The Secure Woman Podcast

Kendall Brown
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Welcome to The Secure Woman Podcast! If you've spent years in toxic relationships, falling for the wrong men, putting back the pieces of you heart after yet devastating breakup, trying breaking a trauma bond you can't shake, or lying awake wondering "why does this keep happening to me?", this is your place. The podcast for women who are done ending up in the same kind of toxic, avoidant, emotionally unavailable relationship on repeat, and ready to actually break the cycle for good. Hosted by Kendall Brown (@kendallbrowncoaching), expert Trauma & Relationship Coach and creator of The Secure Woman Era, this podcast goes deeper than the surface-level relationship advice you've been fed for years. Expect honest, spicy-but-tender conversations about... Expect honest, direct, spicy-but-tender conversations about: ❤️ Why you keep ending up with the same kind of guy in a different font ❤️ ❤️ Healing from toxic and narcissistic relationships at the root so you never end up in another! ❤️ How trauma bonds actually work & how to break them for good ❤️ Why the talk therapy you've been in and out of isn't working... ❤️ Anxious attachment, avoidant partners, and how to become securely attached ❤️ Becoming a magnet for the healthy, emotionally mature love you actually deserve PLUS... Solo episodes, client stories, guest expert conversations, and the real behind-the-scenes of doing this work Because the truth is, you're not doomed to keep repeating this. You just haven't done the kind of healing your body actually needs yet, the work that actually works (hint hint: Somatic healing) If you're ready to become the Secure Woman who is a magnet for the secure partner of your dreams... hit FOLLOW 💃

  1. 5d ago

    ❤️‍🔥 What Avoidants Are Really Thinking... | Secure Woman Stories with Sian Van Dyk

    🤔 Anxiously attached girlies... have you ever wondered what's going on inside the mind of an avoidant?! Wished you could take a peek and finally understand why they withdraw, pull away or shut down? This episode gives you exactly that! 🫣 Avoidantly attached girlies... are you sick of constantly self-sabotaging, blowing up and running away from relationships because you're scared to be vulnerable? On this episode of Secure Woman Stories, my past client Sian takes us inside her avoidant mind: what she felt, what she feared, what she was thinking when she ran from vulnerability AND where it aaall came from (plot twist: it's pretty similar to where anxious attachment comes from too). This is a MUST LISTEN for both anxious AND avoidant attachers! We talk about: What avoidant attachment feels like from the insideHow childhood emotional neglect teaches you to shut downWhy avoidants can end up in toxic relationships instead of healthy onesHer teenage years and what she was really trying not to feelWhat finally made her let someone in and ask for helpWhy secure love felt boring at first, and how she learned that calm is safetyHer #1 step for anyone ready to go from AVOIDANT to SECURE...Whether you're avoidant yourself, been hurt by avoidant's in the past, or trying to understand why someone pulled away, this episode will help you see avoidance for what it really is: protection & trauma response. 🎧 New episodes every week. Follow now so you don't miss what's coming. Follow Sian: @Sian_Moves MY LINKS: 📱 Follow or DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendallbrowncoaching/ ❤️‍🔥 Get my FREE Masterclass: Break Free From Toxic Love https://free-masterclass.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ⛓️ Get instant access to my Break Your Trauma Bond Mini-Course: https://breaker.kendallbrownwellness.com/ 💃 Apply for my Secure Woman Era 6-Month Mastermind: https://secure-woman-era.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ✨ Want to chat face to face about working with me? Book a FREE 45-min Breakthrough Call: https://tidycal.com/kendall-brown-coaching/free-breakthrough-call

  2. Sep 23

    If your dating to find YOUR PERSON, you need to STOP doing this...

