Unpacked & Unfiltered | Travel, Modern Spirituality, and Real Girl Talk

Bexx & Noie
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Welcome to Unpacked & Unfiltered, where best friends Bexx and Noie talk about the messy middle of being a woman who’s still figuring it out—on purpose. They’re the kind of friends who will hype you up in Tulum, pull cards in the kitchen, and admit when life feels like too much. From divorce, grief, and loss to travel, sex, motherhood, money, and starting over at 30, 40, or 60, they explore what it really looks like to reinvent yourself without apologizing for it. Join them for explicit, unfiltered girl talk about change, shame, “being too much,” value beyond a paycheck, modern spirituality, and the shift from chasing your “purpose” to actually finding peace. This is a podcast for everything that comes after you stop living for everyone else and start actually living an unapologetic life that’s yours.

  1. 3d ago

    When Spirituality Becomes Toxic | Healing, Avoidance, and Self-Trust

    What happens when your healing tools start to become the thing you hide behind? Bexx and Noie explore toxic spirituality and spiritual bypassing, asking when practices meant to support healing can become ways to avoid pain, seek reassurance, or give away our ability to make our own decisions. From relying too heavily on spiritual teachers and healers to carrying perfectionism into new belief systems, they reflect on the ways personal growth can become another source of pressure. Drawing on their own experiences with grief, divorce, parenting, and relationships, Bexx and Noie share moments when they turned to outside guidance instead of trusting themselves. They discuss the temptation to search for certainty during difficult transitions, why avoiding uncomfortable emotions doesn't make them disappear, and how even meaningful spiritual experiences can become tangled with ego and expectations. The conversation also explores surrender, self-reflection, and the importance of recognizing when a practice is genuinely helping you grow. Through personal stories and some difficult questions, Bexx and Noie consider what it means to face pain, take accountability, and reconnect with your own intuition rather than continually looking elsewhere for answers. Chapters [Start] When Spirituality Becomes Toxic: Bexx and Noie explore how spiritual practices can become sources of perfectionism, dependency, and fear rather than personal growth. 05:18 Self-Reflection vs. Outside Labels: Bexx reflects on life after divorce and the challenges of parenting through difficult emotions, while she and Noie discuss accountability, self-compassion, and trusting yourself. 13:26 Spiritual Bypassing: Using Healing to Avoid Pain: Bexx and Noie share personal experiences of turning to spiritual practices during grief and major life transitions, exploring the difference between processing emotions and running from them. 23:15 Ego, Surrender, and Spiritual Growth: How spiritual experiences can become tied to ego, why uncertainty is uncomfortable, and what it means to stop looking outside yourself for answers. 38:25 Trusting Yourself Instead of Outsourcing Your Healing: Bexx and Noie reflect on a meditation experience that challenged their dependence on a healer, then discuss the fears and beliefs that can keep them from moving forward. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  2. Oct 20

    Stop Treating Yourself Small | Zach Lund and Lance Schiffman on Self-Love

    What happens when you've achieved everything you thought you wanted, but still don't feel like enough? Bexx and Noie welcome two special guests: Zach Lund, a two-time Olympian, and Lance Schiffman, entrepreneur and teacher of Genshai, a philosophy centered on never making anyone feel small, including yourself. Zach and Lance share the personal experiences that changed how they see success, self-love, and their own worth. From Olympic setbacks and losing your sense of identity to finding fulfillment beyond outward accomplishments, they explore what it means to stop treating yourself small and start trusting who you are. They also get into the power of surrender, how to move through fear, and why vulnerability and authentic connection matter, especially for men who have been taught to hold everything in. Through stories of loss, resilience, and personal growth, Zach and Lance remind us that sometimes the most important thing we can do is recognize our own worth, then help someone else recognize theirs. Chapters [Start] Success, Identity, and the Meaning of Genshai: Bexx and Noie introduce Lance and Zach, and they share their journeys of self-discovery. 10:32 The Power of Surrender and Letting Go: What surrender feels like in the body, and why it is a position of power rather than giving up. 22:53 Turning Fear Into Excitement: How to push past doubt and fear and find a deep belief in yourself. 38:00 Going All In and Trusting Your Heart: Lance explains the Aztec word Ollin and what it means to move with your whole heart, accompanied by a powerful story. 55:01 Helping Men Feel Seen and Supported: How to help men feel seen through the Genshai group, plus the importance of culture and community. 01:05:12 The Courage to Be Your Authentic Self: Why it matters to be unapologetically yourself and give authenticity to the world. Links and Resources Connect with Zach and Lance The Olympian Mindset | Zach LundGenshai | Lance SchiffmanLance Schiffman’s BooksZach Lund on Instagram: @liveolympiclifeLance Schiffman on Instagram: @slimschiftyConnect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  3. Oct 13

