Not Anymore!

Wendy Hofhine
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Are you a busy mom feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated despite trying everything? I’ve been there, too. After years of searching, I made a life changing declaration: Not Anymore! I stopped tolerating negative thoughts, limiting beliefs, & habits that held me back, and begin building the life of my dreams and want to help you do the same. I will give you actionable tips to empower you to break free from discouragement, anxiety, and frustration. Each episode is a guide to becoming the best version of yourself-no more settling, just intentional progress stepping into the life you deserve. 

  1. 6d ago

    Episode 52: Your Brain Expects the Worst: What Happens When You Give the Best Case Scenario Equal Airtime?

    What if you gave the best case scenario as much airtime as you give the worst case scenario? I used to think imagining everything that could possibly go wrong meant I was prepared. I could play out the accident, the failed business, the bad decision, the wrong spouse for one of my kids and every other terrible possibility before anything had even happened. But I started realizing that I wasn't always preparing myself. Sometimes I was just rehearsing tragedies that didn't exist. In this episode, I'm sharing how I'm learning to catch my brain when it automatically goes to the worst case scenario and intentionally ask a different question: What if it all works out? I'll show you how to give the best case scenario equal airtime, use that incredible imagination of yours to picture what could go right and stop letting a future that hasn't happened yet steal the joy from the life you're living right now. You don't have to convince yourself that everything will work out perfectly. You just have to remember that the worst case scenario isn't guaranteed either. So if you're going to tell yourself a story about the future, why not tell yourself a really freaking good one? #WorstCaseScenario #Overthinking #Anxiety #WorryLess #Mindset #MindsetShift #PositiveThinking #PersonalDevelopment #SelfGrowth #ThoughtWork #ChangeYourThoughts #MentalStrength #IntentionalLiving #BestCaseScenario #WhatIfItAllWorksOut #NotAnymorePodcast #lifecoach

  2. Sep 23

    Episode 51: You Don’t Have to Figure It All Out Today: How to Stop Worrying and Be Present

    What if you didn’t have to figure out your whole life today? I’ve realized how often I let yesterday’s mistakes, conversations, and regrets follow me into today while also pulling tomorrow’s worries, problems, and what ifs into a day that hasn’t even happened yet. No wonder life can feel so overwhelming. In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite lessons from Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living about learning to live in day tight compartments. Just like a ship can close watertight doors to keep one flooded section from taking down the entire ship, we can learn to stop letting yesterday and tomorrow flood the day we’re actually living. I’ll share the powerful idea behind Just for Today and a simple way I’m learning to quiet the worry, stop trying to solve everything at once, and come back to what I can actually control right now. You don’t need enough strength for the next year today. You don’t need all the answers. You don’t have to know how everything is going to work out. You just need to live today. #StopWorrying #Overthinking #AnxietyRelief #Mindset #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #BePresent #LiveInTheMoment #WorryLess #StressRelief #DaleCarnegie #MindsetShift #LifeCoaching #NotAnymorePodcast

  3. Sep 16

    Episode 50: In a Funk and Don’t Know Why? How to Feel Your Feelings and Figure Out What You Actually Need

    I had a meltdown this week, and instead of immediately trying to coach myself out of it, change my thoughts, or hurry up and feel better, I decided to actually feel what was happening in my body. In this episode, I’m getting real and raw about what happened, what I discovered underneath the frustration, and why I’m learning that sometimes the meltdown isn’t the problem. Sometimes it’s the messenger. I’m sharing what it looked like to stop analyzing everything in my head, get into my body, feel the emotions I had been resisting, and finally recognize what I actually needed. Personal development isn’t about becoming so evolved that nothing ever bothers us. Maybe it’s about becoming less afraid of what we feel and learning how to listen to ourselves before we hit the breaking point. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, irritated, emotional, or completely off and couldn’t figure out why, this episode is for you. #NotAnymorePodcast #PersonalDevelopment #EmotionalHealth #FeelYourFeelings #SelfAwareness #Mindset #LifeCoaching #EmotionalIntelligence #MentalHealth #SelfGrowth #motherhood #overwhelmed

