Meant For You

Polina & Yelena

We believe we all have paths that are meant for us, but getting to a place where we are living a life we won't regret, while juggling the demands of our families and everything life throws at us is a daily saga. In each episode, we give you a new perspective or idea, introduce you to fascinating people, make you smile or help you realize you are never alone. When you are openminded, even the smallest shifts in mindset, can set you on a path that allows you to live your fullest life. We aim to give you the mindset shift that connects you to choices that feel meant for you. As moms, and news junkies, alongside books, philosophy, travel, culture and careers, we also cover current events. Our topics revolve around living a full life and finding the courage to reveal our true selves. Clarity comes through action, so we want to encourage you to take the next step. while not missing the beauty and lessons each day brings us. We are just getting started on our midlife adventures and excited for you to join the ride. Follow us on Instagram @meantforyoupod or reach out to us at meantforyoupod@gmail.com

  1. 12/20/2025

    Foster Care to Yale: The Truth About Luxury Beliefs with Rob Henderson

    Rob Henderson, known for coining the term "luxury beliefs," joins us to discuss his memoir Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class. Rob shares his extraordinary path—from homelessness and the LA foster care system, to adoption in rural Northern California, to enlisting in the Air Force at 17, and eventually studying at Yale and Cambridge. Rob shares research that shows how childhood instability (more than poverty alone) shapes life outcomes; why the foster system is so under-resourced; how elite cultural narratives can unintentionally harm the very communities they claim to help; and how certain "status beliefs" spread through universities and media. We discuss the hypocrisy and social dynamics of campus ideology, the "Halloween costume controversy" at Yale, and why honest conversations about family structure, class, and social policy are so hard to have yet so critical for making real progress. Key themes and Quotes Luxury beliefs give status to the elite—and the costs are paid by people with the least power." Poverty alone doesn't predict failure. Instability does." The people most skeptical of family are usually the ones who grew up in intact families. "They live like it's the 1950s—and talk like it's the 1960s." "I benefited from structure, plan to give it to my kids—and publicly argue others shouldn't." "Elite students condemn capitalism on Monday and interview at Goldman Sachs on Wednesday." Foster Care / Instability Truths "You don't need the worst childhood to feel the damage of instability."  Privilege / Backlash Lines "Telling struggling kids they're privileged doesn't create compassion—it creates resentment." Check out our website: https://meantforyoupod.com Reach out to us: meantforyoupod@gmail.com Follow us on IG If you enjoyed this episode, you may also like these conversations: Brandy Shufutinsky on the Marxist Roots of Ethic Studies Your School's Ethic Studies Curriculum with Monica Harris from FAIR For ALL Key Topics + Timeline 01:00–02:13 – Why labels like "privileged/unprivileged" flatten real life; every story is individual 04:15 – Rob explains who he wrote the book for: the typical educated reader + the kid in chaos who needs hope 07:30–12:00 – Rob's "three names" origin story: biological parents, homelessness, foster care, adoption 11:16 – Red Bluff, CA: family fragmentation, addiction, instability in a working-class town 12:40–16:30 – Foster-care policy: frequent moves to avoid attachment; "least bad option" dilemmas 18:15 – Why foster care gets little attention (and why stories are painful to face) 19:00–23:30 – What made Rob "successful": curiosity + the military as structure, mentors, and environment shift 25:17–29:46 – Research distinction: harshness (poverty) vs instability (unpredictability) as predictors 27:38 – Striking stats: college graduation rates—poor kids vs foster kids (as cited by Rob) 32:10–36:52 – "Luxury beliefs": elites "walk the 50s, talk the 60s"; the social mechanism of cultural messaging 39:18 – After-school programs, screens, and class gaps in supervision/structure 41:39–46:20 – Luxury beliefs as social currency: status signaling through "virtue" positions (white privilege, defund police) 46:20–53:21 – Ethnic studies curricula + backlash: why telling struggling kids they're "privileged" can fuel resentment 57:46–01:02:27 – Yale 2015 Halloween controversy + the irony of Rob being told he's "too privileged" 01:03:00–01:07:07 – Veblen → Bourdieu → Henderson: from luxury goods to cultural capital to luxury beliefs 01:09:09–01:11:18 – Careerism + hypocrisy: condemning institutions while competing to join them 01:11:18–01:15:45 – Post–Oct 7 campus protests; when beliefs meet real consequences 01:15:45–01:18:03 – Hope for higher education: reform, alternatives, and "you don't have to go to college" 01:18:03–01:20:27 – Why the story resonates beyond foster care; instability, immigration, divorce, loneliness

