Purfect Sunday

Monti Wheeler

The Purfect Sunday Podcast is a weekly self-improvement podcast for women who are done playing small and ready to become the main character of their own lives. I'm Monti — I'm not an expert. I'm a woman who pays attention. And what I keep noticing is that the thing standing between you and the life you want usually isn't the situation — it's the frame you're seeing it through. So that's what we do here. We change the frame. Every Sunday morning, I bring you a real story, a lesson I learned the hard way, and one thing you can actually take into your week. This is a self-improvement podcast for women who want real talk on confidence, mindset, self-respect, money, relationships, and the small daily habits that change how you show up in the world — no clinical language, no diagnosis, no hustle-culture grind. Here's what this show believes: no matter what hand life dealt you, it's yours to build from here. Every woman is capable of it. This isn't a podcast about unpacking what happened to you — it's a podcast about what you do next. Confidence without the credentials. Mindset without the therapy-speak. Self-improvement that actually feels like your friend telling you the truth on a Sunday morning. Mindset and looks both matter — and both are built the same way: one small, self-respecting choice at a time, until you're so in love with yourself and your life that nothing can disturb your peace. New episodes every Sunday morning. Settle in, hit subscribe, and get ready to become the main character of your own Sunday. — Monti

  1. 3d ago

    26. Fall Has a Cheat Code | How to Romanticize Your Life This Season

    The pretty version of fall is easy to want. You save the pictures in August, you think about the sweaters and the candles and the long, cozy evenings, and then somehow it's the middle of December, and you can't name a single day of it. That's not a discipline problem. Nothing in the beautiful version ever had a day attached to it. In this episode, Monti breaks down ten small sensory rituals that turn three months into a season you'll actually remember — grouped into your house, your days, and your nights. None of it is a project, most of it is free, and every single one is something you were going to do anyway. The difference is being there for it. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: What romanticizing actually means — the plain definition, and why it has nothing to do with buying anything or making it look good for a photoThe four-minute kitchen ritual that makes an entire house smell like October, with the exact ingredients and one safety noteThe rule that changes a room faster than anything you could buy — plus the sleep research that explains why you can't settle in the eveningThe purchase that exists for no reason at all — and why doing one pointless thing a week makes the whole season feel lighterWhy the afternoon is suddenly the best part of the day, and the window that closes the first week of NovemberThree ways to spend an evening that aren't a screen you're only half watching — including the one Monti saves for last, because it's her favoriteHow to spread ten rituals across twelve weeks so you're still enjoying fall in December instead of being over it by HalloweenThis Week's Self Improvement Challenge Do one thing this week. Pick one ritual from the list—whichever one you were already picturing yourself doing—and do it before next Sunday. If you can't choose, start with the simmer pot. It takes four minutes to set up, everything you need is probably already in your kitchen, and it's the one that changes how your whole house feels for the least possible effort. The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession Waterproof Travel Pill Pouch  Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    26. Fall Has a Cheat Code | How to Romanticize Your Life This Season
  2. Sep 20

    25. Undo What Summer Did | Your Fall Glow Up for Hair, Skin and Body

    Summer is rough on a body, and September is when you find out. The hair that feels like straw, the legs that go dry two minutes out of the shower, the congestion and breakouts showing up on a face that was fine in June. That's not you falling apart. That's three or four months of sun, chlorine, salt water, and air conditioning finally adding up to something visible, and right now is the window to deal with it before dry cold air piles on top. In this episode, Monti goes head to toe: what summer did to your hair, skin, and body; how to undo summer damage while it's still easy; and what needs to change in your routine now that the season has turned. Real products, real reasons, no chemistry lecture. Plus one thing at the end that belongs on every glow-up list and never makes it onto one. On this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: What summer really did to your hair — and the cheapest fix that makes the biggest differenceThe congestion that shows up in September — why it happens, and the routine that cleared it fastWhy your July moisturizer stops working — the one thing that changes about the air in fallEverything from the neck down — the parts that age fastest and get the least attentionThe part nobody puts on a glow-up list — the fall habit that lowers your stress hormone and shows up on your faceHow to do all of this without spending three hundred dollars This Week's Self-Improvement Challenge Book the haircut. Or the facial. Or block out time for a hair mask, a DIY skincare night, or a serious exfoliation session. Nothing here has to be a big money or time commitment, unless you want it to be. Start taking small steps toward your glow up, because it's the small things, the right things done consistently, that create a noticeable difference. The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession  EradiKate 3% Sulfur Foaming Cleanser  Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    25. Undo What Summer Did | Your Fall Glow Up for Hair, Skin and Body
  3. Sep 13

