She Is Here™

Charlotte Bailey

Formerly titled 'Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey' -  She Is Here™ is a podcast for women who feel they're 'too much' too sensitive, too emotional, too dramatic....and never quite enough. Maybe you’ve read the self-help books, listened to the personal development podcasts, or previously had therapy. You understand your patterns — but something still hasn’t shifted. You get it… but you don’t always feel it. That’s because insight alone isn’t always enough. Patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, masking, anxiety, and self-doubt aren’t mindset failures. They’re intelligent survival responses shaped by trauma, attachment, conditioning, relationships, and the environments we’ve had to navigate. I’m Charlotte Bailey, an accredited trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker, and spoken-word poet. Through psychology, neuroscience, lived experience, and poetry, She Is Here™ explores the missing piece mainstream self-help often skips: safety - in your nervous system and in your world. This isn’t about forcing confidence or becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that learned to shrink, hide or adapt, remembering who you were before you were taught to be less - and learning how to feel safe enough to be seen. Come join me on instagram and feel free to DM me with any questions or subjects you'd like me to cover : https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Access free resources (People-Pleasing Quiz-Based Webinar & Video Visibility Confidence Toolkit) &  find out more about me via my website: https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/

  1. 4D AGO

    Lonely in a Room Full of People: Why You Feel Alone Even When You’re Not

    Have you ever felt lonely in a room full of people, even when you’re surrounded, included, and socially “fine”? In this episode, I talk about my time working with ITV on their Dance Away Loneliness campaign and explore why loneliness isn’t always about the absence of people, but the absence of emotional safety. You’ll learn how people-pleasing, masking, and nervous system survival responses can create a sense of disconnection - where you’re present on the outside, but unseen on the inside.  And how loneliness can exist inside friendships, relationships, and social groups when you don’t feel safe enough to be fully yourself. If you struggle with anxiety, overthinking, people-pleasing, or feeling like you don’t quite belong, this episode will help you understand what your loneliness may be trying to tell you - through a compassionate, trauma-informed lens. In this episode, we explore: Why you can feel lonely even when you’re not aloneThe trauma-informed link between loneliness and emotional safetyHow people-pleasing and shapeshifting lead to disconnectionThe nervous system cost of performing belongingHow to begin building self-belonging and safer, deeper connectionWhy discernment matters: not every space deserves your vulnerabilityA grounding episode for anyone who has ever wondered:  “Why do I feel alone, even when I have people around me?” Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/

    14 min
  2. JAN 20

    Why You Overthink Messages (and What It Says About Safety)

    Ever received a message that made your stomach drop… and your brain instantly filled in the blanks with “They’re annoyed” or “I’ve done something wrong”? In today’s episode I share a real moment from my Instagram DMs that could have easily led to shame, confrontation or avoidance - and how demonstrates the importance of nervous system safety. This episode covers:  • why we overthink texts and and replay social interactions  • how ambiguity becomes threat for a dysregulated nervous system  • why we assume tone, meaning and intention behind peoples messages  • the difference between confidence and safety  • how e fight/flight/freeze/fawn can show up in communication  • and why repair requires nervous system safety, not just assertiveness or  “good communication skills” If you identify with overthinking, people-pleasing, anxious attachment, rejection sensitivity, masking, fear of confrontation or avoiding conflict - this episode will help you make sense of these patterns, how to stop overthinking and how to respond differently. Don't forget to subscribe and you can watch full video episodes on You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/@SheisHereMovement Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/

    12 min
  3. JAN 13

    What I Actually Mean by ‘Safe Enough to Be Seen’ (and Why It’s Not About Confidence)

    In this episode, I’m breaking down what I actually mean when I say “safe” and “safe enough to be seen”  because it’s not about confidence, mindset tricks, or forcing yourself to speak louder. We hear the word safety everywhere now, especially in conversations about visibility, boundaries, relationships, and nervous system work. But what most people don’t realise is that safety isn’t about staying calm, being in a 'zen' like state all the time or feeling fearless - it’s about whether your nervous system is responding from threat or from grounded choice. In this episode I talk about: Why nervous system safety is the foundation of confidenceWhy you can understand yourself logically and still not feel safeThe difference between discomfort and dangerHow safety is shaped by context, culture, and systemsWhat it actually means to feel “safe enough to be seen”The core conditions that help the nervous system settleWhy some environments and relatioships signal threat, even without “danger”If you’ve ever wondered: “Why do I still freeze/fawn/overthink if nothing ‘bad’ is happening?”  or  “Why doesn’t my body feel settled, secure or safe, even though I know I’m fine?” - this episode will make sense of that. This is not an episode about “how to be more confident” or “how to push through discomfort.” It’s an invitation to understand your nervous system through a trauma-informed, context-aware, and dignity-preserving lens - so you can stop assuming you’re the problem, and start recognising the environments, histories, and patterns your body has been adapting to. Listen if you’re curious about: nervous system safety, trauma-informed visibility, belonging, being seen, people-pleasing, the fawn response, anxiety, emotional safety, and why mindset isn’t enough. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/

