Joy Recovery Radio

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Welcome, this is Jacqueline and Roy (AKA ”Team Joy), your hosts for Joy Recovery Radio, where we offer hope, healing, and practical tools for couples navigating the difficult journey of recovery from sex addiction and betrayal trauma. We have been in your shoes, and it’s our mission to share our expertise, personal experiences and the latest research in every episode. We can testify that healing and recovery are possible. To find additional resources, coaching, and live webinars, please visit our website joy-recovery.com Team Joy is here to help you rediscover your joy!

  1. 4D AGO

    S2 EP05 Why Recovery So Often Goes Wrong

    In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, the hosts discuss a common conflict in betrayal recovery: the betrayer’s urgency to “move on” and return to normal versus the betrayed partner’s need for stability, safety, and consistency. They explain that healing speeds up when it isn’t pushed because pressure activates fear while safety activates repair, and they describe how rushing—pressuring for forgiveness, intimacy, couples therapy, or quick reassurance—can keep the betrayed partner in survival mode and delay healing. The episode emphasizes that the betrayed partner’s nervous system should set the pace of recovery, outlining what increases harm (invalidation, blame, pressure) and what increases safety (vulnerability, prioritization, emotional safety, consistent validation through actions). They highlight the importance of structure and containment—external accountability, transparency, rigorous honesty, and guardrails around technology and behavior—while noting that these steps do not guarantee reconciliation, only integrity and reduced harm. The hosts also address both partners’ nervous system responses after discovery, stating that ethical recovery prioritizes the victim’s nervous system first, and they conclude that the old “normal” is gone, grief is necessary, and a new shared-reality relationship rooted in truth, patience, and integrity can be built over time. The episode also shares information about the Joy Recovery Academy, an educational program launching in March with live teaching, an on-demand library, and recovery frameworks. 00:00 Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio (What This Podcast Is & Isn’t) 00:37 Today’s Topic: His Need for Speed vs Her Need for Safety 02:11 Why Pressure Backfires: Healing Can’t Be Rushed 05:07 The Hidden Motive Behind ‘Just Forgive Me’ (Discomfort & Escape) 06:31 When Everyone Pressures Her: Friends, Family & Community Support 07:59 Slow Down: Her Nervous System Sets the Pace (What Helps vs Hurts) 11:01 How Long Does Empathy Take? Intention + Repetition 13:21 Joy Recovery Academy: Education Before Intervention (Sponsor Break) 14:18 Structure & Containment: Accountability That Creates Safety 16:51 Resentment, Honesty & Transparency: Living Inside the Container 20:05 Two Nervous Systems After Discovery: Shame vs Trauma 24:13 The Ethical Order of Recovery: Prioritize the True Victim’s Safety 26:14 Grieving the Old Normal & Building a New One in Integrity 29:34 Closing Takeaways: Truth Over Urgency + Final Sign-Off   Joy Recovery Academy:  https://www.joy-recovery.com/academy   Joy Recovery Pathways:  https://www.joy-recovery.com/pathways   Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com   YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery

    31 min

  2. FEB 16

    S2 E04: Three Substitutes for Safety & What Actually Creates It

    In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we discuss why insight, remorse, and emotional intensity are often mistaken for real change in betrayal recovery. These three substitutes may feel convincing but do not create true safety in relationships. We introduce the ACT framework, which stands for Awareness, Containment, and Transformation, to outline the conditions necessary for genuine recovery and establishing trust. Learn why understanding betrayal trauma and the correct sequence of recovery steps is essential for partners and individuals seeking clarity and safety.   00:00 Introduction and Webinar Announcement 00:32 Understanding the Illusion of Change 05:13 Three Substitutes for Safety 05:41 Insight: The First Substitute 07:40 Remorse: The Second Substitute 10:01 Emotional Intensity: The Third Substitute 13:40 Introducing the ACT Framework 14:18 Awareness: The Foundation of ACT 15:40 Containment: Building Real Change 18:47 Transformation: Achieving Integrity 25:13 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Free Betrayal Recovery Webinar: https://www.joy-recovery.com/betrayal-recovery-webinar Joy Recovery Academy:  https://www.joy-recovery.com/academy Joy Recovery Pathways:  https://www.joy-recovery.com/pathways Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery

    27 min

  3. FEB 9

    S2 E03: Betrayal is NOT a Relationship Issue

    Why Betrayal is Not a Relationship Problem | Joy Recovery Radio In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the intricate nature of betrayal, emphasizing that betrayal is fundamentally an integrity issue with relational consequences—not a relationship problem. We dissect common misconceptions in betrayal recovery, focusing on the importance of addressing power imbalances, manipulated reality, and misplaced responsibility for healing. Through the lens of integrity, accountability, and trauma-informed care, we explain the critical distinction between insight and accountability and introduce the 'three I’s'—Integrity, Impact, and Integration—necessary for true recovery. Learn why undertaking relational work prematurely can exacerbate trauma and discover how to pave the way for genuine healing. Join us at Joy Recovery Academy for further educational resources on navigating betrayal trauma. Tune in and find clarity, safety, and integrity in your recovery journey. 00:00 Introduction to Joy Recovery Radio 00:32 Misdiagnosing Betrayal as a Relationship Problem 03:29 The Three Core Assumptions in Relationship Models 05:33 The Impact of Betrayal on the Betrayed Partner 09:04 The Importance of Integrity in Recovery 09:12 Introducing the Joy Recovery Academy 10:03 Understanding Intentional Manipulated Reality (IMR) 14:33 The Role of Accountability in Healing 16:54 The Three I's of Recovery: Integrity, Impact, and Integration 22:31 Final Thoughts and Summary   Joy Recovery Academy: https://www.joy-recovery.com/academy   Joy Recovery Pathways: https://www.joy-recovery.com/pathways   Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com   YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery

    24 min

  4. FEB 2

    S2 E02: DARVO - The Hidden Pattern of Manipulation (pt 2)

    In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive deep into the concept of DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) and its impact on betrayal recovery. This is part two of a two-part series where we explore the specific trauma injuries caused by DARVO, how it functions as integrity abuse, and the steps for real-time accountability. We provide a simulated example of a DARVO conversation and discuss ways betrayed partners can maintain their reality and emotional regulation. For those recognizing these patterns in themselves, awareness and accountability are key steps towards real recovery. Join us for this essential conversation on ending deception and supporting autonomous informed choice. For more resources, visit joy-recovery.com.   00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:35 Understanding DARVO and Its Impact 01:41 Specific Trauma Injuries from DARVO 04:45 Simulation of a DARVO Scenario 08:19 Reflecting on the Simulation 09:33 Demonstrating Integrity in Conversations 12:54 Empowering Betrayed Partners 19:57 Encouragement for Men and Recognizing DARVO 23:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery   Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com   Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching   Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups   YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery

    24 min

  5. JAN 26

    S2 E01: DARVO - The Hidden Pattern of Manipulation (pt 1)

    Welcome back to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we tackle the concept of DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim, and Offender), a deeply damaging form of psychological abuse common in betrayal and deception scenarios. We'll define DARVO, demonstrate how it appears in real conversations, and distinguish between normal defensiveness and abusive DARVO role reversal. This episode aims to raise awareness and provide tools for both betrayed partners and those who might be using DARVO unconsciously. Join us for part one of this two-part series and learn the importance of ending deception, restoring reality, and supporting autonomous, informed choices. Subscribe to stay updated and explore more resources at joy-recovery.com. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:35 Understanding DARVO: Definition and Impact 01:26 Personal Insights and Experiences with DARVO 06:11 Recognizing DARVO in Conversations 15:13 Strategies to Counter DARVO 27:14 Conclusion and Next Steps   Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery   Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com   Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching   Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups   YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery

    28 min

  6. JAN 19

    Season 2 Trailer | Joy Recovery Radio

    Season 2 of Joy Recovery Radio continues the conversation about integrity, betrayal trauma, and what real recovery actually requires. In this brief trailer, we share what’s ahead in the upcoming season, including deeper teaching on integrity abuse, trauma-informed accountability, and the long-term work of becoming honest, loving, and whole. Season 2 launches next week. Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery   Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com   Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching   Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups   YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery

    1 min

  7. 12/15/2025

    Ep 47: Breaking the Pursuer/Avoider Cycle for Good

    In this episode, Roy and Jacqueline discuss the common 'Pursuer-Avoider Cycle' that many couples face after sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. They share personal experiences, practical strategies, and deep insights on how to break free from this cycle. Learn how to identify primary and secondary emotions, and discover actionable steps for both pursuers and avoiders to foster healing and connection. Tune in to gain valuable advice and find hope in your recovery journey. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:39 Personal Story: Remodeling Challenges 02:16 Understanding the Pursuer-Avoider Cycle 07:51 The Pursuer's Perspective 10:57 The Avoider's Perspective 25:07 Breaking the Cycle: Practical Steps 34:51 Conclusion and Weekly Challenge   Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery

    36 min

  8. 12/08/2025

    Ep 46: The False Self: How We Hide, Perform, and Protect - and How to Break Free

    In today's episode, we explore how understanding the shadow and false self impacts our spiritual and personal growth. Learn about practical spiritual practices such as the daily examen, solitude and silence, seeking feedback in community, and confession. These practices help dismantle the false self and expose the shadow, facilitating healing and transformation. Join us as we provide deep insights and strategies to help you step into your true identity, rooted in love and anchored in a relationship with God. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:38 The Shadow and the False Self 04:11 God's Invitation to Transformation 05:03 Spiritual Practices for Healing 08:48 The Daily Examen 13:31 Solitude and Silence 21:33 The Power of Community and Feedback 29:17 The Practice of Confession 36:56 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Free Assessment: Is the Recovery Real? 9 Vital Questions for Addicts & Partners - https://www.joy-recovery.com/real-recovery Free Newsletter: joy-recovery.com Coaching: https://www.joy-recovery.com/coaching Groups: https://www.joy-recovery.com/groups YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JoyRecovery

    37 min
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Welcome, this is Jacqueline and Roy (AKA ”Team Joy), your hosts for Joy Recovery Radio, where we offer hope, healing, and practical tools for couples navigating the difficult journey of recovery from sex addiction and betrayal trauma. We have been in your shoes, and it’s our mission to share our expertise, personal experiences and the latest research in every episode. We can testify that healing and recovery are possible. To find additional resources, coaching, and live webinars, please visit our website joy-recovery.com Team Joy is here to help you rediscover your joy!

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  • Creator
    Joy Recovery
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    53
  • Rating
    Clean
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    Joy Recovery Radio

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