The Alcohol Myth Podcast

Ellen and Jonathan
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The Alcohol Myth Podcast features certified coaches Ellen and Jonathan having real conversations about alcohol, sobriety, and reclaiming a life that feels exciting to wake up to. 

  1. 5d ago

    Is It Harder to Quit Drinking or Keep Drinking?

    Send us Fan Mail Is it harder to quit drinking or keep drinking? The honest math on both columns. You have already priced out what quitting would cost you. The Friday nights, the explanations, the evenings with nothing in your hand. What nobody prices is the other column: the arithmetic running all day, the planning, the recovery hours, the low-grade "less than good" you stopped calling a hangover because it never fully lifts. That comparison is rigged. You are weighing a cycle you know intimately against a life you have never lived. Your only data on not drinking comes from the times you wanted a drink and could not get one, and you project that one uncomfortable hour across the rest of your life. Ellen Biggs spent years doing exactly that, certain not drinking would be unbearable, while overlooking that the cycle was already unbearable and simply familiar. The choice was never hard versus easy. The choice is which hard has an end. What settles it is data rather than motivation. Every stretch of alcohol-free days gives you something real to compare against, and it is the only evidence that answers it. Ellen's verdict, once she had enough of it: her life was more manageable without alcohol, and for someone who dislikes doing hard things, not drinking was the least expensive option on the table. Moderation, the sensible-sounding middle path, was the most expensive of the three. The hard part also ends, which is what the cycle never offers. Research cited on the episode puts a craving at roughly twenty minutes. Two or three strong ones on a bad day is an hour out of twenty-four, and each one you ride out makes the next one cheaper. Jonathan Ball calls these FFTs, the freaking first times, and the point of a first time is that it stops being first. Try the inventory this week. What is drinking costing you mentally, physically, financially and relationally, and what would move into that space if it were gone? Work with Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/  |  Work with Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ CHAPTERS 00:00 The myth: quitting is the hard part 02:46 What the cycle already costs you 05:32 Projecting today onto future you 08:18 The alcohol math that never stops 11:04 Comparing the data both ways 13:50 Why moderation is the hardest option 16:36 Alcohol made the hard things harder 19:22 More easy hours than hard ones 22:08 FFTs and the first Friday without it 24:54 100 days is a blip in time 27:40 Take the inventory, then dream bigger FROM THIS EPISODE "Not drinking is the easiest of all the options for me." QUESTIONS THIS EPISODE ANSWERS Q: Is it harder to quit drinking or to keep drinking? A: Quitting drinking is harder for a short, defined stretch, while continuing is harder with no end date. The cycle carries daily mental arithmetic, physical recovery and no finish line, whereas the effort of stopping drops off measurably as your brain builds new patterns and cravings lose their intensity. Q: How long do alcohol cravings last? A: Alcohol cravings last around twenty minutes, according to research cited on the episode. Even a difficult day usually holds two or three strong ones, so the genuinely hard part is roughly an hour out of twenty-four, and every craving you ride out makes the next one cheaper. Q: Why is moderation harder than quitting drinking? A: Moderation is harder than quitting because it keeps the decision permanently open. Every occasion needs a fresh negotiation about how much, when to stop, and whether you are still managing it, so the mental effort never ends and the desire is never actually resolved. Q: Does it get easier to stop drinking over time? A: Stopping drinking does get easier over time, and the change is physical rather than motivational. As alcohol-free days accumulate your brain forms new pathways, so what took real effort at thirty days takes almost none by sixty, and the desire fades into the background. You do not need to wait for rock bottom. You do not need more willpower. You just need a new way to understand what you are feeling and why you are reaching for the next drink. If this episode resonates, please like, share, subscribe, and leave a comment with what stood out to you. We would love to hear what you want more of. Send your questions, stories, or ideas for future episodes to thealcoholmyth@gmail.com. We read every message. We really do. CONNECT WITH US Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan Ball, CreativeAF Coaching: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen Biggs Coaching: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ LISTEN ANYWHERE Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-alcohol-myth-podcast/id1861472231 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DzVqvW3ZkyV80jDYDSOjt Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/88964cf0-2b6f-4976-9676-2aa8a36d25be All episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2562590 Subscribe for more episodes pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #GreyAreaDrinking

  2. Sep 1

    Do I have a drinking problem if no one else notices?