    Solving the World’s Problems | Unfiltered Advice on Sex, Money, Friendship, and Life

    The listener mailbag has been piling up, so Bexx and Noie are finally tackling your questions—and apparently solving the world's problems while they're at it. From marriage, sex, and money to group chats, gifts, travel, and awkward social situations, no problem is too big or too small. Bexx and Noie give their unfiltered takes, disagree when they need to, and share plenty of stories and lessons from their own lives along the way. They get into friendships that have shifted, trips they've taken together, dating and relationship dilemmas, and knowing when someone wants your advice versus when they just need you to listen. Whether you're navigating a friendship, relationship, or one of life's weird little problems, consider this your dose of unfiltered girl talk and unsolicited wisdom. Chapters [Start] Solving the World’s Problems: Bexx and Noie open the listener mailbag and start tackling your questions about sex, relationships, and everything in between. 08:33 Money, Texts, and Dating: Lending money to friends, responding to difficult texts, navigating financial differences in relationships, and surviving awkward social moments. 16:41 Splurges, Neighbors, and Friendship: Big purchases, neighbor drama, lending things to friends, and why sometimes the best approach is simply to be generous. 27:07 Travel, Group Chats, and Boundaries: Traveling with friends, surviving group chats, navigating family expectations, and respecting each other's time. 40:49 When Someone Actually Wants Your Advice: What to do when a friend keeps making the same dating mistakes and how to tell the difference between asking for advice and needing to vent. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  4. Oct 6

    Would You Rather? | Unfiltered Girl Talk About Love, Sex, and Friendship

    It’s time for a game of Would You Rather?—and things get unfiltered fast. Bexx and Noie ask each other rapid-fire questions about love, sex, secrets, exes, money, trust, and everything in between. Some answers come easily. Others lead to surprisingly honest conversations about relationships, privacy, attraction, friendship, and the things they’ve learned from their past. As the questions get more personal, they also get more reflective, from how they process difficult emotions to what an older version of themselves might say about the lives they’re living now. It’s the kind of unfiltered girl talk you’d have with your closest friend. Play along, pick your answers, and see whether you agree with Bexx and Noie. Chapters [Start] Would You Rather Gets Unfiltered: Bexx and Noie kick off a rapid-fire game that quickly goes from funny questions to revealing answers. 01:14 Secrets, Privacy, and Trust: Search histories, camera rolls, leaked messages, phone snooping, and what privacy looks like in a relationship. 09:51 Sex, Exes, and Attraction: From great sex with the wrong person to calling your partner your ex’s name, the questions start getting personal. 16:28 Money, Appearances, and What Really Matters: Wealth, keeping up appearances, big houses, memories, and choosing what actually matters to you. 24:31 Therapy, Past Selves, and Future Selves: Friendship, emotional processing, lessons from past relationships, and what their older selves might tell them today. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  5. Sep 29

    “You Are the Creator of Your Own Energy” | How to Protect Your Light

    Have you ever felt a room change the second someone walked in? Bexx and Noie sit down to unpack what’s actually going on when energy shifts a space. Bexx breaks down the three kinds of energy we bring with us—physical, emotional, and spiritual—and shares the time her anxious energy was loud enough that a stranger at the post office stopped to ask if she was okay. Noie shares her own experiences with energy, connection, and being tuned in to the people around her. They talk about the pressure to always show up as the sunny one, what it means to be fully present with the people in your life, and how energy can be contagious. Through their own takes on modern spirituality and self-discovery, they explore how to protect your energy without dimming your light, taking someone else's, or expecting someone else to change yours. They  close with a challenge to notice the energy you bring into five different spaces—and what happens to your energy while you're there. Because protecting your energy isn't about performing or staying positive all the time. Sometimes it's about being honest about what you need and showing up as your authentic self. Chapters [Start] The Energy You Bring Into a Room: Bexx and Noie unpack what it means when someone's presence changes the energy of a space. 00:59 Three Kinds of Energy: How physical, emotional, and spiritual energy shape the way we show up and connect with others. 13:53 Presence and Contagious Energy: Why being fully present matters and how your energy can influence the people around you. 17:45 Protecting Your Light: How to share your energy without giving it away, lowering yourself to match someone else, or relying on others to change your energy. 25:01 The Five-Places Challenge: Bexx challenges you to observe the energy you bring into a room, what you contribute, and how you feel when you leave. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  6. Sep 22

