Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

Karen Bigman
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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. We'll discuss dating and sex post-divorce, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs of rediscovering intimacy. Karen dives deep into the impact of hormonal changes on sexuality, examining how these shifts influence desire, pleasure, and overall sexual health across different ages. The podcast encompasses a wide array of topics, including polyamory, kink, BDSM, and sexual dysfunction, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of modern sexual dynamics. Taboo to Truth is a platform for open, honest conversations about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Join me to embrace your sexuality, empower your journey, and break free from societal taboos. Follow me: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/ *The information on this podcast does not constitute medical advice and is for informational purposes only.

  1. 1D AGO

    Sex Magic, Anal Play, and Orgasmic Power with Venus O'Hara | Ep. 152 (Part 2)

    In part two of my conversation with Venus O’Hara, we go beyond toys and into power. Venus shares the beginner anal toy she designed for absolute first-timers and the triple-motor toy created for layered external pleasure without pressure to penetrate. We talk about new tech in sex toys, from thrusting and tapping to air stimulation, and what actually feels different versus what is hype. Then we shift into something deeper. Venus explains orgasmic manifestation and how she used sexual energy to transform her life. We unpack sex magic, intention setting, affirmations during arousal, and why sexuality is powerful rather than shameful. We close with my signature questions, including her definition of sex, her most impactful orgasm, and the fantasy she still wants to experience. This episode is about agency, curiosity, and using your pleasure as power. Timestamps: 0:00 Why we had to go deeper 1:05 Beginner anal design and safety basics 3:15 The triple-motor toy and layered stimulation 5:40 New tech beyond vibration 7:30 AI and the future of sex tech 9:05 The three levels of sexuality 11:20 Discovering sex transmutation 13:30 How orgasmic manifestation works 16:00 Intention setting and affirmations during arousal 18:20 Definition of sex and sacred energy exchange 19:45 Her most impactful orgasm 21:00 Fantasy still to be explored 22:10 Where to find Venus and final thoughts Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About Venus O'Hara: Raising orgasmic awareness. Author. British expat in Spain. Sex toy tester & designer. Brand Ambassador for Satisfyer. YouTuber. Fetishist. Feminist. Vegan. Yogini. Zen. Creator of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast. Connect with Venus O’Hara: Website: https://www.venusohara.org/about-venus-ohara Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/venusohara/ Book: a...

    18 min

  2. 5D AGO

    5 Ways to Support Your Partner During Menopause This Valentine’s Day

    If you love her but feel like you are one wrong sentence away from a blow up, this episode is for you. In this Valentine’s Day special, I speak directly to men who want to support their partner through menopause without making things worse. Mood swings. Withdrawal. Irritability. Low libido. Exhaustion. These are not signs your relationship is failing. They are signs her hormones and nervous system are under pressure. I break down five practical tips that help you show up steady, calm, and supportive. You will learn how to regulate instead of fix, how to stop taking it personally, how to bring back touch without pressure, how to ask better questions, and how to reframe Valentine’s Day around relief instead of performance. I also share thoughtful gift ideas that say “I see you” without implying sex is expected. Cooling tools. Nervous system support. Body safe lubricants. Comfort focused intimacy. Menopause does not ruin relationships. Misunderstanding does. When you show up informed and grounded, she feels safe. And safety is the foundation of desire. In this episode: 00:00 One Wrong Sentence Away From a Blow Up 00:26 Show Intro and What This Episode Covers 00:55 Substack Community Announcement 01:28 What Menopause Is Really Doing Behind the Scenes 02:05 Tip 1 Stop Fixing and Start Regulating 02:50 Cooling Tools and Smart Valentine’s Gift Ideas 03:20 Tip 2 Don’t Take It Personally 04:05 FirmTech Sponsor Message 04:45 Tip 3 Bring Back Touch Without Pressure 05:32 Tip 4 Ask Better Questions 06:05 Lubricants and Comfort Focused Intimacy 06:20 Tip 5 Make Valentine’s Day About Relief 06:45 Men and Menopause Course and Closing Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! 🔥Exclusive VIP Products & Discounts 🔥 Get the toys and products I actually recommend. Use my personal discount codes! 🧊 Shop my favorite Cooling Tools! Cooling Sheets https://amzn.to/3O2zyHW Cooling Pillow Cases https://amzn.to/4rCfhaj Personal Air Conditioner https://amzn.to/4ttkDqu Cooling Necklace https://amzn.to/4ttkGTc Cooling Bracelet https://amzn.to/4qjsrIf Handheld Fan https://amzn.to/4qjsrIf Bra Inserts https://amzn.to/3O9s3yH 🕯️ Shop my favorite massage candles 🛒 Link: https://www.eyeoflove.com/collections/massage-candle?source=aw&sv1=affiliate&sv_campaign_id=2661196&awc=100459_1770841541_f93e5a416535be534c557d25c95deaab 💦 Shop my favorite sub from at Pjur 🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur 🍆 Save 15% off MaxPR using code TABOO15 🛒 Link: a href="http://myfirmtech.com"...

