ADHD Come Lately Podcast

A Bloke Called Dave

Ever thought: 'Wait… is this ADHD?' You’re in the right place. ADHD Come Lately, hosted by Dave, is for the late-diagnosed, self-suspecting, those close to someone with ADHD, and anyone still figuring it out. Honest, funny, shame-free conversations about adult ADHD and neurodivergent life. From masking and burnout to relationships, parenting, work stress, executive dysfunction, hyperfocus, and overstimulation—it’s all here, in the real chaos of daily life. ⚠️ This podcast is not a diagnostic tool. Please consult a qualified health professional. Listen: https://pod.link/1826742829

  1. Oct 25

    AuDHD Masking and Burnout (Signs, Cycles & Recovery)

    Episode 14: AuDHD Masking and Burnout (Signs, Cycles & Recovery). Hit a brick wall and feel like basic adulting is failing? In this solo episode, we dive into AuDHD burnout, late-diagnosed masking, and why treating your ADHD can unmask overwhelming sensory sensitivities. Discover why 'load-bearing' masks collapse, the illusion of productivity, and practical survival strategies when your nervous system pulls the plug. I’d like to acknowledge the Traditional Custodians of the land on which this episode is recorded, the Wallumattagal Peoples of the Dharug Nation. I pay my respects to Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all First Nations people listening today. Sovereignty was never ceded—it always was, and always will be, Aboriginal Land. Key Takeaways: * The 5 Burnout Signs: Navigating chronic exhaustion, skill regression, losing touch with special interests, extreme social withdrawal, and the 'Spider-Man' sensory filter collapse. * The ADHD Medication Paradox: Why quieting your ADHD can drop the mask and bring latent autistic traits into sharp focus. * Practical Survival: How to apply radical expectation dropping, low-demand micro-boundaries, and non-negotiable sensory accommodations. References & Further Reading  * Raymaker, D. M., et al. (2020) – 'Having All of Your Internal Resources Exhausted Beyond Measure': Defining Autistic Burnout (Autism in Adulthood).  * Price, Devon – Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity.  * Wharmby, Pete – Untypical: How the World Isn't Built for Autistic People and What We Need to Change.Australian Adult Support Services If you are navigating AuDHD, masking, or burnout in Australia, support is available:  * Autism Connect (Amaze): Call 1300 308 699 (Free, confidential national helpline for autistic adults and pathway support).  * ADHD Foundation Australia Helpline: Call 1300 39 39 19 (Volunteer-operated adult ADHD guidance and resource navigation).  * Disability Gateway: Call 1800 643 787 (Australian Government service connecting neurodivergent adults to health, housing, and support).  * Clinical Care: Speak to your General Practitioner (GP) about a Medicare Mental Health Treatment Plan for a referral to an appropriate specialist or psychologist.

  2. Oct 8

    What Happens When ADHD Meets Autism? Navigating the AuDHD Experience

    Ep. 13: What Happens When ADHD Meets Autism? Navigating the AuDHD Experience Do you crave the chaos of novelty, but panic without a routine? You might be navigating AuDHD. In Episode 13 of ADHD Come Lately, Dave dives into the messy, overlapping space where late-diagnosed ADHD meets suspected autism. Rather than forcing neurodivergence into neat diagnostic boxes, this episode breaks down the core tensions of living with both—including how starting ADHD medications like Vyvanse can suddenly unveil hidden autistic traits. Whether you are formally diagnosed, questioning if you're AuDHD, or validating a self-recognition journey, this episode unpacks the paradoxes of neurodivergent life. Key Topics Covered in This Episode: Novelty vs. Routine: Why your brain demands new experiences yet falls apart without an anchor. The Sensory Paradox: Navigating sensory overload at the supermarket versus thriving in a mosh pit. Order vs. Anarchy: Dr. Khurrum Sadiq's brilliant framework of autism as the 'good parent' and ADHD as the 'good friend'. Social Battery Burnout: Balancing the deep desire for connection with the exhaustion of small talk. The Diagnostic Dilemma: Is an official adult autism assessment worth the cost, or is self-recognition enough? Book Recommendation: Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity by Dr. Devon Price, PhD. Research & Public Health: WHO Commission on Social Connection Lived Experience: Self-recognition is valid. Because formal diagnoses are often privileged, expensive, and inaccessible, we centre lived and living experience and honour the community elders who paved the way. Acknowledgement of Country: Produced on the unceded lands of the Wallumattagal Peoples of the Dharug Nation. We pay our respects to Elders past and present. Sovereignty was never ceded. Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. Australian Autism & ADHD Support Services ADHD Foundation Australia: The national community charity for ADHD, providing community support services, educational resources, and navigation assistance. Yellow Ladybugs: An Australian grassroots organisation dedicated to supporting, celebrating, and advocating for autistic girls, women, and gender-diverse individuals. Autism Spectrum Australia (Aspect): One of Australia's largest autism-specific service providers, offering comprehensive diagnostic assessments (including autism and ADHD), adult community support, and therapy services.Autism Connect (Amaze): Australia’s national, independent autism helpline offering free information, advice, and referral pathways via phone, email, and webchat.

