WTF Just Happened: Life is messy. Let's talk about it!

Sada K. and Hilary B.
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WTF Just Happened… Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It is the podcast for women who realized midlife hit harder than expected. From grief to divorce, dating disasters to financial rebounds, Botox to boundaries — nothing is off limits. Hosted by two women who’ve survived loss, heartbreak, and starting over (with humor intact), this show is part therapy, part group chat, and part “did she really just say that?”Hosted by Hilary and Sada....two BFF's smack dab in the messy middle!  If your life feels messy, you’re in the right place! Grab your favorite cocktail, or mocktail of choice, your favorite emotionally supportive snack, get cozy, and come hang with us! 

Episodes

  1. FEB 11

    WTF Is Happening to My Hair? (Illness, GLP-1 & Menopause) | Aria Pilar

    Hair loss is more than cosmetic — it’s emotional, personal, and deeply tied to identity. In this honest and compassionate episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Sada and Hilary sit down with Aria Pilar, founder of Moxi Loxi, to talk openly about hair loss, confidence, illness, hormones, aging, and what it truly feels like when the hair you’ve always known begins to change. Aria has spent decades supporting women experiencing hair loss due to autoimmune disease, chronic illness, menopause, stress, weight loss, GLP-1 medications, aging, and trauma. Her work goes far beyond wigs and toppers — it centers on dignity, emotional support, and helping women reclaim confidence during some of life’s most vulnerable seasons. This conversation is grounded, empathetic, and deeply real. In this episode, we discuss: Why hair loss can feel devastating and isolatingHow illness, hormones, stress, and medications impact hairHair loss in young women and teens — and the emotional tollThe stigma surrounding wigs, toppers, and hair systemsModern solutions for thinning hair, extensions, toppers, and wigsHow hair loss affects identity, femininity, and self-trustSupporting children and young adults through hair lossSada shares her personal experience navigating hair loss alongside grief and supporting her daughter through illness-related hair loss, while Aria offers compassionate, practical guidance for women who feel overwhelmed and unsure where to begin. This episode is for you if: You’re experiencing hair thinning or hair lossYou’re navigating illness, hormones, menopause, or stressYour child or teen is dealing with hair lossYou’re curious about wigs or hair systems but feel unsureYou are not vain for caring.  You are not alone.  And you deserve support. Connect with Aria & Moxi Loxi: Website: https://moxiloxi.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moxiloxiwigs/ 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    1h 26m

  2. JAN 28

    Starting Over Financially: What Women Need to Know After Divorce, Death, or Financial Betrayal | Michelle Perry Higgins, CFT™

    What happens when you suddenly become responsible for all the money — after divorce, the death of a spouse, or the discovery of a financial betrayal you never saw coming? In this powerful and necessary episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Sada and Hilary sit down with Michelle Perry Higgins, Principal and Financial Advisor at California Financial Advisors and a Certified Financial Therapist, to unpack the emotional and practical realities of starting over financially as a woman. With nearly 30 years of experience, Michelle works at the intersection of money and psychology, helping women navigate divorce, widowhood, financial trauma, and major life transitions. Her approach goes far beyond numbers — addressing why money can feel overwhelming, paralyzing, or terrifying after loss or betrayal, and how to move forward with clarity and confidence. In this episode, we discuss: What “starting over financially” really looks like after divorce or the death of a spouseWhy money decisions feel impossible when you’re grieving or emotionally overwhelmedFinancial infidelity and hidden debt — what it is and how to uncover itThe shame, fear, and loss of trust that often follow financial betrayalWhy so many women were never taught financial literacyHow financial responsibility often shifts suddenly — and painfully — to womenWhy pulling your credit report is a critical first stepThe importance of knowing your accounts, logins, and full financial pictureHow to find a financial advisor who feels safe, clear, and supportiveWhy women often give up assets too quickly just to end the painUnderstanding money trauma and financial PTSDCreating a “safety bucket” to feel secure during market uncertaintyCommon estate planning mistakes families don’t discover until it’s too lateHow to teach kids healthy money habits and break generational patternsHilary shares her lived experience of uncovering massive hidden debt and navigating financial betrayal during divorce, while Sada opens up about managing finances alone after the sudden death of her husband — including probate confusion and learning everything while deep in grief. This episode is essential listening if you are: Going through a divorceA widow or newly singleRecovering from financial infidelityAfraid of money or financial decisionsRaising kids and wanting to break generational money patternsResources Mentioned in This Episode Michelle’s Website: https://www.michelleperryhiggins.com Resources: https://www.michelleperryhiggins.com/ 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    1h 12m