    24. Playing Small Isn't Free | The Hidden Cost of Shrinking Yourself

    Playing small is one of the most expensive habits a woman can have, and almost nobody can see themselves doing it — because every single instance of it comes with a perfectly good reason attached. You weren't being cowardly; you were being polite. You weren't hiding; you were being realistic. This episode is about learning to spot the habit in real time, and about what it has quietly been charging you for. In this episode, Monti walks through the ten most common ways women shrink themselves — from the words you pad your sentences with to the way you sit in a room to the things you've decided to call realistic — then breaks down the three costs nobody hands you a bill for, and four things you can actually do about it starting this week. Fair warning: this one is uncomfortable in the best way, and most women recognize three or four of the ten immediately. Why you're picturing the wrong woman — playing small has nothing to do with being shy or quiet, and some of the women who shrink themselves the most are the loudest ones in the room. The reason "just stop shrinking yourself" content never works — you're not doing this because something is broken in you. You're doing it because at some point it worked; you were rewarded for it. The words you put around everything you say — there's an actual name for it, most women do it dozens of times a day without hearing it, and it's the one habit on the list you can start breaking in the next five minutesThe one that surprises everyone — how much room you take up is a conversation your body is having all day, whether you're listening or not; what people pick up on without knowing it, and the good news about which direction it runsDressing so nobody looks at you — the difference between a minimalist style you love and an outfit chosen specifically not to be seen, plus the much bigger version of the same move that can quietly eat years of your lifeWhy the money one compounds — this isn't a one-time number, and the reason it gets more expensive every year you don't fix it is the part most women have never had explained to themThe rooms you'll never hear about — the meanest cost of all, because you never find out it happened. How people actually end up on the short list, and why excellent work done quietly doesn't get you thereWho you turn into if you do it long enough — the point where it stops being something you do and starts being who you are, and what it does to the things you're even willing to wantFour things to actually break the habit — no confidence required, because confidence isn't the thing that comes first. Pick one, start this week The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession Haus Labs Color Fuse Longwear Hydrating Glassy Lip + Cheek Blush Balm Stick. Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    24. Playing Small Isn't Free | The Hidden Cost of Shrinking Yourself
  4. Sep 6

