The Backdoor Podcast

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The Backdoor Podcast with Steph & Kayls is where no question is off-limits. The viral duo behind TikTok’s hit “question series” take their raw, hilarious chemistry to the mic — diving deep into relationships, social media, and the realities of being viral creators, parents, and OnlyFans personalities. Expect unfiltered conversations, hot takes, and the kind of honesty everyone thinks but never says. Because sometimes, the real talk happens through the backdoor. NEW episodes Monday & Thusdays.

  1. 19h ago

    Things We Judge Our Partners For But Not Ourselves | Ep. 84

    Things We Judge Our Partners For But Not Ourselves | Ep. 81 Are we actually holding our partners to the same standards we hold ourselves to? In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast, we get honest about the relationship habits, behaviors, and double standards we’re quick to judge in our partners while giving ourselves a pass. We talk about the things that can create tension in relationships, including communication, jealousy, social media, friendships, effort, attraction, boundaries, and the expectations we place on our partners. We also discuss why it can be so much easier to notice someone else’s flaws than our own, and how a little self-awareness and accountability can change the way couples handle conflict. Topics discussed include: Double standards in relationships Behaviors we judge our partners for Holding yourself to the same standards Communication and texting expectations Jealousy and insecurity Social media and relationship boundaries Friendships and interactions with other people Effort, attention, and appreciation Attraction, flirting, and relationship expectations Recognizing your own hypocrisy Accountability and self-awareness in relationships When relationship standards become unfair Whether you're dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is a reminder that sometimes the person we need to take a closer look at isn't our partner—it's ourselves. Follow us on social media: Steph & Kayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  2. Sep 10

    Are We Actually Sexually Compatible? | Ep. 83

    In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast, we dive into one of the biggest questions couples ask themselves: Are we actually sexually compatible? We discuss: • What sexual compatibility really means (and what it doesn't) • Whether compatibility is something you're born with or something you build together • Signs you and your partner may be sexually compatible • Common causes of mismatched libidos • The role communication plays in a healthy sex life • How emotional connection impacts physical intimacy • Expectations vs. reality in long-term relationships • Red flags couples often ignore • Ways to strengthen intimacy and connection over time Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or somewhere in between, this conversation explores the challenges, misconceptions, and realities of maintaining a satisfying intimate relationship. Listen now and join the conversation. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  3. Sep 3

    Things Men Secretly Need But Rarely Admit | Ep. 82

    Things Men Secretly Need But Rarely Admit | Ep. 82 What do men actually need in a relationship that they rarely say out loud? In this episode, we’re getting honest about the emotional needs men often keep to themselves and the things they wish their partners understood without having to ask. We talk about: The reassurance men secretly need Why appreciation matters more than you might think Feeling respected and valued in a relationship Affection and intimacy beyond sex Why men sometimes struggle to communicate their needs The importance of having a partner who genuinely listens Things men wish women understood about how they process emotions The difference between being “strong” and feeling supported The little things that can make a man feel loved and wanted Sometimes the things your partner needs most are the things they’ll never actually ask for. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  4. Aug 27

    What Your Partner Wishes You Knew But Will Never Tell You | Ep. 81

    What Your Partner Wishes You Knew But Will Never Tell You There are probably things your partner wishes you understood without having to ask—but for one reason or another, they may never actually say them out loud. In this episode, we get into the thoughts, feelings, frustrations, and expectations that partners often keep to themselves. We talk about the little things that can make someone feel loved and appreciated, the things that quietly hurt, the importance of feeling heard and desired, and the expectations couples sometimes assume their partner should already understand. We also discuss why people hold back from saying what they really feel and how unspoken thoughts can eventually create distance in a relationship. This episode is an honest conversation about the things your partner might wish you noticed, understood, or did differently—but may be too nervous, uncomfortable, or afraid to actually tell you. Topics discussed include: Things partners secretly wish you understood Feeling appreciated and valued The little things that matter in a relationship Unspoken expectations Feeling heard and understood Affection, attention, and quality time Things that quietly hurt your partner Why partners sometimes hold back their feelings Communication and emotional needs How unspoken frustrations can affect a relationship What couples can do to better understand each other Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  5. Aug 20

