You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

Torie Wiksell
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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist, Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a narcissistic mother and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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  1. 3d ago · The Private Feed Only

    Holiday Traditions Your Family Can’t Ruin

    In this private feed episode, we chat about how to actually enjoy the holiday season when triggers are everywhere you look. Listen to hear my thoughts on creating a holiday season that includes traditions your family can't ruin. I also talk about upcoming holiday episodes of the podcast and how to send in a request for a holiday topic you'd like me to cover.

    Holiday Traditions Your Family Can’t Ruin

  2. 4d ago

    Not Reacting to Your Narcissistic Parent Can’t Be the Goal

    When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, it's easy to fall into the trap of trying to stay calmer and less reactive around your difficult parent. But, as we talk about in this episode, that's often not the best goal. Listen to learn: Why making “not reacting” the goal teaches you to become desensitized to abuse, and what to aim for insteadHow realistic expectations and a clear plan shift the focus from dissociating to protecting yourselfThe choices you have as an adult and how those differ from the ones you had growing upStressing about an interaction with your parent this holiday season? Inside my guide, I walk you through how to prepare for your next interaction with a narcissistic, emotionally immature, or otherwise toxic parent, what to do when you get triggered, and how to take care of yourself after, when the shame spiral hits. Grab your copy: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Want ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  3. 5d ago · The Private Feed Only

    Not Reacting to Your Narcissistic Parent Can’t Be the Goal

    When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, it's easy to fall into the trap of trying to stay calmer and less reactive around your difficult parent. But, as we talk about in this episode, that's often not the best goal. Listen to learn: -Why making “not reacting” the goal teaches you to become desensitized to abuse, and what to aim for instead -How realistic expectations and a clear plan shift the focus from dissociating to protecting yourself -The choices you have as an adult and how those differ from the ones you had growing up Stressing about an interaction with your parent this holiday season? Inside my guide, I walk you through how to prepare for your next interaction with a narcissistic, emotionally immature, or otherwise toxic parent, what to do when you get triggered, and how to take care of yourself after, when the shame spiral hits. Grab your copy: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Want ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist

    Not Reacting to Your Narcissistic Parent Can’t Be the Goal

  4. Oct 19 · The Private Feed Only

    The Real Cost of Going With the Flow This Holiday

    Does it feel like you even have a choice when it comes to seeing your family for the holidays this year? Growing up in a dysfunctional family system often makes it feel like diverting from the status quo would be far too exhausting to even consider. In this episode of You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed, we break down the nuance behind that common belief and how to start looking at things through a different (and healthier) lens. Heading into a holiday visit? Torie’s guide, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent, helps you prepare for the visit, get through the moments when you’re triggered, and take care of yourself afterward: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Ready to get serious about your boundaries? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie’s self-guided course on setting and enforcing boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back: confidentboundaries.com/course

    The Real Cost of Going With the Flow This Holiday

  5. Oct 13

    When Your Parent Says You’re the Toxic One

    Narcissistic, emotionally immature, and otherwise toxic parents love to say their adult child is the toxic one or that it's them walking on eggshells around their child. But despite this being a common talking point in dysfunctional family systems, it's not exactly accurate as to what's happening underneath the surface. In this episode we discuss: Why adult children and parents aren’t peers, even when you’re both adultsThe difference between a parent walking on eggshells and a child walking on eggshells, and why they aren’t apples to applesWhat’s often underneath your parent saying, “I have to walk on eggshells around you”How context gets stripped out of these family dynamics, and why the nuance matters so much for adult children of narcissistic parentsReady to go deeper? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie’s self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course Want ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join the private feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent. Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  6. Oct 12 · The Private Feed Only

    When Your Parent Says You’re the Toxic One

    Narcissistic, emotionally immature, and otherwise toxic parents love to say their adult child is the toxic one or that it's them walking on eggshells around their child. But despite this being a common talking point in dysfunctional family systems, it's not exactly accurate as to what's happening underneath the surface. In this episode we discuss: -Why adult children and parents aren’t peers, even when you’re both adults -The difference between a parent walking on eggshells and a child walking on eggshells, and why they aren’t apples to apples -What’s often underneath your parent saying, “I have to walk on eggshells around you” -How context gets stripped out of these family dynamics, and why the nuance matters so much for adult children of narcissistic parents Ready to go deeper? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie’s self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course Want ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join the private feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent. Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide

    When Your Parent Says You’re the Toxic One

  7. Sep 30 · The Private Feed Only

    Why Your Family Acts Like They Don't See It

    This episode is about the hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil stance so many members of dysfunctional family systems take in regards to a narcissistic parent's or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder's abusive behaviors. In it, we chat about why the enabling parent, siblings, and extended family so often minimize or deny what's happening. We also cover whether or not they can truly be oblivious to the abuse and dysfunction.

    Why Your Family Acts Like They Don't See It

  8. Sep 29

    Boundaries You Set With Yourself

    When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, boundaries are understandably complicated. But, what if you could start making changes by setting some with yourself? In this episode you'll learn: Boundaries with yourself: what they are, and why knowing your limits comes before anything you communicate to your parentWhy the urge to explain every change runs so deep when you grow up in this type of family dynamicWhat this can look like IRLWhy this isn't all or nothing, and what small steps look likeReady to go deeper? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie's self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course Want access to ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent. Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist, Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a narcissistic mother and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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