    23. The Great Lock In | How to Plan Your Winter Arc and Finish the Year Strong

    The great lock-in challenge is what's replacing New Year's resolutions this year, and the timing is the entire point: there are 117 days left in 2026, which is a lot more runway than "the year got away from me" makes it sound. September first through December thirty-first, head down, no waiting for January. In this episode, Monti breaks down what the trend actually is, how to set yours up so it survives past week two, and how it's different from the winter arc you're also seeing everywhere. You'll get the clear definition of the great lock in and why the four-month window works when a twelve-month resolution doesn't, the four questions to answer before you pick a single goal, how to shrink a goal that's too big for this window into one you can actually finish by December, the hard cap on how many goals you get and why more than that guarantees you finish none, the one rule that keeps a missed day from turning into a quit, and exactly how the winter arc differs from the lock in — including what to do with the three weeks in between. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: What the great lock-in actually is — the viral challenge taking over your feed explained in plain language, why it's the last real shot at your 2026 goals, and the one way it's deliberately different from rigid challenges like 75 Hard.The four questions to answer before you pick a goal — starting with the one almost nobody asks themselves first, and why answering it in order is what keeps you from copying someone else's lock in instead of building your ownWhy three is the ceiling, not the target — what happens to your follow-through past the third goal, why one is a completely valid number, and how to tell which of your goals actually deserves the effortHow to shrink a big goal so it fits in four months — the difference between a goal you'll abandon in October and one you'll finish in December, with real examples for writing, fitness, and paying down debtGoing after your goals without burning out by week three — the money mistake that quietly sends you right back to the credit card, how to scale a fitness goal week over week instead of all at once, and why small actions repeated are the ones that compoundThe only rule worth keeping when life gets loud — why one missed day is nothing and two in a row is the actual danger, and how to stop a bad day from turning into a story about whether the whole thing is ruinedThe bad-week version of every goal — the ten-minute walk, the one paragraph, the stretch instead of the workout, and why you have to write these down today, while you're calm, instead of trying to invent one at nine o'clock on a WednesdayThe great lock in vs. the winter arc — the ninety-day version starting October first, why you haven't missed anything if that's the one you've been seeing, and how to use the three-week gap so October first isn't day one for you The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience. Sunday Obsession Conair InfinitiPRO Infrared Thermal Brush Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Monti on TikTok, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    23. The Great Lock In | How to Plan Your Winter Arc and Finish the Year Strong
  5. Aug 30

    22. You Don't Need a New Personality | How to Do a September Reset Without Overhauling Your Life

    A September reset for women usually looks like the same thing every year: a list of thirty new rules and a quiet promise to become somebody else by Tuesday. Then week two arrives with a sick kid and a work thing, one morning gets skipped, and the whole month gets filed under "didn't work." So try a different question this year: what would still be running in November? In this episode, Monti makes the case that fall is the better starting line, and that the reset which survives it isn't thirty rules — it's three. You'll get the real reason September outperforms January as a fresh start, the arithmetic that explains why a long list reads as failure even on the days you're crushing it, the three-anchor structure that replaces the thirty-item list (one for your body, one for your space, one for you), the single test every anchor has to pass before it earns a spot, and a five-step way to run the whole thing that takes about five minutes a week. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: Why September beats January as a fresh start — the search data proving this urge isn't a personal quirk, the structural reason fall resets hold when New Year's resolutions evaporate by February, and the quiet advantage September has that almost nobody names out loudThe math that makes your reset impossible to win — why a fifteen-item list you're hitting eighty percent on still reads as failing every single day, and the sentence running underneath most women's plans that guarantees they'll quit something they were actually good atAnchors, not rules, and why the word choice matters — the difference between a thing you break and a thing you come back to, and why one of them is designed for a perfect week while the other is built for the week you're actually going to haveThe three anchors, and how to choose yours — one for your body, one for your space, one for you, plus the test each has to pass before it counts and why the third one is the one everybody drops first (and shouldn't)How to make a habit survive a bad week — why motivation always picks the wrong size, how to attach a new habit to something that already happens instead of to a time, and the bad-day version to write down now, while nothing has gone wrong yetThe one weekly check-in, and when to judge it — how much tracking is enough before it turns obsessive, the date to circle before you decide whether any of this worked, and the only question worth asking when you get there I am not a therapist or a life coach. Everything in this episode is just what I've observed, learned, and what's worked for me. I hope that it's helpful to you too, but please take what's useful and leave the rest. Sunday Obsession  Luv Aj Huggie Earrings  Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Now on YouTube and Spotify: Purfect Sunday — for those of you who'd rather watch. 🎧 Last week: The Fall Reset | What You Need to Audit Before You Can Lock In — the audit that makes the room. Start there if you haven't, because three anchors won't fit into a day that's already full. Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    22. You Don't Need a New Personality | How to Do a September Reset Without Overhauling Your Life
  6. Aug 23

