We Ain't Dead Yet

Constance Bauer and Lori Dube
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Lori Dube and Constance Bauer, long time friends, embark on an intimate journey chronicling their deep conversations about life, love, and aging.  As her cover picture surely attests, Constance is more "furious" with the aging process and the way women in their third act are ghosted by society, and Lori is more "curious" about how she can lean into and learn from this aging process. In this podcast we will unpack issues that are impacting the hearts and souls of women over 60, as we walk together into the unknown of what lies ahead for us all. We hope you will join us on this journey. Lyrics to our Theme Song, "Woman," composed by Julia Fortman   You can’t break me down, ‘cause I’m a woman. Strong and powerful, just like I should be. Try to cut me out, I’d like to see you try. We may not be young, but we’re still kicking. Out and having fun, cause life’s worth living. I’m not sitting down…you’ll see me eye to eye. I’ll be here and relevant ‘til the day I die.

  1. Friendship Isn't Optional, It's Essential

    Jun 9

    Friendship Isn't Optional, It's Essential

    Tips for making new friends aren't just for kids! In this fun and friendly episode, Constance and Lori explore the topic of friendship with expert Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore. We talk about the importance of friendship, and the value of developing new friendships as we age. We explore the reasons that it might be easier for us as 60-somethings to make friends, than it was when we were younger. Eileen gives concrete tips for how and where to make friends at this stage in life, and explains the role that caretaking and conflict play in establishing and maintaining long-term connections. We delve into that age-old question: are old friends better than new friends? Bonus: 4 of Constance's college friends make cameo appearances to weigh in on this question. Trigger Warning: Get your earplugs out, as Constance and Lori can't resist breaking into friendship-related songs 🤣 And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard.  SHOW NOTES:  The Friendship Advice Experts Swear By, NYT Eileen Kennedy Moore's Website  Eileen's Friendship Podcast Eileen's TedX Talk: Is it Bullying or Ordinary Meanness? (has over 1M views!) Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    59 min
  2. All the Single Ladies: Hacks for Dating After 60

    May 28

    All the Single Ladies: Hacks for Dating After 60

    All the Single Ladies! All the Single Ladies! If you ever thought it was too late to jump back into the dating pool, or that there are no good prospects still swimming out there, this episode is for you! Join our conversation with Dating Coach Laurie Gerber who has more than 20 years of experience helping single men and women over 50 date with intention and find what they seek. Laurie unpacks her secret strategies for smart and successful dating, including knowing when and how to put your self out there, and her 3H Method for deciding if you've found the one! We talk on-line dating dos and don'ts and letting go of our old dating stories that keep us stuck. Laurie is full of tips and advice, so grab a pen and get ready to take some love notes! And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard.  Show Notes: More information about Laurie and to contact her directly  Are you ready to date? Quiz  The 3H Method Laurie's podcast Love at Any Age Body image and dating Links for Laurie "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments" Free webinar Facebook Insta LinkedIn We are tossing out a WADY Challenge after this thought-provoking episode. Come up with your own "3H" chart for yourself, or you and your partner. Hope that opens the door to some new possibilities for you. Please share anything about your challenge experience with us on the Fan Mail Link below, and let us know if we can shout out you and your comments on an upcoming episode.  And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard.  We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to:  Send us Fan Mail  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com  Follow the show on Facebook  Visit our Website Listen and Subscribe Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device.  Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    54 min
  3. Sleep Divorce? Rethinking the Shame of Sleeping Separately

    May 15

    Sleep Divorce? Rethinking the Shame of Sleeping Separately

    More couples later in life are sleeping in separate rooms and in some cases separate homes. Called "Sleep Divorce" by the media, what does this trend say about evolving ways we are thinking about sleep, intimacy, self-empowerment and the judgment of others as we age? For many women over 60, sleep can feel precious and precarious. Figuring out just the right  pre-requisites for a good night's sleep is becoming more of a priority. What meaning do partners, and peers make of the desire some women feel to sleep apart, and how are women navigating the challenges and shame that may arise as a result?  Join Constance and Lori for this episode when they unpack the choice couples are making to sleeps separately. And -- a new feature -- we take a call from a WADY listener about her Sleep Divorce.  Show Notes: What is a Sleep Divorce? How To Get a Sleep Divorce and Stay Happily Married Can a Sleep Divorce Save Your Relationship? We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to:  Send us Fan Mail  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com  Follow the show on Facebook  Visit our Website Listen and Subscribe Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device.  Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    24 min
  4. The Original Oldster: A Conversation with Sari Botton

    Apr 29

    The Original Oldster: A Conversation with Sari Botton

    Please join us for a lively chat with Sari Botton, founder of Oldster Magazine, about her recent rise to fame and her lifelong obsession with aging. After being rejected by endless employers in her 50s, and then working her butt off, she has finally earned a much-deserved seat at the publishing table, and her star continues to rise. We cover topics ranging from turning 60, becoming our more authentic selves, Sari’s dream that became the catalyst for Oldster, the fascinating phenomenon of subjective age, some of Sari’s favorite interviews and essays from Oldster, to a refreshing counter-narrative to assumptions about attractiveness in middle age.  And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard.   SHOW NOTES Sari Botton's memoir in essays, And You May Find Yourself...Confessions of a Late-Blooming Gen-X Weirdo, was chosen by Poets & Writers magazine for the 2022 edition of its annual "5 Over 50" feature. She edited the bestselling anthologies Goodbye to All That: Writers on Loving and Leaving NewYork and Never Can Say Goodbye: Writers on Their Unshakable Love for New York. She publishes Oldster Magazine, Memoir Land, and Adventures in Journalism.  The Puzzling Gap Between How Old You Are and How Old You Think You Are We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to:  Email Us: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Follow the show on Facebook Visit our Website  Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device. Just click "Subscribe" or " Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    55 min
  5. Anti-Aging is Anti-Living: Flourish Instead

