The Self Love Project

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Welcome to The Self Love Project — the podcast that helps you quiet your inner critic, rewrite your self-talk, and finally feel like your own biggest supporter. Every week, host Megan Lawther (mindset coach, podcast host, and self-love cheerleader) shares relatable stories, mindset shifts, and soulful encouragement to help you feel better, love deeper, and stop self-sabotaging the life you actually want. Expect real talk, a little humor, and the kind of reminders that feel like a warm hug and a motivational slap on the same day. New episodes drop every Saturday morning (MDT) — so whether you're folding laundry or taking a walk, consider this your weekly permission slip to choose yourself. 

  1. 1d ago

    The Self-Improvement Trap

    In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores a surprising downside of personal growth: what happens when self-improvement starts turning into self-rejection. After finding herself stuck despite knowing all the things she could theoretically do to get unstuck, she takes an honest look at how the tools, lessons, and mindset shifts meant to help us can sometimes become ammunition for everything we think we “should” be doing better.  She unpacks two ways self-improvement can quietly work against us — constantly treating current-you like a project that still isn't finished, and consuming so much personal-development content that the growing pile of strategies becomes more overwhelming than useful. Megan explores the difference between learning about changing your life and actually living it, and why sometimes more information isn't the missing ingredient.   This episode shifts the focus away from constantly fixing, healing, analyzing, and upgrading yourself and toward actually enjoying the person you've already worked so hard to become. Megan explores why growth needs time to integrate, how self-awareness can become self-surveillance, and why you don't need to spend your entire life feeling like a house that's permanently under renovation.   If you've collected enough personal-development tools to open your own metaphorical Home Depot, constantly feel like there's another habit, trigger, mindset, or version of yourself to work on, or have forgotten how to simply be without turning yourself into another project, this conversation is your reminder that there are times for growing — and there are also times to put the tools down, sit in the finished room, and enjoy what you've already built.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca

  2. Sep 26

    When Life Goes Sideways: The F*ck, Fine, Pivot Method

    In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores what it actually means to roll with the punches when life refuses to follow the very specific plan you had in mind. From cancelled flights and changed plans to bad weather, broken cars, and everyday inconveniences, she looks at how often we experience the problem itself — and then create an entirely new problem by fighting the fact that it happened.  She introduces the highly scientific F**k, Fine, Pivot Method for building emotional flexibility without pretending frustrating things aren't frustrating. Megan explores why you don't need to skip your honest reaction, how acceptance is different from approval, and why one of the most useful skills you can build is shortening the amount of time between “F**K THIS” and “Okay… now what?”   This episode shifts the focus away from needing Plan A to work and toward trusting yourself to handle what happens when it doesn't. Megan explores the difference between problems that need action and situations that simply need acceptance, why “different” doesn't always mean “ruined,” and how confidence can also mean believing in your ability to improvise when life goes sideways.   If you tend to get attached to how something should go, struggle when plans suddenly change, or let one inconvenience hijack the rest of your day, this conversation will help you loosen your grip, recover faster, and get better at working with life as it actually is — instead of only enjoying it when everything goes according to plan. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca

  3. Sep 19

    How to Actually Be Your Own Best Friend (The Real Test of Self Love)

    In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan returns to one of the ideas at the very heart of the podcast: becoming your own best friend. But this conversation goes beyond positive affirmations and saying nice things to yourself — it's about becoming someone you can actually rely on when you're overwhelmed, struggling, making mistakes, or simply not feeling like your favorite version of yourself.  She explores the difference between your inner critic and your inner best friend — from remembering context on hard days and refusing to turn mistakes into character flaws, to being willing to lovingly call yourself out when you're avoiding something, making excuses, or need to take accountability. Because being in your own corner doesn't mean letting yourself get away with everything; it means learning how to be honest with yourself without being cruel.   This episode shifts the focus away from self-love as constant approval and toward building a relationship with yourself that includes compassion, honesty, encouragement, accountability, and a whole lot more celebration. Megan explores why we're often incredibly quick to notice everything we do wrong while barely acknowledging our courage, growth, effort, and the small wins nobody else sees.  If your inner voice tends to get loudest when you've screwed up and mysteriously disappears when you've done something worth celebrating, this conversation will help you become someone you actually want beside you when life gets hard — someone who can comfort you, challenge you, hype you up, tell you the truth, and most importantly, stay in your corner through all of it. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca

  4. Sep 12

    Closure Without All the Answers: The Case Closed Check

    In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores our obsession with closure — and the belief that somewhere out there is one missing explanation, apology, conversation, or piece of information that will finally allow us to move on.  She unpacks how the search for answers can become another way of staying attached to the very thing we're trying to heal from. From replaying conversations and rereading messages to checking social media and endlessly asking "why," Megan explores the important difference between actually processing an experience and simply rehearsing the same pain over and over again.  This episode shifts the focus away from needing someone or something outside of you to provide the perfect ending and toward recognizing when you already know enough. Megan explores why information doesn't always bring peace, how our brains fill unanswered questions with painful stories of their own, and why sometimes closure isn't something you receive — it's something you decide.   If you've been waiting for an explanation, apology, validation, certainty, or one final conversation before you feel like you're allowed to move forward, this conversation will help you stop reopening the case, make peace with what you may never know, and reclaim your ability to keep living without having every missing piece.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca

  5. Sep 5

    The Perfectionism That Makes You Quit And The Secret to Actually Staying Consistent

    In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan takes a closer look at perfectionism — and why it doesn’t always look like colour-coded planners, flawless work, and refusing to make mistakes. Sometimes, perfectionism looks like procrastination, endless tweaking, waiting until you feel completely ready, or keeping something safely inside the realm of “potential” where nobody can judge it yet.  She explores an often-overlooked side of perfectionism: what happens after something goes well. When your best workout becomes the standard for every workout, your most productive day becomes the new expectation, or one great piece of work suddenly feels like something you have to recreate every single time, success can quickly turn from evidence of what you're capable of into pressure you have to live up to.  This episode shifts the focus away from perfect performance and toward something far more sustainable: learning how to have average days and keep going. Megan unpacks why consistency isn't about maintaining an unbroken streak, how all-or-nothing thinking turns small interruptions into long disappearances, and why building room for imperfect versions of your habits might actually make you more consistent.  If you've ever procrastinated because something wasn't ready enough, put enormous pressure on yourself to repeat a past success, or missed a few days and somehow resurfaced six weeks later wondering what the hell happened, this conversation will help you rethink perfectionism, redefine consistency, and remember that your best is evidence of what's possible — not the minimum requirement for being allowed to continue. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca

  6. Aug 29

    The "I Should Be Further Along" Feeling

    In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the anxiety of feeling behind in life — especially when it seems like everyone around you is hitting milestones while you're wondering why your own life doesn't look the way you thought it would by now.  She unpacks the invisible timelines we carry for relationships, careers, money, family, success, and adulthood — and how easily an unmet expectation can turn into the belief that we're somehow failing. Megan explores the grief that can exist between the life you imagined and the life you're actually living, while making space for the complicated truth that you can be genuinely happy for someone else and still feel sadness about something you deeply want for yourself.   This episode shifts the focus away from somebody else's milestones and toward questioning the timeline itself. Megan explores why starting over isn't the same as falling behind, how easily we mistake "not yet" for "never," and why some of the most meaningful progress in our lives is the kind that never comes with an announcement, title, ring, paycheck, or house key. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca

  7. Aug 22

    Trusting Again: When the Past Shows Up in New People

    In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores what happens when someone gives you a very legitimate reason not to trust them — and your brain decides that perhaps no human being should ever be trusted again. She dives into the complicated aftermath of betrayal and why learning to trust again isn't simply about convincing yourself that a new person is different. Because underneath the fear of being hurt again is often an even deeper question: Can I trust myself if it happens again?  This episode shifts the focus away from blind trust and toward something far more sustainable: allowing trust to be built through consistency, evidence, boundaries, and repair. Megan explores how past experiences can influence the way we interpret new relationships, why trust doesn't have to be all-or-nothing, and how to tell the difference between paying attention and making new people pay old debts. If you've been hurt, lied to, betrayed, or blindsided and now find yourself questioning people's intentions, bracing for history to repeat itself, or doubting your own judgment, this conversation will help you build a wiser version of trust — one that allows you to stay open without being blind, vulnerable without abandoning yourself, and confident that whatever another person chooses to do, you can trust yourself to handle what comes next.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca

  8. Aug 15

    The Myth of Maximum Productivity: Working With Your Capacity

    In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores why so many of us expect ourselves to perform at 100% every single day—and why that expectation leaves us feeling like we're constantly falling behind. Instead of trying to force the same level of productivity regardless of your energy, stress, or mental capacity, Megan introduces the idea of creating your own personal operating manual. Through humor, relatable stories, and four surprisingly practical (and unapologetically named) strategies, she shares a more compassionate way to navigate the different versions of yourself that show up from day to day. This episode shifts the focus away from pushing harder and toward working with your capacity instead of fighting against it. Megan explores how to recognize the early signs of overwhelm, stop turning low-energy days into character judgments, and build simple systems that make life feel lighter—even when you're not operating at your best. If you've ever called yourself lazy for needing a break, felt guilty for not getting enough done, or wondered why some days brushing your teeth feels like an Olympic event while other days you can conquer the world, this conversation will help you replace self-criticism with self-awareness, adjust your expectations without giving up on yourself, and learn how to support the version of you that shows up each day.  Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca

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Welcome to The Self Love Project — the podcast that helps you quiet your inner critic, rewrite your self-talk, and finally feel like your own biggest supporter. Every week, host Megan Lawther (mindset coach, podcast host, and self-love cheerleader) shares relatable stories, mindset shifts, and soulful encouragement to help you feel better, love deeper, and stop self-sabotaging the life you actually want. Expect real talk, a little humor, and the kind of reminders that feel like a warm hug and a motivational slap on the same day. New episodes drop every Saturday morning (MDT) — so whether you're folding laundry or taking a walk, consider this your weekly permission slip to choose yourself. 

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  • Creator
    Megan
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    79
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Self Love Project
  • Show Website
    The Self Love Project

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