Unpacked & Unfiltered | Travel, Modern Spirituality, and Real Girl Talk

Bexx & Noie
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Welcome to Unpacked & Unfiltered, where best friends Bexx and Noie talk about the messy middle of being a woman who’s still figuring it out—on purpose. They’re the kind of friends who will hype you up in Tulum, pull cards in the kitchen, and admit when life feels like too much. From divorce, grief, and loss to travel, sex, motherhood, money, and starting over at 30, 40, or 60, they explore what it really looks like to reinvent yourself without apologizing for it. Join them for explicit, unfiltered girl talk about change, shame, “being too much,” value beyond a paycheck, modern spirituality, and the shift from chasing your “purpose” to actually finding peace. This is a podcast for everything that comes after you stop living for everyone else and start actually living an unapologetic life that’s yours.

  1. 1D AGO

    “Your Mind Isn’t Always Honest” | The Power of Observing Your Thoughts

    Thoughts can shape our reality—sometimes protecting us, sometimes sabotaging us.   Bexx and Noie delve into the power of our thoughts and how they influence relationships, identity, and self-doubt. Using personal stories and reflection, they uncover what it means to observe your thoughts instead of being controlled by them. Not every thought deserves belief. Bexx and Noie also unpack the voice of the inner critic, the fear of being “too much” or “not enough,” and share practical ways to interrupt those thought patterns. They guide listeners through an awareness exercise and reframe mental strength: it’s not about suppressing our emotions and thoughts, but about curiosity, honesty, awareness, and giving yourself grace, even when feels hard. Chapters [Start] Your Thoughts Are Not You: Bexx and Noie challenge the narrative that our thoughts define who we are. 04:54 Challenging the Inner Narrative: How to question self-doubt by checking in with your body instead of believing your thoughts. 10:51 The Awareness Exercise: A guided exercise to help you learn how to notice and label your thoughts. 19:50 Protector Thoughts and Inner Critics: Common thought patterns and how they show up in different areas of life. 32:02 Strengthening the Mind: How to achieve emotional freedom through observing the mind and learning mental discipline. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

    35 min

  2. 3D AGO

    She’s In There, B*tches | Finding the Confidence You Were Born With

    (00:00:00) The Question: How Do I Become Confident? (00:04:42) Delete Shame First (00:08:34) The Five Pillars of Real Confidence (00:32:55) Returning to the Four-Year-Old You Confidence isn’t something you build. According to Bexx and Noie, it’s something you were born with. In this episode of Unpacked & Unfiltered, they challenge the idea that confidence is earned, built, or faked. Sparked by a listener asking how to become a confident woman, they unpack the truth: you were already confident before shame, comparison, religion, relationships, and survival patterns taught you to shrink. They explore what it takes to remove that shame to a delusional degree.  Through hilarious stories, unfiltered honesty, and practical insights, they share the five pillars they believe rebuild confidence from the inside out: keeping promises to yourself, creating emotional safety, separating identity from roles, trusting your body, and giving yourself permission to take up space. This episode is a reminder that the most confident version of you isn’t someone new, it’s the version of you that existed before you learned to doubt yourself.  Chapters [Start] The Question: How Do I Become Confident?: A listener question sparks a deeper conversation about whether confidence is built or remembered. 04:42 Delete Shame First: How shame, comparison, and the need to be chosen erode confidence and why removing them is step one. 08:34 The Five Pillars of Real Confidence: Self-trust, emotional safety, identity beyond roles, body awareness, and self-permission. 32:55 Returning to the Four-Year-Old You: Reclaiming play, desire, and self-expression by reconnecting with who you were before the world told you who to be. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

    37 min

  3. FEB 12

    “I Saw Your Boobs” | Creating an Authentic Life with Porn Star Alina Lopez

    In this episode, Bexx and Noie are joined by special guest Alina Lopez. The three of them dive into a conversation about breaking out of the box you think you’re supposed to be in and living life authentically. Alina shares her story about trying to fit the traditional mold before eventually hitting her breaking point. Adversity pushed her to reset her life and become the most honest version of herself. The three discuss the power of vulnerability and finding confidence in who you truly are, even when parts may be uncomfortable. Bexx, Noie, and Alina share their thoughts on femininity, personal growth, and embracing authenticity. They share why real change begins with owning your mistakes. If you want a life that feels honest, you have to do the hard stuff—confront what’s broken, hurt, and needs work. Life is meant to be lived to the fullest. It’s up to you to make it that way. Chapters [Start] Meeting Alina: Bexx and Noie introduce Alina, who shares her passion for creating a life that reflects who you truly are. 03:35 Breaking the Mold: Alina shares her experience with living a molded life and hitting her breaking point. 20:07 Choosing a New Path: Alina talks about finding the adult industry and how it felt aligned with her ambitions. 27:16 Inner Self-Acceptance: How Alina learned to connect with herself and others through therapy and emotional-awareness tools. 43:28 More than the Labels: Finding identity past stereotypes and labels in order to find the true value of being human. Links and Resources Follow Alina Lopez on Instagram: @itsalinalopezofficialInstagram Connect With & Follow Us Instagram Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

