The Connection Podcast - Lauren Dry

Lauren Dry
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Welcome to the Connection Podcast! My name is Lauren Dry - come and join me on a journey alongside Modern Couples, to uncover how the Secrets of the Nervous System and Unconscious Mind support us to Rewire and Reconnect at Home. We're going to get deep on all things Marriage, Family Connections, my own path through Rising Into Regulation, and a bit of Neuroscience and Soul thrown into the mix as well. Let's Laugh, Live and Rise Together as we travel through the Transformation of Having It All at Home!

  1. Non-Attachment and Secure Attachment, The Shift That Changes Everything at Home

    8H AGO

    Non-Attachment and Secure Attachment, The Shift That Changes Everything at Home

    Have you ever heard the term “non-attachment” and quietly thought… that sounds like not caring? Or maybe even worse, that it means staying calm while someone crosses your boundaries? This episode gently untangles that misunderstanding. In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, explores what non-attachment actually means through the lens of attachment theory and nervous system regulation. She unpacks why perceived relationship threat, even something as subtle as tone or body language, can spike your reactivity at home, and why clarity disappears the moment your nervous system feels unsafe. Rather than asking you to suppress your feelings or be peaceful no matter what, this conversation is about accessing regulation in a way that gives you certainty. Certainty in your values. Certainty in your boundaries. Certainty in how you communicate. You’ll hear about: Why relationship threat increases reactivity, especially for high-achieversWhat regulation really is, clarity in your body, not forced calmThe “gray rock” visualisation and how it protects you in complicated dynamicsWhy over-explaining your boundaries invites negotiation instead of respectWhat secure attachment and healthy non-attachment actually look like in real life If you’re tired of rescuing, then resenting, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening underneath it. Non-attachment isn’t about distance. It’s about staying rooted in your values while allowing other people to have their own feelings. Clarity and ease don’t come from convincing or controlling. They come from regulation, and from knowing you can hold your ground without hardening your heart. Resources & Links: 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage. 📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry Listen to Connected Boundaries episode here If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you. Big love, Lauren x

    13 min
  2. “Woo Woo”, Religion or Science: What is the Future of Regulation in Relationships?

    FEB 12

    “Woo Woo”, Religion or Science: What is the Future of Regulation in Relationships?

    Have you ever quietly judged anything that felt “woo woo”, only to later crave something deeper than logic alone? Or felt the pressure of believing it’s all on you, your growth, your healing, your parenting, your relationships? This episode is a personal one. In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, shares her journey from proud skeptic to curious explorer of spirituality, religion and science, and how opening that door changed the way her nervous system experiences stress, support and safety. Rather than telling you what to believe, this is an invitation to get curious. To hold space for different perspectives. And to consider what happens in your body when you allow yourself to feel supported by something beyond your own effort. You’ll hear about: Why high achievers often feel like everything rests on their shouldersThe nervous system science behind co-regulation and feeling supportedThe “third man syndrome” phenomenon and what it reveals about human resilienceHow exploring faith and spirituality can sit alongside psychology, not against itHow faith, prayer or curiosity can create measurable calm in your body If you’re in a season of stress, parenting pressure, identity shifts or big transitions, and you’re tired of feeling like it’s all on you, this is your reminder, you don’t need every answer to feel steadier. Sometimes safety starts with curiosity. Resources & Links: 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage. 📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you. Big love, Lauren x

    30 min
  3. Covert Narcissist Signs: How To Tell If It’s More Than ‘Just Relationship Problems’

    FEB 5

    Covert Narcissist Signs: How To Tell If It’s More Than ‘Just Relationship Problems’

