We Ain't Dead Yet

Constance Bauer and Lori Dube
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Lori Dube and Constance Bauer, long time friends, embark on an intimate journey chronicling their deep conversations about life, love, and aging.  As her cover picture surely attests, Constance is more "furious" with the aging process and the way women in their third act are ghosted by society, and Lori is more "curious" about how she can lean into and learn from this aging process. In this podcast we will unpack issues that are impacting the hearts and souls of women over 60, as we walk together into the unknown of what lies ahead for us all. We hope you will join us on this journey. Lyrics to our Theme Song, "Woman," composed by Julia Fortman   You can’t break me down, ‘cause I’m a woman. Strong and powerful, just like I should be. Try to cut me out, I’d like to see you try. We may not be young, but we’re still kicking. Out and having fun, cause life’s worth living. I’m not sitting down…you’ll see me eye to eye. I’ll be here and relevant ‘til the day I die.

  1. Rightsizing Your Fear of Death

    FEB 23

    Rightsizing Your Fear of Death

    In our conversation with Amy Schiller, a social worker and professor who specializes in the field of death and dying, we start to unpack the myth of the “Good Death.” Amy talks about letting go of control in the dying process, and how becoming aware of our fears and beliefs about dying can impact our lives, and allow us to live more fully. Amy offers her students the opportunity to write Legacy Letters, and suggests everyone consider their own Advance Directives for when the end of life comes. Constance shares the many ways she is trying to practice and “rightsize” her own deep fears about death and dying, and Lori opens up to the possibility of an Afterlife. And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard, and where we have started “Listener Shout-Outs,” and episode-based Challenges for our listeners.  SHOW NOTES: The CHALLENGE for this episode is to complete one of the exercises discussed - a Legacy Letter, some Death Cleaning, a Death Meditation and let us know how it went :)  Find out more about Amy Schiller  Amy's Blog Dying Well by Ira Byock Rightsize your Fears by Mark Nepo The Fifth Season, Mark Nepo  Death Meditation with Ajahn Nisabho Going with Grace, Alua Arthur Legacy Letter Advice for Future Corpses Sallie Tisdale Death Cleaning The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family From a Lifetime of Clutter Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan Send a text Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    39 min
  2. Valentine’s Day, Rewritten: Pleasure, Passion & Play After 60

    FEB 13

    Valentine’s Day, Rewritten: Pleasure, Passion & Play After 60

    Just in time for VALENTINE'S DAY, Constance and Lori speak to Kandee Love, a licensed therapist specializing in couple’s and sex therapy. We explore topics ranging from sexual expression across the life stages to sex toys and tips for older adults. Kandee emphasizes the importance of prioritizing pleasure, passion, and play in a world filled with stress. Kandee has labeled February as “Spunky Old Broads Month,” and encourages women to re-write their old narratives and embrace boldness in the bed room. We discuss the idea of redefining sexuality beyond traditional penetrative sex, and the great importance of communication in a relationship, and we end with Kandee providing tips for enhancing sexual expression and intimacy in long-term relationships. This is an episode you don’t want to miss!  And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where we unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard, and where we have started “Listener Shout-Outs,” and episode-based Challenges for our listeners.    SHOW NOTES If you are interested in learning more about Kandee’s work, check out her website: https://www.kiscounseling.net.  Kandee’s Yes, No, Maybe List to try 😊 (WADY CHALLENGE – try using this and let us know!) Spunky, Old Broad Month  LUBES TO LOVE:  Water-based products (safe with all toys and condoms): Good Clean Love Almost Naked, Sliquid, Aloe Cadabra, Astroglide, Uberlube  SILICON BASED (don’t use with silicone toys): Astroglide X, Wet Platinum, 10 Millennium, Uberlube NATURAL (not condom safe): Organic coconut oil TOYS TO TRY:  EASY TO GRIP: Palm power, Iroha  Series (Yuki, Koharu), VM Wand vibrator CLITORAL STIMULATORS: SILA Cruise, SONA Cruise, Namii Clitoral Suction Stimulator, Wominizer Premium Duo, Evii External Vibrator with Dual Motors Pulse Wand   G SPOT VIBRATORS: Kurve, GII G spot Vibrator, Je Joye Juno Flex  DATING WEBSITES FOR SENIORS: Seniorsizzle.com, DateMyAge, BeNaughty, OurTime, Tinder for seniors, Seniormatch, Kinky-seniors.com, Seniorfuckbuddies We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Have you tried one of our challenges and want a Shout Out? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/Substack/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text.  Send a text Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    45 min
  3. Don't Burn Your Journals Yet: Finding Yourself on the Written Page