    1h 22m
  2. 12/07/2025

    Sarah Hurwitz: Chosen for Responsibility, Judaism, Israel, and the Battle Over the Jewish Story

    Former Michelle Obama speechwriter Sarah Hurwitz joins us to explore the world of Jewish wisdom she discovered beyond ethnic jokes, bagels, and a vague sense of guilt. She shares how her culturally Jewish upbringing transformed into a deeply learned, joyful identity—and why real Jewish study is essential if we want to withstand modern antisemitism. We trace how 2,000 years of Christian anti-Judaism, Nazi antisemitism, and Soviet anti-Zionism have been funneled into today's leftist campus ideologies—shaping the anti-Israel narratives dominating universities, media, and movements on both the far left and far right. Most people don't even realize they're repeating propaganda from the soviets and nazis. We also cover the idea that every human being is created in the image of God shaped democracy and human rights, and why "the chosen people" is wildly misunderstood, it's a burden of responsibility, not a claim of superiority. Sarah also explains Judaism as a living, evolving interpretive tradition (hello, 2,500 years of commentary and argument), why dissent and chavruta-style debate are sacred. Sarah ends on a surprisingly hopeful note - so listen in to hear her message. 06:30 — Judaism as wisdom, not just religion or holidays 09:00 — Why antisemitism keeps reinventing itself 12:30 — Image of God, equality & the Jewish roots of democracy 15:00 — The title As a Jew and reclaiming identity without apology 18:00 — Internalized antisemitism & the "cultural Jew" problem 21:30 — What Jews actually are: peoplehood, tribe, civilization 24:00 — Campus antisemitism 27:30 — Israel, refugees & dismantling the "original sin" myth 31:00 — Zionism explained (without the hysteria) 34:30 — Qatar, ideology, and what's shaping academia 37:00 — Michelle Obama, "silence," and the problem with performative activism 40:00 — Chosenness redefined: responsibility, not superiority 43:00 — Jewish law evolves: debate, dissent & chavruta 46:00 — How observant is Sarah now?  48:30 — What gives Sarah hope for Jews in 2025 51:00 — Jewish spirituality, bodies, death rituals & chaplaincy 54:00 — Parting wisdom: why Jewish learning is the antidote Topics Discussed: The history of Israel's founding: land purchased at inflated prices, UN partition, war, refugees on all sides and why Israel is not founded on some unique "original sin" Palestinian refugees, UNRWA, and why Palestinians are treated as a unique, multi-generational refugee category in a way that has harmed both Palestinians and Israelis. Qatar's influence and money in U.S. universities and how that has influenced academic discourse on Israel. Why Sarah, as a proud Zionist and proud American, rejects the idea that Jews can't be loyal Americans. What "chosenness" really means in Jewish tradition (spoiler: not racial superiority) The Jewish idea that every person is created b'tzelem Elohim (in the image of God) and how that idea helped shape the moral core of American democracy How chavruta (study partnership) and argument "for the sake of heaven" sharpens thinking and deepens truth—illustrated live in Polina, Yelena, and Sarah's back-and-forth What's next for Sarah https://www.sarahhurwitz.net Check out our website: https://meantforyoupod.com Reach out to us: meantforyoupod@gmail.com Follow us on IG If you enjoyed this episode, you may like these conversations: Our previous podcast with Sarah discussing her first book, Here All Along Brandy Shufutinsky on the Marxist Roots of Ethic Studies Rabbi  Steve Leder, History, Faith , DEI, Ethics, Anxiety and Awe Sophia Khalifa, Bedouin Muslim Israeli Engineer Shares Why She Became an Acivitist for Israel Dumisani Washinton, Pastor, CEO and Author of Zionism and the Black Church Soviet Anti-Semitism with Izabala Tabarosky,  Erin Molan Fearless Reporter and Advocate for Humanity