    Send us Fan Mail Do you have a drinking problem if nobody else is getting hurt? Why that test gives a wrong answer. There is a test you run on your own drinking, and it has nothing to do with how much you drink. It goes: is anyone else getting hurt? Nobody is complaining, the job is fine, you have never endangered anyone. Test passed. Jonathan Ball and Ellen Biggs take that test apart, because it is built to return the wrong answer. Outward harm is the last thing to show up and the least reliable thing to measure. Ellen drank a bottle of wine a night for years without a single person raising it with her, and spent those same years awake at three in the morning asking what was wrong with her. Nobody complaining is not evidence that you are okay. It only means the people around you are being spared, which was the point of the performance. Look at what you build to keep that performance running. After one uncomfortable night at a work event, Ellen made a firm rule about never behaving that way again. It worked. It also meant she stopped wanting to go to work events and drank more at home. That is what a guardrail is really for. It kept the drinking safe by heading off the incident that might have made somebody say something out loud. The same instinct shows up as protecting people from your struggle. Jonathan kept how bad it had been from his wife for years and called it sparing her. What he built was a wall she could feel and could not name. When he finally told her, she handled it fine. What hurt her was having been kept out of it. Your own experience is enough. You do not need a witness to it and you do not need it to get worse first. Try this the next time someone close to you is in a mood: pause, notice the story you just attached to it, and then just ask. Ellen finds that nine times out of ten it has nothing to do with her. Work with Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/  |  Work with Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ CHAPTERS 00:00 The myth: no harm, no problem 03:30 Nobody complained, so I was fine 07:00 The wall I built and never mentioned 10:30 What the facade costs your self-worth 14:00 Curiosity instead of self-blame 17:30 Ellen's work event in Seoul 21:00 Guardrails that protect the habit 24:30 You cannot control how they feel 31:30 Permission to take an hour a day 35:00 The WAIT technique for relationships 38:30 Just ask instead of assuming FROM THIS EPISODE "Me not being okay wasn't enough to make a change." QUESTIONS THIS EPISODE ANSWERS Q: Do I have a drinking problem if I am not hurting anyone? A: Whether you have a drinking problem is not settled by whether you are hurting anyone. Outward harm is a late and unreliable signal. If you are awake at three in the morning arguing with yourself about last night, that internal cost is already the evidence you need. Q: Do you have to hit rock bottom to change your relationship with alcohol? A: You do not have to hit rock bottom to change your relationship with alcohol. Rock bottom is a threshold people invent so they can postpone the decision. You can act on quiet, private evidence long before anything in your outer life visibly breaks. There is no prize for waiting. Q: What does high functioning drinking look like? A: High functioning drinking looks like everything working. The job holds, the family is fine, nobody comments. What it hides is a private cost: the three in the morning self-criticism, the social life quietly shrinking, and the daily effort of keeping the performance running. None of it shows outwardly. Q: How do I stop taking responsibility for other people's feelings? A: You stop taking responsibility for other people's feelings by putting a beat between what they do and how you respond. Ask what story you just attached to their mood, then ask them directly what is going on. Most of the time it is not about you. You do not need to wait for rock bottom. You do not need more willpower. You just need a new way to understand what you are feeling and why you are reaching for the next drink. If this episode resonates, please like, share, subscribe, and leave a comment with what stood out to you. We would love to hear what you want more of. Send your questions, stories, or ideas for future episodes to thealcoholmyth@gmail.com. We read every message. We really do. CONNECT WITH US Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan Ball, CreativeAF Coaching: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen Biggs Coaching: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ LISTEN ANYWHERE Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-alcohol-myth-podcast/id1861472231 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DzVqvW3ZkyV80jDYDSOjt Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/88964cf0-2b6f-4976-9676-2aa8a36d25be All episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2562590 Subscribe for more episodes pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #GrayAreaDrinking