    The Relationship Double Standards We All Have.. | Ep. 80

    The Relationship Double Standards We All Have We all have relationship standards—but are we actually willing to follow the same rules we expect from our partner? In this episode, we have an honest conversation about the double standards that can show up in relationships and dating, including the ones we may not even realize we have. We discuss the different expectations people can have for themselves versus their partners, from friendships and social media to jealousy, communication, going out, money, attraction, and boundaries. We also debate whether some double standards are actually unfair or if there are situations where different expectations can make sense. This episode is all about holding ourselves accountable, recognizing our own contradictions, and asking whether we'd be okay with our partner doing the exact same things we do. Topics discussed include: Double standards we have in relationships Expecting things from your partner you don't do yourself Social media and relationship boundaries Jealousy and insecurity Friendships with the opposite sex Going out without your partner Communication and texting expectations Money and spending habits Attraction and flirting Relationship rules and personal boundaries Whether every double standard is actually unfair Holding yourself accountable in a relationship Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  6. Aug 13

    The Habits That Make Someone Fall Out Of Love | Ep. 79

    The Habits That Make Someone Fall Out Of Love Falling out of love doesn't always happen because of one huge mistake. Sometimes, it's the small habits that slowly create distance, resentment, and disconnection over time. In this episode, we talk about the everyday behaviors that can quietly change the way your partner feels about you and your relationship. We discuss how taking someone for granted, poor communication, constant criticism, lack of affection, unresolved arguments, emotional distance, and stopping the effort can slowly damage a relationship. We also explore how relationships can change when couples become too comfortable and stop intentionally making each other feel valued. This episode is an honest conversation about the habits that can slowly kill attraction and connection—and what couples can do before those habits become impossible to ignore. Topics discussed include: Taking your partner for granted Lack of effort and consistency Constant criticism and negativity Poor communication Emotional distance and shutting down Neglecting affection and intimacy Never resolving arguments Losing appreciation for your partner Becoming too comfortable in a relationship How small habits can create major relationship problems Ways couples can reconnect before it's too late Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  7. Aug 6

    The Green Flags We Ignore.. | Ep. 78

    The Green Flags We Ignore Everyone talks about red flags, but what about the green flags? In this episode, we shift the focus to the positive qualities that often get overlooked in relationships and discuss why they're just as important—if not more important—than spotting warning signs. We break down the healthy behaviors that build trust, respect, and long-term compatibility, while also asking an important question: Is it actually a green flag... or is it just the bare minimum? In a fun segment, we debate common relationship behaviors and decide whether they deserve praise or should simply be expected in a healthy partnership. From communication and consistency to emotional maturity, accountability, and mutual respect, this episode explores what truly makes a relationship strong and why social media may have lowered—or raised—our expectations in all the wrong ways. Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or simply reevaluating what you want in a partner, this conversation will help you recognize the qualities that deserve more attention. Topics discussed include: The green flags people often overlook Green Flag or Bare Minimum? (special segment) Consistency vs. grand gestures Healthy communication habits Emotional maturity and accountability Respect, trust, and reliability Relationship standards and expectations What healthy love actually looks like Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  8. Jul 30

    Awkward Questions We Don't Ask Our Partners | Ep. 77

    Awkward Questions We Don't Ask Our Partners Every relationship has uncomfortable conversations that somehow never happen. Whether it's out of fear, embarrassment, or simply not knowing how to bring them up, avoiding these questions can leave room for misunderstandings and unmet expectations. In this episode, we dive into the awkward questions couples often avoid asking each other—from finances, intimacy, and future plans to insecurities, boundaries, past experiences, and personal habits. We talk about why these conversations feel so difficult, what can happen when they're left unspoken, and how asking the right questions can actually strengthen trust, communication, and long-term compatibility. If you've ever wondered whether you're avoiding a conversation you should probably have, this episode is packed with relatable moments, honest opinions, and practical insights for building a healthier relationship. Topics discussed include: The awkward questions most couples avoid Why uncomfortable conversations matter Money, goals, and future expectations Boundaries and personal privacy Intimacy and emotional needs Past relationships and difficult topics Communication habits that build trust How to bring up sensitive conversations without creating conflict Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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The Backdoor Podcast with Steph & Kayls is where no question is off-limits. The viral duo behind TikTok’s hit “question series” take their raw, hilarious chemistry to the mic — diving deep into relationships, social media, and the realities of being viral creators, parents, and OnlyFans personalities. Expect unfiltered conversations, hot takes, and the kind of honesty everyone thinks but never says. Because sometimes, the real talk happens through the backdoor. NEW episodes Monday & Thusdays.

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    thebackdoorwithsk
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
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