Confident Again

Jane Gibb
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Confident Again is for women navigating the aftermath of intimate betrayal who want less confusion and more clarity. Clear, compassionate, and grounded, it helps you cut through the fog, find your footing, and step back into strength with steady hope and quiet clarity. If you want betrayal healing wisdom to reconnect with your innate confidence, this podcast is for you.

  1. 5d ago

    Financial freedom for women navigating uncertainty with Genene Wilson

    Financial uncertainty can add another layer of fear and vulnerability when a relationship is fragile, ending, or already over. You may be worried about where you will live, how you will support yourself, what assets you have—or whether important financial information has been hidden from you. In this episode, Jane speaks with Genene Wilson about moving from financial vulnerability and confusion towards greater clarity, confidence and empowerment. Genene draws on her experience as a former accountant and licensed financial planner, as well as her current work as a business and financial coach, entrepreneur and author. Together, Jane and Genene explore why many women feel disconnected from the structure of their family finances, and why gaining financial knowledge matters even when you have trusted your partner to take care of that area. They discuss: • Why knowing your current financial position is an essential first step • How fear, shame and past criticism can lead to financial avoidance • The importance of gathering documents, accessing accounts and noticing financial red flags • Why women sometimes give away too much just to bring a painful separation to an end • How to prepare for mediation or financial negotiations • The value of understanding your best-case, worst-case and middle-ground outcomes • Who you may need on your professional support team • How to choose advisers who are qualified, values-aligned and able to communicate clearly • Why financial empowerment is about dignity, choice and long-term security—not simply dollars and cents Genene also shares stories of women who rebuilt their financial confidence after divorce, loss and even homelessness. Her central encouragement is simple: there is no need to solve everything at once. Focus on the next step you can take today. Please note that the information in this episode is general education and does not constitute personal financial, accounting or legal advice. Seek appropriately licensed professional advice for your individual circumstances. Resources Genene Wilson Website: genenewilson.com Live Well: Your Guide to Navigating Divorce by Genene Wilson Quiet Wisdom Website: quietwisdom.com.au If this episode encouraged you, please rate, review and share the podcast so that other women can find this support too. Send Jane a note Connect with Jane at Quiet Wisdom Join the Support Group Waitlist

  2. Jun 30

    The A Word: Naming Abuse in Betrayal with David and Noni Yates

    What if the word we most avoid is the word that brings the most clarity? In this powerful conversation, Jane is joined by Noni and Dave Yates to talk about “the A word” — abuse — and why it matters in the context of intimate betrayal. Together, they explore the painful reality that betrayal is not only about sexual acting out or infidelity. It is also about deception, secrecy, gaslighting, manipulation, minimisation, deflection, stonewalling, and the misuse of power. These behaviours can slowly erode a partner’s sense of reality, safety, intuition, autonomy, and self-trust. Noni and Dave share from their own lived experience, as well as their trauma-informed work supporting individuals, couples, and families impacted by betrayal. Their honesty offers language for what can feel confusing, hidden, or hard to name — and helps make sense of why betrayal can feel so destabilising. This episode is not about using the word abuse as a weapon or an identity. It is about naming harmful behaviours clearly, understanding their impact, and opening a pathway towards accountability, safety, and healing. If you have ever felt like you were “going crazy,” doubting your gut, silencing your voice, or struggling to explain why something feels wrong, this conversation may help you find words for your experience. Please listen gently and take care of yourself as you do. Send Jane a note Connect with Jane at Quiet Wisdom Join the Support Group Waitlist

  3. Jun 16

    It's not about his Recovery Plan, a Life-altering Boundaries Mind Shift with Pam Blizzard

