtHave tried therapy or personal growth work but still feel stuckGrew up in chaotic, emotionally unsafe, or dysfunctional environments Tammy also shares how tools like biofrequency voice scans can help illuminate what the nervous system is holding, and invites listeners into a free Clarity & Calm Call — a gentle, non-sales conversation designed to help them feel heard, grounded, and clear about their next right step. This episode is not about fixing yourself — it’s about understanding your body with compassion and recognizing that your anxiety has a story worth listening to. You can grab a free voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you. If you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/Tammyvincentcoaching I work with people who are ready to heal from the inside out — especially those dealing with chronic stress, anxiety, inflammation, gut issues, or burnout. If you’ve been struggling with symptoms your doctors can’t fully explain, it may be that your past is still living in your body. Unhealed emotional wounds and nervous system dysregulation often show up as physical and mental health challenges — and I’m here to help you break that cycle. If you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author,

    14 min
  6. FEB 2

    E 265: One Belief Away from Change: Guest Tim Shurr

    Today we sit down with Tim Shurr, a renowned Peak Performance Hypnotist with over 37 years of experience helping people break free from subconscious limitations and step into what he calls “Peaceful Success.” Tim shares how many of the struggles we face—chronic stress, anxiety, self-sabotage, health issues, and emotional overwhelm—are not simply mindset problems, but the result of deeply rooted subconscious beliefs, often formed in childhood. These beliefs quietly shape our behaviors, self-talk, relationships, and even how our bodies respond to stress and trauma. Throughout the conversation, Tim explains his One Belief Away method, revealing how identifying and reprogramming a single core belief can create profound and lasting change. We explore how unresolved emotional patterns can live on in the body as inflammation, digestive issues, tension, and fatigue, and why surface-level affirmations or positive thinking often fall short if the underlying belief system remains untouched. Tim also breaks down common misconceptions about hypnosis, clarifying how hypnotherapy works as a collaborative, empowering process rather than something that takes control away. He emphasizes the importance of shifting from self-criticism to self-compassion, and introduces the concept of “feelization”—associating positive emotions with desired outcomes—to support motivation, healing, and sustainable growth. This episode is especially meaningful for those who grew up in dysfunctional or emotionally unsafe environments, where beliefs around unworthiness, perfectionism, and self-doubt often take root. Tim reminds listeners that true transformation begins with recognizing that you are already enough, and that self-love is not a reward—it’s the foundation. To learn more about Tim Shurr and his work, connect with him here: 👉 Facebook: https://facebook.com/timshurr 👉 YouTube: https://youtube.com/timshurr 👉 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@timshurr Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you. If you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/Tammyvincentcoaching I work with people who are ready to heal from the inside out — especially those dealing with chronic stress, anxiety, inflammation, gut issues, or burnout. If you’ve been struggling with symptoms your doctors can’t fully explain, it may be that your past is still living in your body. Unhealed emotional wounds and nervous system dysregulation often show up as physical and mental health challenges — and I’m here to help you break that cycle. If you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves. My holistic toolbox...

    44 min
  7. JAN 31

    E264: How Your Voice and Frequencies Can Help Regulate The Nervous System

    In this episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy explores why healing often feels incomplete—even after therapy, insight, and years of personal growth. Many people understand their childhood trauma, dysfunctional family dynamics, or emotional neglect, yet still struggle with anxiety, chronic tension, shutdown, or nervous system dysregulation. This episode explains why: the body learns survival before language ever develops. Long before we could speak, our nervous systems learned how to stay safe through sensation, tone of voice, emotional absence, inconsistency, and chronic stress. These early survival patterns don’t live in memory or story—they live in the body. Tammy breaks down: Why trauma doesn’t require a “big event” to shape the nervous systemHow emotional neglect and chronic stress affect the bodyWhy your body may still react even when you “know better”How energy is actually communication within the nervous systemWhy the voice carries emotional and physiological informationHow sound and frequency support nervous system regulation and somatic healing This episode gently demystifies concepts like energy healing, voice analysis, and frequency work, grounding them in neuroscience, physiology, and trauma-informed understanding—without spiritual bypassing or toxic positivity. Tammy also explains how tools like Inner Voice Scans and biofrequency-based approaches can help identify nervous system patterns, emotional suppression, and stress responses—offering awareness and regulation rather than diagnosis. If you are an adult child of a dysfunctional family, grew up with addiction, emotional neglect, chaos, or unpredictability, or feel stuck in fight-flight-freeze responses, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a new way to listen to your body. Topics Covered: Trauma and the nervous systemSomatic healing vs. talk therapyEmotional suppression and stored traumaVoice, frequency, and nervous system regulationHealing for adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional familiesWhy your body isn’t broken—it’s communicating This episode reminds listeners that healing doesn’t begin with forcing change—it begins with listening. Schedule Your Free Inner Voice Scan Here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you. If you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/Tammyvincentcoaching I work with people who are ready to heal from the inside out —...

