The Reconciled Relationships Podcast

Sally Harris
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Welcome to The Reconciled Relationships Podcast, your safe space for navigating the complexities of adult-child estrangement. Whether you're facing complete estrangement or enduring a challenging relationship with your adult child, this podcast offers hope, encouragement, and actionable steps to help you move forward. I'm your host, Sally Harris, a coach dedicated to empowering mothers to reclaim their lives amidst familial turmoil. While I'm not a therapist, I bring over 10 years of personal experience navigating estrangement with my own daughter, offering insights and strategies grounded in real-life challenges. My Christian faith is a cornerstone of my approach, emphasizing forgiveness, self-responsibility, and the strength to rebuild a fulfilling life. As the creator of a YouTube channel boasting over 1.7 million views, I've shared insights on family dynamics, self-care, and personal responsibility. My work has been recognized by the likes of Families Divided TV, The Justin American Radio Show, Watching America, Tamron Hall and Dr. Phil. Through this podcast, you'll connect with a community of mothers who understand your journey and realize that you are not alone. Each episode is designed to help you cultivate inner peace, develop self-awareness, and gain insights into your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. You'll learn the importance of putting yourself first, discovering how prioritizing self-care not only benefits you but also your relationships. Together, we'll explore ways to identify and improve patterns, such as enabling behaviors, while establishing healthy boundaries that promote mutual respect. The podcast features powerful expert interviews with specialists in psychology, family therapy, and personal development, offering diverse perspectives and practical advice. Additionally, solo episodes provide personal reflections and guidance from my own experiences and expertise, equipping you with tools to navigate your unique situation. Join us on this transformative journey toward healing and empowerment. Together, we'll work toward building stronger, healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life. Subscribe to the Reconciled Relationships Podcast today, and take the first step toward reclaiming your peace and purpose.

  1. 9h ago

    What to Do When You Don't Know What to Say to Your Estranged Child

    Are you constantly wondering what to say to your estranged adult child? Maybe you've rewritten the same text five times, drafted an apology you're afraid to send, or keep searching for the perfect words that might finally fix the relationship. But what if the next right step isn't another text, letter, apology, or explanation? In this video, I'm sharing what to do instead. So many moms of estranged adult children get stuck trying to find the one thing they can say or do that will finally change everything. But there is no perfect sentence—and chasing the right words can keep you focused on an outcome you cannot control. Instead, we're talking about: Why the first right step may be inward, not outward The healing work that IS within your control Why boundaries can be gates instead of walls How to stop chasing and trying to force an outcome What it means to prepare faithfully for the relationship you hope to have Your job isn't to force reconciliation. It's to prepare faithfully—to become a healthier, more grounded version of yourself so that when the door does open, you're ready to walk through it. ❤️ READY FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If you're unsure what the next right step looks like in your specific situation, apply for a Heart-to-Heart Consultation with me. We'll talk privately about where you are, where you feel stuck, and what coaching might look like for you. 👉  https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ   BE A CALLER ON THE SALLY HARRIS SHOW email: team@sally-harris.com    EMPOWER MOM QUIZ: www.sally-harris.com/EmpowerMom    CONNECT WITH SALLY HARRIS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/sallyharriscoach/ FACEBOOK | https://www.facebook.com/coachsallyharris WEBSITE | https://www.sally-harris.com