    21. The Fall Reset | What you Need to Audit Before You Can Lock In

    Every fall reset starts the same way — a new routine, a new planner, a fresh list of goals stacked on top of a life that's already completely full. And by mid-October, it's gone, every time. So try a different question this year: what would you have to take away before any of that could actually fit? In this episode, Monti makes the case that fall, not January, is the real window to lock in for the rest of the year — and that a reset only works if you subtract first. You'll get the one question that tells you whether anything in your life is still worth what it's costing you, a five-part audit that runs through your home, your calendar, your people, your attention, and the goal list nobody ever thinks to look at, and the move at the end that turns four ordinary months into the stretch where you finally finish something. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: Why January is the worst time to set a goal — what really happens to all that New Year momentum somewhere around the first warm week, and why the window that opens as summer winds down is the one that keeps producing finished goals instead of abandoned onesEverything you own is charging you rent — the subscription nobody thinks of as a subscription, why the real cost of most things never shows up as hours anywhere on your calendar, and the single question to run every commitment through before you decide to keep itStop organizing and start subtracting — why bins, labels and matching containers quietly make the problem permanent, where to start so the momentum carries you into the harder rooms, and the three-category sort that makes your closet easy againThe recurring yes you never re-decided — how to spot the standing commitments that expired years ago, the honest reason canceling one feels like letting somebody down when nobody would even notice, and the invisible labor that never made it onto the calendar in the first placeTwo questions for the people in your rotation — how to tell which relationships you're actually choosing from the ones running purely on history, and how almost any of them can be adjusted quietly, with no confrontation and nobody having a crisis about itAbout forty things have permission to interrupt you — what constant notifications cost you beyond the interruption itself, why this was never a focus problem or a discipline problem, and the fix that takes about two minutes and no announcementThe one nobody ever audits — your goal list — why a long list is the most reliable way to guarantee none of it happens, what to cross off before anything else, and how to land on the single goal worth locking in on between now and December 31st Sunday Obsession  Sequin Supreme SPF 50 glow-boosting priming sunscreen Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HEREExplore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me 💛

    21. The Fall Reset | What you Need to Audit Before You Can Lock In
  7. Aug 16

    Wrong Ruler | Why You Feel Behind in Life and How to Stop

    Feeling behind in life is almost universal among women, and yet nobody can ever say who set the deadline they think they missed. Ask the question out loud — who decided you were supposed to have the house, the relationship, the career, the savings number by a specific age? — and the whole thing starts to dissolve. In this episode, Monti makes the case that there's nothing wrong with your pace. You're just reading your life off a ruler somebody else built. You'll get the two words quietly turning everything you want into something you've already failed at, a single question that separates the goals that are actually yours from the ones you inherited, and a six-step reset for the vague, heavy feeling that you're not where you're supposed to be. Monti's not a therapist or a life coach — she's your Sunday friend. Take what's useful and leave the rest. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: Who actually wrote the timeline you're being graded on — the four accidental sources your deadlines came from, why not one of them was built with your life in mind, and the question that makes a "should have by now" fall apart when you trace it backThe comparison trap is worse than you think — why you're not competing with one woman, but with a composite of several who don't exist as one person, and the reason there's someone out there convinced you're the one who has it togetherThe two most expensive words in your head — how "by now" quietly converts an open goal into a closed verdict, why you stop chasing things you've decided you already failed at, and the one-word swap that reopens the doorThe nobody-finds-out test — one question that tells you in about four seconds whether you actually want a thing or just want to stop being the woman who doesn't have it, and what to do with everything that doesn't survive itEverything the scoreboard has no column for — the enormous things you've already done that no timeline anywhere tracks, and why the years that look like nothing on paper are often the ones that built youWhy "late" isn't a real category — the closed loop where feeling behind becomes the actual reason you fall behind, and what changes about a woman once she stops checking her progress against everybody else'sThe six-step reset — from the ten-minute list to the social media audit to the two-word phrase that defuses the comparison in real time, while it's happening Sunday Obsession  Caffeine Solution and BIODANCE Hydrogel Eye Patches  Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERETo follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE Follow me on Substack HERETo check out my ShopMy, click HERETo check out my LTK, click HERETo check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERETo join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com

