Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K.

Alexandra K. Hopkins

Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K is a podcast for women who are rewriting the rules of motherhood—on purpose. Hosted by Alexandra K, a single mom by choice and former fertility patient, this show dives deep into the real stories, messy emotions, and hard-earned wisdom behind donor conception, solo parenting, and navigating modern fertility systems as a Black woman. Alexandra started this podcast with one goal: to make sure no one has to wonder if this path is possible—or if they’re the only one thinking about it. When she first began her own journey, she searched for “single mom on purpose” just hoping to find someone else out there like her. Now, she’s building the space she once needed: a community where your questions, fears, and dreams are all welcome. Each week, you’ll hear honest conversations, listener-submitted dilemmas, and guest interviews exploring everything from choosing a sperm donor to answering your child’s toughest questions, to reclaiming joy and agency in solo motherhood. Whether you’re considering this path, deep in the trenches, or parenting solo already—you’re not alone. New episodes every Tuesday. Available on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts & more.

  1. 5d ago

    Annmaree

    In this episode of Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K., I sit down with Annmaree, a solo mother by choice living in London, to discuss her journey to motherhood through IVF and donor conception. Although Annmaree always knew she wanted to be a mother, life took unexpected turns. After years of nurturing other people’s children as a nanny, she realized it was time to focus on building a family of her own. As she approached 40, the reality of her fertility timeline became more pressing, and she began exploring her options for becoming a mother on her own. Then COVID hit. Rather than putting her plans on hold indefinitely, Annmaree decided to take action. She shares how she navigated fertility treatment, selected a sperm donor, and made important decisions about embryo testing—all while managing the emotional, financial, and practical realities of building a family on her own. But the journey didn’t end with a positive pregnancy test. Annmaree opens up about pregnancy uncertainty, miscarriage, and the fear of navigating difficult moments without another parent by her side. We also discuss donor siblings, talking to children about donor conception, and raising her son with honesty and confidence. In this episode, we discuss: • What inspired Annmaree to become a Single Mom By Choice after years of wanting to be a parent • How turning 40 influenced her decision to pursue motherhood • Navigating IVF and fertility treatment during the COVID-19 pandemic • The difference between freezing eggs and creating embryos, and why fertility testing matters • Choosing a sperm donor, including donor profiles, adult photos, and the additional costs of accessing donor information • Embryo testing and the decision to identify genetic abnormalities before transfer • Pregnancy anxiety and the reality of not always feeling the emotions you expect • Navigating miscarriage and the unique fears that can come with experiencing difficult moments as a solo parent • Finding donor sibling families and the possibility of future connections • Talking to children about sperm donation and explaining donor conception in age-appropriate ways • The realities of solo parenting, including finances, support systems, travel, and maintaining your own identity Annmaree’s story explores both the decisions involved in building a family and the realities of living that decision. Her experience is a reminder that choosing solo motherhood doesn’t mean having every answer in advance. It means navigating uncertainty, making informed decisions, and continuing to build the life you envision. About Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. is the podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. Through honest conversations and personal stories, we explore solo motherhood, IVF, sperm donors, donor conception, and the many ways women are choosing to build their families. Our goal is to share stories that create representation, foster community, and remind women that they aren’t alone in their journey. Stay Connected 🤍 🎙️ Follow the podcast: Instagram: WhosTheDaddyPod Follow Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. on your favorite podcast streaming platform so you never miss an episode! 👋🏾 Connect with Alexandra K.: Instagram: @LifeWithAlexandraK ✨ Follow Annmaree: Instagram: @DonutsAndDetours Thank you for listening! If Annmaree’s story resonated with you, share this episode with someone who might need to hear it. And remember, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you!

