You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

Torie Wiksell
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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a mother who had an unmanaged personality disorder and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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  1. 2d ago

    You Know What You "Should" Do, You Just Can't Bring Yourself to Do It

    You've known for months exactly what boundary you need to set. And every time you sit down to do it, something in your body says absolutely not, and you tell yourself you'll deal with it later. If you grew up with a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder or narcissistic traits, you learned early on that reading the room kept you safe and while expressing your emotions was a problem. It's one of the many reasons cycle breakers often grow up to be great intellectualizers who find themselves struggling to make the changes they desperately want to make. In this episode you'll learn: Why you know what you "should" do but can't bring yourself to actually do it The difference between knowing what to do and having the skill set to tolerate how distressing change can beWhy the hardest part of a boundary is almost never the logistics, it's the guilt and anxiety that come afterThe story your brain tells about laziness and lack of motivation, and what's actually happeningWhy being too close to the fire makes your own family the hardest one to see clearlyIf you've spent years trying to understand your dysfunctional family system and still can't bring yourself to make the changes you need to, this episode is for you. Grab Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent: A 12-page step-by-step plan to walk you through the before, during, and after, so you can finally go into your next interaction with clarity and confidence in your approach: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is my self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. Inside, we untangle dysfunctional family systems, boundaries with toxic parents, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Access two new bonus episodes every month plus the full archive of older episodes when you join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed Follow me on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow me on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  2. 3d ago • The Private Feed Only

    You Know What You "Should" Do, You Just Can't Bring Yourself to Do It

    You've known for months exactly what boundary you need to set. And every time you sit down to do it, something in your body says absolutely not, and you tell yourself you'll deal with it later. If you grew up with a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder or narcissistic traits, you learned early on that reading the room kept you safe and while expressing your emotions was a problem. It's one of the many reasons cycle breakers often grow up to be great intellectualizers who find themselves struggling to make the changes they desperately want to make. In this episode you'll learn: -Why you know what you "should" do but can't bring yourself to actually do it -The difference between knowing what to do and having the skill set to tolerate how distressing change can be -Why the hardest part of a boundary is almost never the logistics, it's the guilt and anxiety that come after -The story your brain tells about laziness and lack of motivation, and what's actually happening -Why being too close to the fire makes your own family the hardest one to see clearly If you've spent years trying to understand your dysfunctional family system and still can't bring yourself to make the changes you need to, this episode is for you. Grab Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent: A 12-page step-by-step plan to walk you through the before, during, and after, so you can finally go into your next interaction with clarity and confidence in your approach: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is my self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. Inside, we untangle dysfunctional family systems, boundaries with toxic parents, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow me on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow me on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist

    You Know What You "Should" Do, You Just Can't Bring Yourself to Do It

  3. Sep 1

    The Story Behind Why I'm So Passionate About Helping Adults Navigate Their Dysfunctional Family Dynamics (Part Two)

    A quick update first- I'm shifting into a more sustainable rhythm for the podcast this fall, then I get into part two of my story. I talk about growing up with a Jekyll and Hyde mom, what that taught me, and how my understanding of what was actually going on with her has changed over the years. I talk about how if I could stumble through my own healing as clumsily as I have and still end up with the skills and support I have now, I firmly believe anyone who is invested in breaking the cycle is capable of learning how to do so too.  >>>Grab my new guide, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is my self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers breaking the cycle: navigating dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Want bonus episodes and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed Follow Torie on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  4. Aug 31 • The Private Feed Only

    Deciding Whether or Not to Have a Relationship With Your Parent Is...Complicated

    Today I'm sharing why I feel so strongly about whether or not people should have a relationship with a parent who has narcissistic personality disorder, unmanaged borderline personality disorder, or traits of both. I talk about why no contact is not a decision cycle breakers make lightly, why I believe cycle breakers need to understand what a realistic relationship with a parent like this would actually look like, and what I think is a much more useful question than "am I making the right choice." I also give you a quick update on some changes coming to the public feed.

    Deciding Whether or Not to Have a Relationship With Your Parent Is...Complicated

  5. Aug 31 • The Private Feed Only

    The Story Behind Why I'm So Passionate About Helping Adults Navigate Their Dysfunctional Family Dynamics (Part Two)

    A quick update first- I'm shifting into a more sustainable rhythm for the podcast this fall, then I get into part two of my story. I talk about growing up with a Jekyll and Hyde mom, what that taught me, and how my understanding of what was actually going on with her has changed over the years. I talk about how if I could stumble through my own healing as clumsily as I have and still end up with the skills and support I have now, I firmly believe anyone who is invested in breaking the cycle is capable of learning how to do so too. >>>Grab my new guide, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is my self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers breaking the cycle: navigating dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow me on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow me on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist

    The Story Behind Why I'm So Passionate About Helping Adults Navigate Their Dysfunctional Family Dynamics (Part Two)

  6. Aug 25

    Quick Update

    A quick update on the podcast and when the next episode will drop. Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  7. Aug 12 • The Private Feed Only

    Same House, Different Realities: Sibling Relationships as a Cycle Breaking Adult

    It can be incredibly frustrating to listen to your sibling describe a childhood you don't recognize at all. Today I'm talking about why siblings raised within the same dysfunctional family dynamics often end up with such different memories of it. We dive into how being the protector or having one changes everything and the grief of loving a sibling you might not be able to have a close relationship with.

    Same House, Different Realities: Sibling Relationships as a Cycle Breaking Adult

  8. Aug 11

    The Story Behind Why I'm So Passionate About Helping Adults Navigate Their Dysfunctional Family Dynamics (Part One)

    >>>Grab my new guide, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide This week I'm sharing more about me: who I am, why I do the work that I do, and what led me to start this podcast. In this episode you'll learn: About my clinical background and how that led to me working almost entirely with adults who have parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disordersAbout my attempts to fill the gap so many cycle breakers face when searching for supportHow to work together and the various ways I can helpReady to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is my self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Want bonus episodes and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed Follow me on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow me on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Grab my new guide: Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent A 12-page step-by-step plan for navigating these dynamics with more of your sanity intact: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a mother who had an unmanaged personality disorder and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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