The Conscious Divorce

Justin Milrad
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The Conscious Divorce Podcast is where real, compassionate, and transformative conversations about divorce take place. Hosted by Justin Milrad and brought to you by Reclaim & Reboot, this show is designed to guide you through every stage of the divorce journey; whether you’re questioning the decision, navigating the process, or rebuilding life afterward. Each episode features heartfelt stories from guests who’ve experienced divorce firsthand, expert insights from therapists, coaches, financial advisors, and wellness specialists, and practical tools to help you build resilience, co-parent effectively, and create a clear vision for your future. With a focus on hope and empowerment, this podcast shifts the narrative around divorce from one of loss to one of reclamation, reminding you that you’re not alone and that moving forward with strength and intention is absolutely possible. Tune in weekly to reclaim your power and reboot your life.

  1. 4d ago

    Should I Divorce My Addicted Spouse? Stay, Wait, or Go

    Should I divorce my addicted spouse? If you're married to someone with addiction, learn how to recognize real recovery, decide how long to wait, and think through staying, separating, or divorce. When addiction enters a marriage, everyone starts living on the addicted person's timeline. Treatment. Promises. Relapse. Another attempt. Another wait. But your life, your children, your finances, and your health are still moving forward. In this conversation, Certified Divorce Coach® Justin Milrad sits down with addiction medicine physician Dr. Michael Cowl Gordon, who has spent more than 50 years working in addiction treatment. They explore one of the hardest questions a spouse can face: Should I stay, wait, or go? You'll learn: • Why "no major changes in the first year" does not mean a spouse has to put their life on hold • How to tell a promise of recovery from actual recovery • What "dry but not sober" can look like inside a marriage • How long you should wait for recovery to become stable • Whether leaving can increase the risk of relapse • Why you are not responsible for another adult's sobriety • When safety needs to come before saving the relationship • How Al-Anon and individual support can help spouses • Why setting a date to reassess the marriage can reduce endless uncertainty • How someone in recovery can protect their sobriety during divorce • Why making amends does not require reconciliation • The "three clocks" framework for evaluating recovery, family needs, and your own life • Why the spouse has a recovery journey too CHAPTERS 00:00 Should I stay, wait, or go? 02:30 What addiction does to a marriage 05:31 Should you create a "rock bottom"? 08:23 What Al-Anon actually does 10:35 Promises vs. real recovery 14:04 How long should you wait? 17:06 If I leave, will they relapse? 19:38 Threats, safety and crisis situations 21:38 Can a marriage survive addiction? 23:08 Getting help for yourself 26:42 Set a date to reassess 29:23 Divorce during early recovery 31:08 Making amends during divorce 34:12 Recovery for the spouse 35:03 The Hero's Journey and recovery 41:10 "Only you can do it..." 43:13 The three clocks to remember ABOUT DR. MICHAEL COWL GORDON Dr. Michael Cowl Gordon has worked in addiction medicine for more than five decades, including serving as a medical director at treatment centers and maintaining a private addiction medicine practice. He is the author of The 12-Step Pathway: A Heroic Journey of Recovery and Seeking a Higher Power: A Guide to the Second Step. Connect with Dr. Michael Cowl Gordon: Website: https://michaelcowlgordon.com/ Personal Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/michael.gordon.878024/ Author Page: https://www.facebook.com/p/Dr-Michael-Cowl-Gordon-Author-61595286833293/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-gordon-30825b8a/ READY FOR CLARITY? If you're trying to decide whether to stay, separate, or divorce, you don't have to sort through every decision alone. Book a free, confidential 30-minute Strategy Call with Justin Milrad: https://reclaimandreboot.me/booking Use your attorney for legal advice. Use your divorce coach to prepare before the attorney clock starts. RECLAIM & REBOOT RESOURCES The Conscious Divorce Podcast https://reclaimandreboot.me/podcast/ You 2.0: Divorce, A Better Way Forward https://reclaimandreboot.me/resources/