    1h 7m
  3. 11/22/2025

    Your School's Ethnic Studies Curriculum Might Be More Radical Than You Think - Monica Harris Explains Why

    Monica Harris is the Executive Director of FAIR For All,  a Harvard Law graduate, former Hollywood executive, and author of The Illusion of Division. Monica explains how her experience as a gay Black woman in Hollywood and then in "flyover country"shattered many elite narratives about America. She describes why she believes much of our current polarization is manufactured by media and political interests, and how identity-based frameworks like liberated ethnic studies and DEI are deepening division rather than healing it. We dig into the following: Why "Liberated Ethnic Studies" is dividing students, not uniting them How modern DEI programs drifted far from genuine civil rights principles Why identity-based teaching harms kids socially and emotionally The catastrophic decline in civic education—and why it matters now more than ever How the American Experience curriculum offers a unifying alternative What parents MUST know about what's being taught in classrooms today This conversation is a must-listen for parents, educators, and anyone concerned about polarization, education, and the future of democracy.   Resources & Links FAIR For All: https://fairforall.org Monica's Substack: The Illusion of Division Monica's book, "The Ilusion of Division" If you want to know about this topic, listen to our podcast with Brandy Shufutinsky: The Marxist Roots of Coursework in K-12 and our College Campuses.   Quotes "We have so much more in common than what separates us, but division is being manufactured." "Kids don't need to see each other as oppressors and oppressed—they need tools for civil discourse." "The bones of America are exceptional" "At FAIR, we're asking: what comes after polarization? Everyone can diagnose the problem; we're focused on solutions." "The entire liberated ethnic studies model flies in the face of reality on the ground. It pits students against each other at the exact moment in life when they most need to see each other as allies." ⏱ Episode Timestamps 00:00 -Welcome & Monica's California-to-Harvard-to-Hollywood story 05:00 -Leaving Hollywood for Montana: the real story behind the culture shock 07:50 - Why Monica wrote The Illusion of Division 09:20 — What FAIR For All does across education, arts, medicine & law 13:00 — Inside the American Experience curriculum 15:00 — The problems with Liberated Ethnic Studies 19:00 — Why America's system needs repair, not replacement 20:30 — How social media fuels division and fear 24:00 — "This isn't capitalism"—the economic reality young people face 26:00 — The collapse of civics education & why it matters 32:00 — How FAIR's curriculum teaches civil discourse & unifying history 35:00 — Why parents are the key to changing school districts 38:00 — What's happening in California, Oregon & other states 42:00 — When students should take the course: age, grade level & design 44:30 — The pilot program: access, cost & rollout plans 47:00 — How ethnic studies frames Jews, Asians & successful minorities as "privileged" 50:00 — Why human beings will always choose freedom over authoritarianism 51:00 — Closing thoughts & how to learn more