  3. Aug 24

    The Dry January Trap: Taking a Break vs. Real Change

    Send us Fan Mail Why 30 days off alcohol proves you can stop and tells you almost nothing else. Thirty days off proves you can stop. It says nothing about why you started again on the thirty-first, and that second question is the one that decides how your next year goes. If you have finished a Dry January and felt mostly relief that it was over, you already know the difference. Jonathan Ball and Ellen Biggs draw a distinction that changes the whole project: alcohol is a solution rather than the problem. It is fast, reliable and always available, and it answers being tired, stressed, lonely, bored or short on celebration. That is exactly why it is hard to put down. It also happens to be a poor solution, and quietly accepting a poor one is what stops you going out to find better ones. Research cited on the episode puts physical clearance at 10 to 14 days. Past that point your last drink is out of your system, sleep starts returning, and the biological side of the fight is largely closed. What remains is wiring: years of pairing dates, deals, Fridays and hard conversations with a glass. Ellen Biggs's point is that two weeks in is where the useful work begins. Expect to be bad at it for a while. Most people have never gone on a date, celebrated a win, sat through a funeral or taken a holiday without alcohol at any point in adult life, so the awkwardness is a signal you are doing something for the first time. High achievers take this hardest, because being competent everywhere else makes beginner-level discomfort feel like failure. The repair is repetition, and you can put it on the calendar. Meet three or four people this week somewhere that pours a good alcohol-free beer. Order it, stay, and let the evening rewrite the association. Deliberate reps collapse the timeline, because you do not need forty years of new evidence to undo forty years of old evidence. The first forty were absorbed by osmosis. These ones you are choosing. Work with Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/  |  Work with Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ CHAPTERS 00:00 The Dry January trap 02:52 "Can I stop?" is the wrong test 05:44 What 10 to 14 days actually does 08:36 Alcohol is a solution, a poor one 11:28 One tool and none of the others 14:20 Doing everything for the first time 17:12 Why high achievers struggle here 20:04 What fires together wires together 22:56 Reps, and collapsing the timeline 25:48 You are not destined to repeat it 28:40 Give yourself a choice this week FROM THIS EPISODE "You deserve better solutions for life's problems than what alcohol can give you." QUESTIONS THIS EPISODE ANSWERS Q: How long does alcohol take to leave your system? A: Research cited on this episode puts full clearance of alcohol and its byproducts at roughly 10 to 14 days. After that the physical side of the addiction mechanism is largely finished, so cravings that persist past two weeks are psychological association rather than chemistry. Q: Why do I start drinking again after Dry January? A: You start again after Dry January because the month handled the chemistry and left the reasons untouched. Thirty days proves you can stop. It does not change what you were reaching for alcohol to solve, so the old pattern is still there on February 1. Q: Does taking a break from alcohol mean I don't have a problem? A: Taking a break does not settle that question. The more useful test is what happens next. If something was costing you enough that you took the break, ask why you picked it straight back up. That question leads somewhere, and "can I stop" does not. Q: How do I rewire my brain to socialize without alcohol? A: To rewire socializing without alcohol, repeat the situation on purpose rather than avoiding it. Meet friends for coffee, order an alcohol-free beer at the bar, and do it three to six times over a couple of weeks. Repetition in the real setting loosens the association. You do not need to wait for rock bottom. You do not need more willpower. You just need a new way to understand what you are feeling and why you are reaching for the next drink. If this episode resonates, please like, share, subscribe, and leave a comment with what stood out to you. We would love to hear what you want more of. Send your questions, stories, or ideas for future episodes to thealcoholmyth@gmail.com. We read every message. We really do. CONNECT WITH US Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan Ball, CreativeAF Coaching: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen Biggs Coaching: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ LISTEN ANYWHERE Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-alcohol-myth-podcast/id1861472231 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DzVqvW3ZkyV80jDYDSOjt Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/88964cf0-2b6f-4976-9676-2aa8a36d25be All episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2562590 Subscribe for more episodes pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. #DryJanuary #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking

  4. Aug 17

    Will I Lose Friends If I Quit Drinking?