  3. Aug 28

    AuDHD Time Traveller: What Would You Tell Your Younger Self?

    ADHD Time Traveller: What I'd Tell My Younger Self About ADHD & Autism What would you tell your younger self if you could go back and explain what you now know about ADHD, autism and being neurodivergent? In Episode 12 of ADHD Come Lately, Dave looks back at his childhood, adolescence and earlier adult life through the lens of what he now understands about his ADHD and suspected autism. With the benefit of hindsight, he reflects on the things that never quite made sense at the time: feeling different, struggling to understand himself, worrying about the wrong things, and interpreting his experiences without having the language of neurodivergence. What would he do differently? What would he stop worrying about? What would he tell his younger self about ADHD? And would understanding his neurotype earlier have changed anything? This is an episode about ADHD in adulthood, late self-understanding, childhood experiences, memories, hindsight and discovering a neurodivergent identity later in life. Part reflection, part hindsight and hopefully a little bit entertaining, Dave travels back through his own past to offer the advice he wishes he'd had back then. Because sometimes the advice we most needed when we were younger is the advice we're only finally able to give ourselves now. 🎧 A Note on Self-Identification & Neurodivergence This isn’t a trend. It’s a revolution. We recognise, validate, and support people who self-identify or self-recognise as autistic and/or neurodivergent. The traditional clinical diagnostic system can be inaccessible and exclusionary, locking many adults out through prohibitive costs, lengthy waitlists, limited pathways to assessment, and systemic biases that have historically affected women, BIPOC, LGBTQ+, and gender-diverse people. Self-identification is not a casual label or something we arrive at lightly. For many people, it comes after months—or years—of research, deep self-reflection, pattern recognition, and developing a profound understanding of their own internal experience. Lived experience matters. We believe people deserve space to explore their neurodivergence without shame, dismissal, or gatekeeping. We welcome those who are formally diagnosed, self-identified, self-recognised, or still questioning. This is about making room for more voices, more stories, and more ways of understanding the human brain. We’re not rewriting the narrative because neurodivergence suddenly exists. We’re rewriting it because people are finally being heard. 🌿 Acknowledgement of Country We acknowledge the Traditional Custodians of the land on which we record and share this podcast—the Wallumattagal Clan of the Dharug Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and recognise their deep and enduring connection to the land, waters, culture, and community of this region. Lived experience, storytelling, knowledge, and community have thrived on this land since time immemorial. Sovereignty was never ceded. Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. Support for Neurodivergent People in Australia ADHD Australia https://adhdaustralia.org.au/ ADHD Foundation https://adhdfoundation.org.au/ Healthdirect — ADHD Information https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/attention-deficit-disorder-add-or-adhd Autism Connect — Amaze Free, confidential national autism information and support. Phone: 1300 308 699 https://www.amaze.org.au/autismconnect/ Amaze Information, advocacy, resources and support for Autistic people, families and professionals. https://www.amaze.org.au/ Healthdirect — Autism Information https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/autism