    56 min

  4. FEB 10

    Level Up: The Secret to Better Sex Isn’t What You Think

    Bexx and Noie dive into an honest conversation about sexuality, intimacy, and what it means to feel connected—to yourself and your partner. Rather than focusing on performance, expectations, or comparisons, they challenge listeners to rethink intimacy as self-acceptance, confidence, and emotional safety and connection.  The conversation moves through sexual chemistry, desire, and the way past experiences impact how we show up in the bedroom. Drawing on research to unpack why sexual desire is difficult to predict and why connection, self-love, and acceptance matter more than we think. Ultimately, their message is to embrace sexuality without shame, prioritize comfort, and cultivate connection before stepping into the bedroom. Chapters [Start] Sexuality Beyond Performance: Bexx and Noie reframe “leveling up” sexually as a deeper connection beyond performative behavior. 07:23 Leveling Up Sex: A look at what factors can help to improve your sex life. 13:03 Research Behind Sexual Desire: A study of 67,000 adults reveals that sexual desire is complex, with many unknown factors. 21:22 Understanding Sex Archetypes: The five different sexual archetypes and how to find yours. 33:31 Reclaiming Confidence: Why self-love and acceptance must come before true connection can happen. Links and Resources Take the Sex, Love, and Goop quiz HERE Connect With & Follow Us Instagram: Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

    57 min

  5. FEB 5

    I Built My Life Around a Fantasy | This Is Not Where I Thought I’d Be

    We all grow up with a vision of who we’ll be, who we’ll love, and what our lives should look like by a certain age. In this episode, Bexx and Noie dive into the shock, grief, humor, and unexpected beauty of realizing that almost nothing unfolded as planned. From childhood dreams and religious conditioning to motherhood, marriage, loss, reinvention, and the identities they had to shed along the way, they unpack the gap between expectation and reality—and why that gap might be where the most meaningful life actually lives.  The conversation moves between hilarious memories, deeply painful experiences, and hard-earned wisdom about control, fear, love, and letting go of the timeline you thought you needed. They reflect on the versions of themselves they once were, the lives they imagined, and the lives they’re building now—messy, chaotic, full of grief and joy, children, second chances, and a freedom they never expected. This episode is a reminder that the life you didn’t plan may be the one that shapes you most, and that meaning isn’t found in getting it right, it’s found in living fully. Chapters [Start] The Life You Thought You’d Have: Bexx and Noie on childhood expectations, timelines, and who they believed they’d be by now. 08:40 When Everything Goes Off-Script: Marriage, motherhood, identity changes, and the moment you realize life isn’t unfolding the way you planned. 21:15 Fear, Loss, and Trying to Control the Future: The emotional weight of uncertainty, grief, and the instinct to brace for what might go wrong. 34:10 Letting Go of the Timeline: What happens when you release urgency, comparison, and the pressure to have it all figured out. 47:05 The Life You’d Choose Again: Perspective shifts, gratitude, and why the unexpected version of life can be deeply meaningful. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us Instagram:Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

    55 min

  6. FEB 3

    I Thought You Had It All | The Problem With Assumptions

    We live in a world where people think they know everything about you based on a photo, a post, or a single moment they saw online. In this episode, Bexx and Noie pull back the curtain on the assumptions people constantly make about their lives, friendships, motherhood, finances, and relationships. Labeled “fake,” “bougie,” or “unreal,” and often assumed to be fine simply because they look confident, they unpack how surface-level perception often misses the deepest truths. The conversation moves from funny and absurd to deeply emotional as Bexx and Noie talk about grief, loneliness, and what happens when being resilient means no one checks on you anymore. They explore the psychology behind assumptions—projection, the halo effect, and social media distortion—and share personal stories about being misunderstood by family, friends, and strangers. This conversation reminds us that strength and joy don’t cancel out pain, and that clarity comes from knowing who you are, not correcting who others think you are. Chapters [Start] The Assumptions People Make Before They Know You: Opening reflections on first impressions, online perception, and how quickly people decide who you are based on what they see. 08:45 Strength, Grief, and the Loneliness Nobody Sees: How confidence and resilience create invisibility, and why strong women are often the last ones people check on. 21:30 Why We Judge: The Psychology Behind Assumptions: The halo effect, projection, social media distortion, and how assumptions say more about the observer than the person being judged. 34:15 Friendship, Loyalty, and Seeing the Whole Person: Stories about misunderstood friendships, loyalty, growth, and why knowing someone’s past version doesn’t mean you know who they are now. 46:10 Let Them Be Wrong: Releasing the need to explain yourself, choosing peace, and finding clarity by standing in your truth instead of correcting perception. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us Instagram:Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