    What to Do When You Don't Know What to Say to Your Estranged Child

  2. 3d ago

    How to Become the Person Your Adult Child Wants to Reconnect With

    If your adult child came back into your life today, who would they find? When you're estranged from your adult son or daughter, it's easy to spend so much time wondering when they'll come back, whether they'll understand your heart, or if they'll ever notice how much you've changed. But there's another question that may be even more important: Who are you becoming while you wait? In this episode of The Sally Harris Show, I'm talking about the work we can do as moms during estrangement—not to manipulate our adult children into reconnecting, but to become healthier, stronger versions of ourselves. We'll talk about why rebuilding a relationship takes time, what happens when both you and your adult child have changed during the separation, and why reconciliation may feel unfamiliar at first. I also share part of my own reconciliation story and the moment I realized my daughter could hear the change in me before we were even seeing each other again. I was communicating differently. I wasn't giving all of my opinions or making the conversation about me. I was becoming curious about who she was and what her life looked like. And that's what I want you to remember: the work you're doing now matters. Your healing, growth, faith, and the woman you're becoming are not wasted—even if your adult child isn't acknowledging those changes yet. 💗 READY FOR PERSONAL SUPPORT? If you're tired of trying to figure out this relationship on your own, apply for a Heart-to-Heart Consultation with me. We'll talk about what's happening with your adult child, where you're feeling stuck, and what kind of coaching support may be the best next step for you. 👉 Heart-to-Heart Consultation: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ Not ready for a consultation yet? Take my free EmpowerMom Quiz to get a better understanding of where you are in your journey and what kind of support may be helpful for you. 👉 Take the EmpowerMom Quiz: www.sally-harris.com/EmpowerMom  Subscribe for more conversations about adult child estrangement, healing, faith, boundaries, reconciliation, and becoming the woman you want to be when that door opens again.   📞 BE A CALLER ON THE SALLY HARRIS SHOW email: team@sally-harris.com    CONNECT WITH SALLY HARRIS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/sallyharriscoach/ FACEBOOK | https://www.facebook.com/coachsallyharris WEBSITE | https://www.sally-harris.com

    How to Become the Person Your Adult Child Wants to Reconnect With

  3. Sep 8

    If Your Adult Child Won't Speak to You, You're Not Alone

    If your adult child has stopped speaking to you, pulled away, or cut off contact, you may be wondering: Am I the only mom going through this? You're surrounded by families who seem fine. You sit in church, attend holidays, go to work, and answer questions about your children while carrying a heartbreak that very few people can see. In this video, I'm talking about the hidden grief of estrangement from an adult child — including something called ambiguous grief. It's the pain of grieving someone who is still alive, but whose relationship with you has changed or disappeared. We'll also talk about why estrangement can feel so incredibly isolating, why well-meaning friends and family often don't understand, and how shame can convince mothers to carry this pain silently. If your son or daughter won't speak to you, please know there are other moms walking through this too. You do not have to carry the pain, confusion, and loneliness of family estrangement by yourself. If you're feeling ready for support and want to learn more about working together, I invite you to start with a short application. From there, you'll receive next steps to book your Heart-to-Heart Consultation. Start here: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ     BE A CALLER ON THE SALLY HARRIS SHOW email: team@sally-harris.com    EMPOWER MOM QUIZ: www.sally-harris.com/EmpowerMom    CONNECT WITH SALLY HARRIS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/sallyharriscoach/ FACEBOOK | https://www.facebook.com/coachsallyharris WEBSITE | https://www.sally-harris.com

    If Your Adult Child Won't Speak to You, You're Not Alone

  4. Sep 5

    Your Estranged Child Wants Space—Here's What YOU Need to Do

    Your estranged adult child has asked for space. You don't want to chase them, beg for a relationship, or keep reaching out when they've made it clear they want distance. But what are you supposed to do in the meantime? In this Q&A episode of The Sally Harris Show, I'm answering a mom who has experienced 18 years of hurt in her relationship with her adult daughter. After another painful conflict, her daughter decided to disengage from the relationship—and Mom is left wondering: Is there anything else I should do? We'll talk about when it may be time to give your adult child space, whether and when to gently reach out again, and why this season cannot only be about waiting for your son or daughter to change. Because Mom, this time matters. Estrangement can become a season where you sit and replay every conversation, wonder what you did wrong, and wait for your adult child to come back. Or it can also become a season where you seek support, look honestly at your own growth, strengthen your relationship with God, and become healthier while trusting Him with what you cannot control. In this episode, we talk about: • What to do when your estranged adult child asks for space • Why repeatedly reaching out may not be the answer • Walking on eggshells and staying silent to avoid conflict • Taking accountability without accepting all the blame • When a gentle, no-pressure reach-out may be appropriate • Using the separation to work on your own healing and growth • Finding support and community during estrangement • Praying for your adult child while trusting God with the outcome You cannot control when your adult child is ready to talk, what they believe about the relationship, or what they choose to do next. But you can decide what you will do with this time. Don't waste it. If you're a mom navigating estrangement, limited contact, difficult boundaries, or a painful relationship with your adult child, you don't have to walk through this season alone. If you're feeling ready for support and want to learn more about working together, I invite you to start with a short application. From there, you'll receive next steps to book your Heart-to-Heart Consultation. Start here: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ BE A CALLER ON THE SALLY HARRIS SHOW email: team@sally-harris.com  EMPOWER MOM QUIZ: www.sally-harris.com/EmpowerMom  CONNECT WITH SALLY HARRIS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/sallyharriscoach/ FACEBOOK | https://www.facebook.com/coachsallyharris WEBSITE | https://www.sally-harris.com

