The Backdoor Podcast

thebackdoorwithsk
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The Backdoor Podcast with Steph & Kayls is where no question is off-limits. The viral duo behind TikTok’s hit “question series” take their raw, hilarious chemistry to the mic — diving deep into relationships, social media, and the realities of being viral creators, parents, and OnlyFans personalities. Expect unfiltered conversations, hot takes, and the kind of honesty everyone thinks but never says. Because sometimes, the real talk happens through the backdoor. NEW episodes Monday & Thusdays.

  1. 2d ago

    The Things We Secretly Compare Our Partner Too | Ep 89

    The Things We Secretly Compare Our Partner To We’re getting into the comparisons we make about our partners that we don’t always want to admit out loud. From comparing our relationships to what we see on social media, our friends’ relationships, our exes, and even the relationships we grew up watching, we’re unpacking how these comparisons shape our expectations, create insecurities, and sometimes make us question something that’s actually good for us. We talk about the pressure to have the “perfect” relationship, the little things we notice about other couples, and how easy it is to focus on what our partner isn’t doing instead of appreciating what they bring to the table. Are our expectations realistic, or have we been influenced by what we see around us? And when does comparing become a sign that something is genuinely missing in our relationship? Key Discussion Takeaways: How social media creates unrealistic expectations for relationships. Why we compare our partners to our friends’ partners and wonder if we’re missing out. The role exes and past relationships play in how we judge our current partner. How our parents’ relationships and childhood experiences shape what we expect from love. The difference between recognizing legitimate needs and comparing our relationship to someone else’s highlight reel. Why constantly comparing your partner can cause resentment and make you overlook the good. How to communicate what you need without making your partner feel like they’re competing with everyone else. Tune in as we get honest about the comparisons we all make, the expectations we put on our relationships, and what it really means to appreciate the person you’re with. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  2. 5d ago

    The Bedroom Habits That Make Someone More Attractive | Ep 88

    In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast, we’re talking about the bedroom habits that can make someone more attractive and why the little things behind closed doors can say a lot about a person. From confidence, hygiene, and self-care to communication, intimacy, and the way we make our partners feel, we’re getting into the habits that can make someone more desirable beyond just physical appearance. Key Discussion Takeaways: Confidence is attractive: Being comfortable with yourself and your body can make a big difference. Hygiene matters: Taking care of yourself and maintaining good personal hygiene can go a long way. Communication is key: Being open about your needs, desires, and boundaries helps build intimacy. Emotional connection counts: Feeling safe, valued, and understood can make attraction stronger. The little things add up: Thoughtfulness, affection, attentiveness, and consistency can make someone stand out. Self-care is appealing: The way you care for yourself often reflects how you show up in relationships. Attraction goes beyond looks: Confidence, consideration, and the ability to connect with someone can be just as important as physical chemistry. We’re breaking down what really makes someone attractive behind closed doors and why the smallest habits can sometimes make the biggest difference in chemistry, intimacy, and connection. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  3. Oct 8

    The Things We Pretend Don't Hurt... But Actually Do | Ep 87

    In this episode, we have an honest conversation about the things we tell ourselves don’t hurt—but actually do. We talk about the emotions we tend to minimize or hide, including rejection, disappointment, friendship and relationship struggles, insecurity, self-worth, people-pleasing, and the pressure to act like everything is fine. We get into why certain experiences stay with us even when we try to move past them, how we sometimes suppress our feelings to protect ourselves or avoid being vulnerable, and what it looks like to finally acknowledge the things that hurt. This episode is about being honest with ourselves, giving our emotions space, and recognizing that admitting something hurt doesn’t make us weak—it makes us human. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  4. Oct 5

    Silent Turn On's For Women | Ep. 86

    What actually makes a man attractive to women? In this episode, we're breaking down the silent turn-ons women notice that have nothing to do with looks. From confidence and emotional intelligence to initiative, reliability, and the small everyday actions that make women feel seen, valued, and desired, we're revealing the traits that quietly build attraction over time. Whether you're dating, married, or in a long-term relationship, this conversation explores female attraction, relationship psychology, emotional connection, communication, intimacy, and the subtle behaviors that can make someone instantly more attractive. If you've ever wondered what women really find attractive, this episode is for you. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  5. Sep 24