    Mar 28

    Anti-Aging is Anti-Living: Flourish Instead

    In this episode, Constance goes into full on fan-girl mode with our guest Barbara Waxman, a gerontologist and coach who helps people lead an undiminished life as they age. We talk about flourishing and recognizing the importance of not just our life span and health span, but something Barbara calls the Third span, comprised of our mindset, relationships and purpose at this stage of life. We unpack the growing issue of well-being burnout, and Barbara offers lots of research findings and tips for aging well into our what she calls our Trophy years.  SHOW NOTES  Barbara's Website Barbara's Podcast on Flourishing and Finding Purpose in Midlife The Middlescence Manifesto: Igniting the Passion of Midlife, Barbara Waxman The role of mindset, purpose and relationships in longevity, TEDx Boston (After listening, try Barbara's 30-Day Flourish Challenge!) The Seven Lifestyle Levers Assessment (Free) How Older Adults Are Improving Their "Sex Span" Welcome to Holland Story We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments to:   Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com  Follow the show on Facebook  Visit our Website  Listen and Subscribe Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts). Subscribing to WADY is a free, quick way to ensure new episodes are automatically delivered to your device.  Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    57 min
  6. Hair We Are: I'd Rather Dye Than Go Grey

    Mar 19

    Hair We Are: I'd Rather Dye Than Go Grey

    One thing that doesn't change as we age, is our obsession with our hair. For women over 60, many conversations often get around to asking one burning question..."Should I let my hair go grey?" In this episode, we will go there with our guest Ellen Taxman, a woman who prides herself in being "low fuss" in her appearance, and who even works in the field of aging. We hear from Ellen about her surprise that the Dye-Grey dilemma is causing so much confusion. So dive into our cheerfully rambling conversation about how our mothers' decisions about hair dyeing influenced us, dealing with others' opinions and how they view us and our evolving hair color, and the messages society is giving to women about aging. Join us for this episode, regardless of whether you have, or haven't, or are thinking you will or won't ever go grey. We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY   Send a text Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    37 min
  7. Get Ready For Retirement and Life After

    Mar 9

    Get Ready For Retirement and Life After

    In this episode we dive into the myths, barriers and boundary issues that get in the way of moving into, and fully enjoying retirement. For many working women, their careers are a source of pride and self-definition. Take a listen to this episode with Retirement Coach Elaine Belansky as we explore the question of "Who Am I?" once your career is in the rear view mirror, and Elaine provides tips and some free tools for making room for your next chapter to begin. SHOW NOTES:  Elaine’s Website:  https://elainebelansky.com Blog: https://elainebelansky.com/blog Retirement Vision Starter Kit: https://elainebelansky.com/free-retirement-starter-kit Who Am I Now? Guide: https://elainebelansky.com/who-am-i-now Boundary Builder: https://elainebelansky.com/boundary-builder Ikigai: I describe this in one of my blog posts: https://elainebelansky.com/blog/retirement-clarity Newsletter: https://elainebelansky.com/newsletter https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/53913/33-activities-you-should-try-in-your-first-year-of-retirement-to-discover-what-truly-fulfills-you/ We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY   Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    47 min
  8. Rightsizing Your Fear of Death

    Feb 23

    Rightsizing Your Fear of Death

    In our conversation with Amy Schiller, a social worker and professor who specializes in the field of death and dying, we start to unpack the myth of the “Good Death.” Amy talks about letting go of control in the dying process, and how becoming aware of our fears and beliefs about dying can impact our lives, and allow us to live more fully. Amy offers her students the opportunity to write Legacy Letters, and suggests everyone consider their own Advance Directives for when the end of life comes. Constance shares the many ways she is trying to practice and “rightsize” her own deep fears about death and dying, and Lori opens up to the possibility of an Afterlife. And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard, and where we have started “Listener Shout-Outs,” and episode-based Challenges for our listeners.  SHOW NOTES: The CHALLENGE for this episode is to complete one of the exercises discussed - a Legacy Letter, some Death Cleaning, a Death Meditation and let us know how it went :)  Find out more about Amy Schiller  Amy's Blog Dying Well by Ira Byock Rightsize your Fears by Mark Nepo The Fifth Season, Mark Nepo  Death Meditation with Ajahn Nisabho Going with Grace, Alua Arthur Legacy Letter Advice for Future Corpses Sallie Tisdale Death Cleaning The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family From a Lifetime of Clutter Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan Send us Fan Mail Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    39 min
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Lori Dube and Constance Bauer, long time friends, embark on an intimate journey chronicling their deep conversations about life, love, and aging.  As her cover picture surely attests, Constance is more "furious" with the aging process and the way women in their third act are ghosted by society, and Lori is more "curious" about how she can lean into and learn from this aging process. In this podcast we will unpack issues that are impacting the hearts and souls of women over 60, as we walk together into the unknown of what lies ahead for us all. We hope you will join us on this journey. Lyrics to our Theme Song, "Woman," composed by Julia Fortman   You can’t break me down, ‘cause I’m a woman. Strong and powerful, just like I should be. Try to cut me out, I’d like to see you try. We may not be young, but we’re still kicking. Out and having fun, cause life’s worth living. I’m not sitting down…you’ll see me eye to eye. I’ll be here and relevant ‘til the day I die.

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  • Creator
    Constance Bauer and Lori Dube
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    21
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 We Ain't Dead Yet
  • Show Website
    We Ain't Dead Yet

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