    There’s a particular moment many high-functioning people recognise. You’re self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and used to solving problems. You reflect, you communicate, you look for tools, yet the relationship still feels heavy, confusing, or quietly draining. You start wondering what you’re missing, and why it still doesn’t feel settled in your body. In this episode, Lauren Dry is joined by psychologist, therapist, and author Katarzyna (Kasia) Dodd, creator of the Inner Parent Theory and the INHERENCE® process. Together, they explore covert narcissism through a grounded, nervous-system-informed lens, unpacking how it differs from trauma patterns or relationship dysfunction, and why capable, empathetic people often stay far longer than they meant to. This is a hopeful, clarifying conversation for anyone trying to work out whether the work is about repair, or about learning to stop carrying what was never yours to fix. You’ll hear us explore: The difference between covert narcissism and trauma-based relationship patternsWhy emotionally intelligent, high-achieving people are especially vulnerable to trauma bondsHow intensity, love bombing, and mirroring can bypass discernmentWhat your nervous system can tell you when something isn’t workableHow boundaries, self-trust, and inner work create clarity and emotional ease Resources & Links: 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry Connect with Katarzyna Dodd: Website: https://katarzynadodd.com/Book: The Chameleon’s Game – https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FZYTZMSM If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you. Big love, Lauren x

    47 min
  4. Why You Feel Safer Alone Than in a Relationship (Even When You Want Deep Connection)

    JAN 29

    Why You Feel Safer Alone Than in a Relationship (Even When You Want Deep Connection)

    Have you ever noticed that you can be the most supportive, present friend in the world, but the second you’re alone with your partner, you feel like you're losing your footing? You’re functioning. You’re handling the logistics. You’re a success everywhere else. But inside your marriage, it feels like the air has gone heavy and you’re back to feeling like the "common denominator" who just can't get it right. If you’ve ever felt like you're failing at the one thing that should be simple, wondering why you can’t just find that same ease at home, this episode will land. It’s about understanding the "mask" that happens when your nervous system starts protecting you before your heart even has a chance to connect. In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks why high-achieving individuals so often feel more secure in their community than in their own living room. She explores how the very skills that make you successful in business can quietly work against your intimacy, and what it actually takes to trade that armour for a connection that feels like a soft landing. You’ll hear about: Why you feel like a "great friend" to the world but "not okay" in your marriage.How being "highly capable" is often just a survival habit in a fancy suit.Why your body screams when you try to take off your armour and put down your sword.The difference between who you truly are and the patterns you’ve used to survive.Small, tender shifts to help closeness start to feel safe again. Resources & Links: 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage 📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you. Big love, Lauren X

    12 min
  5. Why Small Chats Turn Into Big Spirals: The Defensive Resentment Dance

    JAN 22

    Why Small Chats Turn Into Big Spirals: The Defensive Resentment Dance

    You know that feeling when everything was fine ten minutes ago, but suddenly you’re in a cold, prickly standoff over something as small as the school pickup? You’re not trying to be dramatic. You’re not trying to pick a fight. But suddenly, the air feels heavy, someone is quiet, and you’ve both retreated into your corners without even knowing how you got there. If you’ve ever thought, Why does everything always spiral like this?, this episode is for you. It’s about understanding the "dance" that happens when your nervous systems start arguing before your brains can even catch up. In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks the defensive resentment loop that high-achieving couples fall into. She explores why your partner’s defensiveness is rarely about your tone, and why your resentment is usually about the emotional baggage of carrying the load alone. You’ll hear about: Why normal conversations can suddenly feel like a personal attack on your identity.The "spiral of doom" that happens when one person feels abandoned and the other feels like a failure.How old childhood patterns make your body brace for impact and pull connection away when you make a mistake.The difference between fighting about a topic and your nervous systems simply reacting to each other.Three micro-tools to interrupt the cycle today so that connection starts to feel easier and less like "stepping on Lego." Resources & Links: 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you. Big love, Lauren X