  2. Oct 29

    The Ghosts of Marriage Past: How to Let Go After Divorce

    How do you let go after divorce when the marriage is over, but the memories, regrets, unanswered questions, and old emotions are still there? In this Halloween episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast, let's explore the “ghosts of marriage past” and why moving on after divorce is rarely as simple as getting closure. You may no longer want your ex back and still grieve the future you thought you would have. You may replay old arguments, wait for an apology that never comes, struggle with regret, or wonder who you are now that the marriage has ended. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: • Understand grief and ambiguous loss after divorce • Tell the difference between missing your ex and mourning your old future • Stop replaying arguments and unanswered conversations • Look at your marriage without romanticizing or rewriting the past • Rebuild your identity after divorce • Turn regret into useful lessons instead of shame • Communicate with an ex without bringing the whole marriage into every conversation • Stop feeding the memories that keep you stuck • Let go even when you never receive closure The goal isn’t to erase your marriage or pretend it didn’t matter. It’s to stop letting your past make decisions about your future. CHAPTERS 00:00 The ghosts that follow you after divorce 05:12 Grieving the future that never happened 12:31 The person you thought you married 19:19 The conversation you never got to have 27:10 Who are you after divorce? 32:55 Regret, responsibility, and self-forgiveness 38:05 When your ex still has your phone number 41:33 5 ways to stop letting the past haunt you 46:06 Making peace with an unfinished story NEED CLARITY ABOUT YOUR DIVORCE? Book a free 30-minute strategy call: https://reclaimandreboot.me/booking/ BOOKS & RESOURCES You 2.0: Divorce, A Better Way Forward The You 2.0 Workbook The Co-Parenting Playbook https://reclaimandreboot.me/resources/ The Conscious Divorce Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not legal, financial, medical, or mental health advice. Please consult qualified professionals regarding your individual situation. #DivorceRecovery #HowToLetGo #LifeAfterDivorce

  3. Oct 22

    How to Stay Sober During Divorce (And Be There for Your Kids)

    Staying sober during divorce can feel harder when your routines disappear. Learn how to protect your addiction recovery during divorce, stay present for your kids, and rebuild daily stability. Divorce can change almost everything about your daily life, from your sleep schedule and recovery meetings to the time you spend with your children. If you're in recovery, those disruptions can make staying sober even more challenging. But here's something important: The routines that support your sobriety can also help your children feel safe and secure during divorce. In this episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast, I'm sharing a practical approach to maintaining your recovery while becoming the reliable, present parent your children need. We'll cover: Why divorce can make staying sober more difficultHow to build 3 to 5 daily habits that support your recoveryWhy parenting guilt can undermine your sobrietyHow consistent routines can help your children feel secureHow to create a relapse prevention plan for difficult daysHow to maintain boundaries when co-parenting during recoveryYou don't need a perfect schedule or a perfect recovery journey. You need a realistic structure you can maintain, even when life becomes unpredictable. Your next step: Write down 3 to 5 daily routines you can commit to, along with a plan for what you'll do when you have a particularly difficult day. NEED HELP PREPARING FOR DIVORCE? If you're going through divorce and struggling to create stability, you don't have to figure everything out alone. I offer a free 30-minute Strategy Session where we can discuss your situation, your priorities, and practical next steps. Book your free session: https://reclaimandreboot.me/booking Explore Reclaim & Reboot: https://reclaimandreboot.me ABOUT JUSTIN MILRAD I'm Justin Milrad, a Dad of three, Certified Divorce Coach®, MBA, financial planner, and founder of Reclaim & Reboot Transformational Divorce Coaching. I also spent five years as CEO of an outpatient mental health and addiction treatment program I co-founded. Through The Conscious Divorce Podcast, I help people make informed decisions, reduce unnecessary conflict, protect their families, and build a better life through and after divorce. DISCLAIMER This episode is for educational purposes only and is not medical, addiction treatment, mental health, or legal advice. Divorce coaching is not a substitute for professional addiction treatment. If you're in recovery, work with your qualified healthcare professionals and recovery support team to develop a plan appropriate for your situation. #DivorceRecovery #StayingSober #DivorceAndParenting