  3. JAN 21

    Your Makeup Isn’t the Problem. Your Face Changed. | Nicole Wagner

    What if makeup wasn’t about looking younger — but about feeling confident, polished, and like yourself at every stage of life? In this episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Sada and Hilary sit down with Nicole Wagner, professional makeup artist, educator, beauty entrepreneur, and influencer with over 20 years in the beauty industry. Together, they talk honestly (and hilariously) about makeup, aging, confidence, and why less really is more in midlife. Nicole shares her journey from discovering makeup as a creative outlet to building a career focused on helping women feel empowered — not overwhelmed — by beauty. This episode dives into how skin changes in your 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond, and why your makeup routine should evolve with you, not work against you. It’s real, relatable, and full of practical advice you can actually use. In this episode, we cover: How makeup trends shift as we ageWhy confidence often increases with age — and how makeup can reflect thatSkin texture, hydration, and pigmentation changes in your 30s and 40sWhy skincare matters more than piling on productsCreating lift and brightness without heavy makeupWhy tightlining, lashes, and cream products are game-changersHow to look polished for everyday life (not Instagram perfection)Letting go of outdated beauty rulesWhy feeling good matters more than looking “young”Embracing aging, confidence, and self-acceptanceNicole breaks down simple, realistic makeup tips for real women with real lives — whether you’re heading to work, running errands, or getting ready for a night out. If you’ve ever felt confused by beauty trends, frustrated by makeup that doesn’t sit right anymore, or ready to simplify your routine, this episode is for you. Because confidence isn’t about age.  It’s about knowing who you are. Connect with Nicole Wagner: Website: https://itsnicolewagner.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its_nicolewagner/ Makeup Course: https://courses.itsnicolewagner.com/join-mym 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    1h 12m

  4. JAN 13

    Midlife — Turns Out This Is the Good Part

    We were told midlife would be a crisis. Turns out… it’s a glow-up. In this episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Sada and Hilary dive into the funny, honest, wildly relatable truth about life in your 40s and 50s — and why this season might actually be the best one yet. We talk about confidence, dating, friendships, bodies, hormones, boundaries, and the unexpected freedom that comes with caring less about impressing anyone — and feeling better because of it. This conversation is unfiltered, reflective, and full of those “wait… same” moments as we unpack why midlife isn’t a breakdown — it’s a breakthrough. In this episode, we cover: Why midlife isn’t a crisis — it’s clarityConfidence that comes from knowing yourselfDating in your 40s vs your 20s (spoiler: it’s more fun)Letting go of people-pleasing and perfectionBodies changing, hormones shifting, and working with yourselfHealth, strength, longevity, and self-trust — without shameMidlife friendships and why some of your best friends haven’t even met you yetOutgrowing drama, noise, and chaosSleep struggles, brain fog, and laughing about it anywayWhy confidence and sexiness have nothing to do with age or sizeMidlife isn’t about having everything figured out. It’s about realizing you don’t need to. If you’ve ever thought, “Is this it?” — this episode will remind you that not only is it not over… it might actually be the good part. Grab a cocktail, a mocktail, or your favorite emotionally supportive snack — and come laugh with us. 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    51 min

  5. JAN 6

    No Is a Complete Sentence (And I Finally Meant It)