    20 min
  8. JAN 28

    E 263: Releasing Emotional Patterns Through Voice Biofeedback: Guest Deepak Chari

    In this deeply moving and insightful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with Deepak Chari, engineer, certified biofeedback specialist, and co-founder of the Chari Center of Health. Deepak shares his personal journey—from years of childhood bullying and emotional isolation to becoming a pioneer in advanced voice biofeedback technology used to help people release long-held emotional patterns. Deepak explains how early life experiences, including ancestral and prenatal stress, can become “programming” stored in the subconscious and nervous system—shaping our relationships, self-worth, health, and emotional responses well into adulthood. Drawing on both engineering principles and over 20 years of clinical experience, he describes how voice biofeedback works by identifying missing or suppressed frequencies in a person’s voice and gently re-introducing them through harmonic resonance, allowing trapped emotions to release naturally. Throughout the conversation, Tammy and Deepak explore: How emotional trauma and chronic stress impact the nervous system and physical healthWhy suppressed emotions don’t disappear—they stay stored in the body until releasedThe four phases of emotional and ancestral imprinting, from conception through adulthoodHow clearing emotional patterns can lead to shifts in relationships, physical symptoms, confidence, and even appearanceWhy you don’t need to “understand” the technology for it to work—just like electricity or driving a car Deepak also shares powerful client stories, including individuals who experienced relief from decades of depression, physical pain, digestive issues, and emotional heaviness after releasing subconscious patterns—often without even realizing how deeply those emotions were affecting their bodies. This episode is a reminder that healing doesn’t require reliving trauma—it requires the right tools, safety, and nervous-system-aware support. Whether you’re curious about frequency work, emotional healing, or breaking generational cycles, this conversation offers hope, validation, and possibility. 🔗 Connect with Deepak Chari on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deepakcharifastanxietyhelp/ 🎧 If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you can’t explain, this episode invites you to consider a new way forward—one rooted in compassion, science, and the wisdom of the body. Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you. If you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/Tammyvincentcoaching I work with people who are ready to heal from the inside out — especially those dealing with chronic stress, anxiety, inflammation, gut issues, or burnout. If you’ve been struggling with symptoms your doctors can’t fully explain, it may be that your past is still living in your body. Unhealed emotional wounds and nervous system dysregulation often show up as physical and mental health challenges — and I’m here to help you break that cycle. If you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice...

    36 min
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About

“Child of Dysfunction” is your guide into the world of resilience and healing. Hosted by Tammy Vincent, the adult child of two alcoholic parents, this podcast delves deep into the experiences of growing up in a chaotic and dysfunctional environment, facing childhood neglect, abuse, and trauma while overcoming adversity. With personal insights and expert interviews, we explore the challenges and triumphs of adults who grew up in these toxic environments, and healed. We Learn how to navigate these profound inner wounds though a variety of modalities including, but not limited to mindfulness, NLP practices, transformational coaching. We will help people uncover the darkness and emerge into the light as confident, thriving, empowered adults. This podcast is literally for anybody that has been subject to the complexities and cruelties that life can send our way. It is for people at any stage of their healing journey, or even those that want to help a loved one navigate their pain. Tammy Vincent, a survivor and thriver, has transformed her life from the challenges of being an adult child of two alcoholic parents. With a Masters in Education and addiction and recovery certifications, shes a beacon of hope for others on their paths to transformation. You can reach Tammy at any time at www.tammyvincent.com

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