  4. Oct 15

    3 Signs of Emotional Cheating (Even If Nothing Physical Happened)

    Is your spouse emotionally cheating? Learn 3 signs of emotional infidelity, how to tell an emotional affair from a close friendship, and what to do when trust in your marriage has been broken. Emotional cheating doesn't always involve physical intimacy. Sometimes it starts with secret messages, a friendship that becomes too personal, or an emotional connection that begins replacing the one in your marriage. But how do you know when a friendship has crossed the line? In this episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast, I explain three warning signs of emotional cheating: secrecy, emotional energy being directed toward someone outside the marriage, and romantic or sexual undertones. We also discuss what to do after discovering an emotional affair, how to recognize genuine accountability, and whether rebuilding trust is possible. You'll learn: How to recognize emotional cheating without assuming every close friendship is an affairWhy emotional infidelity can hurt even when nothing physical happenedWhat to do in the first few weeks after discovering suspicious messagesHow couples can begin rebuilding trust after emotional betrayalWarning signs that reconciliation isn't progressingHow to decide whether to stay married or consider divorceHow to protect your children, finances, and peace of mind if separation becomes necessaryNot sure whether to stay or leave? Take the Divorce Readiness Quiz to gain clarity about your situation. Book a FREE 30-minute Divorce Strategy Session: https://reclaimandreboot.me/booking #EmotionalCheating #EmotionalAffair #MarriageAdvice #ConsciousDivorcePodcast #RebuildingTrust

  5. Oct 8

    We Both Got Divorced at 50. Here’s What It Taught Us

    Divorce at 50 can feel like starting your life over. In this episode, two men who both got divorced at 50 share what they learned about divorce after 50, marriage, parenting, and rebuilding your life. In this episode of The Conscious Divorce Podcast, Justin Milrad talks with longtime friend David Levin, author of A Divorced Dad’s Playbook for the Still Married. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HL73ZQ8Z David discovered something unexpected after his marriage ended. Many of the lessons divorce forced him to learn were skills that could have made him a better husband while he was still married. Together, Justin and David discuss how to tell the difference between a marriage that has lost some important skills and one with deeper foundational problems. They also talk about rebuilding after divorce at 50, dealing with an empty house, co-parenting, relationships with your children, money conversations, boundaries, communication, and creating a meaningful second half of life. In this conversation: 00:00 Is your marriage actually fixable? 04:25 Why a divorced dad wrote a marriage book 16:29 What a “fine” marriage really looks like 19:01 Skills problems vs. foundation problems 24:23 How to know when the problem runs deeper 27:15 The moment David knew his marriage was ending 29:34 The empty house and rebuilding at 50 35:16 Systems that make co-parenting easier 38:16 Money, resentment, and financial communication 42:25 Stonewalling and relationship patterns 45:09 What boundaries actually mean 47:21 Finding happiness after divorce at 50 51:11 The lessons David wants people to remember 54:51 Four takeaways from the conversation 55:48 Marriage assessment, books, and resources David Levin is the author of A Divorced Dad’s Playbook for the Still Married, a practical guide built from the relationship lessons he learned after divorce. Whether you are questioning your marriage, currently going through divorce, or rebuilding afterward, the goal is not simply to survive the experience. It is to learn from it and make intentional decisions about what comes next. FREE 30-MINUTE STRATEGY SESSION https://reclaimandreboot.me/booking Learn more about Reclaim & Reboot: https://reclaimandreboot.me/ If this conversation helped you, subscribe to The Conscious Divorce Podcast and share the episode with someone who may need to hear it.