    Send us Fan Mail What happens to your relationships when you stop drinking, and why the fear is usually wrong. If you have put off changing your drinking because of what it might do to the people around you, that fear is doing more work than it has earned. The worry is rarely the drink itself. It is that saying no to the glass will land as saying no to the relationship, the tradition, the memory you built around it. Jonathan Ball's antidote is a phrase worth sitting with: become sacredly selfish. It means becoming the source of your own needs, taking responsibility for your own experience, and putting down the job of managing everyone else's mood. Most of us picked up mood-managing early, in a house where reading the room worked, and Ellen Biggs makes the case that it outlived its usefulness decades ago. The shape-shifting is what eats your self-worth, and the drinking sits on top of it as fake self-care. Ellen Biggs, two and a half years alcohol-free, expected to lose the friends she drank with. What she got was one awkward exchange at a birthday party and a run of people telling her they were relieved, because they had been drinking more than they wanted around her. Jonathan Ball expected his choice to cost his marriage its celebrations. It bought the marriage better conversations. You cannot argue anyone into freedom. You can only be visibly free in front of them. Jonathan Ball spent the first year of an earlier alcohol-free stretch evangelizing, and it moved nobody. Tending your own house and letting people notice does the work preaching never did, and it happens to be the version of you they wanted all along. Try it as a thought experiment before it has to be a decision. What would secretly selfish look like in your week? How would you show up differently? Which resentments would fall away? Write the answers down. And if you are the one who never asks, ask someone for help this week, because being needed is a good gift to hand someone who loves you. Work with Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/  |  Work with Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ CHAPTERS 00:00 How your drinking touches everyone 03:16 The alcohol-free beer at the party 06:32 Whose experience are you managing? 09:48 Your partner benefits too 13:04 To be in unity, first be a unit 16:20 When self-care was a drink 19:36 Push, pull, and asking for help 22:52 Alcohol as the first domino 26:08 High achievers and heavy drinking 29:24 Be the billboard, not the megaphone 32:40 What if it's better than you fear? FROM THIS EPISODE "Tend to your own house and let yourself be the billboard." QUESTIONS THIS EPISODE ANSWERS Q: Will I lose my friends if I stop drinking? A: Most people do not lose their friends when they stop drinking, though some relationships shift. Expect a few awkward first encounters, quiet relief from people who were matching your pace, and closer conversations with the ones who matter. Friendships built only on drinking fade rather than break. Q: How do I tell people I am not drinking? A: Telling people you are not drinking works best as a short, calm statement with no case attached. You do not owe anyone a reason, and extra explanation invites debate. Say what you are doing, order something you like, and let the evening carry on. Q: What does it mean to be secretly selfish? A: Being secretly selfish means becoming the source of your own needs rather than outsourcing your wellbeing to other people's approval. You own your experience, say what you need directly, and stop managing everyone else's mood. It only sounds selfish if you were taught that having needs is rude. Q: Why do high achievers drink heavily? A: High achievers often drink heavily because achieving and self-soothing form a loop. You take everything on, anticipate what everyone needs, deliver it, then use alcohol to come down from the effort. Remove the alcohol and the drive stays while the resentment under it fades. You do not need to wait for rock bottom. You do not need more willpower. You just need a new way to understand what you are feeling and why you are reaching for the next drink. If this episode resonates, please like, share, subscribe, and leave a comment with what stood out to you. We would love to hear what you want more of. Send your questions, stories, or ideas for future episodes to thealcoholmyth@gmail.com. We read every message. We really do. CONNECT WITH US Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan Ball, CreativeAF Coaching: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen Biggs Coaching: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ LISTEN ANYWHERE Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-alcohol-myth-podcast/id1861472231 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DzVqvW3ZkyV80jDYDSOjt Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/88964cf0-2b6f-4976-9676-2aa8a36d25be All episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2562590 Subscribe for more episodes pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #PeoplePleasing