    JAN 20

    Don't Burn Your Journals Yet: Finding Yourself on the Written Page

    Constance and Lori speak to Ellen Blum Barish, a writing coach and memoir author. Even if writing is not your thing, listen in to our lively conversation about leaning in to this form of creativity as a tool for growth and reflection as we age. For starters, we discuss the hidden value of writing for people who don’t like to write. Ellen suggests looking through the old stuff we tuck in drawers and stash away in closets and think about the stories they have to tell. Also, think about using photos we have stored in our phones as prompts for our writing We jump back to our adolescence when many of us poured ourselves into our diaries and journals, and used writing as an early form of self expression. And at this time of life, we explored the possibility of using writing as part of a Life Review. This can be an important process that makes connections over the course of our life to look at and rewrite the narratives of our lives. Finally, we offer a fun little writing challenge to our listeners that may land you on the WADY website. So listen in and get your creative juices flowing.  And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard.  SHOW NOTES If you are interested in learning more about Ellen's work, check out her website: https://www.ellenblumbarish.com/ If you are interested in learning more about Ellen's memoir "Seven Springs" check out this link: https://www.ellenblumbarish.com/my-work If you are interested in learning more about the book that Constance mentioned in the podcast that offers writing prompts, check out this link: https://www.suleikajaouad.com/the-book-of-alchemy We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/Substack/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY Send a text Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    35 min
  4. When Roles Reverse: Caring for Parents in Our 60s

    12/28/2025

    When Roles Reverse: Caring for Parents in Our 60s

    Constance and Lori speak to Ramsay Ringo, a career coach and expert on caring for elderly parents. We discuss the unique challenges of supporting aging parents when you are in your 60s yourself. Ramsay emphasizes the importance of a simplified approach to avoid overwhelming caregivers, and provides many practical tips. We explore the tension between ensuring the safety of elderly parents and respecting their desire for independence and autonomy.  We also cover the complexities of coordinating care across different family members and locations, and ways to talk to our adult children about caring for elderly parents. Finally, Ramsay coaches us on practical ways to prepare for our own aging. Please join us for this very constructive discussion. And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard.  SHOW NOTES If you are interested in learning more about Ramsay’s work, check out her website: https://www.ramsayringo.com/ Ramsay collaborates with clients who are looking to make an impact and: o   Take meaningful steps toward a new or first job o   Change their professional focus or industry o   Pursue a professional position after time focusing on family o   Tackle a big mid-life shift using decades of experience to do something with extra meaning o   Or to pursue the ultimate career shift, retirement and living into the third and fourth quarters of a values driven life.  We were also lucky enough to persuade Ramsay to share one of her original poems with us:  Scared Scared, Sad, Impatient  Scared, Mad, A Patient Scared, Bad, and Chasing The Whole, Kind Mom Now a Hole, Kind Child Taught us how to Parent Now we aught to Parent Scared, Sad Scared We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) You can text Fan Mail to the link below, but heads-up, we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/Substack/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY Send a text Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    49 min

  5. 12/17/2025

    Post-Pie Reflections on Aging Out of F***s

    Constance and Lori catch up after the Thanksgiving holiday break. We cover everything from no longer giving a f**k, to spiritual connections with our deceased parents, to Mel Robbins’ "Let Them" Theory, to aging pubic hair 🤣 And we preview a few of our upcoming shows. Please join us for this quick, warm check-in. SHOW NOTES Aging Out of F***s: The Neuroscience of Why You Suddenly Can’t Pretend Anymore, Ellen Scherr What We Gain When We Stop Caring, Anna Holmes Melani Sanders’s “We Do Not Care” Club (Instagram and Facebook) We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) We would love to hear from you! Please text us your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement below :)   Heads-up: we are unable to respond to these Fan Mail Texts. If you'd like a reply, please reach out on our FB/Substack/or email/or include your email address in your Fan Mail Text. TY Send a text Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    20 min
  6. Shocking Herself Awake: Gail Rice on Reinvention, Risk and Radical Acceptance at 70

    11/21/2025

    Shocking Herself Awake: Gail Rice on Reinvention, Risk and Radical Acceptance at 70

