The Bridge to Love

Preston Smiles & Alexi Panos

Feeling disconnected in your relationship—> even when you’re together? Stuck in repeating patterns, emotional distance, or conflict you can’t seem to fix? The Bridge to Love Podcast is for people in relationships and marriages who want deeper connection, healthier communication, and love that actually lasts. Hosted by Alexi Panos and Preston Smiles, this podcast explores: • Why relationships go stale • How nervous system regulation impacts love • Why couples repeat the same fights • How to rebuild intimacy and desire • What it takes to stop sabotaging relationships • How to create safety and aliveness in partnership This isn’t surface-level relationship advice. It’s grounded, honest conversations rooted in neuroscience, attachment, somatic awareness, and real-life experience. Whether you’re dating, married, remarried, parenting together, or starting over—this podcast helps you stop doing relationship alone and start building love with clarity, courage, and support. 🎧 New episodes weekly ❤️ Join our coaching community: Relationship Rewired Community ▶️ Watch the Podcast on YOUTUBE

Episodes

  1. 6H AGO

    These 5 Sentences Quietly Kill Relationships

    To learn more about our coaching community, Relationship Rewired, visit: Thebridgetolove.com Enter code PODCAST at checkout ------------------------------------------------ There are sentences people say in relationships that sound harmless — but often appear right before emotional distance sets in. In this episode of the Bridge to Love Podcast, Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos explore five common phrases partners use when intimacy starts to feel unsafe, and what those statements are really signaling beneath the surface. This conversation unpacks how emotional distance isn’t caused by indifference or lack of love — but by unspoken fatigue, unmet needs, self-protection, and nervous system overwhelm. You’ll learn: • Why emotional distance is not the problem — it’s the symptom • What “I’m just tired” often means emotionally • Why “everything’s fine” is usually a defense, not the truth • How busyness becomes a strategy to avoid closeness • Why losing touch with desire can be an invitation to growth • How overfunctioning leads to resentment and disconnection • Why these phrases are attempts to manage pain without vulnerability This episode reframes emotional withdrawal as a call for safety and connection, not a rejection of the relationship. Rather than taking these moments personally, Preston and Alexi invite listeners to meet them with curiosity, compassion, and a team-based mindset — understanding that relationships don’t fail from one big moment, but from small signals that go unnoticed for too long. If you’re noticing emotional distance in your relationship — or want to prevent it before it grows — this episode offers clarity, language, and a grounded path forward.

    34 min
  2. FEB 11

    My partner ISN'T doing "the work".....what now

    To learn more about our coaching community, Relationship Rewired, visit: Thebridgetolove.com Enter code PODCAST at checkout ------------------------------------------------ What happens when one partner feels like they’re doing all the emotional work in the relationship? In this episode of the Bridge to Love Podcast, Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos answer a question they’ve heard for over 15 years: “What if I’m doing the work — and my partner isn’t?” This conversation challenges the common belief that growth is about knowledge, therapy, or self-help — and reframes “the work” as something far deeper: embodiment, demonstration, and lived change. Inside this episode, you’ll explore: • Why personal development often creates distance instead of connection • The difference between knowing more and being different • How shame and inadequacy stop partners from engaging in growth • Why men and women process emotional work differently • How childhood conditioning shapes resistance and shutdown • Why judging your partner keeps both of you stuck • How going first becomes leadership, not self-abandonment This episode introduces a powerful framework: Information → Transformation → Demonstration → Invitation When growth stays at the level of information, it becomes weaponized. When it’s embodied, it becomes an invitation. Rather than asking, “Why won’t my partner change?” This episode asks a more confronting and liberating question: “What am I not willing to bring or model yet?” This is not advice about forcing growth or fixing your partner. It’s a grounded, compassionate exploration of how one regulated, embodied partner can shift relational patterns — and how true change begins with self-responsibility, not pressure. If you’re in a relationship where growth feels uneven, exhausting, or lonely — this episode offers clarity, nuance, and a way forward that doesn’t require anyone to be wrong.

    46 min
  3. FEB 4

    What Having Kids Does to Your Relationship (No One Prepares You for This)

    To learn more about our coaching community, Relationship Rewired, visit: Thebridgetolove.com Enter code PODCAST at checkout ------------------------------------------------ Having kids completely changes the dynamic of your relationship. Not because you’re doing it wrong. Not because the love is gone. But because the relationship you had before children can’t function the same way anymore. In this episode, Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos breaks down what actually happens to a romantic relationship after becoming parents — and why so many couples feel disconnected, resentful, or like roommates instead of lovers. If you’ve ever wondered: • Why your relationship feels harder after kids • Why intimacy drops even though you still care • Why you’re constantly managing life instead of enjoying each other • Why one partner feels overwhelmed while the other feels shut out • Why being “together” doesn’t feel like being connected This conversation will give language to what most parents silently experience. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: • Why relationships must rewire after children, not “go back to normal” • How parents unconsciously become managers instead of lovers • Why the relationship stops being the center — and what that costs long-term • How over functioning vs under functioning dynamics create resentment • Why proximity (being around each other) isn’t the same as presence This is not parenting advice. This is a relational and nervous system–based look at love after kids — and how couples can stop blaming each other for changes that were inevitable, but never explained. Because having children doesn’t ruin relationships. What ruins them is expecting the old relationship to survive a completely new life. If you’re a parent, partner, or couple trying to find your way back to each other — this episode will help you understand what shifted, why it makes sense, and what’s possible from here.