    Your Estranged Child Wants Space—Here's What YOU Need to Do

  5. Sep 1

    The Pain of Estrangement Won't Always Feel Like This

    Will the pain of estrangement ever go away? If your adult child has stopped talking to you, cut off contact, or created distance in your relationship, you may wonder if you'll ever feel like yourself again. In this episode, I'm talking about what healing from an estranged adult child actually looks like — and why healing doesn't mean you stop loving your child, missing them, praying for them, or hoping for reconciliation. After walking through a 10-year estrangement with my own daughter and now helping thousands of moms navigate difficult and estranged relationships with their adult children, I know how consuming this pain can feel. But the way you feel today is not necessarily the way you will always feel. We'll talk about why waiting for reconciliation before allowing yourself to heal can keep you stuck, how the pain of estrangement changes over time, and what happened when my prayer shifted from "God, please make this pain go away" to asking God who He wanted me to become while I walked through it. Healing is possible — even while you're still waiting. 💗 TAKE THE FREE EMPOWER MOM QUIZ If you're a mom struggling with an estranged or difficult relationship with your adult child, the Empower Mom Quiz can help you identify where you are in your healing journey and what your next step may be. 👉 Empower Mom Quiz: www.sally-harris.com/EmpowerMom  If you're feeling ready for support and want to learn more about working together, I invite you to start with a short application. From there, you'll receive next steps to book your Heart-to-Heart Consultation. Start here: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ   CONNECT WITH SALLY HARRIS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/sallyharriscoach/ FACEBOOK | https://www.facebook.com/coachsallyharris WEBSITE | https://www.sally-harris.com  BE A CALLER ON THE SALLY HARRIS SHOW email: team@sally-harris.com

    The Pain of Estrangement Won't Always Feel Like This

  6. Aug 29

    When Your Estranged Child Starts Coming Back, Don't Do This

    Your estranged adult child is talking to you again—but the walls are still up. What do you do now? In this episode of The Sally Harris Show, I'm answering a mom whose daughter has started attending family gatherings again after a year of no contact. Her daughter is cordial, but distant. She gives short answers, talks mostly with her sibling, and doesn't seem ready to let Mom back in. So how do you move forward when your adult child has reopened the door—but only a little? One of the biggest mistakes we can make during early reconnection is trying to rush the relationship back to where it used to be. When you've spent months or years hoping your estranged son or daughter would come back, it's natural to look for signs of progress. But your adult child may be looking for signs of progress in you, too. In this episode, we'll talk about: • Why small steps after family estrangement still matter • How to respond when your adult child is cordial but emotionally distant • Why you shouldn't make every interaction a test of the relationship • How to stay warm without chasing connection • What to do when your child talks freely with other family members but barely speaks to you • Why rebuilding trust after estrangement can take time • How to give God room to work when you can't see what's happening If your estranged adult child has recently reached out, started texting again, returned to family gatherings, or begun allowing limited contact, don't rush it. Reconciliation rarely happens all at once. Sometimes the next faithful step is simply creating a different experience with you—one without pressure, desperation, punishment, or expectations. A year ago, she wasn't coming. Today, she's in the room. Don't overlook what God may be doing because it doesn't look like the relationship you've been praying for yet. If you're a mom struggling with an estranged or difficult relationship with your adult child and you need help knowing what your next step should be, I'd love to support you through coaching.   If you're feeling ready for support and want to learn more about working together, I invite you to start with a short application. From there, you'll receive next steps to book your Heart-to-Heart Consultation. Start here: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ   BE A CALLER ON THE SALLY HARRIS SHOW email: team@sally-harris.com    EMPOWER MOM QUIZ: www.sally-harris.com/EmpowerMom    CONNECT WITH SALLY HARRIS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/sallyharriscoach/ FACEBOOK | https://www.facebook.com/coachsallyharris WEBSITE | https://www.sally-harris.com