    7 min

  3. FEB 10

    What Makes a Good Sex Toy? A Professional Sex Toy Tester Tells All | Ep. 152 (Part 1)

    In this episode, I sit down with Venus O'Hara, one of the most trusted voices in pleasure education, to talk about sex toys for midlife bodies. We break down what makes a toy worth your time, how to spot safe materials, and why novelty alone does not equal pleasure. Venus shares how her standards changed after reviewing over a thousand products and what consistently delivers real orgasms in midlife. We also talk about boundaries, nervous system safety, and why confidence matters more than hype. This is a grounded, practical conversation for anyone who wants better sex without embarrassment or guesswork. In this episode: 0:00 Why I listen to professional sex toy testers 0:36 What this show is really about 1:15 Substack announcement and community invite 2:00 Welcome to Taboo To Truth 2:42 Introducing Venus O’Hara 3:55 What makes a sex toy worth reviewing 5:30 Why Venus avoids realistic toys 6:55 The rabbit vibrator and external use 9:10 Why penetration is not always the goal 10:45 Toys as tools for couples and connection 12:10 Erotic manifestation and fantasy 14:00 Testing toys alone vs with partners 15:20 Vibrators, insecurity, and partner dynamics 16:55 Panty vibes, humor, and playful teasing 18:30 Toys for menopause, dryness, and ED 19:55 Wands, massage, and slowing things down 20:50 Part two teaser and closing remarks Part 2 drops next Tuesday! Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Raising orgasmic awareness. Author. British expat in Spain. Sex toy tester & designer. Brand Ambassador for Satisfyer. YouTuber. Fetishist. Feminist. Vegan. Yogini. Zen. Creator of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast. Connect with Venus O’Hara: Website: https://www.venusohara.org/about-venus-ohara Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/venusohara/ p

    21 min

  4. FEB 6

    Anal Sex 101: Everything You’re Curious About And Too Afraid To Ask

    In this episode, I break down anal sex without hype, fear, or pressure. I explain why curiosity shows up in midlife and why it has nothing to do with identity or performance. You learn how pleasure works anatomically, what safety really looks like, and why pain is never the goal. I cover common myths, real risks, emotional blocks, and how to talk about curiosity without turning it into pressure. This episode gives you information so you decide from choice, not shame or fear. In This Episode: 0:00 Anal feels less scary than you think 0:30 Podcast intro and what this episode is really about 1:10 Curiosity, fear, and why anal feels taboo 2:05 Why curiosity shows up in midlife 2:55 Why anal pleasure exists anatomically 3:55 Clearing identity myths and penetration misconceptions 4:45 Safety, condoms, and basic preparation 5:45 Mess anxiety, prep myths, and expectations 6:35 Pain myths, lube, and pacing 7:20 Psychological blocks, shame, and consent 8:20 Choice, communication, and closing message Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! 🔥 b-Vibe Best Butt Plugs and Anal Sex Toys for Solo & Couples🛒 https://bvibe.pxf.io/YRr3oP Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: a href="https://www.taboototruth.com/"...

    9 min

  5. FEB 3

    HRT Didn’t Fix Your Libido? Here’s Why | Ep. 150

    Hormone therapy helps. But it does not fix everything. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Diane Mueller to break down why libido often fades again after the initial HRT boost. You learn why desire is multi-layered, why lab work often misses real problems, and how blood flow, thyroid health, nervous system overload, pelvic floor function, and relationship dynamics all shape your sex drive. We also talk about erotic repair, redefining sex, rebuilding safety, and why pleasure is a health practice, not a luxury. If you feel frustrated, broken, or confused about why hormones did not solve your libido, this episode gives you clarity and next steps. Timestamps: 0:00 Celebrating 150 episodes and why none of us are broken 1:22 What Taboo To Truth is really about 2:30 Why HRT feels great. Then libido disappears 5:05 Chronic problems need more than one fix 8:10 Why standard labs miss real issues 11:05 Thyroid testing mistakes and energy loss 13:30 Blood flow inflammation and nervous system disruption 16:10 Pelvic floor myths women and men get wrong 18:40 Blood sugar and numbness in arousal 20:20 Desire mismatch and getting back on the same team 22:55 Erotic repair and redefining what sex means 25:40 Presence pleasure and why women dissociate 28:10 Orgasms stress regulation and vibrators 30:30 Libido as a health warning and where to start Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, Board-Certified Sexologist (American Board of Sexology), is your go-to libido expert who’s been through the trenches herself. With dual doctorates in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture & Oriental Medicine, she founded MyLibidoDoc.com and hosts The Libido Lounge podcast to help women rediscover their pleasure and feel alive again. Connect with Dr. Diane Mueller: Website: https://mylibidodoc.com Instagram: a...

