Unpacked & Unfiltered | Travel, Modern Spirituality, and Real Girl Talk

Bexx & Noie
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Welcome to Unpacked & Unfiltered, where best friends Bexx and Noie talk about the messy middle of being a woman who’s still figuring it out—on purpose. They’re the kind of friends who will hype you up in Tulum, pull cards in the kitchen, and admit when life feels like too much. From divorce, grief, and loss to travel, sex, motherhood, money, and starting over at 30, 40, or 60, they explore what it really looks like to reinvent yourself without apologizing for it. Join them for explicit, unfiltered girl talk about change, shame, “being too much,” value beyond a paycheck, modern spirituality, and the shift from chasing your “purpose” to actually finding peace. This is a podcast for everything that comes after you stop living for everyone else and start actually living an unapologetic life that’s yours.

  1. 19h ago

    The Four Agreements in Real Life | Breaking Old Beliefs and Finding Your Own Truth

    “Authenticity is giving yourself the freedom to be you; to have flaws.” Bexx and Noie are going back to basics. After both finding themselves pulled back to Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements, they sit down to unpack each principle together. They dive into how these four agreements show up in real life and how practicing them can help us become more honest, intentional, and authentic versions of ourselves. Bexx and Noie trade stories about self-sabotage, gossip, and the invisible rules women are taught to live by. They get vulnerable about relationship wounds and the messy work of questioning old beliefs and becoming more authentically themselves. This isn't about having it all figured out; it's about sitting with the mess, and choosing growth anyway. Chapters [Start] Back to The Four Agreements: Why this familiar book found its way back into both Bexx and Noie's lives. 03:15 The Power of Your Word: Bexx and Noie unpack the first agreement through self-trust, gossip, honesty, and compassion. 14:45 When Everything Feels Personal: How old wounds and relationship experiences complicate the second agreement. 23:36 The Stories We Tell Ourselves: What happens when assumptions collide with past wounds and present reality. 26:18 What “Your Best” Really Means: Why showing up for yourself doesn't have to look the same every day. 31:09 Breaking the Invisible Rules: The beliefs women inherit about relationships, success, identity, and the lives they're allowed to create. Links and Resources The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  2. Sep 8

    Softness Is Not Weakness | How to Set Boundaries Without Hardening Yourself

    Have you ever looked in the mirror and realized you don't quite recognize the person looking back? Bexx and Noie dive into that feeling and explore how hurt, betrayal, and self-abandonment can slowly harden us into versions of ourselves we no longer recognize. They talk about what it means to "stay soft" when life keeps throwing challenges your way. Bexx and Noie both open up about the specific moments they've caught themselves hardening and shutting down, and share what has helped them reconnect with themselves without giving up their boundaries. They unpack our automatic reactions, the pressure women can feel to stay agreeable, and the difference between genuine softness and self-abandonment. Bexx and Noie share personal experiences with the “pieces of armor” they've built over the years to protect themselves from hurt—and how that armor can also shut out trust, vulnerability, love, and joy. Being soft doesn’t mean you don’t have hard edges, and it certainly doesn’t mean you let people walk all over you. You can be soft and tough at the same time. Chapters [Start] Why We React the Way We Do: Bexx and Noie introduce the topic of staying soft even when hard things happen to us. 04:25 What It Means to Be Soft: Unpacking the difference between staying open and soft vs having no boundaries. 10:33 How to Open Up: A personal story of what it looks like to reopen yourself to feeling vulnerable, allowing joy and happiness back in. 21:58 How to Stay Soft: Four steps for processing hurt without abandoning your feelings, values, or boundaries. Links and Resources BlackHill Law Contact BlackHill Law Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  3. Sep 1