  6. Oct 1

    Don’t Wait for the Iceberg: Warning Signs Before Divorce

    Most divorces do not come completely out of nowhere. The warning signs often appear months or even years earlier. The question is whether you recognize them and change course before the situation becomes a crisis. The Titanic received multiple ice warnings before the collision. Many of those warnings were acknowledged, but acknowledging a warning is not the same as acting on it. In this episode, I use the Titanic disaster as a framework for understanding the warning signs that can appear in a marriage, during divorce, and even in co-parenting after the divorce is final. We’ll look at why capable people can recognize problems without responding to them, how small relationship patterns can become bigger problems over time, and why silence does not always mean everything is okay. I’ll also walk you through the Bridge Protocol, a four-step system: Log. Route. Read. Turn. The goal is simple: identify patterns, get important concerns to the right place, understand what those patterns are telling you, and make small course corrections while you still have room to maneuver. We also discuss warning signs in co-parenting, including repeated logistics problems, increasingly hostile communication, children being used as messengers, and situations where important information stops being shared. If something in your marriage or co-parenting relationship has been telling you that things are not quite right, don’t wait until the iceberg is directly in front of you. Chapters 00:00 The Titanic received the warnings 02:00 The seven ice warnings 06:40 Why the Titanic did not slow down 08:40 The normalization of warning signs 10:20 Two Titanic myths worth correcting 12:00 Warning signs inside a marriage 13:40 What relationship research tells us 15:40 When your spouse stops sending warnings 18:00 Why couples wait to get help 19:10 Why smart people fail to change course 20:30 The Bridge Protocol 21:00 Step 1: Log the warnings 22:00 Step 2: Route the warning 23:00 Step 3: Read the pattern 24:00 Step 4: Turn early 26:00 Preparing without assuming divorce 27:00 When the turn is toward divorce 28:00 The second ice field after divorce 30:00 Warning signs in co-parenting 33:00 How to change course after divorce 35:00 The Carpathia response 37:30 The belief that keeps you at full speed 39:00 What to do next If you are facing divorce and want help thinking through your next steps, schedule a free 30-minute strategy session: www.reclaimandreboot.me/booking Related resources and episodes mentioned in this conversation: • Mutually Assured Destruction: understanding how co-parenting conflict escalates • Future-proofing your parenting plan • Why co-parenting conflicts escalate and the BIFF communication method • The Five-Year Filter • Reclaim & Reboot books and divorce resources Divorce is too important to figure out as you go.

