Sexy Marriage Radio

Dr Corey and Pam Allan
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Straight-forward, honest conversations and actions to create a life and marriage fully alive!

  1. 1d ago

    Nothing To Ride #787

    This episode picks up from "She Knows How to Ride" (two weeks ago), shifting focus from the wife's physical pain journey to her husband's inner experience — seen through her eyes. The couple entered marriage with high hopes and open communication about their sexual relationship. But on their honeymoon, penetrative sex was too painful for her to complete. A year later, little has changed — and he's become increasingly withdrawn, citing tiredness or lack of desire, leaving her feeling rejected and questioning herself. Dr. Corey and Pam explore two possible explanations for his withdrawal: 1. He may genuinely be the lower-desire partner. This is more common than people expect — roughly 25–30% of marriages have a higher-desire wife. If so, the question isn't why he isn't initiating more, but whether he can distinguish between his actual desire level and the desire he's buried to avoid causing her pain. 2. He may be hiding behind "kindness." He could be a higher-desire man who's pulled back out of fear of hurting her — physically and emotionally. But there's a harder question underneath that: is he protecting her, or managing his own anxiety? Because what she actually wants isn't a husband who goes through the motions of obligatory sex — she wants someone present and engaged, something worth riding. The episode draws a parallel to Corey and Pam's own early marriage, where a disclosure just before the wedding shut Corey down for years — a reminder that a single event can rewrite the script for a long time, but it doesn't have to be permanent. The real issue isn't which scenario applies to him. It's whether he's willing to lean in and find out — to be known, to show up with presence even when the answers aren't clear yet. That presence changes everything: the quality of touch, eye contact, the feeling of actual connection versus going through the motions. In the extended content: a deeper dive into the masculine-feminine dynamic and what presence actually looks like in marriage. The post Nothing To Ride #787 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

    29 min

  2. Jun 24

    When Life Turns Upside Down #786

    This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio Pam and I talk about the challenges of applying relationship knowledge in real life, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and system disruption to foster genuine change in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through what it really looks like to make better self-respecting moves in life and marriage Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post When Life Turns Upside Down #786 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

    18 min

  3. Jun 17

    She Knows How To Ride #785

    This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio Pam and I talk about the challenges of applying relationship knowledge in real life, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and system disruption to foster genuine change in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through what it really looks like to make better self-respecting moves in life and marriage Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post She Knows How To Ride #785 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

    25 min

  4. Jun 10

    Understanding Isn’t The Problem #784

    This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio Pam and I talk about the challenges of applying relationship knowledge in real life, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and system disruption to foster genuine change in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through what it really looks like to make better self-respecting moves in life and marriage Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Understanding Isn’t The Problem #784 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

    29 min

  5. Jun 3

    From the Swingers Club to Sunday Morning #783

    This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio explores the complex dynamics of desire, intimacy, and past experiences in marriage, focusing on a couple's journey from swinging to a faith-based relationship. We discuss how desire, exhaustion, and personal values influence sexual intimacy and how couples can navigate these challenges with understanding and intentionality. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We explore in more detail about the dilemma of the emailer asking is they should open up their marriage again and how that aligns with her Christian faith. Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post From the Swingers Club to Sunday Morning #783 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

    26 min

  6. May 27

    Best of SMR: Initiation Mistakes Married People Make #782

    In this Best of SMR episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex.  There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so easy to make. We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or crude initiations, feeling the need to be as turned on as your partner, using the same initiation method every time, and talking yourself out of initiating.  Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … What make authenticity and vulnerability in marriage so difficult? Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? The reactions to vulnerable moments? Both? Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Initiation Mistakes Married People Make #782 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

    30 min

  7. May 20

    SMR Honest Reflections #781

    Corey is celebrating a milestone birthday this year, so this episode explores the recurring themes in marriage, personal growth, and the importance of self-awareness. Join us as we reflect on lessons learned over years of marriage and shared experiences, emphasizing the value of courage, authenticity, and continuous self-improvement. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post SMR Honest Reflections #781 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

    39 min

  8. May 13

    3 Habits To Improve Your Marriage This Summer | Gary and Lisa Thomas #780

    In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I are joined by Gary and Lisa Thomas as we talk through some simple habits you can do this summer that will have impact on your marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post 3 Habits To Improve Your Marriage This Summer | Gary and Lisa Thomas #780 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

    51 min
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Straight-forward, honest conversations and actions to create a life and marriage fully alive!

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  • Creator
    Dr Corey and Pam Allan
  • Years Active
    2011 - 2026
  • Episodes
    787
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    Sexy Marriage Radio

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