    11 min
  6. When Marriage Feels Like Roommates, Not Lovers

    JAN 15

    When Marriage Feels Like Roommates, Not Lovers

    If your relationship has started to feel more like managing life than sharing it, there’s a reason. You’re functioning. You’re handling the logistics. You’re a solid team. On the outside, it looks like things are working. But inside, it can feel like the relationship part has gone quiet. Like you’ve become really good at running a life together, and you’re not sure how to find your way back to closeness, ease, and intimacy. If you’ve ever had the thought, Is this it now?, while also feeling guilty for even thinking it, this episode will land. In this episode Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks why high-achieving couples so often slip into teammate mode. She explores how the skills that help you build a life together can quietly work against intimacy, and what actually helps connection come back without forcing it or blowing everything up. You’ll hear about: Why marriage can start to feel transactional, even when the love is still thereHow compromise and compartmentalising keep things running, but disconnect you emotionallyThe fear of wanting more, and why that doesn’t mean something is wrong with youHow attention, energy, and daily habits quietly shape intimacySmall, realistic shifts that help closeness come back online Resources & Links: 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage 📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you. Big love, Lauren X

    17 min
  7. “The Ick”, Resentment & Romance: The Nervous System Piece We Overlook

    JAN 8

    “The Ick”, Resentment & Romance: The Nervous System Piece We Overlook

    You know that feeling when you still love them, but your body is like… nope. You’re not trying to be dramatic, you’re not trying to nitpick, but suddenly everything feels irritating, flat, or strangely off. If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I getting the ick?” or “Where did the romance go?”, this episode is a deep exhale. It’s not about blaming your partner or making you feel broken. It’s about understanding what your nervous system is doing underneath it all. In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks how resentment, nervous system overload, and feeling emotionally unsafe can quietly switch off desire and connection in modern relationships. This is a conversation about what “the ick” can actually be pointing to, and how to start rebuilding safety and closeness without forcing romance or pretending things are fine. You’ll hear us explore: Why “the ick” can be a nervous system response, not a sign your relationship is doomedHow resentment builds when you’re carrying too much, or not saying what’s trueWhat happens when your body stops feeling safe, even if your mind still wants connectionThe difference between a relationship problem and a dysregulation problemSmall, realistic ways to bring safety, softness, and romance back online over time Resources & Links: 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage 📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you. Big love, Lauren x

    22 min
  8. Why Does Saying Sorry Feel Impossible in the Moment?

    JAN 2

    Why Does Saying Sorry Feel Impossible in the Moment?

    Have you ever known you should apologise, but your body just won’t let you? Not because you don’t care, but because even thinking about saying sorry feels heavy, tight, or almost impossible. You replay the moment, feel the shame rise, and somehow the words stay stuck. This episode is for the moments after disconnection, when your nervous system is still activated and repair feels out of reach, even though connection matters deeply to you. This is the second episode in a holiday series where Lauren revisits some of the most listened to and most returned to conversations from The Connection Podcast, to support you through busy, emotionally loaded seasons. In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks why apologising can feel so threatening when you’re dysregulated, what’s actually happening in your nervous system, and how to approach repair in a way that doesn’t require self abandonment. Lauren shares honest reflections, nervous system context, and practical ways to begin repairing without forcing yourself to bypass your body’s signals. You’ll hear about: Why saying sorry can feel physically unsafe when your nervous system is activatedHow shame and self protection block repair, even when you want to reconnectThe difference between forced apologies and regulated repairWhy repair starts with safety in your body, not the perfect wordsSmall, honest ways to move back towards connection after a hard moment Resources & Links: 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage 📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you. Big love, Lauren x

    11 min
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Welcome to the Connection Podcast! My name is Lauren Dry - come and join me on a journey alongside Modern Couples, to uncover how the Secrets of the Nervous System and Unconscious Mind support us to Rewire and Reconnect at Home. We're going to get deep on all things Marriage, Family Connections, my own path through Rising Into Regulation, and a bit of Neuroscience and Soul thrown into the mix as well. Let's Laugh, Live and Rise Together as we travel through the Transformation of Having It All at Home!

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