    If you're dating to find your person - the man who loves you, adores you, who you can build a life with and grow old with - BUT you keep attracting the WRONG guys, this is a must listen episode And I'm not just saying that either, I'm speaking as a multi-certified Woman's Trauma & Relationship Coach of 5+ years. I spent nearly 10yrs in back-to-back relationships UNTIL I finally heal the root causes of my toxic dating and relationship patterns... and then 6 months after my break-up met the man of my dreams (and we've been together ever since, 3.5yrs now). I know, right now you're putting yourself out there. You're on the apps, saying yes to dates, giving people a chance. You know what you want in a partner, and yet somehow you keep ending up in the same place: another situationship that fizzles out...another relationship that looked promising until it wasn't... another "what went wrong?" conversation with your friends. It's easy to put it down to bad luck, bad timing, or "there are just no good ones left." BUT what if it's not luck at all? What if there's one habit quietly keeping you stuck, and you don't even realise you're doing it? In this episode, I'm sharing that one thing you need to STOP doing if you're serious about finding your person. 🎧 New episodes every week. Follow now so you don't miss an episode! LINKS: 📱 Follow or DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendallbrowncoaching/ ❤️‍🔥 Get my FREE Masterclass: Break Free From Toxic Love https://free-masterclass.kendallbrownwellness.com/ 💃 Apply for my Secure Woman Era 6-Month Mastermind: https://secure-woman-era.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ✨ Want to chat face to face about working with me? Book a FREE 45-min Breakthrough Call: https://tidycal.com/kendall-brown-coaching/free-breakthrough-call

  3. Sep 17

    How to get closure from your ex without an apology

    You're waiting for him to apologise, to finally take ownership, to acknowledge the hurt he caused you... And you've told yourself that once he does, THEN you'll be able to move on... Here's the truth: waiting for it is exactly what's keeping you stuck. Going no contact is one of the most important steps in breaking a trauma bond and actually moving forward BUT so many women can't fully do it, because some small part of you is still holding the door open for him to maybe slither back in... 🚩 You can't bring yourself to block him, unfollow him on IG, delete his number... 🚩 You're still telling yourself you just need "one last conversation" for closure... You need to listen to this episode! I break down what's actually underneath that waiting, AND I'll also walk you through the exact process I used and I use with my clients to give themselves closure instead of waiting for someone incapable of ever giving it to them, using somatic healing modalities that work 10x faster than talk therapy. If you're trying to break a trauma bond, go no contact for good, or finally heal from a toxic relationship but struggling to move on, this episode is for you. 🎧 New episodes every week. Follow now so you don't miss what's coming. LINKS: 📱 Follow or DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendallbrowncoaching/ ❤️‍🔥 Get my FREE Masterclass: Break Free From Toxic Love https://free-masterclass.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ⛓️ Get instant access to my Break Your Trauma Bond Mini-Course: https://breaker.kendallbrownwellness.com/ 💃 Apply for my Secure Woman Era 6-Month Mastermind: https://secure-woman-era.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ✨ Want to chat face to face about working with me? Book a FREE 45-min Breakthrough Call: https://tidycal.com/kendall-brown-coaching/free-breakthrough-call

  4. Sep 10

    ❤️‍🔥 Secure Woman Stories - Jessica Anne Pressler: Healing from Abuse with Your 'Traitor Within'

    ❤️‍🔥 Welcoming to the Secure Woman Stories Series, to share her powerful journey, Jessica Anne Pressler Jessica was not only a psychotherapist for nearly 30 years, she also has her own personal experiences as survivor of narcissistic abuse and abusive relationships. She is the living, breathing, walking proof that with deep healing can completely change your life, your self worth & your relationships — BUT she is passionate about acknowledging that to do this you have to go beyond just knowledge, understand and awareness. Her work today, including her book which comes out next month and her own podcast, focuses around her concept called The Traitor Within, which she is going to share about in depth today because it is a powerful approach to not only understanding yourself, your protector parts or the things you believe are self-sabotage, so that you too can finally heal for yourself and your relationships. 📖 GET JESSICA'S BOOK: https://www.jessicaannepressler.com/the-books ✍🏻 GET THE TRAITOR WITHIN 365 PROMPT JOURNAL HERE 🎙️ JESSICA'S PODCAST - The Traitor Within 📱 Connect With Jessica on Instagram @jessicaannepressler

  5. Aug 26

    The "Self-Devotion Project": How to Get Your Spark Back After a Toxic Relationship