    Constance and Lori speak to Gail Rice, psychologist and writer, based in Sydney Australia, about her recent life-imitating-art birthday celebration. For her 70th birthday, inspired by Emma Thompson in the film "Good Luck to You Leo Grande,"  Gail hired not one, but two male escorts. She clearly touched a nerve, as her story went viral.  She's been interviewed all over the world and recently had her television debut. Gail explains that these encounters were less about the sex and more about "shocking herself awake," and finding her voice. We also explore themes of reinvention, risk-taking, late-bloomers, body acceptance and the boundaries of a therapeutic relationship. Gail also reveals her next adventure. Please join us for this incredible empowerment story.  And don’t forget to hang around for our “Afterthoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard.  SHOW NOTES Here is a link tree listing all of Gail's essays, interviews and other published works https://linktr.ee/gailricewrites Two of Gail's Essays published by Sari Botton in Oldster Magazine https://oldster.substack.com/p/for-my-70th-birthday-i-hired-an-escort https://oldster.substack.com/p/happy-endings We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) Send a text Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    45 min

  7. 11/17/2025

    HARVESTING WISDOM: TWO OLD WOMEN'S MUSINGS ON THE HOLIDAYS

    ALERT WADY Listeners:   Due to a technology glitch, or to my senior brain 🤣, we accidentally published an environmental rap song instead of this Holiday episode, and over 70 of you downloaded it before we caught the error. Sorry, but it's all fixed now! Although we did receive some lovely compliments about the song 😊 Thanks in advance for trying again 🙏  Join Lori and Constance for a discussion about their evolving holiday traditions as they and their families age. They reflect on the changing nature of family gatherings, and the reduced pressure to maintain the traditional "Norman Rockwell" holiday experience. As always, expect some laughter (about spiked holiday punches to maintain the peace), and some tears (about the inevitability of change and loss).  Please join us in this intimate discussion as you prepare for your own holiday traditions.  And, please reach out to us with stories about how your holidays have evolved and changed as you have aged. We'd love to hear the good, the bad and they ugly. Let us know if you'd like us to shout out your story during the next episode. And wishing all of you meaningful and peaceful holidays.  Send a text Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    28 min
  8. I Am Only One, But I Am One!

    10/24/2025

    I Am Only One, But I Am One!

    Constance and Lori check in with Bonnie Lee Black, writer and popular blogger, about her mission to amplify the voices and activism of older women. Join us as we explore themes of aging, death, sex, and civic engagement. Bonnie shares her journey from blogging about aging to advocating for activism in her hometown of San Miguel de Allende, Mexico.  We discuss the imperative of making some noise, and knowing that we count. We also touch on themes of mortality, discussing Jane Goodall’s view that death might just be the “next great adventure.”  Bonnie leaves us with some tips for getting involved in a way that feeds your soul. And don’t forget to hang around for our “Afterthoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard.  SHOW NOTES Bonnie's blogs and books can be found here: https://blog.bonnieleeblack.com https://www.bonnieleeblack.com We would love to hear from you! Do you have ideas for future podcasts? Want to be a guest on our podcast? Please send your comments/suggestions/criticisms/encouragement to:  Email: WeAintDeadYetPod@gmail.com Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-aint-dead-yet/id1828702362 Follow the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578375460053  Visit our website: https://wady.buzzsprout.com Listen Here! (Our linktree will direct you to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, GoodPods, and Pocket Casts) Send a text Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

    41 min
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Lori Dube and Constance Bauer, long time friends, embark on an intimate journey chronicling their deep conversations about life, love, and aging.  As her cover picture surely attests, Constance is more "furious" with the aging process and the way women in their third act are ghosted by society, and Lori is more "curious" about how she can lean into and learn from this aging process. In this podcast we will unpack issues that are impacting the hearts and souls of women over 60, as we walk together into the unknown of what lies ahead for us all. We hope you will join us on this journey. Lyrics to our Theme Song, "Woman," composed by Julia Fortman   You can’t break me down, ‘cause I’m a woman. Strong and powerful, just like I should be. Try to cut me out, I’d like to see you try. We may not be young, but we’re still kicking. Out and having fun, cause life’s worth living. I’m not sitting down…you’ll see me eye to eye. I’ll be here and relevant ‘til the day I die.

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  • Creator
    Constance Bauer and Lori Dube
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 We Ain't Dead Yet
  • Show Website
    We Ain't Dead Yet