    What Is Your Body Trying to Tell You? | Fear, Triggers, and Emotional Regulation

    “I cannot move to a space of unconditional love for myself, for other people, for anyone until I address this feeling in my body.” Bexx and Noie get real about the disconnect between our body and our brain. We are often taught to overlook our feelings until our bodies force us to pay attention. They dive into why so many of us live in our heads, ignore what we're feeling, and lose touch with the signals our bodies may be sending us. Noie opens up about a current relationship trigger of hers, and Bexx walks through a step-by-step process for moving through fear instead of around it. The two then look at what it actually looks like to build safety with yourself, and then with the people around you. Bexx and Noie share their thoughts on the pressure we all face of holding space for everyone else while abandoning your own body in the process. This conversation gives a reminder to slow down, focus on yourself, and tune into your body and your needs. Everyone else can wait, for once. Chapters [Start] Ignoring the Body: Bexx and Noie open up about feeling constant exhaustion, putting other people first, and why the brain lags behind what the body already knows. 03:39 The Truth About Motherhood: How bodily exhaustion and physical symptoms show up in motherhood, and how to navigate through it healthily. 10:54 The 90-Second Regulation Practice: Bexx walks Noie through a step-by-step method for recognizing, regulating, and processing fear in the body. 18:03 The PAUSE Method: Breaking down the PAUSE acronym when it comes to recognizing feelings and working through them. 24:08 Body Symptom Game: Bexx and Noie use a body-based reference book to explore possible emotional connections to the physical sensations they've been experiencing. Links and Resources Messages from the Body: Their Psychological Meaning by Michael J. Lincoln, Ph.D Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  4. Aug 25

    “I’m the Problem, I’m the Solution” | Keith Yackey on Rebuilding Attraction in Marriage

    “If you're showing up any less than that for your current wife right now, then you don't have a standard.” Bexx and Noie sit down with Keith Yackey, a contractor turned real estate investor turned relationship coach, best known online as the "Pastor of P***y" and creator of The Married Game. Together, they discuss Keith’s collapse of his marriage nine years ago and how that moment forced him to confront the ways he'd stopped showing up for her. He introduces the “holy trinity of married game,” a framework centered on personal responsibility, rebuilding attraction, and becoming a stronger partner. Keith then dives into his "five dial system," a framework he teaches hundreds of men for rebuilding attraction inside long-term relationships. Bexx and Noie add their own thoughts on emotional neglect, the difference between being needed and being wanted, and why consistency and follow-through matter more than grand gestures. This conversation offers practical steps for rebuilding attraction, intimacy, trust, and personal identity within marriage. Chapters [Start] Introducing Keith Yackey: Bexx and Noie introduce Keith, and they discuss his many roles in life and the moment that made his life turn around. 04:45 Building Real Attraction: Keith discusses the "three Ps" myth and why emotional connection sustains real attraction for men and women. 12:26 Winning Her Back: Keith describes his experience after his wife left and what he realized he needed to do to come back stronger than ever. 35:38 The Five Dial System: A full breakdown of the five dials that Keith uses to teach men to rebuild attraction in their marriages. 1:03:00 Back to the Basics: Keith’s last pieces of advice on how to treat a woman the right way to keep attraction alive in marriage. Links and Resources Connect with Keith YackeyInstagramKeith's Book | The Married Game: The Secret Playbook to Primal Sex and Unlimited Pleasure Inside Your MarriageMarried Game Podcast | Apple PodcastsMarried Game Podcast | Spotifyhttps://www.marriedgame.com/Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  5. Aug 18

    Breaking the Cycle | Healing Attachment Styles and Relationship Patterns

    Why do some relationships make you feel completely secure while others leave you overthinking every text, craving reassurance, or pulling away before someone can hurt you?  Bexx and Noie dive into one of their most requested topics: attachment styles. What begins as a conversation about anxious, avoidant, fearful, and secure attachment quickly becomes a much deeper exploration of how childhood experiences, grief, and past relationships quietly shape the way we love today. Through vulnerable personal stories, they reflect on marriages, loss, family dynamics, and the moments that changed how they viewed themselves and their relationships. Rather than labeling attachment styles as permanent, they explore how awareness creates the opportunity for healing, helping you move toward healthier relationships without shame or self-judgment. Chapters [Start] Did You Have to Be Something to Be Loved?: A listener-requested topic leads Bexx and Noie into a conversation about attachment styles. 05:08 How Relationships Shape Your Attachment Style: Why secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment aren't fixed labels, and how grief, trust, and consistency can change the way you show up. 13:57 Childhood, Love, and the Stories We Carry: Looking back at family dynamics, emotional safety, and the experiences that quietly shaped their beliefs about love and connection. 30:09 The Habits That Keep Us Stuck: From checking locations to rewriting texts, Bexx and Noie unpack the everyday behaviors that reveal deeper attachment wounds and relationship patterns. 36:11 Close the Book, Start a New Story: Why healing begins when you stop reliving the past, give yourself grace, and intentionally move toward secure attachment. Links and Resources BlackHill Law Contact BlackHill Law Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  6. Aug 11