    Wrong Ruler | Why You Feel Behind in Life and How to Stop
  8. Aug 9

    19. Don't Blink | How to End Your Summer With Zero Regrets

    When you imagine ending a summer with no regrets, what do you picture first — a calendar packed with trips and plans, or something a lot quieter than that? In this episode Monti is talking about why the busiest summers are so often the ones that leave you feeling like you missed it, and why end-of-summer regret has almost nothing to do with how much you actually did. You'll walk away with a ten-minute exercise for getting honest about what you'd really be sad to miss, the one move that turns a vague good intention into something that actually happens, and a way to close out the season that leaves you walking into fall feeling full instead of cheated. Monti's not a therapist or a life coach — she's your Sunday friend. Take what's useful and leave the rest. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: Why a packed calendar was never the same thing as a good season — where end-of-summer regret actually comes from, and the reason the fullest summers can still leave you feeling strangely emptyThe comparison trap that ruins the summer you actually had — what it costs you to measure your real season against the version you've been scrolling past all July, and how to stop grieving a summer that was never yoursThe end-of-summer audit — a ten-minute exercise for getting clear on what you'd genuinely regret missing, why the list has to stay short to work at all, and how writing it down changes what happens nextWhy "someday" is the most expensive word in your calendar — how good intentions quietly expire without you ever noticing, and the single move that converts one of them into something real this weekThe free practice that protects you from regret better than any plan — why the days you'll wish you'd soaked up aren't the big ones, and what it takes to be present for the ordinary parts of a season while they're still happeningHow to close a season on purpose — the step almost nobody takes, why skipping it leaves you feeling like summer got taken from you, and three small ways to give it a real ending This Week's Self-Improvement Challenge:  Two small things. First, do your end-of-summer audit — ten minutes, one honest list of what you'd be sad to miss. Then take one thing off it and put it on the calendar this week. An actual day. An actual time. One list. One thing scheduled. That's how you stop the season from slipping away. Sunday Obsessions Only Human  Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a 5-star rating and a review mean the world and help more women find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for the women who are done playing small and ready to become the main character of their own life. Never miss an update: join the Purfect Sunday Newsletter HERE Follow me on Substack HERE To connect with Monti on Instagram, click HERE To follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE  To check out my LTK, click HERE To check out my ShopMy, click HERE To check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERE Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me. I hope you have a Purfect Sunday. 💛

    19. Don't Blink | How to End Your Summer With Zero Regrets
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The Purfect Sunday Podcast is a weekly self-improvement podcast for women who are done playing small and ready to become the main character of their own lives. I'm Monti — I'm not an expert. I'm a woman who pays attention. And what I keep noticing is that the thing standing between you and the life you want usually isn't the situation — it's the frame you're seeing it through. So that's what we do here. We change the frame. Every Sunday morning, I bring you a real story, a lesson I learned the hard way, and one thing you can actually take into your week. This is a self-improvement podcast for women who want real talk on confidence, mindset, self-respect, money, relationships, and the small daily habits that change how you show up in the world — no clinical language, no diagnosis, no hustle-culture grind. Here's what this show believes: no matter what hand life dealt you, it's yours to build from here. Every woman is capable of it. This isn't a podcast about unpacking what happened to you — it's a podcast about what you do next. Confidence without the credentials. Mindset without the therapy-speak. Self-improvement that actually feels like your friend telling you the truth on a Sunday morning. Mindset and looks both matter — and both are built the same way: one small, self-respecting choice at a time, until you're so in love with yourself and your life that nothing can disturb your peace. New episodes every Sunday morning. Settle in, hit subscribe, and get ready to become the main character of your own Sunday. — Monti

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