  4. Jul 5

    Making Friends: An AuDHD Social Story

    Episode 11: Making Friends: An AuDHD Social Story Ever felt like everyone else was handed a secret social handbook at birth, and your copy got lost in the mail? In this episode of ADHD Come Lately, we are pulling back the curtain on the messy, exhausting, and deeply misunderstood world of navigating friendships when your brain is wired a little differently. We dive straight into the chaotic intersection of ADHD and Autism (AuDHD) through the lens of a 14-year-old kid in the 90s, using the high-octane soundtrack of Green Day and The Offspring to decode the exact anatomy of neurodivergent masking, executive dysfunction, and burnout. WHAT WE'RE UNPACKING THIS EPISODE: The Soundtrack of the Unregulated Mind: How 90s punk rock bangers like 'All I Want' and 'Basket Case' provided a diagnosis long before the clinical words existed. The 'Masking' Minefield: The immense, invisible energy cost of trying to force an AuDHD brain into a neurotypical mould—and why children don't "grow out of it". Is it ADHD or Autism? Breaking down the internal clash between ADHD impulsivity and autistic sensory overload during socialising. The Text Message Paradox: Why putting off a reply isn't always about forgetting—it’s about the overwhelming uncertainty of what happens after you hit send. Faking It but Never Making It: We talk about using shields like football scripts just to get by. Here's a classic scene from the episode of The IT Crowd that perfectly captures the absurdity of memorising standard scripts just to pass as a 'real man': youtube.com/shorts/uT79sc27l0U Limerence vs. Love: A critical look at how an interest-based nervous system can intensely latch onto a person the same way it does a hyperfixation. THE NEURODIVERGENT UPSIDE We aren't just talking about the struggles. We’re celebrating the absolute goldmine of having an AuDHD friend: the unparalleled creativity, the fierce honesty, and the unwavering loyalty of people who know exactly what it’s like to live on the outside. Whether you’re looking for your tribe, seeking validation for your own late discovery, or just want to feel a little less alone in a world that feels too loud—this episode is your permission slip to put down the handbook and just breathe. Listen now to find validation, not just a crowd. Because you're not deficient—you’re different. NEURODIVERGENT SUPPORT SERVICES (AUSTRALIA) If you are navigating your own late discovery, looking for community, or seeking neuro-affirming guidance, these free and independent Australian services are here to help: Autism Connect (Amaze): A free, national helpline providing independent, expert information for autistic people, their families, and peers. Phone: 1300 308 699 (8am–7pm, Mon–Fri) | amaze.org.au/autismconnect/ ADHD National Australian Helpline: Free, national service run by the ADHD Foundation Australia to find accurate information, screening guidance, and local support pathways. Phone: 1300 393 919 | adhdfoundation.org.au ADHD Support Australia: An online education and community hub offering peer support groups, digital resources, and neuro-affirming social connections for adults, teens, and parents. adhdsupportaustralia.com.au NeuroThrive Australia: A national registered charity dedicated to fostering authentic belonging, neuro-affirming workshops, and peer support networks for the AuDHD community. neurothrive.org.au This podcast is for informational and reflective purposes only and does not constitute medical advice.

  5. Jun 15

    Staying on Script — Vyvanse and AuDHD (?)

    What happens after an adult ADHD diagnosis? Does medication solve everything? In this episode of ADHD Come Lately, Dave reflects on life after stabilising on Vyvanse and the realities of living with ADHD as a late-diagnosed adult. From increased focus at work to ongoing struggles with sleep, time blindness, executive functioning, and switching off in the evenings, Dave explores what ADHD medication helps with—and what it doesn't. The episode also examines literal thinking, 'out of sight, out of mind' ADHD traits, parenting while neurodivergent, workplace stress, and the challenge of balancing work, family, and self-care. As his understanding of ADHD deepens, Dave also reflects on whether ADHD fully explains his experiences, exploring traits often associated with AuDHD (Autism and ADHD) and the growing number of adults questioning whether there may be more to their neurodivergence than they first realised. Whether you're newly diagnosed, considering an ADHD assessment, living with AuDHD, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers an honest look at the ongoing journey of self-understanding after diagnosis. Topics include:• Adult ADHD & Late ADHD diagnosis• Vyvanse and ADHD medication• AuDHD (Autism + ADHD)• Time blindness & Executive functioning• Neurodivergence & Coping strategies• Parenting with ADHD & Workplace stress Neurodivergent Support & Resources (Australia) If anything in this episode resonates with you and you're struggling, support is available. • Emergency: 000• Lifeline Australia (24/7): 13 11 14 | https://www.lifeline.org.au• Beyond Blue (24/7): 1300 22 4636 | https://www.beyondblue.org.au• Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 | https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au• MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78 | https://mensline.org.au• headspace: https://headspace.org.au Neurodivergence Peak Bodies & Organizations: • ADHD Australia: The national independent advocacy organisation dedicated to raising awareness, reducing social stigma, and providing resources.Website: https://www.adhdaustralia.org.au • AuDHD Australia: The national peak body for adults living with co-occurring Autism and ADHD. A lived-experience-governed, clinically reviewed charity.Website: https://audhd.org.au • ADHD Foundation Australia: National charity hosting the National Australian ADHD Helpline (1300 39 39 19) alongside subsidised screening tools.Website: https://adhdfoundation.org.au • Autism Spectrum Australia (Aspect): One of the country's largest autism-specific service providers offering comprehensive assessments, adult supports, and employment frameworks.Website: https://www.aspect.org.au