    56 min
  4. JAN 28

    Why Relationships Slowly Die (Even When You Still Love Each Other)

    To learn more about our coaching community, Relationship Rewired, visit: Thebridgetolove.com Enter code PODCAST at checkout ------------------------------------------------ Most relationships don’t end because of cheating, betrayal, or one big fight. They end slowly. Through silence. Through shutdown. Through moments that never get repaired. In this episode, Preston Smiles breaks down 4 common behaviors that quietly kill relationships, even when two people genuinely love each other. If you’ve ever felt emotionally distant from your partner… If conversations feel tense, cold, or avoided… If you’re still together but don’t feel truly connected anymore… This episode will speak directly to what’s happening beneath the surface. You’ll learn: • Why emotional withdrawal hurts more than conflict • How criticism and contempt shut down safety and attraction • Why keeping score creates resentment and emotional exhaustion • How unrepaired arguments build emotional scar tissue over time • Why “better communication” doesn’t work when the nervous system is overwhelmed This conversation goes beyond traditional relationship advice and looks at love through a nervous system and attachment lens — helping you understand why disconnection isn’t a character flaw, but a survival response. Because most couples don’t stop loving each other. Their bodies just forget how to stay connected under stress. If you’re in a long-term relationship, marriage, or committed partnership and want deeper emotional intimacy, safety, and repair — this episode will help you see your relationship with clarity, compassion, and responsibility. Love doesn’t die from one moment. It fades from what never gets repaired.

    44 min
  5. JAN 7

    4 Habits of Healthy Couples (That Most People Never Learn) The Bridge to Love Podcast

    To learn more about our coaching community, Relationship Rewired, visit: Thebridgetolove.com Enter code PODCAST at checkout ------------------------------------------------ What separates healthy couples from relationships that slowly drift into distance, resentment, or survival mode? It’s not luck. It’s not chemistry. And it’s not just “better communication.” In this episode of the Bridge to Love Podcast, Alexi and Preston break down the four habits healthy couples practice consistently—especially when love feels hard, life gets busy, or parenting takes over. Drawing from over 15 years of experience as embodiment coaches and leaders in the personal development space, we explore how emotionally healthy relationships are built at the level of patterns, nervous system regulation, and daily practice—not willpower or perfection. In this episode, we cover: • The habits healthy couples use to stay emotionally connected long-term • Why most relationship advice doesn’t stick • How nervous system regulation changes the way couples relate • What healthy couples do differently during conflict • Why repair matters more than avoiding fights • How couples stay close through parenting, stress, and responsibility This conversation is for: • Couples who are doing “okay” but want deeper connection • Partners stuck in repeating relationship patterns • Married couples and long-term relationships • Parents who feel more like co-managers than lovers • Singles who want to build healthy habits before their next relationship If you’re tired of blaming yourself or your partner and ready to understand what actually works, this episode will give you clarity, relief, and a new way forward. Love doesn’t fail. Unexamined patterns do. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Prefer to watch these on video to get in on the magic? CLICK HERE + SUBSCRIBE! Follow Alexi + Preston on IG @alexipanos @prestonsmiles

    46 min
5
out of 5
12 Ratings

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Feeling disconnected in your relationship—> even when you’re together? Stuck in repeating patterns, emotional distance, or conflict you can’t seem to fix? The Bridge to Love Podcast is for people in relationships and marriages who want deeper connection, healthier communication, and love that actually lasts. Hosted by Alexi Panos and Preston Smiles, this podcast explores: • Why relationships go stale • How nervous system regulation impacts love • Why couples repeat the same fights • How to rebuild intimacy and desire • What it takes to stop sabotaging relationships • How to create safety and aliveness in partnership This isn’t surface-level relationship advice. It’s grounded, honest conversations rooted in neuroscience, attachment, somatic awareness, and real-life experience. Whether you’re dating, married, remarried, parenting together, or starting over—this podcast helps you stop doing relationship alone and start building love with clarity, courage, and support. 🎧 New episodes weekly ❤️ Join our coaching community: Relationship Rewired Community ▶️ Watch the Podcast on YOUTUBE

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