    If we could live the exact same lives again — the love, the kids, the marriages, the friendships, the mistakes, the growth — we wouldn’t change a thing. Except one thing. Boundaries. In this episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Sada and Hilary get real about the boundaries we wish we had earlier in life — and the ones we’re finally choosing now. This is not a regret episode. It’s a learning episode. We talk openly about growing up young, getting married early, people-pleasing, over-explaining, burnout, and the invisible emotional labor women carry for decades before realizing… this isn’t working anymore. In this conversation, we unpack: • Why boundaries weren’t modeled for many of us growing up • Getting married young and choosing commitment before choosing yourself • Learning boundaries later in life — and why that’s okay • The difference between generosity and people-pleasing • Emotional burnout from saying yes too often • How midlife brings clarity (and less tolerance for nonsense) • Boundaries in marriage, friendships, work, finances, and parenting • Why “no” is a complete sentence • Over-explaining texts, emails, and conversations — and how to stop • Work boundaries, after-hours texts, and reclaiming your time • Friendship boundaries, outgrowing relationships, and letting seasons end • Teaching our kids boundaries we never had • Trusting your intuition (your “second brain”) sooner • Why leaving when your peace is gone is not rude — it’s healthy We also talk about how boundaries evolve — from marriage to motherhood, friendships to finances, self-care to movement — and how financial peace, emotional peace, and physical health are all deeply connected. This episode is funny, honest, reflective, and wildly relatable. It’s for anyone who looks back and thinks, “I wish I knew then what I know now.” And for anyone ready to move into the second half of life with the same heart… but better rules. ✨ Same life. ✨ Same love. ✨ Better boundaries. Grab your emotionally supportive snack and settle in — this one hits home. 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    36 min

  6. 12/23/2025

    Slowing Down in 2026: Time Is a Scam and We Want a Refund!

    Did anyone else blink… and somehow lose an entire year? In this episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Sada and Hilary slow things way down to talk about something so many women are craving — but don’t know how to access anymore: intentional living. Somewhere between work, grief, parenting, marriage, phones, calendars, and constant noise, time started moving at warp speed — and many of us forgot how to actually be in our lives. This conversation is honest, funny, reflective, and deeply relatable as we unpack why slowing down feels so uncomfortable, why busyness became a personality trait, and how we can choose a different pace moving forward — without quitting our jobs or moving to a mountain. In this episode, we talk about: Why time feels like it’s accelerating in midlifeHow grief, loss, and trauma distort our sense of timeWhy “busy” doesn’t equal fulfilledDoom-scrolling, phone addiction, and creating no-phone momentsThe power of gratitude (and why it actually works)Slowing down in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyondBoundaries, saying no, and releasing guiltThe difference between goals and intentional livingChoosing connection over productivityWhy dreaming again mattersThis episode isn’t about perfection, resolutions, or overhauling your life. It’s about small, intentional choices — putting your phone down, having deeper conversations, creating space to breathe, and remembering that time is the one currency we don’t get back. If you’ve been feeling exhausted, overstimulated, disconnected, or like life is flying by faster than you can process — this episode will feel like an exhale. Grab a cocktail, mocktail, or your favorite emotionally supportive snack, and let’s talk about slowing down on purpose. Thank you for being here with us on WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy. 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    1h 7m

  7. 12/17/2025

    La La Land - Escaping Reality, Grief Fog, & the Messy Middle of Midlife

    In this episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, we dive into what we lovingly call La La Land — the emotional place you slip into when real life feels too heavy, grief is suffocating, or adulthood is simply too much. If you’re a widow, a divorcée, a woman in midlife, a burned-out mom, or someone quietly holding it together while your heart is falling apart, this conversation is for you. We talk honestly about: Escapism during grief — why travel, distractions, spending, and staying “busy” become survival toolsThe emotional crash of re-entry — when you walk back into your house and reality hits hardGrief fog and decision fatigue — when even choosing dinner feels impossibleWidowhood and identity loss — rebuilding yourself after losing the person who knew you bestLiving alone for the first time and navigating quiet, loneliness, and routinesThe universal midlife meltdown — even without loss, many of us still find ourselves hereGuilt around joy — loving travel, sunshine, freedom, and laughter while grievingWidow’s Fire (yes… we go there 🔥)Why community matters and who keeps you from disappearing into the couchRedefining adulthood, purpose, hobbies, and who you are nowSelf-compassion in transition — including cheese and wine for dinner and lowering the barThis episode is raw, reflective, and deeply human. We talk about grief, loss, trauma, escapism, resilience, and the confusing, beautiful transformation that often happens in midlife. Whether you’re navigating widowhood, divorce, burnout, empty nesting, mental health struggles, or a massive identity shift — this episode will make you feel seen, supported, and less alone. Grab a cocktail, mocktail, Stanley cup, or your favorite emotionally supportive snack — La La Land is a wild ride, and we’re remembering how to come back. Thank you for being here with us on WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy. 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    50 min