    33 min

  6. JAN 30

    6 Masturbation Myths Debunked | Ep. 149

    You were probably taught to fear masturbation. I see this every day in my work with men and women. The problem is not self pleasure. The problem is guilt, misinformation, and nervous system disconnection. In this episode, I break down the biggest masturbation myths and explain what actually supports sexual health, erections, confidence, and pleasure after 50. I talk about porn use, erectile dysfunction, testosterone fears, technique, frequency, and shame. I also explain why orgasms act like pelvic floor training and why mindful self pleasure strengthens partner sex instead of replacing it. This is a no shame conversation about choice, awareness, and reclaiming pleasure as part of wellness. In this episode: 0:00 You were lied to about masturbation 0:28 What masturbation is really linked to 1:10 Why people feel guilt and anxiety around self pleasure 1:55 Orgasms and pelvic floor health 2:35 Why masturbation supports sexual function 3:05 Myth one porn is the problem 3:55 Myth two masturbation causes erectile dysfunction 4:40 Myth three guilt is harmless 5:15 Myth four technique does not matter 5:55 Myth five masturbating too much 6:25 Testosterone fears and final reframing of pleasure Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Mindful Masturbation For Men: Last Longer, Feel More, Perform Better with Kevin Anthony | Ep. 129 https://youtu.be/abRZQbLYaJ0 Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: a href="https://www.taboototruth.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

    7 min

  7. JAN 27

    The Truth About Multi Orgasmic Pleasure | Ep. 148

    In this episode, I sit down with Jim Benson to break down what multi orgasmic pleasure really means for men and why most men never learn it. Jim explains the difference between ejaculation and orgasm, why pleasure does not need to end with climax, and how presence, relaxation, breath, and body awareness change everything. They explore how men learn these skills over time, why partners play a powerful role in success, and how aging does not signal the end of sexual growth. This episode reframes male pleasure as something expansive, learnable, and deeply connected to emotional safety and presence. In This Episode: 00:00 Why men believe orgasm equals ejaculation 02:10 What multi orgasmic pleasure really means 04:05 Why relaxation creates more sensation 06:20 Breath and body awareness explained 08:30 Orgasms without erection or ejaculation 10:40 How partners support the learning process 13:00 Practicing alone versus with a partner 15:10 How long it takes to feel real change 17:25 Aging, presence, and deeper pleasure 19:40 Why sexual growth does not end with age 21:10 Final thoughts and resources Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast About the Guest: Jim Benson has dedicated his life to helping men of all ages and backgrounds love themselves more fully. For the past 20 years, he has been coaching guys to “breakthroughs in the bedroom.” His Awakened Masculine program blends best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction. Connect with Jim Benson: Website: https://awakenedmasculine.com/ Use code KBIG50 to save $50 off The Multi-Orgasmic Lover course https://awakenedmasculine.com/program/ Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life,

    25 min

  8. JAN 23

    Real Solutions for Erectile Dysfunction After Midlife | Ep. 147

    If you want a clear breakdown of your choices, download the ED Options Cheat Sheet with links and exclusive discounts here: https://www.taboototruth.com/ed-options-cheat-sheet In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I talk honestly about erectile changes in midlife and beyond. I explain why ED happens, why it often starts with blood flow and heart health, and why silence and shame delay real solutions. I cover what most men are never told. Why Viagra and Cialis stop working for some men Why guessing and self adjusting doses backfires How lifestyle shifts protect erections instead of punishing you What actually works when pills fail The truth about pumps, rings, shockwave therapy, hormones, injections, Botox, fillers, and implants Erectile dysfunction is not a moral failing. It’s a health signal. And there is no stage where options disappear. In This Episode: 0:00 Erectile changes are normal and treatable 0:58 Why erections change with age 2:05 Blood flow, heart health, and ED 3:10 Why pills stop working 4:05 Pumps and rings explained 5:00 Shockwave therapy and hormones 6:05 Injections, Botox, fillers, implants 7:30 The real takeaway and next steps Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ Instagram: a href="https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Relationship Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex in midlife, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. We'll discuss dating and sex post-divorce, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs of rediscovering intimacy. Karen dives deep into the impact of hormonal changes on sexuality, examining how these shifts influence desire, pleasure, and overall sexual health across different ages. The podcast encompasses a wide array of topics, including polyamory, kink, BDSM, and sexual dysfunction, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of modern sexual dynamics. Taboo to Truth is a platform for open, honest conversations about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Join me to embrace your sexuality, empower your journey, and break free from societal taboos. Follow me: Email: karen@taboototruth.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/ *The information on this podcast does not constitute medical advice and is for informational purposes only.

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