That's Not How A Baby Sleeps

Alicia Dyshon
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You have likely heard the old saying "sleeping like a baby"....well whoever created this saying was clearly not a parent. Prepare for a rollercoaster of laughs and insights as we navigate the world of sleep and gentle parenting. From midnight lullabies to daytime chaos, we're here to share our own parenting triumphs and fiascos while debunking sleep training myths. So buckle up! Each week, as we dive headfirst into the adventure of parenting, unraveling the mysteries of sleep, and proving that laughter is the best medicine for those sleep-deprived nights.

  1. 1d ago

    S4E1 Pregnancy, Parenting & a Little Life Update

    It's been a minute, so we're kicking off the new season of That's Not How a Baby Sleeps with a catch-up episode. Aleni has some pretty exciting life updates to share (including a little human growing in her belly 👀), and Alicia is catching you up on what's been happening in her world, too. We're chatting pregnancy, life lately, and the very real ups and downs of motherhood. Alicia opens up about some of the parenting struggles we've been navigating with our youngest and what it's looked like to work through those challenges as a family. Because here's the thing: being a sleep professional doesn't magically mean you have it all figured out. Sometimes you're still in the thick of it, trying to understand your kid, figure out what they need, and remind yourself that you're all just human. We think those conversations are just as important as the sleep tips and advice we share here. So grab your coffee (or reheat the one you've already forgotten about for the third time), settle in, and come catch up with us. We're so happy to be back for Season 4! 🤎 Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with. Follow along on social media for more sleep without sleep training tips. ⁠Alicia's Instagram⁠ ⁠Alicia's Tiktok⁠ ⁠Aleni's Instagram⁠ Work with Alicia View 1:1 support options and services here Purchase our comprehensive sleep courses Book a FREE 20 minute clarity call here Check out our free resources here **The information shared is not medical advice & is for entertainment purposes only

  2. Jun 18

    S3E27 Mouth Breathing, Snoring & Sleep: Airway Health with Dr. Elizabeth Turner

    Have you ever wondered if your child's sleep struggles could be related to something more than just sleep? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Elizabeth Turner, an airway-focused dentist, to discuss the often-overlooked connection between airway health and sleep. From mouth breathing and snoring to tongue ties and early airway development, She helps us understand some of the red flags parents may want to watch for and why they matter. We cover: • How airway health impacts sleep in babies, toddlers, and children • The difference between nasal breathing and mouth breathing—and why it matters • Whether mouth breathing during sleep is something parents should investigate • If snoring is ever considered "normal" in children • How tongue ties can affect sleep, even when feeding appears to be going well • The truth about breastmilk and tooth decay • How untreated airway issues can show up later in childhood • Gentle, early interventions that may help support healthy airway development If you've ever felt like something was "off" with your child's sleep but couldn't quite put your finger on it, this episode is packed with valuable information that may help you better understand what's going on. As always, our goal isn't to create fear or convince parents that every sleep challenge is caused by an airway issue. It's simply to provide education so families can make informed decisions and know when it may be worth digging a little deeper. Follow Elizabeth on Instagram @drlizzzt & @untetheredairway Check out Elizabeth’s website Check out her Podcast No One Told Me: The Airway Health Connection Airway Specialist Directory Find a TOTS Trained Myofunctional Therapist in your area Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with. Follow along on social media for more sleep without sleep training tips. ⁠Alicia's Instagram⁠ ⁠Alicia's Tiktok⁠ ⁠Aleni's Instagram⁠ Work with Alicia View 1:1 support options and services here Purchase our comprehensive sleep courses Book a FREE 20 minute clarity call here Check out our free resources here **The information shared is not medical advice & is for entertainment purposes only

  3. May 21

    S3E26 Twin Sleep Support: A Behind-the-Scenes Assessment Call with Kate

    Note: We had a few technical difficulties with recording this week, so this episode is audio only and may sound a little “off” at times — thank you for bearing with us. 💛 This week on the podcast, we’re joined by our Mother’s Day giveaway winner, Kate — a mama of four boys (including her younger twin boys) and a birth doula. Before the call, Kate tracked her twins’ sleep so we could take a deeper look at their patterns, sleep needs, and overall schedule. In this episode, we walk through our assessment, share what we’re seeing, and talk through what adjustments might better support their sleep. We also answer Kate’s questions in real time, making this a really honest, practical look at what sleep support can actually look like behind the scenes. If you’ve ever wondered how to figure out your child’s unique sleep needs or what a sleep assessment actually looks like, this episode is such a good listen. Follow along with Kate and her work as a birth doula on Instagram Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with. Follow along on social media for more sleep without sleep training tips. ⁠Alicia's Instagram⁠ ⁠Alicia's Tiktok⁠ ⁠Aleni's Instagram⁠ Work with Alicia View 1:1 support options and services here Purchase our comprehensive sleep courses Book a FREE 20 minute clarity call here Check out our free resources here **The information shared is not medical advice & is for entertainment purposes only

    S3E26 Twin Sleep Support: A Behind-the-Scenes Assessment Call with Kate

  4. May 7

    S3E25 The Invisible Load Of Motherhood

    Enter our Mother’s Day Giveaway HERE Motherhood isn’t just physically exhausting. It’s the constant thinking, remembering, planning, anticipating & the never turning your brain off. This week on the podcast, we’re talking about the invisible mental load of motherhood — the piece no one really prepares you for, but that impacts everything… including your capacity, your nervous system, and even how you experience your child’s sleep. Because it’s not just about what you’re doing, It’s about everything you’re holding. In this episode, we talk about: • What the mental load actually is (and why it feels so heavy) • Why it’s often carried disproportionately by moms • How it impacts your nervous system and daily capacity • Why “just ask for help” doesn’t actually solve the problem • How this invisible load shows up at bedtime and overnight • & what it can look like to start doing less — without the guilt If you’ve ever felt overstimulated, touched out, or like your brain just won’t shut off… this episode is for you. Because you’re not just tired, you’re carrying too much. Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with. Follow along on social media for more sleep without sleep training tips. ⁠Alicia's Instagram⁠ ⁠Alicia's Tiktok⁠ ⁠Aleni's Instagram⁠ Work with Alicia View 1:1 support options and services here Purchase our comprehensive sleep courses Book a FREE 20 minute clarity call here Check out our free resources here **The information shared is not medical advice & is for entertainment purposes only

  5. Apr 30

    S3E24 Time Wealth: Less Burnout & Family Peace With Sondra Fireling

    Why does parenting feel like there is never enough time… even when you’re doing everything? This week on the podcast, we’re joined by Sondra Fireling, founder of Beyond Delegation, for a powerful conversation about the invisible load so many parents are carrying and why modern family life can feel so overwhelming. Sondra teaches families how to create time wealth — the feeling of having enough time for what matters most. We talk about: • why so many parents feel constantly behind • the mental load mothers often carry in silence • why “just ask for help” usually misses the bigger issue • how to decide what to do, what to drop, and what to delegate • letting go of perfectionism and unrealistic expectations • how shared labour can transform family life • why doing less can actually help you parent better If you’ve ever felt like you’re drowning in responsibilities, touched out, overstimulated, or like everyone needs something from you all the time… this episode is for you. Because the answer isn’t always doing more. Sometimes it’s doing less — on purpose. 💛 Sondra’s website Follow Sondra on Instagram Mentioned in this episode: 75 Things to Delegate & Who Can Do Them  Mindful Delegation® Decision Tree (Freebie) Community Show Up Sheets  Fair Play Cards-Eve Rotsky Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with. Follow along on social media for more sleep without sleep training tips. ⁠Alicia's Instagram⁠ ⁠Alicia's Tiktok⁠ ⁠Aleni's Instagram⁠ Work with Alicia View 1:1 support options and services here Purchase our comprehensive sleep courses Book a FREE 20 minute clarity call here Check out our free resources here **The information shared is not medical advice & is for entertainment purposes only

  6. Apr 23

    S3E23 The Truth About Timed Check-Ins (And Why Babies Cry More)

    “Not all sleep training is cry it out.” This is something parents hear all the time… but in reality, many families end up there anyway. In this episode, we’re unpacking why methods like timed check-ins (Ferber) or the chair method—often labeled as “gentle”—can actually lead to more tears, not less. If you’ve ever felt like your baby cries harder when you go in to comfort them… you’re not imagining it. We’re talking about: • why babies often become more distressed during timed check-ins • what’s actually happening in their nervous system in those moments • how this can lead parents to feel like full cry it out is the “better” option • why temperament plays such a huge role in how babies respond • and how even “gentle” methods can create mis-attunement when you’re asked to override your instincts We also dive into a powerful historical comparison—when parents were once told not to visit their hospitalized children because it “made them cry more”… and what we now understand about separation, connection, and emotional safety. This episode is for the parent who tried the “gentler” way and thought… this feels worse. And for the parent who’s been told their only options are to either follow through with sleep training or just wait it out. Because there is another way, one that supports your child’s sleep and their nervous system—without leaving them to cry alone. Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with. Follow along on social media for more sleep without sleep training tips. ⁠Alicia's Instagram⁠ ⁠Alicia's Tiktok⁠ ⁠Aleni's Instagram⁠ Work with Alicia View 1:1 support options and services here Purchase our comprehensive sleep courses Book a FREE 20 minute clarity call here Check out our free resources here **The information shared is not medical advice & is for entertainment purposes only

  7. Apr 9

    S3E22 Supporting Emotions While Making Sleep Changes

    “If my child cries, I’m doing something wrong” So many parents feel stuck between two extremes — either never making changes to avoid upsetting their child, or being told they need to ignore the crying altogether. But there is a middle ground. In this episode, we’re talking about how to support your child’s emotions while still making changes around sleep — whether that’s weaning, moving away from nursing or rocking to sleep, or setting new boundaries overnight. We break down: • The difference between crying alone vs. crying with support • What co-regulation actually looks like during sleep changes • Why crying itself isn’t the problem — and what matters more • How to set loving boundaries without disconnecting from your child • Why emotions often increase during change (and why that’s not a bad thing) • How supported emotions actually help build secure attachment • And why true independence comes from feeling safe enough — not forced If you’ve been feeling torn between wanting better sleep and wanting to stay responsive, this episode will help you understand how both can exist at the same time. Because you don’t have to choose between supporting your child and making changes, you can do both 💛 Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with. Follow along on social media for more sleep without sleep training tips. ⁠Alicia's Instagram⁠ ⁠Alicia's Tiktok⁠ ⁠Aleni's Instagram⁠ Work with Alicia View 1:1 support options and services here Purchase our comprehensive sleep courses Book a FREE 20 minute clarity call here Check out our free resources here **The information shared is not medical advice & is for entertainment purposes only

  8. Apr 2

    S3E21 Nap Transitions: When They Happen & How to Navigate Them

    Nap transitions are one of the most common questions parents ask about sleep. One day naps seem to be working… and the next it suddenly feels like everything has fallen apart. In this episode, I’m breaking down nap transitions from the newborn stage all the way through the toddler years so you can better understand what’s actually happening with your child’s sleep. I talk about: • How many naps newborns typically take (and why their sleep feels so unpredictable) • When the 3 to 2 nap transition usually happens and signs it might be starting • Why babies sometimes refuse their third nap but then treat bedtime like a nap • What bridge naps are and when they can help during transitions • When the 2 to 1 nap transition typically happens • Different ways to approach moving to one nap depending on your child’s sleep needs and wake window threshold • And when children usually drop naps completely If you’re currently navigating nap transitions with your baby or toddler, this episode will help you understand what’s normal and how to approach these changes with a little more confidence (and a lot less stress). Alicia & Aleni are both Moms and certified infant and toddler sleep specialists who don't use traditional sleep training methods to support the families that they work with. Follow along on social media for more sleep without sleep training tips. ⁠Alicia's Instagram⁠ ⁠Alicia's Tiktok⁠ ⁠Aleni's Instagram⁠ Work with Alicia View 1:1 support options and services here Purchase our comprehensive sleep courses Book a FREE 20 minute clarity call here Check out our free resources here **The information shared is not medical advice & is for entertainment purposes only

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You have likely heard the old saying "sleeping like a baby"....well whoever created this saying was clearly not a parent. Prepare for a rollercoaster of laughs and insights as we navigate the world of sleep and gentle parenting. From midnight lullabies to daytime chaos, we're here to share our own parenting triumphs and fiascos while debunking sleep training myths. So buckle up! Each week, as we dive headfirst into the adventure of parenting, unraveling the mysteries of sleep, and proving that laughter is the best medicine for those sleep-deprived nights.

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