  5. Aug 10

    Why Do I Drink More Than I Want To? The Real Reasons

    Send us Fan Mail Why do I drink? The honest answer usually sits a few layers under the one you'd give. You already have a reason for drinking, and it probably sounds reasonable. It takes the edge off. It makes you easier in a room. Those answers are true enough to say out loud and thin enough that they never lead anywhere, which is how you can hold one for years and still drink more than you meant to. Alcohol is a symptom, and the reason you drink is almost never the reason you give. Affective Liminal Psychology, the method Jonathan Ball and Ellen Biggs trained in through This Naked Mind, sorts the beliefs holding a drinking habit in place into three layers: substance, society, and self. Substance is what you believe about the drink, society is what you believe it does for you around other people, and self is the layer that keeps you stuck, because that is where you decided you were not fun, confident, or open enough on your own and handed those jobs to a chemical. Ellen Biggs was 50 when she first looked at this, with 35 years of patterning behind her, and the exercise that opened it up was two lists: everything you drink for, and everything you fear if you stop. That inventory gives you beliefs to test one at a time, and testing them is what ends the wanting rather than just the drinking. The question you ask matters too. Most people ask what is wrong with me, and a brain handed that question will answer it: you are lazy, you have no willpower, your family was always like this. Jonathan Ball's reframe is to ask questions that have somewhere to go. Why does effort pay off everywhere else in my life but here? What if alcohol works this way in every human body and nothing about me is broken? Start with the two lists. Take one belief and ask where you first learned it. Keep a destination in view while you work, because a picture of what opens up when the argument stops pulls harder than any rule you set on a Monday. Work with Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/    Work with Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ CHAPTERS 00:00 The reasons you give for drinking 02:14 The two lists that start the work 04:28 Substance, society, self 06:42 What you outsourced to a drink 08:56 Tasting it without the story 11:10 What you can already do without it 13:24 Why you believed it in the first place 15:38 Ask why it's classy, then keep going 17:52 Most people stop at the question 20:06 A better question than what's wrong 22:20 Your road map and your destination FROM THIS EPISODE "If it were that simple, it would be simple to leave it." QUESTIONS THIS EPISODE ANSWERS Q: Why do I drink more than I want to? A: You drink more than you want to because the reason you give yourself sits on the surface. Underneath it are beliefs about what alcohol does for you socially and about what you cannot do without it, and those beliefs keep running long after you decide to cut back. Q: What are the three S's in Affective Liminal Psychology? A: The three S's in Affective Liminal Psychology are substance, society, and self, the layers of belief holding a drinking habit in place. Substance is what you think alcohol does for you. Society is what you think it does among other people. Self is what you believe you cannot manage without it. Q: How do I find out the real reason I drink? A: To find the real reason you drink, write two lists: every reason you reach for alcohol, and every fear you have about stopping. Then take one item at a time and ask where you first learned it, what evidence sits on either side, and whether you still believe it. Q: Is asking what is wrong with me a useful question about drinking? A: Asking what is wrong with me is a poor question about drinking, because your brain answers it with shame: lazy, weak, no willpower. Better questions have somewhere to go. Why does effort pay off everywhere else in my life but here, and what does alcohol do in the body to explain it? You do not need to wait for rock bottom. You do not need more willpower. You just need a new way to understand what you are feeling and why you are reaching for the next drink. If this episode resonates, please like, share, subscribe, and leave a comment with what stood out to you. We would love to hear what you want more of. Send your questions, stories, or ideas for future episodes to thealcoholmyth@gmail.com. We read every message. We really do. CONNECT WITH US Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan Ball, CreativeAF Coaching: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen Biggs Coaching: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ LISTEN ANYWHERE Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-alcohol-myth-podcast/id1861472231 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DzVqvW3ZkyV80jDYDSOjt Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/88964cf0-2b6f-4976-9676-2aa8a36d25be All episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2562590 Subscribe for more episodes pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #WhyIDrink