    25 min
  4. 12/30/2025

    Why January and New Year’s Resolutions Make You Feel Like You’re Failing

    January and New Year’s resolutions leave many women feeling like they’re failing -even when they’re trying their best. In this trauma-informed episode, we explore why January so often triggers self-criticism, shame, and the sense that you’re “not consistent enough” or “not disciplined enough” - and why this isn’t a personal failing. This isn’t a motivation or willpower problem. More often than not, it's a capacity issue. We talk about how cultural ideas around productivity and self-improvement ignore emotional labour, people-pleasing, burnout, and the invisible ways many women are already holding everything together. In this episode, we explore: why the 'New Year, New You' approach and the month of January amplifies shame and self-blamehow people-pleasing and over-giving drain capacitythings to consider when you deem yourself 'not consistent enough' the difference between healthy consistency and survival-based rigiditywhy pushing harder doesn’t create safety or changequestions to ask yourself when considering what you want to changeand how to reconnect with yourself without pressure or reinventionThis episode is an invitation to move away from “What’s wrong with me?” And towards a gentler, more honest question: What am I already carrying, who for - and at what cost? If January leaves you feeling behind, frozen, not good enough or quietly exhausted, this episode is for you. This episode is part of She Is Here™  -  a  podcast for women who worry that they're too much and yet not enough. Charlotte Bailey a trauma-informed psychotherapist  explores people-pleasing, trauma, conditioning, nervous-system safety, and combines, clinical expertise with relatable lived experience and spoken word poetry to help you remember and reconnect with who you were before you were taught to be less. So you can begin to feel safe being seen - just as you are.  Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/

    28 min
  5. 12/23/2025

    She Is Here: Remembering Who You Were Before You Were Taught to Be Less

    This opening episode of She Is Here™, marks the beginning of a new chapter - not a reinvention from Let's talk People-Pleasing , but a continuation of a remembering. People-pleasing was never your personality. It was a nervous-system response. A clever adaptation to environments where it felt safer to be less — less loud, less emotional, less honest, less visible. This new series introduces depth and poetry so you can feel what lives beneath people-pleasing: safety, identity, self-belonging, and the parts of you that learned when to soften, appease, or disappear to maintain connection. You’ll hear why understanding your past doesn’t always make your body feel safe in the present  and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing at healing. Sometimes anxiety isn’t pathology. It’s information. She Is Here™ is not about forcing authenticity, pushing through fear, or becoming a “better” version of yourself. It’s about discernment. Choice. And learning to reconnect with the little girl inside you who was taught she had to be less to be accepted. This space is trauma-informed, nervous-system aware, and grounded in compassion - with psychology, lived experience, and spoken word woven throughout. You were never too much. You were taught to be less. She isn’t gone. She never was.  She is here. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/

    13 min

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About

Formerly titled 'Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey' -  She Is Here™ is a podcast for women who feel they're 'too much' too sensitive, too emotional, too dramatic....and never quite enough. Maybe you’ve read the self-help books, listened to the personal development podcasts, or previously had therapy. You understand your patterns — but something still hasn’t shifted. You get it… but you don’t always feel it. That’s because insight alone isn’t always enough. Patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, masking, anxiety, and self-doubt aren’t mindset failures. They’re intelligent survival responses shaped by trauma, attachment, conditioning, relationships, and the environments we’ve had to navigate. I’m Charlotte Bailey, an accredited trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker, and spoken-word poet. Through psychology, neuroscience, lived experience, and poetry, She Is Here™ explores the missing piece mainstream self-help often skips: safety - in your nervous system and in your world. This isn’t about forcing confidence or becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with the parts of yourself that learned to shrink, hide or adapt, remembering who you were before you were taught to be less - and learning how to feel safe enough to be seen. Come join me on instagram and feel free to DM me with any questions or subjects you'd like me to cover : https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Access free resources (People-Pleasing Quiz-Based Webinar & Video Visibility Confidence Toolkit) &  find out more about me via my website: https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/