    This episode is for any women who... 💔 you're single for the first time in a long time 🌍 you made your ex (or the relationship) your entire world 😨 you're scared of being alone 🤦🏻‍♀️ you feel like you've lost your spark or joy because of your toxic relationship 📲 you know your pattern is to spiral into dating apps the second loneliness hits I call it the Self Devotion Project challenge and I give it to all my clients who are going through exactly what you are & now I'm sharing it with you, step-by-step. Let's get into it! 🎧 New episodes every week. Follow now so you don't miss what's coming. LINKS: 📱 Follow or DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendallbrowncoaching/ ❤️‍🔥 Get my FREE Masterclass: Break Free From Toxic Love https://free-masterclass.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ⛓️ Get instant access to my Break Your Trauma Bond: Mini-Course: https://breaker.kendallbrownwellness.com/ 💃 Apply for my Secure Woman Era 6-Months Mastermind: https://secure-woman-era.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ✨ Want to chat face to face about working with me - Book a FREE 45min Breakthrough Call: https://tidycal.com/kendall-brown-coaching/free-breakthrough-call

  6. Aug 19

    Why You're Not Over Your Toxic Ex: 5 Things Keeping You Attached...

    If you're still not over your toxic or narcissistic ex, it's probably not for the reasons you think... You've talked about it. Researched it. Analysed every conversation looking for answers. Maybe even waited months for the closure you were sure would finally set you free. And yet, somehow, you're still not over him 😵‍💫 In this episode, I break down the 5 major things that feel like healing from a toxic ex, but are actually keeping the trauma bond and attachment alive. I know you are doing some of these & they might genuinely surprise you, because they're the exact things most people are told TO do after a breakup. But a toxic, narcissistic or abusive relationship breakup is NOT like a normal breakup. You need to heal and move on from it differently (and most people don't understand this, unless they've been through it... I have! And I've helped over 100+ women heal from their's too) I'll also walk you through what actually DOES help you get over a toxic ex for good so you don't repeat the pattern with someone new. If you're trying to break a trauma bond, heal from narcissistic abuse, or finally get over a toxic ex, this episode will show you what's actually keeping you stuck. 🎧 New episodes every week. Follow now so you don't miss what's coming. LINKS: 📱 Follow or DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendallbrowncoaching/ ❤️‍🔥 Get my FREE Masterclass: Break Free From Toxic Love https://free-masterclass.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ⛓️ Get instant access to my Break Your Trauma Bond: Mini-Course: https://breaker.kendallbrownwellness.com/ 💃 Apply for my Secure Woman Era 6-Months Mastermind: https://secure-woman-era.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ✨ Want to chat face to face about working with me - Book a FREE 45min Breakthrough Call: https://tidycal.com/kendall-brown-coaching/free-breakthrough-call

  7. Aug 12

    How I Met The Man Of My Dreams 6 Months After My Toxic Relationship Breakup

    For nearly 10 years I was in back-to-back toxic relationships with avoidant, emotionally unavailable, emotionally abusive, narcissists... And after ending a 4-year toxic relationship, I did something most people don't do after a breakup... Instead of jumping straight into dating, I dedicated the first 3 months entirely to deep healing. In this episode, I'm walking you through exactly what that healing looked like, and why it's the reason I met my now-partner just 6 months after that breakup (and we've been together for over 3 years since). I break down the 5 things I focused on healing through somatic trauma healing (the work that moves 10x faster than talk therapy) I share why trying to "move on" too fast after a toxic relationship never actually works, and why avoiding your grief only delays your healing. If you don't process it, break the trauma bond, and heal the wounds underneath it, you'll keep repeating the same relationship cycle with a different man. If you're healing from a toxic relationship, working through a trauma bond, or trying to break your anxious attachment patterns for good, this episode will show you exactly what the process actually looks like, and why it's so worth doing properly. 🎧 New episodes every week. Follow now so you don't miss what's coming. LINKS: 📱 Follow or DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendallbrowncoaching/ ❤️‍🔥 Get my FREE Masterclass: Break Free From Toxic Love https://free-masterclass.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ⛓️ Get instant access to my Break Your Trauma Bond: Mini-Course: https://breaker.kendallbrownwellness.com/ 💃 Apply for my Secure Woman Era 6-Months Mastermind: https://secure-woman-era.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ✨ Want to chat face to face about working with me - Book a FREE 45min Breakthrough Call: https://tidycal.com/kendall-brown-coaching/free-breakthrough-call

  8. Aug 5

    Why Healthy Love Can Feel So Scary & Triggering... (even when it's what you want!)

