Self-Led Besties!

Christine Dixon, Hallie Shapiro & David Hilton
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Welcome to the pod, besties! You’ll find us chatting about all things Self-Leadership, parts, self-compassion, nonviolent communication & so much more.

  1. Oct 18

    S2 E2 | A Live IFS Session: Hallie Guides David

    Hallie guides David in welcoming what is alive in him, which organically leads to the witnessing, redoing, retrieving and offering of secure attachment to a young, vulnerable part. This is a masterclass in how honoring every part naturally leads to parts relaxing and allowing Self to attune lovingly to whatever arises. If you have parts who feel embarrassed to cry in front of others, parts who have theories that want to be heard, or parts who take you out completely when approaching something vulnerable, they will feel seen and less alone watching this episode. I loved this session so much and think you will, too. -Christine 00:00 – Introduction to David’s live IFS session03:21 – Meeting the protective parts that monitor what is shared10:35 – Exploring the belief that nobody can see us cry15:08 – Making space for grief and the fear of tears20:56 – Staying with blankness and difficult feelings25:27 – Exploring grief and the loss of David’s Mum30:53 – Revisiting childhood experiences of being teased for crying35:00 – Meeting anger, shame and childhood struggles with belonging44:47 – The fear of being noticed and not being good enough49:00 – Imagining a different experience of childhood53:39 – Reflecting on the adults who could have offered support59:55 – Discovering what the younger part needs1:09:37 – Offering reassurance, connection and permission to cry1:14:00 – Reflecting on the session and the experience1:20:00 – Final reflections and podcast sign-off

    S2 E2 | A Live IFS Session: Hallie Guides David

  2. Oct 4

    S2 E1 | The Art and Science of IFS

    The Besties are back!!! It's Season 2 of the Self Led Besties Podcast, and in this first episode, Christine, Hallie, and David have a playful conversation about both the art and science of Internal Family Systems. They laugh, get deep and personal, and mix a lot of great metaphors. And, stay tuned for the lightning round in which Hallie reads many of her inspired sticky notes and everyone responds with one sentence! Please share in the comments the ways in which you experience IFS as both an art and a science, or what your desk notes might say. :) We'd love to hear from you! 00:00 Welcome Back & Halle's Notes 02:40 Is IFS More Art Than Science? 07:00 The Myofascial Release Metaphor 09:20 The Map Is Not the Territory 13:20 Performing IFS & the Pressure of Evaluation 16:25 Learning the Principles & Improvising 19:55 IFS as Painting, Play & Creativity 24:05 The Art AND Science of IFS 28:40 The Quick-Fire Notes 31:45 Resistance Is Valuable 33:30 Closing & Reflections

    S2 E1 | The Art and Science of IFS

  3. Jun 7

    S1 E10 | Three Babbling Brooks

    As a special treat for the Season One Finale of The Self Led Besties Podcast...we decided to be on camera (on the YouTube version at least)!!! Whenever Hallie and Christine would have "babbling parts," David would graciously call them "babbling brooks," so we decided to call this episode "Three Babbling Brooks." David begins by telling about what has been alive in him lately - pondering the nature of vulnerable, wounded parts and the various layers around them. From there, we talk about how wounding happens from the inside out and healing occurs as Self brings loving attention to all the layers from the outside in. As Hallie says, "We've been on the Needs Bus lately," so of course we also bring in how unmet needs relate to wounds and burdened parts. Join us in this silly and serious discussion, and as always, please share any questions or resonance in the comments section below. 0:02 Introduction and Season Finale Announcement0:42 Theme Song and Lip Sync2:51 Discussion on Authenticity and Voice Messages4:10 David's Introduction to Wounding and Healing5:20 Emotional Beliefs and Protective Parts7:44 Healing Process and Self-Energy10:26 Visual and Somatic Components in Healing13:41 Christine and Hallie's Observations on Protective Parts16:32 Self-Energy and Integration34:38 Exploring Needs and Burdening39:18 Healing and Meeting Needs54:28 Personal Reflections on the Season61:29 Upcoming Projects and Workshops Follow us on IG! the pod: @selfledbestiespod Christine: @the_ordinary_sacred David: @ifs_awakening Hallie: @wiseinside.coaching

