You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

Torie Wiksell
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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a mother who had an unmanaged personality disorder and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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  1. Aug 12 • The Private Feed Only

    Same House, Different Realities: Sibling Relationships as a Cycle Breaking Adult

    It can be incredibly frustrating to listen to your sibling describe a childhood you don't recognize at all. Today I'm talking about why siblings raised within the same dysfunctional family dynamics often end up with such different memories of it. We dive into how being the protector or having one changes everything and the grief of loving a sibling you might not be able to have a close relationship with.

    Same House, Different Realities: Sibling Relationships as a Cycle Breaking Adult

  2. Aug 11

    The Story Behind Why I'm So Passionate About Helping Adults Navigate Their Dysfunctional Family Dynamics (Part One)

    >>>Grab my new guide, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide This week I'm sharing more about me: who I am, why I do the work that I do, and what led me to start this podcast. In this episode you'll learn: About my clinical background and how that led to me working almost entirely with adults who have parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disordersAbout my attempts to fill the gap so many cycle breakers face when searching for supportHow to work together and the various ways I can helpReady to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is my self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Want bonus episodes and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed Follow me on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow me on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Grab my new guide: Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent A 12-page step-by-step plan for navigating these dynamics with more of your sanity intact: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  3. Aug 11 • The Private Feed Only

    The Story Behind Why I'm So Passionate About Helping Adults Navigate Their Dysfunctional Family Dynamics (Part One)

    >>>Grab my new guide, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide This week I'm sharing more about me: who I am, why I do the work that I do, and what led me to start this podcast. In this episode you'll learn about: -My clinical background and how that led to me working almost entirely with adults who have parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders -My attempts to fill the gap so many cycle breakers face when searching for support -How to work together and the various ways I can help Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is my self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow me on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow me on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Grab my new guide: Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent A 12-page step-by-step plan for navigating these dynamics with more of your sanity intact: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide

    The Story Behind Why I'm So Passionate About Helping Adults Navigate Their Dysfunctional Family Dynamics (Part One)

  4. Aug 4

    When "I'm Sorry" Doesn't Feel Like a Real Apology

    When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, apologies often function as a way to end the conversation, avoid accountability, or label you as the problem. And like many aspects of these types of family dynamics, apologies can be confusing and leave you replaying the conversation, wondering if you're being unreasonable by not fully accepting them. In this episode you'll learn: What a healthy apology actually looks likeWhy "I'm sorry" can be a completely reasonable apology in one relationship and feel hollow in anotherThe reason your gut flags an apology as insincere, and what your brain is actually trackingHow the gap between what you experienced and what you're told to feel about it erodes self-trust over timeWhy not accepting an apology, or accepting it cautiously, can be a reasonable responseReady to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is Torie's self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Want ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join the private feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Free guide: 10 Boundary Mistakes That Keep You Stuck If your boundaries keep blowing up or leaving you drowning in guilt, it's usually not you. Learn what problems actually get in the way of setting successful boundaries with toxic parents by downloading my free guide: confidentboundaries.com/opt-in Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  5. Aug 4 • The Private Feed Only

    When "I'm Sorry" Doesn't Feel Like a Real Apology

    When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, apologies often function as a way to end the conversation, avoid accountability, or label you as the problem. And like many aspects of these types of family dynamics, apologies can be confusing and leave you replaying the conversation, wondering if you're being unreasonable by not fully accepting them. In this episode you'll learn: -What a healthy apology actually looks like -Why "I'm sorry" can be a completely reasonable apology in one relationship and feel hollow in another -The reason your gut flags an apology as insincere, and what your brain is actually tracking -How the gap between what you experienced and what you're told to feel about it erodes self-trust over time -Why not accepting an apology, or accepting it cautiously, can be a reasonable response Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is Torie's self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Free guide: 10 Boundary Mistakes That Keep You Stuck If your boundaries keep blowing up or leaving you drowning in guilt, it's usually not you. Learn what problems actually get in the way of setting successful boundaries with toxic parents by downloading my free guide: confidentboundaries.com/opt-in

    When "I'm Sorry" Doesn't Feel Like a Real Apology

  6. Jul 31 • The Private Feed Only

    My Messy July and What It Taught Me

    In this episode of The Private Feed, I chat about navigating my chaotic July as an imperfect (but trying!) cycle breaker. We dive into how hard it is to be a human sometimes and the unique challenges of being a cycle breaker when life gets complicated.

    My Messy July and What It Taught Me

  7. Jul 28

    Do Coping Skills Actually Work? What Cycle Breakers Need to Know About Healing from Family Trauma

    Coping skills and even CBT are getting demonized as shallow fixes that ignore trauma. But they play an important part in healing from the trauma of growing up with a parent who has narcissistic personality disorder or unmanaged borderline personality disorder. And it's why so many cycle breakers end up skipping the tools that would actually help them get through hard moments of their healing, like setting a boundary or facing a triggering conversation with their parent. In this episode you'll learn: The honest limits of coping skills, including what they can't doAccessible options for real-life stressful momentsWhat conversations about healing from trauma often get wrongHow coping skills support you through the harder partsReady to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is Torie's self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow Torie on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Want the more episodes of You're Not Crazy? Join The Private Feed for access to bonus and ad-free episodes plus the full archive: confidentboundaries.com/private Free guide: 10 Boundary Mistakes That Keep You Stuck If your boundaries keep blowing up or leaving you drowning in guilt, it's usually not you. Learn what problems actually get in the way of setting successful boundaries with toxic parents by downloading my free guide: confidentboundaries.com/opt-in Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  8. Jul 28 • The Private Feed Only

    Do Coping Skills Actually Work? What Cycle Breakers Need to Know About Healing from Family Trauma

    Coping skills and even CBT are getting demonized as shallow fixes that ignore trauma. But they play an important part in healing from the trauma of growing up with a parent who has narcissistic personality disorder or unmanaged borderline personality disorder. And it's why so many cycle breakers end up skipping the tools that would actually help them get through hard moments of their healing, like setting a boundary or facing a triggering conversation with their parent. In this episode you'll learn: -The honest limits of coping skills, including what they can't do -Accessible options for real-life stressful moments -What conversations about healing from trauma often get wrong -How coping skills support you through the harder parts Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is Torie's self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow Torie on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Free guide: 10 Boundary Mistakes That Keep You Stuck If your boundaries keep blowing up or leaving you drowning in guilt, it's usually not you. Learn what problems actually get in the way of setting successful boundaries with toxic parents by downloading my free guide: confidentboundaries.com/opt-in

    Do Coping Skills Actually Work? What Cycle Breakers Need to Know About Healing from Family Trauma
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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a mother who had an unmanaged personality disorder and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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