  4. Sep 10

    Episode 49: Your Life Doesn’t Need to Change, Your Thoughts Do: How to Feel Better Without Changing Your Circumstances

    Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “If this one thing would change, then I could finally feel better”? If my kids would behave differently. If my husband would understand. If I could lose the weight. If we made more money. If this person would change. If I could just get through this season. I’ve done it too. I’ve spent so much energy believing that something outside of me needed to change before I could feel differently inside of me. But what if your life doesn’t need to change nearly as much as you think it does? In this episode, I’m talking about the incredible power our thoughts and beliefs have over the way we experience our lives. I share fascinating experiments about grip strength, poison ivy and expectation, along with some very real stories from my own life that have reminded me that I don’t have to believe every thought my brain gives me. I can’t control my kids, my husband, other people’s opinions, the economy, what someone says or what happened yesterday. But I can start paying attention to the thoughts I’m allowing to run my life. And when I find a thought that is creating a life I don’t want anymore, I can question it. I can challenge it. I can stop rehearsing it. I can decide, not anymore. Maybe there are parts of your life that are already beautiful and your thoughts just haven’t let you see them yet. This week, I’m challenging you to notice when something feels heavy and ask yourself one simple question: “What am I making this mean?” Your circumstances are part of your story, but they don’t get to write the whole thing. Not anymore. #Mindset #PersonalDevelopment #ChangeYourThoughts #ChangeYourLife #PositiveMindset #SelfGrowth #MindsetShift #LifeCoaching #MentalStrength #SelfImprovement #PersonalGrowth #ThoughtWork #EmotionalWellness #WomenEmpowerment #NotAnymorePodcast

  5. Sep 2

    Episode 48: Stop Treating Every Little Thing Like an Emergency: Feel Less Stressed and Get Out of Survival Mode

    Have you ever noticed how quickly your body can turn something small into a full blown emergency? Someone is upset with you. You’re running late. You make a mistake. Your kid is melting down. You have a hard conversation coming up. Suddenly your heart is racing, your mind is spinning, and your body is screaming, FIX IT NOW. I lived this way for years without realizing it. My nervous system had learned to treat discomfort like danger. In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when we spend too much of our lives in fight or flight, how chronic stress can affect our physical and emotional health, and the realization that helped me start retraining my nervous system. I’ll share some of the signs that your body may be living in survival mode, why calm can actually feel uncomfortable when you’re used to constant urgency, and one simple practice I use to remind my body that I am safe. Not everything is an emergency. Someone being disappointed in you is not an emergency. Being late is not an emergency. Making a mistake is not an emergency. Having an uncomfortable conversation is not an emergency. This week, I want you to start noticing when your body sounds the alarm and ask yourself, “Am I actually in danger, or am I just uncomfortable?” Take three deep breaths and remind yourself: This is not an emergency. I am safe. I do not have to fix this right now. It might feel unnatural at first. Keep practicing. We are retraining that barking dog inside of us. Not anymore. #NervousSystem #NervousSystemRegulation #FightOrFlight #SurvivalMode #StressManagement #ChronicStress #AnxietyRelief #MentalHealth #PersonalDevelopment #Mindset #EmotionalWellness #SelfImprovement #Mindfulness #StressRelief #NotAnymorePodcast