    The Things We Do When We're Feeling Unloved | Ep. 85

    The Things We Do When We're Feeling Unloved What happens when you start feeling like your partner doesn’t love you the way they used to? In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast, we break down the things people often do when they’re feeling unloved, disconnected, or emotionally neglected—sometimes without even realizing why they’re acting differently. We talk about the subtle ways feeling unloved can show up, from becoming distant or overly needy to starting arguments, seeking attention elsewhere, testing your partner, or becoming more sensitive to the little things. We also discuss how people communicate—or fail to communicate—their needs, how resentment can build when you don’t feel appreciated, and why some behaviors can create even more distance in a relationship. Topics discussed include: Signs you may be feeling unloved Becoming distant or emotionally withdrawn Seeking extra attention and reassurance Starting arguments or picking fights Testing your partner’s love Feeling unwanted or unappreciated Changes in affection and intimacy Jealousy and insecurity Resentment and built-up frustration Communicating your emotional needs How feeling unloved can affect your behavior Breaking unhealthy relationship patterns What partners can do to make each other feel loved and valued Sometimes the way we act when we feel unloved is actually a reflection of what we’re struggling to say out loud. The Relationship Reset Blueprint: https://stan.store/stephandkayls Follow us on social media: https://link.me/thestephandkayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  6. Sep 17

    Things We Judge Our Partners For But Not Ourselves | Ep. 84

    Things We Judge Our Partners For But Not Ourselves | Ep. 81 Are we actually holding our partners to the same standards we hold ourselves to? In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast, we get honest about the relationship habits, behaviors, and double standards we’re quick to judge in our partners while giving ourselves a pass. We talk about the things that can create tension in relationships, including communication, jealousy, social media, friendships, effort, attraction, boundaries, and the expectations we place on our partners. We also discuss why it can be so much easier to notice someone else’s flaws than our own, and how a little self-awareness and accountability can change the way couples handle conflict. Topics discussed include: Double standards in relationships Behaviors we judge our partners for Holding yourself to the same standards Communication and texting expectations Jealousy and insecurity Social media and relationship boundaries Friendships and interactions with other people Effort, attention, and appreciation Attraction, flirting, and relationship expectations Recognizing your own hypocrisy Accountability and self-awareness in relationships When relationship standards become unfair Whether you're dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is a reminder that sometimes the person we need to take a closer look at isn't our partner—it's ourselves. Follow us on social media: Steph & Kayls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  7. Sep 10

    Are We Actually Sexually Compatible? | Ep. 83

    In this episode of The Backdoor Podcast, we dive into one of the biggest questions couples ask themselves: Are we actually sexually compatible? We discuss: • What sexual compatibility really means (and what it doesn't) • Whether compatibility is something you're born with or something you build together • Signs you and your partner may be sexually compatible • Common causes of mismatched libidos • The role communication plays in a healthy sex life • How emotional connection impacts physical intimacy • Expectations vs. reality in long-term relationships • Red flags couples often ignore • Ways to strengthen intimacy and connection over time Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or somewhere in between, this conversation explores the challenges, misconceptions, and realities of maintaining a satisfying intimate relationship. Listen now and join the conversation. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

  8. Sep 3

    Things Men Secretly Need But Rarely Admit | Ep. 82

    Things Men Secretly Need But Rarely Admit | Ep. 82 What do men actually need in a relationship that they rarely say out loud? In this episode, we’re getting honest about the emotional needs men often keep to themselves and the things they wish their partners understood without having to ask. We talk about: The reassurance men secretly need Why appreciation matters more than you might think Feeling respected and valued in a relationship Affection and intimacy beyond sex Why men sometimes struggle to communicate their needs The importance of having a partner who genuinely listens Things men wish women understood about how they process emotions The difference between being “strong” and feeling supported The little things that can make a man feel loved and wanted Sometimes the things your partner needs most are the things they’ll never actually ask for. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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The Backdoor Podcast with Steph & Kayls is where no question is off-limits. The viral duo behind TikTok’s hit “question series” take their raw, hilarious chemistry to the mic — diving deep into relationships, social media, and the realities of being viral creators, parents, and OnlyFans personalities. Expect unfiltered conversations, hot takes, and the kind of honesty everyone thinks but never says. Because sometimes, the real talk happens through the backdoor. NEW episodes Monday & Thusdays.

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  • Creator
    thebackdoorwithsk
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    89
  • Rating
    Explicit
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