    51 min

  7. JAN 30

    I Abandoned Myself to Be Loved | The Cost of Losing Your Authenticity

    Being authentic sounds simple, until it costs you belonging, approval, or love. In this episode, Bexx and Noie unpack what it really means to stay true to yourself when family dynamics, relationships, religion, and roles quietly pressure you to shrink. Through childhood stories, relationship reckoning, and moments of brutal self-awareness, they explore how easily authenticity can be lost, and how hard it is to reclaim once you abandon it. From growing up in chaotic environments to navigating guilt, morality, and self-betrayal in adult relationships, this conversation dives into the emotional and physical consequences of not listening to yourself. Bexx opens up about self-abandonment driven by shame and the moment she realized forgiveness—not punishment—was the path forward. Together, they challenge the idea of rigid identities, question toxic affirmations, and make a powerful case for honoring who you are in every season of life—especially in motherhood, partnership, and healing. Chapters [Start] What Authenticity Really Means: Bexx and Noie open the conversation by unpacking how easily we confuse adaptation with self-erasure, and why knowing who you are matters more than fitting in. 06:45 Becoming a Chameleon to Survive: From childhood friendships to family dynamics, they explore how learning to blend in can become a survival skill. 16:15 Guilt, Shame, and Self-Abandonment: Bexx reflects on how guilt can push us to betray our own values, and why self-punishment often feels justified in moments of deep remorse. 24:10 When Identity Becomes a Cage: Roles, labels, and affirmations are meant to guide us but what happens when they limit us instead? 36:25 Never Sacrifice Authenticity at Any Cost:  The anxiety, depression, and disconnection that come from abandoning your truth, and why reclaiming authenticity is essential for mental health, relationships, and long-term peace. Links and Resources Connect With & Follow Us Instagram:Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

    52 min

  8. JAN 22

    Ignoring Clarity Has a Cost | Your Body Keeps the Score

    Bexx and Noie unpack what finding clarity actually requires when your mind is racing, your emotions are loud, and every decision feels weighted with fear. Through honest reflection and lived experience, they explore why confusion so often comes from too much input, too many opinions, and a deep distrust of our own inner voice. As the conversation unfolds, they dig into the tension between the mind and the body, fear and intuition, action and avoidance. From spiraling thought patterns and relationship decisions to motherhood, grief, and major life transitions, Bexx and Noie share how clarity doesn’t arrive through answers, certainty, or external validation, but through stillness, embodiment, and learning to follow peace. Chapters [Start] Why We’re All Searching for Clarity: Defining clarity, indecision, and why feeling stuck often comes from looking outside ourselves for answers .07:30 The Hurricane Effect: Too Much Input, Not Enough Truth: How over-researching, doom-scrolling, productivity spirals, and external validation keep us disconnected from what we already know. 15:30 Mind vs. Body: Learning to Follow Peace: Understanding the difference between fear and intuition, and why peace, not certainty, is the clearest signal we get. 26:30 Avoidance, Anxiety, and the Body as a Compass: How the body communicates clarity through tension, discomfort, and physical signals when we refuse to listen. 37:00 The Eye of the Storm: Turning inward, quieting the noise, and trusting the next true step instead of demanding the full roadmap. Links and Resources Article: Lottery winners and accident victims: is happiness relative? Connect With & Follow Us Instagram: Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTok Unpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutube Unpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie

    47 min
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Welcome to Unpacked & Unfiltered, where best friends Bexx and Noie talk about the messy middle of being a woman who’s still figuring it out—on purpose. They’re the kind of friends who will hype you up in Tulum, pull cards in the kitchen, and admit when life feels like too much. From divorce, grief, and loss to travel, sex, motherhood, money, and starting over at 30, 40, or 60, they explore what it really looks like to reinvent yourself without apologizing for it. Join them for explicit, unfiltered girl talk about change, shame, “being too much,” value beyond a paycheck, modern spirituality, and the shift from chasing your “purpose” to actually finding peace. This is a podcast for everything that comes after you stop living for everyone else and start actually living an unapologetic life that’s yours.

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