    It’s not about his recovery plan — it’s about your safety. In this powerful conversation, Jane is joined by trauma-informed recovery coach, consultant, writer and educator Pam Blizzard to explore a life-altering shift in how we think about boundaries after intimate betrayal. So often, betrayed partners get pulled into monitoring, managing or debating their husband’s recovery plan. But as Pam explains, his recovery is his responsibility. Your work is not to control the details of his healing, but to pay attention to the fruits of recovery: honesty, responsibility, maturity, repair, safety and changed behaviour. Together, Jane and Pam unpack what empowered boundaries really look like, why boundaries are not about forcing someone else to change, and how they help you stay connected to reality, your nervous system, your agency and your own sense of self. This episode is for you if you feel exhausted from doing the heavy lifting, afraid of what the “cold, hard data” might reveal, or unsure how to step back without jumping straight to separation or divorce. Pam offers practical, compassionate wisdom for protecting your nervous system, responding instead of reacting, and remembering that boundaries can become your superpower. To contact Pam To check out Choose Connection Academy To join Pam's Facebook Group, Recovering Spouses of SA Men Send Jane a note Connect with Jane at Quiet Wisdom Join the Support Group Waitlist

  4. Jun 8

    From Self-Abandonment to Self-Trust with Amy Graziano

    What happens when you’ve spent years saying “I’m fine” when you’re really not? In this episode of Confident Again, I’m joined by betrayal healing coach and group facilitator Amy Graziano for a tender and honest conversation about the journey from self-abandonment to self-trust. Amy shares pieces of her own betrayal healing story, including the devastating discovery of her husband’s affair after 32 years of marriage, and how that experience helped her recognise a deeper pattern of walking on eggshells, people-pleasing, ignoring her gut, and disconnecting from her own needs. Together, we explore what self-abandonment can look like after betrayal: saying yes when you mean no, keeping your thoughts and feelings inside to avoid conflict, struggling to know what you want, and feeling afraid that using your voice will cost you connection. We also talk about the brave, healing work of rebuilding self-trust. Amy shares how learning about boundaries helped her begin to show up for herself, especially when a boundary was broken and she followed through with what she needed for her own safety. That moment became a powerful step towards trusting herself again. This conversation is full of gentle honesty, practical wisdom and deep compassion for the woman who has learned to make herself small in order to survive. In this episode, we talk about:  What self-abandonment can look like in betrayal trauma recovery  Why many women learn to say “I’m fine” when they’re not  The fear of being “too much,” too needy, controlling or difficult  How betrayal can disconnect you from your gut, intuition and needs  Why boundaries are a powerful way to rebuild self-trust  The importance of support groups and safe connection  How to practise using your voice in small, kind, honest ways  Listening to your body as part of rebuilding confidence  The powerful choice to stop abandoning yourself Amy reminds us that self-trust does not usually return all at once. It grows through small brave moments: pausing, listening inward, telling the truth to yourself, asking for what you need, and following through when your safety matters. A gentle mantra from this episode: I am not going to abandon myself. If you have felt disconnected from your own needs, unsure of your voice, or afraid to take up space after betrayal, I hope this episode helps you feel less alone and more able to begin coming home to yourself. Reflection questions for listeners Where am I saying “I’m fine” when I’m actually not? What is one small place where I could practise telling myself the truth? What does my body tell me when something feels unsafe, uncomfortable or important? Where might I be choosing connection with someone else at the cost of connection with myself? What is one small way I can show myself, “I will not abandon you”? To contact Amy: Reflections in the Waves Send Jane a note Connect with Jane at Quiet Wisdom Join the Support Group Waitlist