    When Your Estranged Child Starts Coming Back, Don't Do This

  7. Aug 25

    Are You Ready for the Day Your Estranged Child Comes Back?

    What if your estranged son or daughter came back tomorrow? Would you be ready? When you're estranged from an adult child, it's easy to spend months or even years focused on one thing: reconciliation. You wait for the phone call. You hope for the text. You pray for the relationship to be restored. But there's another question I believe every estranged mom needs to ask: Who do I want to become before they come back? During my own estrangement from my daughter, there came a point when I looked in the mirror and barely recognized the woman looking back at me. I had gained 70 pounds. I was leaning on alcohol to cope. I was depressed, disconnected, and had tied so much of my peace to whether or not my daughter wanted a relationship with me. Something had to change — even if my relationship with her didn't. In this episode, I'm sharing the shift that helped me stop trying to control reconciliation and start focusing on my own healing, my relationship with God, and the woman I was becoming in the waiting. We'll talk about: • Why waiting for your estranged child can slowly become your identity • The difference between giving up on reconciliation and choosing to live again • Why you cannot control when or whether your adult child reaches out • How to prepare emotionally for possible reconciliation • Healing from guilt, regret, rejection, and the pain of family estrangement • What it means to ask God to work in you — not only in your adult child • The question I ask the moms I coach: Who do you want to become before they come back? You do not have to wait for the relationship to change before you begin changing your life. If you're a mom struggling with an estranged daughter, estranged son, adult child who won't speak to you, no contact, limited contact, rejection, or a difficult relationship with your adult child, I hope this episode reminds you that there is meaningful work you can do in this season. ❤️ READY FOR YOUR NEXT STEP? If you feel stuck and aren't sure what to do next, apply for a Heart-to-Heart Consultation with me. We'll talk honestly about where you are, what's weighing on you, and what your next best step could look like: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ 🙏 And if this video encouraged you, subscribe and share it with another mom who needs this message today. If you're feeling ready for support and want to learn more about working together, I invite you to start with a short application. From there, you'll receive next steps to book your Heart-to-Heart Consultation. Start here: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ     BE A CALLER ON THE SALLY HARRIS SHOW email: team@sally-harris.com    EMPOWER MOM QUIZ: www.sally-harris.com/EmpowerMom    CONNECT WITH SALLY HARRIS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/sallyharriscoach/ FACEBOOK | https://www.facebook.com/coachsallyharris WEBSITE | https://www.sally-harris.com

    Are You Ready for the Day Your Estranged Child Comes Back?

  8. Aug 22

    She Made Mistakes. Her Son Still Won't Talk to Her.