  7. Sep 24

    What’s Worth Fighting for in Divorce? Kids, Money, Boundaries & Safety

    What’s actually worth fighting for in divorce? Learn when to let go, when to set boundaries, and when your kids, money, legal rights, or safety require you to take action. Divorce can make every disagreement feel important, but not every conflict deserves the same amount of time, money, or emotional energy. In this episode, we break down how to separate everyday preferences from recurring patterns and genuine protection issues. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between a boundary and an attempt to control your ex, when a co-parenting problem needs a better process instead of another argument, what financial and legal issues deserve closer attention, and how to keep your children out of adult conflict. We also cover situations involving coercive control, addiction, safety concerns, and documentation, plus the HILL Check, a simple framework for deciding what is truly worth protecting. CHAPTERS 00:00 When a Small Conflict Becomes Something Bigger 01:55 Why Divorce Turns Small Issues Into Big Fights 06:10 Preference, Pattern, or Protection? 09:30 Is It a Boundary or an Attempt to Control? 12:05 The Hidden Cost of Fighting Over Everything 13:55 What Is Actually Worth Spending Money On? 17:45 Co-Parenting Problems Need a Process 20:20 Money, Expenses, and Parenting Agreements 24:50 Keeping Your Children Out of Adult Conflict 27:45 When “Pick Your Battles” Is the Wrong Advice 32:20 The HILL Check: What Is Worth Fighting For? 36:15 Are You the One Escalating the Conflict? 37:50 What Letting Go Actually Looks Like 39:15 Repairing Conflict Your Children Have Already Seen 40:45 What Are You Actually Trying to Protect? 42:00 Resources and Next Steps READY TO GET CLEAR ON WHAT ACTUALLY MATTERS? If you’re facing a divorce or co-parenting decision and you’re not sure whether to let it go, address it, document it, or get professional help, book a free 30-minute strategy session: www.reclaimandreboot.me/booking RELATED RESOURCES Co-Parenting Boundaries https://reclaimandreboot.me/co-parenting-boundaries/ How to Set and Hold Healthy Boundaries During Divorce https://reclaimandreboot.me/how-to-set-and-hold-healthy-boundaries-during-divorce/ 15 Essentials for Success: The Co-Parenting Checklist You Need https://reclaimandreboot.me/15-essentials-for-success-the-co-parenting-checklist-you-need/ How to Co-Parent After Divorce: A Child-Centered Approach https://reclaimandreboot.me/how-to-co-parent-after-divorce-a-child-centered-approach/ You 2.0: Divorce, A Better Way Forward + The Co-Parenting Playbook https://reclaimandreboot.me/resources/ This episode is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not legal, financial, medical, or mental health advice. Divorce laws and individual circumstances vary. Speak with the appropriate qualified professional about your specific situation.

  8. Sep 19

    Prenups & Postnups: Protection, Power, and Peace of Mind in Modern Relationships

    Prenup vs postnup: what actually changes when an agreement is signed before or after marriage, and what can these agreements really protect? From second marriages and business ownership to stock compensation, estate planning, debt, real estate, and stepping away from a career to raise children, financial decisions made during a marriage can have consequences that last for decades. Family law attorney Lisa Zeiderman, Esq. joins the conversation to explain how prenuptial and postnuptial agreements work, why financial transparency matters, and what couples should think about before signing anything. We cover: • What a prenuptial agreement actually does • The difference between a prenup and postnup • What prenups can and cannot cover • When a postnuptial agreement may make sense • Protecting a business or premarital assets • Second marriages and blended families • Restricted stock, equity, and executive compensation • Protecting a spouse who leaves the workforce to raise children • Common mistakes that can weaken an agreement • When a prenup or postnup may be challenged • How to bring up a prenup without turning it into a fight • Why couples should periodically review their agreement Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, a Certified Financial Litigator and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who works extensively with complex and high-net-worth family law matters. ⚠️ Disclaimer: This content is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, mental health, or therapeutic advice. Prenuptial and postnuptial agreement laws vary by jurisdiction. Speak with a qualified attorney and financial professional in your state about your specific circumstances. If you're navigating divorce, rebuilding afterward, or trying to make more informed financial decisions about your future, visit reclaimandreboot.me for coaching, books, and additional resources. Subscribe to The Conscious Divorce Podcast for conversations about divorce strategy, finances, co-parenting, relationships, rebuilding, and creating a better life after major change.

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The Conscious Divorce Podcast is where real, compassionate, and transformative conversations about divorce take place. Hosted by Justin Milrad and brought to you by Reclaim & Reboot, this show is designed to guide you through every stage of the divorce journey; whether you’re questioning the decision, navigating the process, or rebuilding life afterward. Each episode features heartfelt stories from guests who’ve experienced divorce firsthand, expert insights from therapists, coaches, financial advisors, and wellness specialists, and practical tools to help you build resilience, co-parent effectively, and create a clear vision for your future. With a focus on hope and empowerment, this podcast shifts the narrative around divorce from one of loss to one of reclamation, reminding you that you’re not alone and that moving forward with strength and intention is absolutely possible. Tune in weekly to reclaim your power and reboot your life.

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  • Creator
    Justin Milrad
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    54
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Justin Milrad
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    The Conscious Divorce

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