Long Haul Marriage Roadcast

Brian and Jamie Hackney
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Brian and Jamie Hackney, founders of Long Haul Marriage, discuss all things marriage in this raw, real, casual, and fun podcast. Married for 35 years, and having coached over 3000 couples, they share what they've learned, mostly the hard way, hoping to encourage couples, giving them tools that will strengthen their relationship, so they can be in it for the long haul! To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. To donate to LHM: https://longhaulmarriage.betterworld.org

  1. 3D AGO

    Married, but... Could There Be Someone Better Out There??

    Hi Listener!  We're glad you're here. Today, Jamie is still on a high, coming off of her recent Evergreen women's event in Broken Bow, and Brian asks her to hit the highlights, and explain why this was different than your average, run of the mill, women's retreat.   After talking about the pregnancy and eventual birth of the vision given to her by God, she then talks about the importance of giving time and space for connection, and the profound need for authentic community in our lives. Brian then shifts the conversation to the normal temptations we face to wonder if we've married the wrong person, or perhaps, even if we married the "right" person, to think there may be someone out there even better, more perfectly suited to us - our "soulmate."  Listen in to hear the first name he's ever called a listener, if you give into that temptation. As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage! We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.  For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org.  Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter. To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage.  To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org. Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR

    53 min

  2. FEB 17

    *(Re-Release) Crashes, Detours, and Pit Stops On the Journey

    In this reprised episode, the inaugural episode of the Roadcast, Brian and Jamie chronicle the beginning of their journey, discussing the hard and painful first years, the loss of their 2 year old son, Corban, and the ultimate healing that came, giving them the grace and strength to continue to fight for their marriage.  This episode will encourage and inspire you to keep going, no matter what you face. We wanted to give some of our newer listeners to hear where it all started!  As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage! We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.  For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org.  Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter. To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage.  To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org. Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR

    43 min

  3. FEB 10

    You are NOT Alone! (Even if you'd rather your spouse leave you that way sometime)

    In this week's episode of the Roadcast, Brian and Jamie discuss the heaviness of the state of the world right now, and how we are prone to want to process this with our spouse.  The challenge comes when, because of how we are wired so differently, one of us would rather do ANYTHING that discuss this garbage, especially at length!  So, what's a man (or woman) to do?   They get into this common situation, and give practical advice on how to navigate this tricky situation, while still maintaining close intimacy, and avoiding the trap of sharing way too much with someone of the opposite sex (that's not your spouse!) As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage! We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.  For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org.  Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter. To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage.  To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org. Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR

    37 min

  4. FEB 3

    Are you a Saint or a Sinner? (Or Both?)

    Saint or sinner?  Which one are you?  Which one are we?  Is it possible we could be both?   In today's episode, Brian and Jamie discuss simultaneity (the property of two or more events occuring at the exact same time) in the context of who we are, who we want to be, perhaps how others view us, how we view ourselves, and ultimately, how we choose to show up in any given moment. Brian reads the story of "The Good Samaritan," the parable told by Jesus, recounted in the gospel of Luke, highlighting the three in the short story, and their choices to pass on by, or to stop and help, and which unlikely character chose to be the "neighbor" of the unfortunate soul who had been beaten and robbed. They shift the conversation to marriage, discussing how easy it is to frame any narrative in a dualistic, "victim/villian" context, many times seeing ourselves in conflict as the victim, ignoring the possibility that we could actually be the villain.  They table the possibility that we are all both "saints and sinners" and that the devil in one ear, and the angel in the other, are both viable candidates that could be whispering at any given time, but that we have the choice to be either one. They discuss the human urge to be defensive, the coping mechanism employed when we feel the need to justify ourselves, rather than resting in our justification by faith in Christ. We hope you enjoy this episode, and that it will challenge you to see yourself and your spouse in a brand new light. As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage! We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.  For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org.  Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter. To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage.  To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org. Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR

    39 min

  5. JAN 27

    Winterizing Your Marriage

    In today's "snowed in" episode, Brian and Jamie talk a little about being snowed in together, how to avoid cabin fever, how to avoid slipping on ice, and how stupid it is to have major NFL playoff games in a blizzard!! Jamie talks about her disappointment in having to postpone her Evergreen retreat, and the way Brian might have missed the chance (in the ealy going) to be truly emotionally supportive, and how, after fumbling the ball a bit, he went back and asked her about how she was feeling about it.   They talk about the common mistakes couples make around disappointment, emotional support, resentment, and forgiveness - all the things that go into becoming vulnerable, and ultimately intimate with our spouse.  Hope you guys enjoy! As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage! We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.  For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org.  Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter. To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage.  To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org. Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR

    46 min

  6. JAN 20

    Mad at God, but Afraid to Admit It?

    In this week's episode, Jamie brings up the topic of being hurt, disappointed, disallusioned, or being downright angry with God, but somehow, unable or "prohibited" from speaking it (as if God doesn't already know your heart).  They discuss how many Christians have been taught at a fundamental level that it would be "sinful" to be angry with God, and how heretical it sounds to have to "forgive God," when God is perfect! They get real about their own struggles around this, and when that finally changed for them.  Jamie talks about the freedom that came as she got honest with God for the first time, and they also compare intimacy in marriage to intimacy with God in this context.   Brian shares how intentionally focusing on the Christ in us, helps him see more and more that God isn't "out there," rather, IN US.  Glad you're with us today. As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage! We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.  For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org.  Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter. To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage.  To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org. Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR

    39 min

  7. JAN 13

    2026 Living Our Best Life!!

    2026 is here, and we want it to be our best year yet - no hyperbole.  Can we truly make that happen?  Do we have any control over our lives, especially when we feel so many things are out of control in our world? In today's first episode of the year, Brian and Jamie discuss setting intentions for your day, your week, your month, which all turn into your year!  They share from personal experience, how doing daily mindfulness, and meditation practices, builiding in intention through affirmations have made a profoundly positive effect in their lives.  They talk about practical ways to mitigate feelings of stress or anxiety (including social anxiety), and how we have more control over our thought life than we know.  They share their "words of the year," which will help them focus on the things that truly matter, and the value in sharing those words with each other and with family. They discuss how the holiday times can bring out a lot of crap for many, and the number of people who have already reached out for help in the new year, and their desire to help anyone who is struggling.   As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage! We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.  For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org.  Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter. To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage.  To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org. Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR

    59 min

  8. 12/16/2025

    2025 from The Rear View Mirror

    In this final episode of the year, Brian and Jamie take a look back over 2025, the beginning of Long Haul Marriage, dealing with the grief of their less than sanctimonious departure from previous ministry positions, starting a new business TOGETHER, and testing the strength of their 35 year marriage in the most stressful pressure cooker in recent history!  They talk of the ups and downs, and realize with grateful hearts, that there have been way more ups than downs!  They talk about the rewards of their ministry, as well as lessons they've learned, and how their own marriage has grown through the process.  They share eternal gratitude for everyone who supports their ministry, and every couple that trusts them with their relationship.  They look forward to 2026 with excited and humbled hearts!  Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from us!  See you next year!! REMEMBER BRIAN'S NEW BOOK - buy on Amazon today! A Testament To My Wife, available now on Amazon - https://amzn.to/4okTbI8 Brian also mentioned his previous book, Confessions of a Horrible Parent, the Art of Making Your Mistakes Matter, also on Amazon. We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.  For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org.  Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter. To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage.  To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org. Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR

    48 min
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Brian and Jamie Hackney, founders of Long Haul Marriage, discuss all things marriage in this raw, real, casual, and fun podcast. Married for 35 years, and having coached over 3000 couples, they share what they've learned, mostly the hard way, hoping to encourage couples, giving them tools that will strengthen their relationship, so they can be in it for the long haul! To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok. To donate to LHM: https://longhaulmarriage.betterworld.org

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  • Creator
    Brian and Jamie Hackney
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    57
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright Brian Hackney
  • Show Website
    Long Haul Marriage Roadcast