  8. 12/17/2025

    WTF Happened to My Face? Aging, Aesthetics, Facelifts & Real Talk with Amy Melchior, MSN, APNP, FNP-BC and Owner of Medical Rejuvenation in Gladstone, OR

    In this brutally honest — and genuinely funny — episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Sada and Hilary dive into one of the most requested midlife topics: our faces, aging, facelifts, fillers, and what the hell actually happens to our skin in our 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond. We’re joined by Amy Melchior, MSN, APNP, FNP-BC, advanced injector, educator, and owner of Medical Rejuvenation just outside Portland, Oregon. With decades of medical experience and a zero-BS approach, Amy breaks down what actually works, what’s hype, and how women can make informed, confident choices about aesthetics — without shame. In this episode, we talk about: Why your face changes in your 40s and 50s (volume loss, ligament laxity, hormones, and stress)The truth about facelifts — who benefits, who doesn’t, and common industry mythsFillers vs. surgery: what fillers can (and can’t) fixPerimenopause, exhaustion, and the “why do I look so tired?” momentIPL, CO2, microneedling, and which treatments truly improve skinAging decade by decade — what to expect and what actually delivers resultsWhy choosing cosmetic procedures is about agency, not insecurityThis conversation is real, educational, empowering, and refreshingly honest. Whether you’re Botox-curious, facelift-considering, battling pigmentation, or just wondering why your neck changed overnight — this episode will make you feel informed, supported, and normal. ✨ Guest: Amy Melchior, MSN, APNP, FNP-BC Owner, Medical Rejuvenation (Gladstone, OR) 🌐 Website: https://medjuv.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/medical_rejuvenation/ 📍 Address: 15 82nd Dr Suite 230, Gladstone, OR 97027 📞 Phone: 503-421-9271 📧 Email: medjuv2@gmail.com 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    1h 9m

  9. 12/17/2025

    Plot Twist: The Day Susan From Wells Fargo Hard-Launched My Divorce - Hilary's Story

    In this raw, deeply honest — and at times darkly funny — episode of WTF Just Happened? Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Hilary shares the true story of the day a cheerful call from “Susan at Wells Fargo” blew the lid off her marriage and set off a chain reaction that would change everything. What started as a routine phone call uncovered massive hidden debt, financial infidelity, emotional stonewalling, and a life quietly unraveling behind closed doors. As a mom of three young daughters, Hilary trusted her spouse to handle the finances — until the truth surfaced and forced her into survival mode. From bankruptcy court and financial ruin to divorce, custody battles, restraining orders, and rebuilding from a credit score in the 500s, this episode pulls no punches. But this isn’t just a divorce story. It’s a story about: Financial infidelity and hidden debtEmotional neglect and stonewalling in marriageThe silent unraveling many women experienceDivorce as a business decision — not just an emotional oneRebuilding after bankruptcy, betrayal, and lossLearning to trust your intuition before it’s too lateFinding joy, stability, and love again after everything explodesHilary also shares practical, hard-won insight for women who may be in the thick of it right now — including how to protect yourself financially, prepare for independence, and take small steps forward even when you feel stuck, scared, or overwhelmed. Along the way, she reminds us that even the most brutal plot twists can come with unexpected gifts: deeper self-trust, laughter again, new love, and a life you never imagined — but wouldn’t trade. If you’ve ever: Been blindsided in marriageTrusted someone who broke that trustFelt trapped by finances, fear, or silenceWalked through divorce, grief, or reinvention in midlifeWondered if it’s truly possible to start overThis episode will make you feel seen, understood, and less alone. Grab your emotionally supportive snack, pour a cocktail or mocktail, and settle in. This is one you won’t forget. ✨ Content note: Adult language, real talk about divorce, finances, and emotional trauma. 📩 Need support or resources? DM us on Instagram — we’re listening, and we’ve got you. 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    1h 4m

