Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast

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Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom. Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships. We talk about: • Marriage and intimacy • Sexual communication • Desire differences • Erotic exploration • Guided audio intimacy • Confidence in the bedroom • Reigniting passion after kids • Sex toys, play, and connection • Building emotional safety • Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together. New episodes every week.

  1. Jul 21

    8 Things That Accidentally Kill the Mood And How to Recover Like a Pro

    Real life doesn't pause for intimacy. The phone goes off. The wrong song comes on. Someone says something accidentally hilarious. The body decides right now is the moment. The kid knocks. In Episode 40, Scott and Brittney get real and genuinely funny about the moments that accidentally kill the mood, share their own most memorable experiences, and turn all of it into a practical recovery guide that actually works. Because the couples who navigate these moments with warmth and humor aren't just surviving real life. They're building the kind of intimacy that only comes from being fully, imperfectly human together. In this episode: The phone notification — why the glance matters more than the soundThe wrong song — and why an ex's song on a shared playlist is a special kind of catastrophicThe accidental hilarious comment — and why laughing together is intimacy, not a failure of itThe body that has its own agenda — and the partner response that makes all the differenceThe kid knock — recovery tips and why a bedroom lock is an underrated investmentThe temperature problem — the most underestimated mood killer on the listThe emotional ambush — what to do when intimacy opens something unexpectedThe tech failure — and why choosing your partner over the Bluetooth speaker is the right callThe five-second rule — the universal recovery toolkit for when anything goes sidewaysScott & Brittney's most memorable real-life intimate moments — with full storiesRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  2. Jul 14

    Our 12 Favorite Things — The Products We Actually Use and Why We Love Them

    Looking for the best sex toys for couples? Wondering what intimacy products are actually worth buying and which ones collect dust in a drawer? In this episode, Scott and Brittney share their 12 favorite couples intimacy products: the sex toys, personal lubricants, and bedroom accessories they personally use and genuinely recommend. No sponsors. No affiliate deals. No gifted products. Just honest reviews from a real couple who happens to host one of the most candid intimacy podcasts available. They break it down into three categories — her favorites, his favorites, and their couples picks — covering everything from vibrating c**k rings and wand vibrators to male masturbators, a water-based penis pump, prostate toys, penis extenders, sensation play accessories, premium personal lubricant, a massage table, and butt plugs for beginners. They also share the Coelle app sessions that pair perfectly with everything on the list — including their favorite eye gazing session and a new series built around sexual anticipation and couples games. Whether you're a beginner looking for your first sex toy as a couple, or an experienced couple looking for new intimacy product recommendations — this episode gives you a curated, honest starting point from people who've actually tried them. In this episode: Best vibrators for couples — including wand vibrators and vibrating c**k ringsMale sex toys worth buying — Fleshlight review, Bathmate Hydromax water pump, and moreBest personal lubricant for couples — why Gun Oil lube makes the listProstate toys for beginners — the Njoy Pure Wand explainedPenis extenders for couples — what they are, who they're for, and why girth mattersButt plugs for beginners — how to start with anal play toys safelySensation play accessories — feather wand and blindfold for couplesMassage table for couples — why this unexpected pick changed their intimate lifeCoelle app recommendations — eye gazing session and couples anticipation gamesHow to talk to your partner about introducing new sex toys and intimacy productsRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  3. Jul 7