  6. Aug 27

    Episode 47: Stop Comparing and Start Trusting Yourself

    Have you ever seen another mom, friend, or person on social media doing something amazing and immediately thought, “Wait…should I be doing that too?” I caught myself doing exactly that. I saw another mom sharing something she does to connect with her family, and within seconds, my brain had turned her beautiful idea into evidence that I was doing motherhood wrong. But then I caught it: Not anymore. What if she’s a great mom AND I’m a great mom? What if her way works for her family and my way works for mine? What if neither of us is doing it wrong? In this episode, I’m talking about comparison, information overload, all of the “shoulds” we put on ourselves, and how easy it is to let someone else’s parenting, health routine, habits, or lifestyle make us question our own. I’ll share how I’m learning to stop asking, “What’s the right way to do this?” and start asking a much better question: “What am I actually trying to create?” Because comparison doesn’t just steal our joy, it can steal our self-trust. My hope is that after this episode, you’ll feel a little less pressure to find the “right” way to live and a lot more confident trusting yourself to decide what works for YOU. Maybe you don’t need another person telling you how to live your life. Maybe you need to become the person whose opinion about your life you trust. #NotAnymorePodcast #SelfTrust #StopComparing #Comparison #PersonalGrowth #Mindset #MindsetShift #SelfImprovement #Motherhood #Parenting #Overthinking #Confidence #WomenEmpowerment #PersonalDevelopment

  7. Aug 10

    Episode 46: Change Who You Believe You Are and Watch Your Life Change

    For years I believed that once my circumstances changed, then I would finally become the person I wanted to be. Once I reached the goal, sold the house, built the business, ate healthier, or became more confident, then everything else would fall into place. But a surprising lesson from my daughter completely challenged that way of thinking. After hearing a parenting insight from Dr. Becky, I realized that maybe the words "I wish" are more powerful than I ever imagined. They reveal the person we're longing to become. The problem is that most of us spend our lives rehearsing the identity we're trying to leave behind instead of practicing the one we're trying to grow into. In this episode, I'm sharing how shifting my identity before seeing the results has changed the way I think about parenting, faith, business, health, and everyday life. We'll talk about the difference between fantasy and faith, why your brain believes the stories you repeatedly tell yourself, and how becoming the future version of yourself today can completely change the actions you take tomorrow. If you've ever found yourself saying, "I wish..." this episode will challenge you to stop waiting for your life to change and start becoming the person God already knows you can be. #IdentityShift #MindsetMatters #PersonalGrowth #FaithOverFear #SelfDevelopment #BecomeWhoYouAre #ChristianPodcast #GrowthMindset #IntentionalLiving #NotAnymorePodcast

  8. Jul 28

    Episode 45: Stop Trying to Say the Right Thing and Start Telling the Real Truth

    For years I thought there was a right way to do everything. The right way to parent. The right way to handle conflict. The right way to text people back. The right thing to say in hard conversations. I was constantly overthinking my words trying to avoid failure embarrassment rejection or disappointing people. And honestly? It was exhausting. In this episode I’m talking about the pressure so many of us carry to get everything “right” and how that pressure slowly disconnects us from who we really are. I share personal stories about motherhood marriage teaching and relationships and the moment a conversation with my daughter completely stopped me in my tracks when I told her:  “Don’t try to be right. Just be real.” We’re diving into why authenticity creates deeper connection than perfection ever will and what it actually looks like to stop performing and start showing up honestly in everyday life. If you constantly replay conversations in your head struggle with people pleasing overthink texts avoid hard conversations or feel anxious trying to say the perfect thing this episode will feel like a deep breath for your soul. This is your reminder that you do not need perfect words to be worthy loved respected or connected. You just need to be real. #PeoplePleasing #Perfectionism #Authenticity #SelfGrowth #Motherhood #Healing #Confidence #MentalHealth #Relationships #PersonalDevelopment

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Are you a busy mom feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated despite trying everything? I’ve been there, too. After years of searching, I made a life changing declaration: Not Anymore! I stopped tolerating negative thoughts, limiting beliefs, & habits that held me back, and begin building the life of my dreams and want to help you do the same. I will give you actionable tips to empower you to break free from discouragement, anxiety, and frustration. Each episode is a guide to becoming the best version of yourself-no more settling, just intentional progress stepping into the life you deserve. 

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  • Creator
    Wendy Hofhine
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    52
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Not Anymore!
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