  6. Aug 3

    Alcohol-Free Birthdays: How to Celebrate Without a Drink

    Send us Fan Mail How to celebrate a birthday without alcohol, and what actually counts as a treat instead Ellen turned 55 last week. It was her third alcohol-free birthday. She and Jonathan Ball spend this episode taking apart one of the stickiest beliefs in drinking culture: that alcohol is a treat, and that a celebration needs it to count. Ellen walks through all three years. The first one she was scared of, so she made one rule, nothing off limits except the alcohol, and loaded the day with mocktails, alcohol-free champagne, cake, ice cream, everything she actually wanted. It worked. By year two the old pathway lit up briefly and she noticed it without following it. By year three alcohol was not on her radar at all, and the thing she had to question instead was a family tradition she had never once examined. The same chocolate mint cake for 50 years. A dinner out, because that is what you do. Jonathan shares the birthday he decided to elevate with champagne and felt nothing. He was doing it so often that the special occasion version had stopped being special. That is the mechanism worth understanding. A reward you claim most nights has quietly become a routine wearing a reward's clothes. They get practical in the back half. Ellen offers the question she uses with clients: what leaves you feeling better than you started? Alcohol might feel like a treat in the moment, but the full picture includes the sleep, the mood and the next morning. Real treats exist that do not send a bill. Special food, an event you have wanted to go to, better coffee, an evening on your own with a book. The work is finding yours, and being patient while the first few feel strange. They also talk about what happens when you stop running the birthday script on autopilot. Your world stops being organized around one substance, and it gets noticeably bigger. If a celebration is coming up and you are dreading it, start here. Work with Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/  |  Work with Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ CHAPTERS 00:00 The myth: alcohol is a treat 02:37 Inherited rules about birthdays 05:14 Fifty years of the same cake 07:51 Year one: nothing off limits 10:28 Learning to hear yourself again 13:05 The birthday script on autopilot 15:42 A beach trip without margaritas 18:19 Why your brain panics first 20:56 So what counts as a treat? 23:33 Treats with fewer consequences 26:10 Give it more than one try FROM THIS EPISODE "A treat is just something that leaves me feeling better than I started." QUESTIONS THIS EPISODE ANSWERS Q: How do you celebrate a birthday without alcohol? A: You celebrate a birthday without alcohol by making sure nothing else is off limits. Ellen loaded her first alcohol-free birthday with mocktails, alcohol-free champagne, favorite food, cake and ice cream, so the day still felt abundant. Alcohol was the only thing removed, and the celebration itself stayed completely intact. Q: Why does alcohol feel like a treat? A: Alcohol feels like a treat because we pair it with celebration from an early age, long before we ever drink it. Birthdays, weddings and holidays all carry the association, so opening a bottle fires a small celebratory signal in the brain even on an ordinary Tuesday night. Q: What can I do instead of drinking to reward myself? A: Instead of drinking to reward yourself, look for things that leave you feeling better than you started. Special food, an event you have wanted to attend, sleeping in, better coffee, a bath, a book, a piece of jewelry. The test is whether it costs you anything tomorrow. Q: Is the first alcohol-free birthday hard? A: The first alcohol-free birthday is usually the hardest, because your brain has no template for it and reads unfamiliar as unsafe. Ellen found year one nervy, year two briefly noisy, and year three genuinely easy. The discomfort comes from unfamiliarity, and it passes quickly. You do not need to wait for rock bottom. You do not need more willpower. You just need a new way to understand what you are feeling and why you are reaching for the next drink. If this episode resonates, please like, share, subscribe, and leave a comment with what stood out to you. We would love to hear what you want more of. Send your questions, stories, or ideas for future episodes to thealcoholmyth@gmail.com. We read every message. We really do. CONNECT WITH US Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan Ball, CreativeAF Coaching: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen Biggs Coaching: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ LISTEN ANYWHERE Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-alcohol-myth-podcast/id1861472231 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DzVqvW3ZkyV80jDYDSOjt Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/88964cf0-2b6f-4976-9676-2aa8a36d25be All episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2562590 Subscribe for more episodes pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #AlcoholFreeBirthday