    S1 E10 | Three Babbling Brooks

  4. May 24

    S1 E9 | Activity: Wheel of Needs

    In this episode, Hallie leads David and Christine through a beautiful exercise piggy backing off of the needs exercise from last episode (though this can also be used as a stand alone exercise). Hallie explains why it so important to connect to our needs and how the world might be a more supportive place to live if we all valued needs. Then, after a short "coming into presence" moment, Hallie guides us (and you) through rating each of the needs based first on our body compass then letting parts express whatever comes up for them. After getting an overall rating for how well our nine universal needs are met in this chapter of our lives, Hallie guides us in exploring how our highest and lowest rated needs could be met by Self, Support (from another person), and the Strategies our parts use to get Supply. This exercise has the potential to bring so much clarity, compassion, and creativity into our systems. Please feel free to follow along or just listen, and we'd love to hear how the exercise was for you in the comment section below. 0:00 Intro0:10 Theme Song0:36 Exercise Introduction1:48 Exercise Overview3:58 Coming Into Presence7:28 The 9 Universal Human Needs15:35 The Wheel Of Needs20:11 Rating Our Needs22:02 The Need for Safety24:59 The Need for Sustenance26:50 The Need For Rest29:22 The Need For Love30:49 The Need For Understanding32:32 The Need For Belonging35:03 The Need For Purpose36:46 The Need For Creativity39:19 The Need For Freedom41:36 Calculating Our Needs Percentage44:00 Percentage Indicators46:38 Strategy Overview52:40 The Importance Of Authenticity57:24 Lowest & Highest Scores58:41 Highest Scoring Need59:53 Highest Score Strategies1:01:31 Lowest Scoring Need1:02:16 Lowest Score Strategies1:04:21 New Strategies For Lowest Score?1:08:13 Invitation To Further Exploration1:11:02 Christine's Experience1:23:52 David's Experience1:30:21 Closing & Goodbyes1:32:00 Theme Song1:33:03 Like & Subscribe

    S1 E9 | Activity: Wheel of Needs

  5. May 10

    S1 E8 | Activity: Are My Needs Met?

    In this episode, Christine shares a Needs-Based Protocol she's been working on. David and Hallie experiment with what emotions feel like in their bodies and how their emotions can be valuable messengers pointing to unmet needs. Then, Christine leads Hallie and David in an exercise to assess a relationship, environment, or activity by scoring how well they support each of the 9 Universal Human Needs. Then we discuss brainstorming creative strategies to meet those needs ourselves as well as specific requests to make of others. We welcome you to follow along in these experiments and offer feedback or questions in the comments. As we develop this protocol, your input is highly valuable. 0:00 Intro0:10 Theme Song0:37 Exercise Overview4:45 Noticing Emotions9:06 The Level Of Suffering12:30 David's Emotions15:21 Hallie's Emotions18:47 The Nine Human Needs23:29 David's Unmet Needs25:04 Hallie's Unmet Needs26:30 Meeting Our Needs30:29 How Emotions Relate To Needs35:34 Partner, Place Or Profession?40:40 Rating Needs Being Met44:50 High, Medium & Low Scores50:05 Personally Meeting Our Needs50:45 Specific Request Of Another Person52:08 Creating Distance53:30 Strategy Examples1:02:34 Outro & Goodbyes1:04:12 Theme Song1:05:16 Like & Subscribe

    S1 E8 | Activity: Are My Needs Met?

  6. Apr 26

    S1 E7 | Parts Chat: Who is the Healer in an IFS Session?