    Lube: The Beginner's Guide to the Most Underrated Tool in Your Intimacy Toolkit

    It's in a lot of couples' nightstands. Almost nobody talks about it honestly. Today we fix that. In Episode 38, Scott and Brittney break down everything couples need to know about personal lubricant — the most underrated, under-discussed tool in intimacy. Not as a solution to a problem, but as an enhancement to an already good thing. They cover all four main types: water-based, silicone-based, oil-based, and hybrid — what each one is best for, what the research says about safety and effectiveness, which use cases require which type, the ingredients worth avoiding, and the practical tips that make using lube feel like a natural part of intimacy rather than an interruption. Plus, their honest personal takes on what they've learned, what surprised them, and what they'd tell every couple who's never opened a bottle. In this episode: Why lube isn't a sign something is broken and why the stigma is completely backwardsThe anatomy reality: why natural lubrication is a variable, not a reliable indicatorWater-based: the most versatile, the safest for toys, and why glycerin-free mattersSilicone-based: why it's the top research choice for anal play and water useOil-based: what works, what doesn't, and the condom safety rule you need to knowHybrid: the best of both worlds and when it makes senseSpecific use cases: vaginal sex, anal play, toys, condoms, sensitive skinIngredients to avoid and why — glycerin, parabens, numbing agents, fragrancePractical tips for making lube a natural part of your intimate lifeScott & Brittney's honest takes on what they wish they'd known earlierRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  4. Jun 30

    Why Most People Are Bad in Bed And Don't Know It

    Most people rate themselves as above average in bed. Statistically, that's impossible. And the gap between how people assess their own performance and what their partner is actually experiencing is where most sexual dissatisfaction quietly lives. In Episode 37, Scott and Brittney go somewhere most podcasts won't: the specific, research-backed patterns that make people consistently disappointing intimate partners without them having any idea. Not character flaws. Not fixed traits. Learnable, fixable patterns that nobody ever named because nobody ever taught most people what good intimacy actually requires. Five patterns. Real research. Personal honesty from both Scott and Brittney about where they've each caught themselves. And a practical fix for each one that doesn't require a personality overhaul — just a willingness to look. In this episode: Why most people overestimate their performance as intimate partners and what the research says about the actual satisfaction gapPattern 1: Assuming instead of asking and why confidence and assumption are not the same thingPattern 2: Treating sex as a performance rather than a collaborationPattern 3: Prioritizing your own arousal timeline at the expense of your partner'sPattern 4: Disappearing after sex and why the ten minutes after matter as much as the encounter itselfPattern 5: Never updating your partner's manual A practical fix for each pattern you can use this weekRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  5. Jun 23

    The 90-Day Relationship State of the Union — A Check-In Every Couple Should Be Doing

    Most couples have annual physicals, quarterly financial reviews, and performance check-ins at work. Their relationship — the most important thing in their lives — gets evaluated only when something breaks. In Episode 36, Scott and Brittney introduce the Relationship State of the Union: a structured 90-day check-in that gives couples a dedicated, intentional space to assess where they are before small things become big ones. Not a conflict conversation. Not a complaint session. A proactive, relationship-tending practice backed by research — and one that most couples wish they'd started years earlier. They walk through exactly how to set it up, the seven questions that make it work, how to listen in a way that actually changes things, and what to do with what comes up — including what to do when it gets emotional. By the end of this episode you'll have everything you need to schedule your first one this week. In this episode: Why most couples wait too long — and what the research says about proactive relationship check-insHow to set up the State of the Union so it doesn't feel like an ambush or an interrogationThe ground rules that keep it productive rather than defensiveAll 7 check-in questions — with context for what each one is really askingThe three-tier response system: celebrate it, act on it, or flag itWhat to do when the conversation gets emotionalHow to make it a ritual you both look forward to rather than a chore you dreadRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  6. Jun 16

    Hot Takes — Our Most Unpopular Opinions About Sex and Relationships

    No frameworks. No research drops. No homework. Just opinions — and our most unpopular ones. In Episode 35, Scott and Brittney bring five genuine hot takes about sex and relationships that go against conventional wisdom, popular advice, and what most people want to hear. Then they defend every single one. Scheduled sex is better than spontaneous sex. Most couples don't need more communication — they need better listening. The word "foreplay" should be retired. A sexless period isn't a crisis but ignoring it is. And the best thing you can do for your sex life has nothing to do with sex. Plus a rapid-fire round of five more takes that are going to make at least one of you spill your coffee. This is the episode you listen to on the way to dinner and spend the whole meal talking about. In this episode: Hot Take #1: Scheduled sex is better than spontaneous sex — full stopHot Take #2: Most couples need better listening, not more communicationHot Take #3: "Foreplay" is a useless and damaging category that should be retiredHot Take #4: A dry spell isn't a crisis — ignoring it isHot Take #5: The best thing you can do for your sex life has nothing to do with sexRapid fire: five more takes in 30 seconds eachScott & Brittney react to each other — and don't always agreeRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here: Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  7. Jun 9

    The Three Dimensions of Sex — Which One Are You Actually Craving?