  5. May 29

    The Gift in the Wound with Sharalyn Drayton

    What if the thing that feels unsurvivable could also become a pathway toward healing, self-connection, and transformation? In this episode of Confident Again, Jane is joined by Sharalyn Drayton for a rich and hope-filled conversation about “the gift in the wound” — a phrase that gently points to the possibility that even deep betrayal pain does not have to be wasted. This is not about minimising harm, rushing healing, or pretending betrayal is somehow good. Instead, Jane and Sharalyn explore how suffering, when held with safety, support, and time, can become a place where new strength, self-awareness, autonomy, integrity, and confidence begin to emerge. Sharalyn shares from her decades of personal and professional experience in the betrayal trauma field, including her early work supporting women when there was very little language or specialist support available in Australia. Together, Jane and Sharalyn talk about survival, support, post-traumatic growth, the importance of safety and stabilisation, and the slow process of finding “diamonds in the muck.” This episode is for you if you need hope that the pain you are carrying today is not the end of your story. In this episode, we explore:  Why betrayal can feel so isolating and unsurvivable  The importance of specialist support and safe connection  What “the gift in the wound” means — and what it does not mean  Why safety and stabilisation come before meaning-making  How suffering can become a pathway toward transformation  The gifts of self-awareness, autonomy, voice, values, and boundaries  Why healing is not about going back, but becoming more fully yourself As Sharalyn says, what feels unsurvivable can become a pathway — and over time, the glints in the muck may turn out to be diamonds. Sharalyn is connected with : The Women's Healing Sanctuary The Relational Recovery Centre Asia Pacific SASA - help and training in New Zealand Send Jane a note Connect with Jane at Quiet Wisdom Join the Support Group Waitlist

  6. May 14

    Self-Care Confidence: From Survival to Flourishing with Coach Kendra Lee

    What if self-care wasn’t selfish… but essential? In this heartfelt conversation, I’m joined by Kendra DeVito to explore the role of self-care in healing after intimate betrayal. Together, we unpack the guilt, exhaustion and survival-mode thinking that can make caring for yourself feel impossible — especially when you’re overwhelmed, caring for others, or simply trying to get through the day. Kendra shares pieces of her own healing journey after multiple D-Days, raising five children and spending many years without access to trauma-informed support. Through her story, we explore how self-care became more than bubble baths and coffee runs — it became a pathway back to clarity, nervous system regulation, confidence, voice and self-worth. This episode is a gentle invitation to reconnect with yourself in small, meaningful ways. In this episode, we discuss:  Why self-care can feel selfish after betrayal  The connection between self-care and nervous system healing  How betrayal trauma disconnects us from our own needs  Tiny, practical acts of self-care that actually help  Why “what makes me happy?” can feel like such a difficult question  The role of self-talk in rebuilding confidence  Self-care during demanding seasons of motherhood and overwhelm  Receiving “glimmers” of goodness in everyday life  The importance of both self-care and support from others  Moving beyond survival toward flourishing Memorable moments from this conversation: "Self-care helped me find myself, use my voice and gain confidence.” — Kendra “Sometimes self-care is simply slowing down enough to receive the moment you’re already in.” — Jane “I want to go beyond healing and flourish.” — Kendra Practical self-care ideas mentioned in this episode:  Journaling  Walking in nature  Yoga or stretching  Lighting a candle  Drinking coffee slowly and intentionally  Taking deep breaths  Listening to music  Spending time with safe people  Watching something funny  Baking  Painting or colouring  Reading  Bubble baths  Resting without guilt  Turning off your phone  Buying yourself flowers  Watching a sunrise or sunset  Letting yourself cry  Celebrating small wins Connect with Kendra: Kendra offers support groups and coaching through her Ruined to Radiant program. Website: https://ruined2radiant.com Instagram: @coachkendralee Connect with Jane If this episode encouraged you and you’d like more support for healing after betrayal, visit Quiet Wisdom If this conversation resonated with you, please consider rating, reviewing and sharing the podcast with someone who may need encouragement today. Gently does it with your beautiful self. 💛 Send Jane a note Connect with Jane at Quiet Wisdom Join the Support Group Waitlist