    Mom Guilt Is Lying to You | Letting Go of Guilt and Shame

    Bexx and Noie dive into the heavy weight of guilt that can run so many women's lives: leaving town, spending money on yourself, or even simply being happy. They talk about what it’s like to find joy again after loss, and how grief can make happiness feel like something to apologize for. They also share the realities of being encouraged to take time off as a mom, only to come home to resentment and trust issues. From there, Bexx and Noie dig into where all this guilt actually comes from. They uncover everything about religious conditioning, cultural expectations, and the idea that a "good woman" doesn't have needs of her own. To help overcome this guilt, they share a list of questions you can ask yourself the next time guilt creeps in. This conversation is all about learning to mother yourself the way you'd mother anyone else; with grace instead of guilt. Chapters [Start] The Invisible Weight of Guilt: Bexx and Noie open up about the guilt many moms and women experience during their day-to-day lives. 07:18 Guilt vs. Shame: Bexx breaks down healthy guilt, the guilt-shame cycle, and why release matters. 10:14 The Five Questions: A practical framework for checking whether guilt is actually warranted. 21:55 Loving Yourself Like Your Best Friend: How to love and depend on yourself when it feels like no one else is there for you. 30:41 Your Dream Life: Letting go of guilt associated with chasing your dreams and reaching for what you want in life. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  7. Aug 4

    Do You Know Your Own Emotions? | The Truth About Resentment

    Where have you felt resentment in your life? Bexx and Noie dive into what resentment is and how it actually shows up on a day-to-day basis. Most people think about resentment as anger towards other people, but Bexx and Noie show why resentment isn't about the other person at all; it's about the parts of ourselves we're abandoning to keep the peace. They talk about ego versus higher self, judgment versus discernment, and unpack how resentment builds over time. Together, they share the four-step framework they lean on any time resentment starts creeping in. This conversation is key to understanding how to move on from other people’s feelings and unlock your true potential. Chapters [Start] What is Resentment?: Bexx and Noie break down the true meaning of resentment and how it shows up in our lives. 01:57 Ego vs. Higher Self: How our ego wants to protect and blame others, while the higher self asks the bigger questions. 09:25 Four Steps to Release Resentment: Bexx's go-to framework for identifying and overcoming resentment in the moment. 23:58 The Truth About Forgiveness: Noie and Bexx debate whether forgiveness means "release" and whether stepping away is enough. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  8. Jul 28

    “This is Something I’m Very Petty On” | The Hills We Will Die On

    Bexx and Noie are getting petty, and they aren’t sorry about it. They run through a full list of society's tiniest hot-button issues and hash out exactly where they stand. And spoiler: they don't always agree. This conversation is packed with hot takes on travel etiquette, relationship texting rules, cabinet doors, top sheets, and even more. But this isn’t just all laughs. Bexx and Noie also dive into the deeper stuff hiding underneath the pettiness. They talk about what it means to support your partner in public versus private, and how being intentional with your time might actually change your life. By the end, you'll be mentally drafting your own list of petty hills to die on. Come unpack it with them. Chapters [Start] Our Petty Hills: Bexx and Noie kick off the petty topics and dive into some of their pet peeves. 07:45 Relationships & Communication: How Bexx and Noie feel about morning texts, read receipts, and giving partners extra compassion. 16:40 Home & Household: Thoughts on open cabinet doors, top sheets, toilet paper direction, butter placement, and cup storage. 25:44 Texting & Mental Clutter: A look at texting habits and multitasking vs. time-blocking. 34:33 Holidays & Soft Launches: Bexx and Noie finish with their opinions on Elf on the Shelf, matching pajamas, liking your own posts, and soft-launching a relationship. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

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Welcome to Unpacked & Unfiltered, where best friends Bexx and Noie talk about the messy middle of being a woman who’s still figuring it out—on purpose. They’re the kind of friends who will hype you up in Tulum, pull cards in the kitchen, and admit when life feels like too much. From divorce, grief, and loss to travel, sex, motherhood, money, and starting over at 30, 40, or 60, they explore what it really looks like to reinvent yourself without apologizing for it. Join them for explicit, unfiltered girl talk about change, shame, “being too much,” value beyond a paycheck, modern spirituality, and the shift from chasing your “purpose” to actually finding peace. This is a podcast for everything that comes after you stop living for everyone else and start actually living an unapologetic life that’s yours.

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