    When couples say they want better sex, they're usually wanting three completely different things — and most of the time they don't realize they're in different conversations. In Episode 34, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most practically useful frameworks in intimacy: the Three Dimensions of Sex. Partner sex — the intimacy dimension, craving genuine connection with a specific known person. Trance sex — the sensation dimension, craving deep physical immersion and altered states of embodied experience. Role-play sex — the fantasy dimension, craving the freedom to inhabit a scenario or dynamic that everyday relational identity doesn't allow. These aren't variations on the same experience. They're fundamentally different kinds of sexual satisfaction that engage different psychological systems and require different conditions. Knowing which one you primarily value — and which one your partner values — changes everything about how you understand your intimate life. Scott and Brittney walk through all three dimensions in depth, cover every pairing combination and what each one needs to thrive, share their own primary dimensions, and offer a Coelle session recommendation for each one. In this episode: Why "wanting better sex" is often three different conversations happening simultaneouslyThe Partner dimension — what relational aliveness actually feels like and what kills itThe Trance dimension — what deep physical immersion requires and why it gets shortchanged in long-term relationshipsThe Role-Play dimension — why it carries stigma, what it's actually about, and what it unlocksEvery pairing combination — best matches, trickier matches, and how to bridge the gapThe "something's missing" diagnostic — how to identify which dimension is underserved in your relationshipScott & Brittney share their primary dimensionsA Coelle session recommendation for each dimensionRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here:  Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download  Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

  8. Jun 2

    Attachment Styles — And What They're Doing to Your Sex Life

    Why do you feel anxious after really good sex? Why does your partner pull away right when things get close? Why does a dry spell feel like evidence that the relationship is falling apart — even when you know logically that it isn't? The answer is almost always attachment. In Episode 33, Scott and Brittney complete their personality framework trilogy — Love Languages, Enneagram, and now attachment styles — with the one that goes deepest. Attachment theory doesn't describe a preference. It describes your nervous system's blueprint for closeness, developed in childhood and running automatically in every intimate moment of your adult life. They cover all four attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized — with specific, honest translations for what each one looks like in the bedroom, what it needs from a partner, where it gets in its own way, and which Coelle session is matched to its specific needs. Then they get personal about their own styles and what understanding them changed in their relationship. In this episode: What attachment theory is and why it's more relevant to your sex life than any other frameworkWhy many "libido problems" are actually attachment cycles under stressSecure attachment — what it looks like and why it still requires intentionAnxious attachment — why sex becomes reassurance-seeking and what the aftermath feels likeAvoidant attachment — why the post-sex pull-away isn't rejection, even though it feels exactly like itDisorganized attachment — the push-pull of wanting closeness and fearing it simultaneouslyThe anxious-avoidant pairing — the pursue-withdraw cycle explainedA Coelle session recommendation for each attachment styleScott & Brittney share their styles — and what they wish they'd understood earlierWhat to do with this information without turning it into a diagnosis or an excuseAttachment Style Quiz: https://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/ (not affiliated in any way) Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided. Couples Intimacy Resources Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship? Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection. For personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence. Explore both here:  Download the App: https://www.coelle.app/download  Book a Free Discovery Call: https://www.coelle.app/sex-intimacy-coaching

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Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom. Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships. We talk about: • Marriage and intimacy • Sexual communication • Desire differences • Erotic exploration • Guided audio intimacy • Confidence in the bedroom • Reigniting passion after kids • Sex toys, play, and connection • Building emotional safety • Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together. New episodes every week.

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