  6. 11/11/2025

    Three Lessons from an ADHD Late Diagnosis

    🎧 ADHD Come Lately – Episode 9: Three Lessons from an ADHD Late Diagnosis Six weeks into his ADHD diagnosis, the host reflects on three lessons so far — from the limits of medication to finding acceptance and humour in late discovery. Featuring a powerbank, an airport tannoy, and the things we carry without realising. In this reflective wrap-up to the first season of ADHD Come Lately, we explore what happens after the diagnosis — when the dust settles and real life carries on. Six weeks in, three lessons emerge: 💊 Medication helps, but it’s not magic. 🧭 Very few people will truly understand — and that’s okay. 🌱 I’m still me. Along the way, there’s travel fatigue, tension headaches, RSD triggers, and one deeply awkward airport moment involving a “deported” powerbank. This episode is about learning to sit comfortably with yourself — ADHD and all — while leaving behind the unnecessary baggage you’ve been dragging around for years. --- ✨ Support & Resources (Australia): 🇦🇺 ADHD Australia 🇦🇺 Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636 🇦🇺 Head to Health 🇦🇺 Lifeline – 13 11 14 (24/7 crisis support) 🇦🇺 MensLine Australia – 1300 78 99 78 🖤❤️💛 Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Mental Health Support: 🏵️ 13YARN – 13 92 76 A free, confidential, 24/7 phone line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples who are feeling overwhelmed or need someone to talk to. 🖤❤️💛 WellMob – Culturally safe online mental health tools and wellbeing resources made by and for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. --- 🇬🇧 UK Support: 🇬🇧 ADHD UK 🇬🇧 Mind – Mental Health Charity --- 🎙️ About the Show: ADHD Come Lately is for the newly diagnosed, the maybe diagnosed, and anyone realising that the reason they can’t finish their to-do list might not be a character flaw after all.

    Three Lessons from an ADHD Late Diagnosis
  7. 09/30/2025

    ADHD Cheat Codes: A Game of Neurodivergence

    🎧 Episode 7: ADHD Cheat Codes: A Game of Neurodivergence In this episode, I take you through some of the wild, messy, and occasionally funny chapters of my life — from dropping out of uni in a blur of beer and burgers, to solo climbing 'missions' that could’ve gone very wrong, to lifeguarding, failed police applications, and eventually stumbling into criminology. Along the way, I share the ADHD 'cheat codes' I’ve discovered — the shortcuts and workarounds that helped me survive and, eventually, succeed. And to wrap up, I share a bunch of practical cheat codes that you can actually steal and try in your own life. What you’ll hear in this episode: Why my first go at university was doomed from the start The thrill (and chaos) of late-night climbing escapades The crushing shame of walking out of my first exam Lifeguarding, depression, and trying to 'repent' by joining the police Discovering criminology and finally feeling interested in something ADHD 'cheat codes' I’ve used across work, study, and life A list of practical hacks for focus, routine, money, social life, and study --- 🛠 Cheat Codes You Can Steal Here are some of the ADHD hacks I talk through in the episode: Brain & Focus: body doubling, timers, externalising your brain Life Admin: the one-touch rule, default meals/outfits, visible storage Money: automate bills, separate fun money Social & Emotional: script conversations, pre-commit to plans, schedule rest Work & Study: work with your natural energy, use templates, micro-deadlines These aren’t rules — they’re tools. Try what works, ditch what doesn’t. --- 🚑 Australian Support Services If you’re struggling with ADHD, mental health, or both, you don’t have to do it alone. Here are some supports you can reach out to: ADHD-specific ADHD Australia — adhdaustralia.org.au ADHD Foundation — Helpline 1300 39 39 19, adhdfoundation.org.au ADHD Support Australia — adhdsupportaustralia.com.au ADHD Guide (Australia) — adhdguide.com.au Mental health & crisis support Lifeline — 13 11 14 (24/7 crisis support) Beyond Blue — 1300 22 4636 (mental health support and counselling) Head to Health — headtohealth.gov.au NSW Mental Health Line — 1800 011 511 (24/7 service in NSW) --- 👉 If you find this episode useful, please follow the show, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need a few cheat codes of their own.

    ADHD Cheat Codes: A Game of Neurodivergence

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Ever thought: 'Wait… is this ADHD?' You’re in the right place. ADHD Come Lately, hosted by Dave, is for the late-diagnosed, self-suspecting, those close to someone with ADHD, and anyone still figuring it out. Honest, funny, shame-free conversations about adult ADHD and neurodivergent life. From masking and burnout to relationships, parenting, work stress, executive dysfunction, hyperfocus, and overstimulation—it’s all here, in the real chaos of daily life. ⚠️ This podcast is not a diagnostic tool. Please consult a qualified health professional. Listen: https://pod.link/1826742829

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