  10. 12/17/2025

    Paradise Interrupted: Widowhood, Love, and Learning to Breathe Again - Sada's Story

    Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of sudden loss, widowhood, trauma, and grief. In this unforgettable episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Sada shares her full, unfiltered story of love, marriage, sudden loss, and the moment her life split into before and after. This is not just a story about losing a husband. It’s a story about growing up together, building a life side-by-side, navigating the messy middle of marriage — and then losing everything in a single, quiet moment thousands of miles from home. Sada takes us back to meeting Kris at just 14 years old, growing up together, raising two daughters, relocating states, rebuilding connection, and finally arriving at the most aligned, joyful season of their marriage — only weeks before his sudden death from a brain aneurysm while on vacation in Hawaii. With honesty, tenderness, and remarkable clarity, Sada walks us through: Loving someone for over half your lifeMarriage, miscommunication, and growing up togetherMoving states, identity loss, and reinventionThe illusion that “the next thing” will finally bring happinessThe night everything changed — sudden loss in HawaiiPerforming CPR on the person you love mostShock, trauma, and the hours that followSitting bedside in the ICU while waiting for answersOrgan donation, honor walks, and saving other livesFlying home without your spouseGrief brain, nervous system shock, and survival modeParenting through profound lossHolding devastation and gratitude at the same timeChoosing meaning, purpose, and connection after lossThis episode also explores the reality of widowhood — not as a linear journey, but as a constant balancing act between grief and joy. Sada speaks candidly about PTSD, brain fog, mentorship, community, and why she refuses to live the rest of her life numb or disconnected from beauty, laughter, travel, and love. If you’ve ever: Lost a spouse or partnerExperienced sudden or traumatic lossWondered how people survive the unimaginableFelt your old self disappear overnightTried to hold joy and grief in the same breathThis episode will meet you exactly where you are. It’s raw. It’s sacred. ✨ Adult language, grief, loss, and emotional trauma. 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    1h 21m

  11. 12/17/2025

    WTF....This was not in the brochure!

    Welcome to WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, the unfiltered podcast for women navigating midlife, grief, healing, reinvention, and the moment you look around and think, “What the f just happened to my life?” If that’s you — you’re in the right place. In this premiere episode, Sada and Hilary introduce themselves, their stories, and the very real, very unglossed-over mess that inspired this podcast. From widowhood to divorce, perimenopause to parenting adult kids, facelifts to fixing your credit score — this show is about telling the truth, laughing through the chaos, and building a community of women who refuse to pretend everything is fine. In this episode, we talk about: Who we are and how we got hereWhy we created this podcast (because midlife is wild and pretending is exhausting)The messy middle — when kids are grown, relationships shift, bodies change, and identity feels up for renegotiationGrief, widowhood, and healing, including Sada’s journey after losing her husband and navigating the fog of early lossDivorce, survival, and starting over, as Hilary shares her path from financial ruin and restraining orders to rebuilding her life and thriving againGlow-ups, facelifts, and fixing what bothers you — as an act of agency, not shameMotherhood, identity, and reinvention in midlifeInstagram vs. reality, highlight reels, filters, and the pressure to look “fine” when you’re notThis is not a podcast about perfection. It’s about survival, humor, messy healing, midlife rebirth, and the women who get it. Grab a cocktail, a mocktail, or your favorite emotionally supportive snack — and settle in. You’re home. 🔗 Connect With Us 🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy 💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode 💛 Sada: @simplysadajames If you’re navigating grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard. We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛 ⚠️ Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast. Any products mentioned are not sponsored unless explicitly stated.

    17 min
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WTF Just Happened… Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It is the podcast for women who realized midlife hit harder than expected. From grief to divorce, dating disasters to financial rebounds, Botox to boundaries — nothing is off limits. Hosted by two women who’ve survived loss, heartbreak, and starting over (with humor intact), this show is part therapy, part group chat, and part “did she really just say that?”Hosted by Hilary and Sada....two BFF's smack dab in the messy middle!  If your life feels messy, you’re in the right place! Grab your favorite cocktail, or mocktail of choice, your favorite emotionally supportive snack, get cozy, and come hang with us! 

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