  7. Apr 11

    Spiritual Safety after Betrayal with Donna Dixon

    Hello, friend. If betrayal has shaken not only your relationship, but your sense of safety in your faith, this episode is for you. Today, I’m joined by Donna Dixon, founder of A Doorway of Hope, who trains women to facilitate faith-based support groups for those healing from betrayal. Together, we explore a deeply important and often overlooked question: What does it actually mean to feel spiritually safe after betrayal? For many women, betrayal doesn’t just impact trust in a partner — it disrupts trust in themselves, in others, and even in God. Spaces that once felt comforting can suddenly feel confusing, pressuring, or even harmful. In this conversation, we gently unpack:  Why spiritual distress is such a common part of betrayal trauma  The subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways faith spaces can feel unsafe  The impact of messages like “try harder” or “don’t question God”  How betrayal can create a rupture not just in relationships, but in identity and faith  The difference between being tolerated vs truly welcomed  What it looks like to create a spiritual space where you can show up as you are — grief, anger, doubt and all Donna shares a powerful truth: Spiritual safety creates space for your journey — it doesn't pressure you to perform. We also talk about the role of safe community — those “me too” moments where you feel seen, heard, and known — and why those moments are essential for healing. One of my favourite takeaways from this episode is this: Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is pause and be with — instead of fixing, correcting, or rushing someone through their pain. If you’ve ever felt like you don’t quite fit in your faith community anymore…  If you’ve struggled with questions, anger, or distance from God…  If you’ve wondered, “Is there a place for me to be fully honest and still belong?” You are not alone. And there is space for you. Next Steps:  If this conversation resonates, I’d love to invite you to take one small step toward support. You can explore more resources, support options, and gentle next steps at my Quiet Wisdom website. You might appreciate this spiritual perspective in my blogpost: God as a Betrayed Partner To learn more about A Doorway of Hope and Donna's Peer Facilitator Course, click here.  Or simply share this episode with someone who might need to hear the message that you are allowed to be on a journey. Send Jane a note Connect with Jane at Quiet Wisdom Join the Support Group Waitlist

  8. Apr 1

    Not Cheating but Still Lying: Staying Safe when the Lying Persists (with Lisa Taylor)

    What happens when the behaviour stops—but the lying doesn’t? In this powerful and nuanced conversation, I’m joined by Lisa Taylor, a counsellor and APSATS-trained practitioner who specialises in betrayal trauma, sex addiction, and recovery. Together, we explore one of the most painful and confusing aspects of betrayal: ongoing dishonesty—even when there is sobriety. If you’ve found yourself upset with lying, lack of transparency, minimising and evasion, even when you're pretty sure he's no longer acting out   —this episode is for you. We unpack:  Why lying often hurts more than the betrayal itself The difference between lies of omission and lies of commission A deeper look at intent behind dishonesty—from malicious harm to self-protection and carelessness How patterns of lying can become automatic or even unconscious The impact of compartmentalisation and cognitive distortions Why understanding why someone lies does not make it okayMost importantly, we focus on what you can do:  How to discern what’s actually happening How to anchor into your own reality Practical ways to increase your sense of safety Holding your ground with clear, protective boundariesThis episode is especially for women who are:  Navigating a relationship where sobriety is present  Still holding space for repair  Trying to rebuild safety while facing ongoing dishonesty We also gently acknowledge:  Hearing about lying and deception may feel activating. Please listen at your own pace, care for yourself, and reach out for support if needed. My hope is that this conversation brings you clarity, validation, and grounded confidence—so you can make decisions that honour your safety and your truth. Links & Resources: Visit Quiet Wisdom for supportive resources, or explore my free tools designed to help you feel more grounded, clear, and confident after betrayal. Naked Truth Recovery offers groups for men seeking to heal their relationships as they recover from compulsive problematic sexual behaviours. There are also supportive groups for women healing from betrayal trauma. Lisa's books : Beyond Betrayal: How God is Healing Women (and Couples) from Infidelity There's What on my Phone? How God's Good Gift Beats Porn (for kids aged 10-12) Send Jane a note Connect with Jane at Quiet Wisdom Join the Support Group Waitlist

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Confident Again is for women navigating the aftermath of intimate betrayal who want less confusion and more clarity. Clear, compassionate, and grounded, it helps you cut through the fog, find your footing, and step back into strength with steady hope and quiet clarity. If you want betrayal healing wisdom to reconnect with your innate confidence, this podcast is for you.

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  • Creator
    Jane Gibb
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    13
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Confident Again
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