    What Energy Are You Putting Into the World? | How to Refill Your Own Cup

    “I'm not just experiencing the energy around me. I'm creating it.” Bexx and Noie ask each other about their energy. Where does it come from? Are you consuming, or creating it? They dig into the difference between the two and ask an important question: are you experiencing the energy around you, or are you the one creating it? Bexx and Noie dive into why it matters to become more intentional about the energy you create and consume. They talk about the power of putting down your phone, the effects of social media, and how gossip can drain the energy from a room. Bexx also lays out a few challenges for taking stock of what you're consuming, what you're putting back into the world, and how to refill your own cup when you're running low. Chapters [Start] What Energy Are You Putting Out?: Bexx and Noie ask each other what energy they bring into a room, and how to create it without absorbing everyone else's. 03:38 Consuming vs. Creating Energy: Different things in life that can take away our energy, and things we can do to create it. 15:29 Rejuvenating Your Energy: How to refill your energy when it gets low so you can keep giving back in a positive way. 25:57 Taking Stock of Your Energy: Two self-reflection challenges to help you see what kind of energy you are giving to the world and yourself. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  7. Sep 15

    The Four Agreements in Real Life | Breaking Old Beliefs and Finding Your Own Truth

    “Authenticity is giving yourself the freedom to be you; to have flaws.” Bexx and Noie are going back to basics. After both finding themselves pulled back to Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements, they sit down to unpack each principle together. They dive into how these four agreements show up in real life and how practicing them can help us become more honest, intentional, and authentic versions of ourselves. Bexx and Noie trade stories about self-sabotage, gossip, and the invisible rules women are taught to live by. They get vulnerable about relationship wounds and the messy work of questioning old beliefs and becoming more authentically themselves. This isn't about having it all figured out; it's about sitting with the mess, and choosing growth anyway. Chapters [Start] Back to The Four Agreements: Why this familiar book found its way back into both Bexx and Noie's lives. 03:15 The Power of Your Word: Bexx and Noie unpack the first agreement through self-trust, gossip, honesty, and compassion. 14:45 When Everything Feels Personal: How old wounds and relationship experiences complicate the second agreement. 23:36 The Stories We Tell Ourselves: What happens when assumptions collide with past wounds and present reality. 26:18 What “Your Best” Really Means: Why showing up for yourself doesn't have to look the same every day. 31:09 Breaking the Invisible Rules: The beliefs women inherit about relationships, success, identity, and the lives they're allowed to create. Links and Resources The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

  8. Sep 8

    Softness Is Not Weakness | How to Set Boundaries Without Hardening Yourself

    Have you ever looked in the mirror and realized you don't quite recognize the person looking back? Bexx and Noie dive into that feeling and explore how hurt, betrayal, and self-abandonment can slowly harden us into versions of ourselves we no longer recognize. They talk about what it means to "stay soft" when life keeps throwing challenges your way. Bexx and Noie both open up about the specific moments they've caught themselves hardening and shutting down, and share what has helped them reconnect with themselves without giving up their boundaries. They unpack our automatic reactions, the pressure women can feel to stay agreeable, and the difference between genuine softness and self-abandonment. Bexx and Noie share personal experiences with the “pieces of armor” they've built over the years to protect themselves from hurt—and how that armor can also shut out trust, vulnerability, love, and joy. Being soft doesn’t mean you don’t have hard edges, and it certainly doesn’t mean you let people walk all over you. You can be soft and tough at the same time. Chapters [Start] Why We React the Way We Do: Bexx and Noie introduce the topic of staying soft even when hard things happen to us. 04:25 What It Means to Be Soft: Unpacking the difference between staying open and soft vs having no boundaries. 10:33 How to Open Up: A personal story of what it looks like to reopen yourself to feeling vulnerable, allowing joy and happiness back in. 21:58 How to Stay Soft: Four steps for processing hurt without abandoning your feelings, values, or boundaries. Links and Resources BlackHill Law Contact BlackHill Law Connect With & Follow Us https://www.unpackedandunfiltered.com/ InstagramUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

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Welcome to Unpacked & Unfiltered, where best friends Bexx and Noie talk about the messy middle of being a woman who’s still figuring it out—on purpose. They’re the kind of friends who will hype you up in Tulum, pull cards in the kitchen, and admit when life feels like too much. From divorce, grief, and loss to travel, sex, motherhood, money, and starting over at 30, 40, or 60, they explore what it really looks like to reinvent yourself without apologizing for it. Join them for explicit, unfiltered girl talk about change, shame, “being too much,” value beyond a paycheck, modern spirituality, and the shift from chasing your “purpose” to actually finding peace. This is a podcast for everything that comes after you stop living for everyone else and start actually living an unapologetic life that’s yours.

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