    49 min
  4. 11/18/2025

    From "America Is Evil" to American Exceptionalism: Lucy Biggers' Turnaround

    In this episode, we speak with Lucy Biggers, head of social media at The Free Press and a former climate activist who has completely rethought the story she was telling the world and herself. Lucy shares how she went from a left-wing digital newsroom steeped in oppressor–oppressed ideology and climate doomsday content to slowly "re-educating" herself, especially after COVID lockdowns made her question what the climate movement was really asking of ordinary people. We talk about how smart, idealistic young people get pulled into movements, from climate activism to "Free Palestine" marches and democratic socialists like AOC and Zohran Mamdani, often in search of purpose, belonging, and someone to blame. Lucy walks us through the emotional cost of changing her mind in public, losing old followers, gaining new ones, and learning to stand on principle instead of group approval. We also go bigger: what's happening in our universities and K–12 schools, the rise of extreme voices on both the woke left and the conspiratorial right, and why Lucy still believes in American exceptionalism, free thinking, and the courage to say, "I was wrong" as an act of wisdom, not shame. The Free Press   Key Timestamps + Signature Quotes 00:00 — Introduction & Lucy's Background Quote: "I debunk the fear around climate change because people deserve the truth, not terror." 01:10 — Why We Wanted Lucy On Quote: "So many young people today are operating from a state of fear." — Yelena 01:52 — Lucy's Political Journey Quote: "I lived half my twenties believing America was evil — I was completely swept up in it." 02:30 — Inside the Newsroom Groupthink Quote: "It was ground zero for oppressor–oppressed ideology. I didn't realize how deep it ran." 03:50 — Her Climate Activism Years Quote: "Activism became my meaning, my identity, my way to feel good about myself." 05:01 — COVID Breaks the Spell Quote: "The world shut down and emissions fell only 5%. I thought—what exactly do they want from us?" 05:45 — Quietly Leaving the Movement Quote: "I gave myself space to think for the first time in years." 06:49 — Going Public With New Beliefs Quote: "I had to develop a stronger center of truth than the pushback waiting for me." 07:05 — How Brainwashing Happens Quote: "I'd do anything to fit in — that's how the ideology hooks you." 09:28 — Re-Education & Books That Changed Her Quote: "I wasn't deprogrammed overnight — I had to re-educate myself page by page." 10:17 — Can Universities Be Saved? Quote: "Six billion dollars from Qatar changes what gets taught. Money goes a long way." — Polina 11:05 — Why Young People Hate the West Quote: "America is imperfect — but exceptional. Most of the world can't tell their kids to 'follow your dreams.'" 12:43 — How Bad Ideas Spread Online Quote: "You see a headline, you don't read the article, and your brain absorbs fear as fact." 16:49 — Losing Followers & Building a New Audience Quote: "I lost thousands at first — then gained tens of thousands who actually want the truth." 19:35 — Friendships & Family After Changing Beliefs Quote: "My real friends stayed. The ones who left were never real in the first place." 20:46 — Climate Activists → Free Palestine Movement Quote: "It's the same psychological pattern: well-meaning young people taught a black-and-white story." 21:58 — Social Media Censorship Quote: "In 2019, I would have been banned for simply asking questions." 23:12 — Climate Facts No One Teaches Quote: "CO₂ is 0.04% of the atmosphere. How did I not know that after years covering climate?" 25:04 — When Activism Becomes a Religion Quote: "There's a crisis of meaning — causes become the new church." — Yelena 26:51 — The Bigger Ideology Behind It Quote: "I used to think 'Marxism' critiques were crazy. Now I see they were right." 27:33 — What Gives Her Hope Quote: "When one person stands up, it creates a resonance that gives others permission to do the same." 30:23 — Mumdani, AOC & Democratic Socialists Quote: "Feeling like a victim is a dead end — you can't build a life from that mindset." 33:11 — AOC's Brand Trap Quote: "She never had space to change — her entire identity depends on that worldview." 34:09 — What Do We Do About Schools & Universities? Quote: "It's time for new institutions — maybe even a Free Press University." 36:13 — Tucker, Candace & the New Far-Right Quote: "Extremism on the right mirrors extremism on the left — it's the same loss of grounding." 39:01 — Why It's Hard to Push Back on the Right Quote: "Not everyone stands on principle — the last two months showed us that clearly." 41:48 — Accountability vs. Blame Quote: "Each side finds someone to blame. No one wants accountability." — Yelena 42:47 — John Fetterman's Example Quote: "He hasn't moved — everyone else has." — