The Good Girl Game Changers

Dr. Michelle McQuaid, Evie Wright
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Helping women break free of their ‘good girl’ beliefs with practical evidence-based tools to embody their 'unique self'. Subscribe to our newsletter at https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/ Join the Breaking Free Studio community - free for 30 days - for recorded practices, downloadable tools and a community of women breaking free of their 'good girl' beliefs: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio

  1. Sep 17

    Claire Dunn: Can The Magical Trifecta Help You Heal?

    Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio Are you fed up with trying to break free of your 'good girl' behaviours? Are you tired of trying to think your way to healing? Are you sick of doing it all on your own?  In this episode, Chelle sits down with rewilding facilitator and Nature's Apprentice founder Claire Dunn to unpack what she calls the "magical trifecta": a deep connection to ourselves, to community and to nature.  To learn more about Claire's work and her rewilding programs, visit naturesapprentice.com.au. 1:50 — Introducing Claire Dunn: writer, rewilding facilitator, and founder of Nature's Apprentice 2:03 — Claire shares her good girl story 4:03 — How Claire's environmental activism became its own form of perfectionism and led to burnout 6:00 — What drew Claire to rewilding and ancestral lifeways, and the missing piece she finally found living in the bush for a year 13:39 — The real lesson from that year in the bush: moving from doing to beingness, from imposed tasks to genuine desire 15:14 — Chelle shares her own experience in Claire's program 17:21 — Claire on what she sees in participants: the trifecta of connection to self, community, and nature and why women come looking for something therapy couldn't quite reach 22:55 — The concept of "injured instincts," Clarissa Pinkola Estés, and what happens when women reconnect with their wild inner landscape 27:27 — Claire's frameworks: eco-awakening, deep nature connection practices, and initiation — the shape of the path 36:26 — Practical advice for busy lives: curiosity as the fuel, sit spots, nature journaling, and why one wild day a month goes a long way 41:09 — Raising nature-connected kids: Claire on screen limits, unstructured outdoor play, boredom as a portal, and finding mentors outside the family

  2. Sep 10

    What's Joyfully Calling To Your Heart?

    When was the last time you followed what joyfully called to your heart? We've been paying much closer attention to those tugs lately, and they've shaped where this new season of the podcast is heading. But it helps to go back to where we started. Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio And a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. ⁠⁠Simply click here to discover more. 2:01: What 1,000 Australian women told us about 'good girl' conditioning and what breaking free looks like. 12:41: Evie's after-party: yoga teaching, turning 30, a burn-off on her grandparents' land, and being pulled toward somatic ecotherapy 16:53: Chelle's after-party: returning to forests after decades away, camping for the first time since 14, and finding community she didn't expect 22:24: Why trusting yourself first makes it easier to trust others and what it means to claim belonging rather than wait for it 24:58: The second round of research and introducing the 3 C's: Cherishing Nature, Cultivating Community, Claiming Belonging 32:31: What's coming in Season 5: guests, family members joining, and the path toward becoming uniquely us 33:52: Uniquely Us Tool: "Noticing What Calls to You": a four-step somatic practice for following your somethings 41:07: Post-show update

  3. Aug 6

    What If You Already Know How To Lead Your Self?

    Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio And a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. ⁠⁠Simply click here to discover more. Who's behind the wheel of your life this morning — you, or whichever part of you got there first? Two years into learning Internal Family Systems with Dr. Tori Olds, this aha episode unpacks three ideas that keep proving themselves true, and the tools that help put them into practice. 2:23 — Chelle recaps the IFS framework from episodes eight and nine: Self energy, managers, firefighters, and exiles — what they are and why they all have good intentions 5:18 — Aha number one: IFS doesn't work when the nervous system is still in the red or blue zone — you have to soothe the body before parts work becomes possible 10:26 — Tool one, find your Self: a guided practice to locate and anchor Self energy through memory, breath, and the 8Cs 14:11 — On building Self energy proactively, not just reaching for it in crisis 15:22 — Aha number two: the difference between genuine Self energy and a self-like part — one shows up with no agenda, the other is quietly trying to manage the outcome 20:31 — Tool two, move towards your parts: a guided practice using three steps — notice the part, get to know it, ask what it needs 27:39 — Aha number three: parts don't disappear, they evolve 29:12 — What it looks like when a part genuinely trusts Self enough to shift 35:23 — Tool three, check in on your parts: a short practice for regular part check-ins 38:00 — Chelle summarises all three ahas and tools 41:04 — Post-episode debrief

  4. Jul 29

    What If You Need More Time?

    Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio And a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. ⁠⁠Simply click here to discover more. You're not broken, and there are no bad parts of you — just a whole inner family that's been working overtime to keep you safe. In part two with Dr. Tori Olds, Chelle goes deeper into the IFS model: what managers and firefighters are actually doing for us, who the exiles are that they're protecting, and what becomes possible when the capital-S Self finally shows up to take over. 2:10 — Chelle shares part two: we've met Self, now we meet the parts — managers, firefighters, and what they're all protecting 4:07 — Chelle asks Tori to briefly re-ground listeners in the IFS framework from episode eight before going deeper 7:43 — Tori on why the word "part" matters 10:15 — The two types of protector parts explained: managers (proactive, preventative, keep things under control) and firefighters (reactive, desperate, break windows to get you out of the burning building) 13:48 — What firefighter parts look like: overspending, drinking, eating disorders, rage — and why they deserve compassion, not shame 15:35 — Chelle introduces the exiles: the wounded younger parts that managers and firefighters have been working so hard to protect us from ever feeling again 17:00 — Tori on what wounds us 19:22 — Chelle shares her own exile work 23:19 — Tori explains memory reconsolidation — how a real felt mismatch between an old knowing and a new experience can reorganise a neural network in seconds 30:52 — What happens to parts after unburdening 35:21 — Tori on doing IFS solo versus with a therapist or coach, and how to read your own system to know when you need more support 40:23 — Chelle summarises this episode 42:01 — Close and resources 43:07 — Post-episode debrief

  5. Jul 23

    Who's Looking After You?

    Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio And a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. ⁠Simply click here to discover more. What if the parts of you that people-please, perform perfectly, and protect everyone aren't the problem — they're just trying to keep you safe? In this episode, Dr. Tori Olds introduces the idea that you have a capital-S Self that was never broken to begin with. 0:02 — Chelle introduces Dr. Tori Olds, co-founder of Deep Eddy Psychotherapy. 3:48 — Tori's good girl moment: sitting her dad down in high school, feet on the floor, open posture, to tell him he'd hurt her feelings — and making her mum watch 6:16 — Tori explains what "Self" actually means in IFS: not ego to be dissolved, but our fully-online, liberated adult self — the one that acts from wisdom rather than rules 7:30 — What parts are, why they form, and why they're never the villain — just early survival strategies that haven't had a chance to update 10:21 — Chelle's aha: learning she wasn't supposed to judge or banish her parts, but love them — and how disorienting that felt at first 12:42 — How Dick Schwartz discovered the Self wasn't a theory he invented — it was what kept showing up when he asked parts to step back, including in people with serious trauma 17:47 — The 8 Cs of Self: curiosity, compassion, courage, clarity, calm, creativity, confidence, and connectedness 18:38 — How IFS parts connect to Sue Marriott's zones: when Self is online, the connection circuit is on; when parts take over, protection kicks in 20:10 — Tori on why our parts aren't wrong — they just learned their rules in a reality that no longer exists, and the brain holds on 31:17 — What unblending actually means: becoming mindful of a part rather than being swept away by it, like stepping back to observe without numbing out 38:49 — Tori on the difference between managing parts and healing them 43:00 — Post-episode debrief

  6. Jul 15

    What Does Your Body Need You To Know?

    Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio And a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. Simply click here to discover more. Your nervous system isn't broken — it's doing exactly what it learned to do. In this episode, Evie and Chelle unpack two years of living with Sue Marriott's secure relating work, and what shifts when you stop trying to think your way back to calm and start listening to your body first. 2:30 — Context on Sue Marriott's work and why Secure Relating became the book Chelle couldn't put down 4:07 — Aha number one: you can feel securely attached to yourself, not just your parents or your partner 12:30 — Tool one: Stay With Me: a guided reflection on noticing the urge to abandon yourself and asking what it would look like to stay 18:21 — Aha number two: you can't think your way out of your protection circuit 21:17 — Tool two: Take A Slow Gaze: a guided practice that widens peripheral vision to signal safety to the nervous system 26:23 — Aha number three: seeing and soothing isn't always one and done 32:06 — Tool three: The Safety Check Chat: four questions to settle the brain 38:00 — Chelle wraps up all three ahas and tools 40:27 — Post-episode debrief: Evie and Chelle note this was one of the recordings where both their nervous systems were actually in the green zone the whole time

  7. Jul 8

    Why Do We Settle For Less?

    Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio In this episode Sue shares the practical side of secure relating: how to move back toward connection from the red and blue zones, what rewiring actually requires, and why "safe enough" might be the most honest and liberating goal any of us can reach for. 0:01 — Evie and Chelle welcome listeners back and recap the three zones from episode five: green, red, and blue 3:33 — Evie and Chelle share what the zones have given them personally — more agency, curiosity, and compassion for themselves and others 5:51 — Sue returns and clarifies that the zones model is built on decades of others' research, brought together through her and Anne's clinical experience 8:05 — Chelle asks the practical question: how do we warm up out of the blue zone and back toward connection? 9:46 — Sue explains why people lean blue and what it actually looks like, including why a simple text can be a relational bid that blue-zone people miss entirely 13:20 — Sue introduces the idea of "expressed delight" as a way to warm up the nervous system and signal connection to others 15:22 — How to cool down from the red zone — turning attention back inward, expanding your sense of time, and "skipping to the end" rather than over-explaining 18:49 — Sue introduces "right channel, wrong volume" — recognising when your reaction is bigger than the situation actually calls for 20:01 — Chelle shares her own red zone pattern: the belief that if you have to ask, it doesn't count — and the shift of learning to ask anyway 20:57 — The 3 Rs framework: recognising, reflecting, and rewiring — and why insight alone isn't enough without embodied, repeated experience 24:40 — Sue on what rewiring actually looks like: safe relationships, pets, nature, and learning to let love in rather than just give it out 28:09 — The tie-dye puddle explained — what happens when our nervous system loses its organised strategy altogether, and how to find your way back to the spectrum 31:15 — Sue and Chelle on why the tie-dye puddle carries so much shame — and why it's simply a human biological state, not a moral failing 31:57 — "Safe enough" as the real goal — not perfect security, but enough safety to stay curious and keep going 34:35 — Sue on navigating an insecure world: understanding how fear is used to manipulate us, and how knowing your own nervous system keeps you from being swept along 37:09 — Sue closes with a quietly hopeful message. 39:39 — Post-episode debrief

  8. Jul 1

    Can You Trust Yourself Before Anyone Else?

    Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio What if the reason you keep shrinking yourself, over-explaining, or shutting down emotionally has nothing to do with a character flaw — and everything to do with your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do? In this episode, Chelle sits down with clinical social worker and author Sue Marriott to unpack the science of secure relating and what it means to finally hold your own in an insecure world. 0:02 — Evie and Chelle introduce Sue Marriott, co-host of Therapist Uncensored and co-author of Secure Relating, and share how this conversation changed the way they understand themselves 4:01 — Sue shares her own "good girl" moment 5:38 — Sue defines secure attachment and why it matters, starting with the idea that for many of us, learning to feel securely attached to ourselves comes before anything else 9:33 — Sue introduces secure relating as a shift away from fixed attachment categories toward something more fluid and hopeful, no matter your history 12:20 — The connection and protection circuits explained — what they are, why neither is shameful, and how "good girl" conditioning can quietly push us toward protection when we don't need to be there 20:11 — Sue on "clean pain" versus "dirty pain" — why expressing your true self can hurt, and why that pain is worth it 22:41 — The zone map introduced: green, red, and blue as a way to understand where your nervous system is at any given moment 24:31 — What the green zone actually feels like — not perfect calm, but being your right size, with your full mind available 27:24 — The red zone: urgency, over-explaining, people-pleasing as a way of losing yourself while trying to hold on to others 36:14 — The blue zone: withdrawal, stoicism, dismissing your own feelings — and why this one is harder to catch 46:05 — Chelle wraps up and teases part two with Sue, coming soon 47:38 — Post-episode debrief

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Helping women break free of their ‘good girl’ beliefs with practical evidence-based tools to embody their 'unique self'. Subscribe to our newsletter at https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/ Join the Breaking Free Studio community - free for 30 days - for recorded practices, downloadable tools and a community of women breaking free of their 'good girl' beliefs: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio

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  • Creator
    Dr. Michelle McQuaid, Evie Wright
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    71
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Dr. Michelle McQuaid, Evie Wright
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