  2. Oct 20

    Phyllis

    In this episode of Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K., I sit down with Phyllis, a nurse, veteran, and Single Mom By Choice (SMBC), to discuss her journey to solo motherhood and the decision to build a family on her own terms. While stationed in Japan, Phyllis began rethinking the traditional path to motherhood. Inspired by the book Single Mothers by Choice, she discovered that she didn’t have to wait for a partner to pursue the future she wanted. But choosing to become a single mother by choice came with challenges. Phyllis shares her experiences navigating medical professionals who struggled to understand her decision, managing mixed reactions from family members, and selecting a sperm donor. She also discusses how she talks to her daughter about donor conception and teaches her that families come in all forms. In this episode, we discuss: • What inspired Phyllis to become a Single Mom By Choice • How Single Mothers by Choice helped her discover an alternative path to motherhood • Navigating fertility care when medical professionals don’t understand your decision • Choosing a sperm donor and involving family and friends in the process • Handling family resistance while standing firm in your decision • Talking to children about donor conception and different family structures • Building a family without waiting for a romantic partner Whether you’re considering becoming a Single Mom By Choice, exploring sperm donor options, or simply curious about the different ways families are built, Phyllis’s story is a reminder that motherhood doesn’t have to follow a traditional timeline. About Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. is the podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. Through honest conversations and personal stories, we explore solo motherhood, IVF, sperm donors, donor conception, and the many ways women are choosing to build their families. Our goal is to share stories that create representation, foster community, and remind women that they aren’t alone in their journey. Stay Connected 🤍 🎙️ Follow the podcast: Instagram: @WhosTheDaddyPod Subscribe or follow Who’s the Daddy? w/ Alexandra K. on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! 👋🏾 Connect with Alexandra K.: Instagram: @LifeWithAlexandraK ✨ Follow Phyllis: Instagram: @Mommy.Marron Thank you for listening! Share this episode with a woman who might need to hear Phyllis’s story. And remember, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you!

  3. Oct 13

    Onyi O.

    What happens when you realize you don’t need a man or a marriage to become a mother? For actor and producer Onyi Okoli, that realization was an epiphany. One that made her soul rejoice. In this episode of Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K., Onyi joins me for a candid conversation about her journey to becoming a Single Mom By Choice (SMBC) and what it means to build a family on your own terms. Onyi shares what first opened her eyes to the possibility of solo motherhood, how she navigated egg freezing and IVF, and the surprisingly funny and deeply personal process of choosing a donor. We also explore identity, representation, dating, and family planning, including how Onyi approached donor selection and why physical attraction was one of her priorities. This conversation is about giving yourself permission to imagine a different future — and realizing you don’t have to put your dreams on hold while waiting for someone else. And if you’re considering becoming a Single Mom By Choice yourself, Onyi leaves us with practical encouragement: trust your timing, do your research, and plan for the life you want. Whether you’re already a Single Mom By Choice, considering solo motherhood, somewhere in the middle of your journey, or simply curious about the possibilities, this episode is a reminder that there is more than one way to build a family. 🎙️ Listen to Episode 2: Onyi Okoli’s Journey to Solo Motherhood 🗳️ Help Baby Kairolu Become Baby of the Year! Onyi’s daughter, Baby Kairolu, is competing for Baby of the Year, and your vote could help her get closer to the title! The winner could receive $25,000 and a feature in Variety. Show Kairolu some love and cast your vote here: 👉 https://babyoftheyear.org/vote/verify/2026/ka-r-lu-3d2b Every vote counts! 🤍 Connect with Onyi Instagram: @OnyiOkoli Connect with Alexandra Instagram: @LifeWithAlexandraK Podcast Instagram: @WhosTheDaddyPod Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K. The podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. And as always, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you. 🤍

  4. Sep 29

    Season 2 Trailer | Who's The Daddy w/Alexandra K.

    Season 2 of Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K. is here. 🎙️ This season, we’re going deeper into the stories behind the women who chose solo motherhood — the decisions, the doubts, the unexpected paths, and the lives they’re building on the other side of that choice. You’ll hear from Single Moms By Choice (SMBCs) with different experiences, backgrounds, perspectives, and reasons for choosing to build their families on their own terms. And this season, I’m stepping out from behind the microphone, too. For the first time, I’m the guest. I’ll be sharing more of my own story — from deciding to become a mom on my own, to IVF and donor conception, to becoming a mother of two. New episodes drop every Tuesday. If you’re thinking about becoming a Single Mom By Choice, already on the journey, or simply curious about the many ways a family can be built, I hope you’ll join me. 🎧 Subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode. And as always, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you. 🤍 Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K. The podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod Let’s Connect! Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen! New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being part of this community. #SingleMomByChoice #SMBC #SoloMotherhood #IVF #DonorConception #SingleMotherhood #FamilyBuilding #FertilityJourney #Motherhood #WhosTheDaddy