    If your adult child won't talk to you and you're carrying guilt over the mistakes you made as a mom, this conversation is for you. Adult child estrangement can leave a mother replaying the past over and over: What did I do wrong? Was this my fault? Should I have handled things differently? How do I apologize? And how do I forgive myself when my adult child still doesn't want a relationship with me? In this episode of The Sally Harris Show, I sit down with a mom whose adult son barely speaks to her. She shares openly about the mistakes she made, the regret she still carries, and her desire to make amends with her estranged son—even though reconciliation has not happened yet. We talk about the difficult difference between taking responsibility for your mistakes and living in guilt and shame because of them. This mom recognizes choices she wishes she had made differently. She has apologized. She wants to rebuild trust. But she is also learning that she cannot force her adult son to reconcile before he is ready. If you are a mom struggling with an estranged adult son or daughter, you may recognize yourself in her story. Maybe your adult child stopped calling or texting. Maybe they rarely respond when you reach out. Maybe you have limited contact and you're afraid of losing even that. Or maybe you know you made mistakes in the relationship and you can't stop wondering whether those mistakes caused the estrangement. One of the most powerful things this mom shares is: "I can say I'm sorry all day long, but I need to make amends." There is an important difference between acknowledging what you did wrong and believing you must punish yourself forever because of it. You can take responsibility. You can make changes. You can become a healthier mom. And you can continue healing even while you wait to see what happens in the relationship. If you're searching for help because your adult child won't talk to you, you're dealing with estrangement from your adult son or daughter, or you can't seem to forgive yourself for your parenting mistakes, I hope this mom's vulnerable story helps you feel less alone and gives you something to think about in your own healing. If you are a mom navigating adult child estrangement, no contact, limited contact, rejection, boundaries, or a difficult relationship with your adult child, you don't have to figure out your next steps alone. Learn more about Sally Harris Coaching and support for moms of estranged adult children at www.sally-harris.com. If you'd like to share your story on The Sally Harris Show, email team@sally-harris.com. Subscribe for more conversations about estranged adult children, mother and adult child relationships, parent-child estrangement, reconciliation, boundaries, forgiveness, faith, healing, and learning how to move forward when your adult child pulls away. Healing is possible, people can change, and God is still at work even when you can't see it. If you're feeling ready for support and want to learn more about working together, I invite you to start with a short application. From there, you'll receive next steps to book your Heart-to-Heart Consultation. Start here: https://www.sally-harris.com/H2Happ     BE A CALLER ON THE SALLY HARRIS SHOW email: team@sally-harris.com    EMPOWER MOM QUIZ: www.sally-harris.com/EmpowerMom    CONNECT WITH SALLY HARRIS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/sallyharriscoach/ FACEBOOK | https://www.facebook.com/coachsallyharris WEBSITE | https://www.sally-harris.com

    She Made Mistakes. Her Son Still Won't Talk to Her.
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Welcome to The Reconciled Relationships Podcast, your safe space for navigating the complexities of adult-child estrangement. Whether you're facing complete estrangement or enduring a challenging relationship with your adult child, this podcast offers hope, encouragement, and actionable steps to help you move forward. I'm your host, Sally Harris, a coach dedicated to empowering mothers to reclaim their lives amidst familial turmoil. While I'm not a therapist, I bring over 10 years of personal experience navigating estrangement with my own daughter, offering insights and strategies grounded in real-life challenges. My Christian faith is a cornerstone of my approach, emphasizing forgiveness, self-responsibility, and the strength to rebuild a fulfilling life. As the creator of a YouTube channel boasting over 1.7 million views, I've shared insights on family dynamics, self-care, and personal responsibility. My work has been recognized by the likes of Families Divided TV, The Justin American Radio Show, Watching America, Tamron Hall and Dr. Phil. Through this podcast, you'll connect with a community of mothers who understand your journey and realize that you are not alone. Each episode is designed to help you cultivate inner peace, develop self-awareness, and gain insights into your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. You'll learn the importance of putting yourself first, discovering how prioritizing self-care not only benefits you but also your relationships. Together, we'll explore ways to identify and improve patterns, such as enabling behaviors, while establishing healthy boundaries that promote mutual respect. The podcast features powerful expert interviews with specialists in psychology, family therapy, and personal development, offering diverse perspectives and practical advice. Additionally, solo episodes provide personal reflections and guidance from my own experiences and expertise, equipping you with tools to navigate your unique situation. Join us on this transformative journey toward healing and empowerment. Together, we'll work toward building stronger, healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life. Subscribe to the Reconciled Relationships Podcast today, and take the first step toward reclaiming your peace and purpose.

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