    In this episode of the Self Led Besties Podcast, Christine, Hallie and David speak for their active parts around the exclusion of non therapists from the IFSI training (yes, we still have parts processing the decision made 2 1/2 years ago!). We reference an article entitled "The Ethics of Using IFS in Coaching." Here is the link, if you'd like to read the article yourself: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/blog/ethics-of-ifs-coaching A main point in the article is that IFS is unique in its understanding that it is NOT the practitioner but the client's Self who is the healing agent in their system. So the question is NOT "Who is allowed to facilitate IFS?", but "Who does IFS assert is the healer?" We discuss our distress over the conflict between therapists and non-therapists created by the exclusion and our desire to be united in the unique hope of IFS. We also discuss how much of mainstream therapy can end up reinforcing client's core wounds such as, "I am helpless," "something is wrong with me," etc. and how anyone with Self energy - a coach, friend, family member - can be supportive of our own Self tending to our parts, and that, ultimately, it is always Love that heals. 0:00 Intro0:12 Theme Song0:38 Discussion Intoduction2:33 How Christine's Parts Responded4:28 How David's Parts Responded5:46 How Hallie's Parts Responded10:42 Article Introduction12:46 Article Reading23:21 How Therapy Can Reinforce Wounds29:59 The Importance Of Self-Energy36:58 The Importance of Relationship40:50 The Importance of Inner Work43:26 The Importance Of Self-Led Friends52:16 IFSI & Christianity55:09 How Love Heals59:53 A Beautiful Poem By Hallie1:00:48 Closing & Goodbyes1:01:34 Theme Song1:02:35 Like & Subscribe!

    S1 E7 | Parts Chat: Who is the Healer in an IFS Session?

  7. Apr 12

    S1 E6 | Activity: The Relationship Garden

    In this episode, David leads Hallie and Christine (and you) through an exercise based on a beautiful gardening metaphor to bring curiosity and awareness to the relationships in our lives. In the exercise, we imagine four flower beds - one each for seedling, deeply rooted flowering, withering, and dying relationships. We assess the time and energy we put into each type of relationship as well as listen to parts' fears and needs around the various stages of our relationships. After the exercise, Christine and Hallie share about the insights they gained, and Hallie extends the metaphor in many wonderful ways. If you participate in the exercise, we'd love to hear about your experience in the comment section! 0:00 Intro0:10 Theme Song0:34 Exercise Overview2:01 Parts Check-In3:17 Imagining The Garden5:32 Noticing Four Flowerbeds8:59 Energy & Effort Percentage10:52 First Flowerbed - Seedlings & Saplings13:42 Second Flowerbed - Evergreens16:03 Third Flowerbed - Wilting & Withering18:18 Fourth Flowerbed - Composting 20:42 Part's Insights?21:15 Energy & Effort Change?23:02 Bonus Question23:44 Exercise Ending24:20 Christine's Experience35:54 Hallie's Experience56:43 Relationship Discussion1:10:36 Closing & Goodbyes1:11:49 Theme Song1:12:53 Like & Subscribe!

    S1 E6 | Activity: The Relationship Garden

  8. Mar 29

    S1 E5 | Activity: Gentle Presence Lights the Way

    In this episode, Hallie leads David and Christine (and you) through an incredibly helpful exercise to get to know parts around a polarization and then to bring them together to find a Self-led consensus. Hallie starts with the prompt, "What is something you/parts of you have been putting off?” and leads us to get to know the parts who want to do the thing and the parts who block/resist it. She guides us toward gentle inquiry of each part/set of parts to find out their fears, needs, values, and requests. At the end, we all share for what came up for us in the experiment/experience. Feel free to join us in doing the exercise and share your experience in the comments or just listen to our experiences. You cannot get it wrong! 0:00 Intro0:11 Theme Song0:35 Exercise Preview1:51 Exercise Overview6:54 Finding a Trailhead8:17 First Part's Questions P111:33 First Part's Questions P212:39 First Part's Questions P313:21 Second Part's Questions P116:18 Second Part's Questions P216:45 Second Part's Questions P317:24 Spending Time With Vulnerable Parts20:23 Bringing Parts Together21:54 Sharing Part's Perspectives24:43 Inviting a Consensus25:54 Exercise Conclusion27:53 David's Experience36:01 Christine's Experience48:05 Exercise Reflection56:40 Hallie's Experience1:00:14 Closing & Goodbyes1:02:23 Theme Song1:03:23 Like & Subscribe!

    S1 E5 | Activity: Gentle Presence Lights the Way
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Welcome to the pod, besties! You’ll find us chatting about all things Self-Leadership, parts, self-compassion, nonviolent communication & so much more.

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  • Creator
    Christine Dixon, Hallie Shapiro & David Hilton
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    13
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    Self-Led Besties!

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