    WELCOME TO SEASON 3!! I'm back from a wee podcast hiatus, and I thought I'd kick things off with a little behind the scenes of what I'm currently healing through with EMDR therapy. Here's the truth no one tells you: a secure, healthy relationship will still be triggering, espeically if all you've ever known is toxic relationships. We're sold this idea that once you find "the one," or "a secure partner" the all your problems and anxiety disappears. But 3.5 years into the healthiest relationship of my life, I'm learning that calm doesn't always feel calming. Sometimes it feels unfamiliar, unsafe, even scary — and that's exactly what's brought me back to investing in expert support: In this episode, I'm unpacking: ⭐ The real difference between being triggered in a toxic relationship vs. a healthy one (and how to know which one you're actually in) ⭐ Why your nervous system might crave intensity, chaos, or reassurance-seeking even when nothing is wrong. ⭐ How childhood attachment wounds and unhealed trauma quietly sabotage good relationships ⭐ Why awareness alone doesn't change anything ⭐ What I'm actually healing so healthy love feels fully safe! If you've ever self-sabotaged a good thing, felt "unsafe" in safety, or wondered why peace doesn't feel peaceful yet — this episode is for you. 🎧 New episodes every week. Follow now so you don't miss what's coming. LINKS: 📱 Follow or DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendallbrowncoaching/ ❤️‍🔥 Get my FREE Masterclass: Break Free From Toxic Love https://free-masterclass.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ⛓️ Get instant access to my Break Your Trauma Bond: Mini-Course: https://breaker.kendallbrownwellness.com/ 💃 Apply for my Secure Woman Era 6-Months Mastermind: https://secure-woman-era.kendallbrownwellness.com/ ✨ Want to chat face to face about working with me - Book a FREE 45min Breakthrough Call: https://tidycal.com/kendall-brown-coaching/free-breakthrough-call

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Welcome to The Secure Woman Podcast! If you've spent years in toxic relationships, falling for the wrong men, putting back the pieces of you heart after yet devastating breakup, trying breaking a trauma bond you can't shake, or lying awake wondering "why does this keep happening to me?", this is your place. The podcast for women who are done ending up in the same kind of toxic, avoidant, emotionally unavailable relationship on repeat, and ready to actually break the cycle for good. Hosted by Kendall Brown (@kendallbrowncoaching), expert Trauma & Relationship Coach and creator of The Secure Woman Era, this podcast goes deeper than the surface-level relationship advice you've been fed for years. Expect honest, spicy-but-tender conversations about... Expect honest, direct, spicy-but-tender conversations about: ❤️ Why you keep ending up with the same kind of guy in a different font ❤️ ❤️ Healing from toxic and narcissistic relationships at the root so you never end up in another! ❤️ How trauma bonds actually work & how to break them for good ❤️ Why the talk therapy you've been in and out of isn't working... ❤️ Anxious attachment, avoidant partners, and how to become securely attached ❤️ Becoming a magnet for the healthy, emotionally mature love you actually deserve PLUS... Solo episodes, client stories, guest expert conversations, and the real behind-the-scenes of doing this work Because the truth is, you're not doomed to keep repeating this. You just haven't done the kind of healing your body actually needs yet, the work that actually works (hint hint: Somatic healing) If you're ready to become the Secure Woman who is a magnet for the secure partner of your dreams... hit FOLLOW 💃

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  • Creator
    Kendall Brown
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    68
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Kendall Brown
  • Show Website
    The Secure Woman Podcast

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