  5. 06/17/2025

    Dee & Lisa | Sistermom x 2 & Telling the Truth

    Dee & Lisa | Sister Moms & Telling the Truth Season 1 Finale In this powerful Season 1 finale of Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K, I’m joined by two of my sister moms — Demetria @cannaqueeriousnp and Lisa @fernwehlisa — the mothers of my children’s donor sibling. Together, we share what it’s like raising children who are connected not by circumstance, but by donor conception. We explore how we found each other, how we’ve nurtured sibling bonds between our kids, and how we show up for one another as a modern-day chosen family. We also discuss the importance of truth-telling in donor conception: Keeping the details of your child’s conception a secret isn’t protecting them—it’s lying to them. This episode is a heartfelt close to a season filled with honesty, vulnerability, and deep connection—and it’s a love letter to all the SMBCs building families with courage and intention. Solicited Advice: This week’s listener has connected with other families who used the same donor—but she’s unsure of when and how to tell her child that they have donor siblings. We explore how to approach this conversation with transparency, sensitivity, and age-appropriate honesty. Guest Info: Demetria: @cannaqueeriousnp Lisa: @fernwehlisa Let’s Connect: Submit your story or a question for Season 2: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail.com Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod Watch on YouTube or listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & more Thank you for being a part of this community!!

  6. 06/10/2025

    Sarah Z. | Choosing what Matters & Second Guessing my Decision

    This week, I’m joined by Sarah (@zorabet_), a Jewish single mom by choice who approached her journey to motherhood with deep intentionality—from personal growth to spiritual alignment. In this episode, Sarah shares how her Jewish identity influenced her process of choosing a sperm donor and how other major life decisions, including a significant weight loss journey, prepared her emotionally and physically for motherhood. Now a proud mom to one daughter, Sarah reflects on the choices that led her here and the mindset shifts that helped her navigate the ups and downs of this path. Her story is a powerful reminder that becoming a solo mother by choice is not just about biology—it’s about vision, self-work, and trusting your unique process. Solicited Advice: This week’s listener is emotionally drained after multiple failed attempts to become a SMBC. She’s wondering whether she should continue pursuing her dream or take it as a sign to stop. We explore how to process disappointment, reconnect with your “why,” and make empowered decisions—even in the face of uncertainty. Guest Info: Sarah Z. Follow her on Instagram: @zorabet_ Resources Mentioned: Submit your question for “Solicited Advice”: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail.com Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod Watch full episodes on YouTube Let’s Connect! Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen! New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being part of this community.

  7. 06/03/2025

    Nancy M. | Life with a Known Donor & Blocking Out Negativity

    Nancy M. | Life with a Known Donor & Blocking Out Negativity This week, I’m joined by Nancy (@_surfboartsashaa), who opens up about her journey to solo motherhood using a known donor. In a space where anonymous or anonymous ID-release donation is often the default, Nancy chose to walk a different path—one that has brought unique benefits for her and for her child’s future. She shares why she made this decision, the dynamics of building a family with intention and clarity, and the unexpected ways this choice has empowered her as a mother. Her perspective adds an important voice to the growing diversity of SMBC experiences. Solicited Advice: This week’s listener is a pregnant SMBC facing ongoing negativity and judgment from her family. She’s wondering whether she should cut ties for her peace or hold out hope that they’ll come around once the baby arrives. We talk about setting boundaries, protecting your joy, and navigating family tension without losing yourself. Guest Info: Nancy M. Single mom by choice: Follow her on Instagram: @_surfboartsashaa Resources Mentioned: • Submit your question for “Solicited Advice”: whosthedaddypodcast@gmail.com • Follow the show on IG: @whosthedaddypod • Watch full episodes on YouTube Let’s Connect! Follow Alexandra: @lifewithalexandrak Rate, review, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen! New episodes every Tuesday. Thanks for being here and sharing this space.

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Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K is a podcast for women who are rewriting the rules of motherhood—on purpose. Hosted by Alexandra K, a single mom by choice and former fertility patient, this show dives deep into the real stories, messy emotions, and hard-earned wisdom behind donor conception, solo parenting, and navigating modern fertility systems as a Black woman. Alexandra started this podcast with one goal: to make sure no one has to wonder if this path is possible—or if they’re the only one thinking about it. When she first began her own journey, she searched for “single mom on purpose” just hoping to find someone else out there like her. Now, she’s building the space she once needed: a community where your questions, fears, and dreams are all welcome. Each week, you’ll hear honest conversations, listener-submitted dilemmas, and guest interviews exploring everything from choosing a sperm donor to answering your child’s toughest questions, to reclaiming joy and agency in solo motherhood. Whether you’re considering this path, deep in the trenches, or parenting solo already—you’re not alone. New episodes every Tuesday. Available on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts & more.

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