  7. Jul 27

    There Will Be a Better Time to Take A Break from Drinking

    Send us Fan Mail What if the fear of missing out is not really about missing out at all? In this episode of The Alcohol Myth Podcast, Jonathan Ball and Ellen Beggs explore the myth that if you stop drinking, you will always feel like you are missing out. FOMO can feel so convincing when you are changing your relationship with alcohol. Weddings, vacations, date nights, parties, dancing, celebrations, fancy dinners, and nights out can all seem like they will lose their magic without a drink in your hand. But what if alcohol was never the magic? In this conversation, Jonathan and Ellen talk about how much credit we give alcohol for the beautiful experiences around it, and how easily we can project misery into the future before we have even given ourselves a chance to experience something different. They share stories about alcohol-free weddings, Las Vegas memories, dancing sober, fancy meals, travel, and the surprising pride that can come from showing up fully present. They also talk about the grief that can come with letting go of an old drinking identity, and why different does not have to mean worse. If you have ever thought, “Will I still have fun if I do this without alcohol?” this episode will help you look at FOMO through a new lens. You do not need to wait for rock bottom. You do not need more willpower. You just need a new way to understand what you are feeling and why you are reaching for the next drink. If this episode resonates, please like, share, subscribe, and leave a comment with what stood out to you. We would love to hear what you want more of. Send your questions, stories, or ideas for future episodes to thealcoholmyth@gmail.com. We read every message. We really do. Connect with us: Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ Subscribe for more episodes pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. Chapters 0:00 Future casting and the power of expectations 0:38 Welcome to The Alcohol Myth Podcast 1:26 The myth that alcohol-free means missing out 2:25 Why FOMO feels so convincing 4:10 Giving alcohol credit for the whole experience 6:00 Las Vegas, fancy meals, and distorted memories 8:18 Alcohol-free weddings and staying present 11:20 Dancing without drinking 13:10 The joy of missing out 15:05 You can experience something new 17:00 Pride before, during, and after the event 19:05 Different does not mean worse 21:18 Mourning the old drinking identity 24:00 Outgrowing the old version of yourself 26:05 How to reframe FOMO before an event 29:15 The benefits are still real, even if the night is imperfect 31:05 Closing thoughts and listener CTA #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #Sobriety #Recovery #AlcoholMyth #FOMO #JOMO #AlcoholFreeLife #SoberLife

  8. Jul 20

    What If Your Partner Is Still Drinking?

    Send us Fan Mail Do you need your partner to stop drinking in order for you to be successful in your own alcohol-free journey? In this episode of The Alcohol Myth Podcast, Coach Jonathan Ball and Ellen Biggs unpack the fear that changing your relationship with alcohol will change, threaten, or disconnect you from your partner. For many people, drinking is woven into date nights, celebrations, vacations, rituals, and everyday connection. So when one person starts questioning alcohol, it can bring up guilt, shame, fear, resentment, and the worry that the relationship will never feel the same. But your alcohol-free journey is still yours. Jonathan and Ellen talk about how to share vulnerably without making ultimatums, why “invited but not required” can be such a powerful approach, and how honest communication can actually create more connection, not less. They also explore what to do when your partner is supportive, what to do when they are not, and how to ask clearly for what you need without trying to control what is in someone else’s glass. You don’t need to wait for rock bottom. You don’t need more willpower. You just need a new way to understand what you are feeling and why you are reaching for the next drink. If this episode resonates, please like, share, subscribe, and leave a comment with what stood out to you. You can also send questions, stories, or ideas for future episodes to thealcoholmyth@gmail.com. Connect with us: Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ Subscribe for more episodes pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. Chapters 0:00 Invited, but not required 0:42 The myth: your partner has to stop drinking too 2:10 When alcohol is part of the relationship 4:05 Fear, shame, and telling the truth 6:20 What changes when one partner stops drinking 8:30 When your partner is not fully supportive 11:05 Reassuring your partner through the change 13:45 Asking clearly for what you need 16:10 Healthy differentiation in relationships 18:25 Finding new ways to connect 20:15 Key takeaways for couples 22:05 Grace, compassion, and imperfect support #AlcoholFree #Sobriety #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #Recovery #Relationships #AlcoholMyth #AlcoholFreeLife

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The Alcohol Myth Podcast features certified coaches Ellen and Jonathan having real conversations about alcohol, sobriety, and reclaiming a life that feels exciting to wake up to. 

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  • Creator
    Ellen and Jonathan
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    40
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Alcohol Myth Podcast
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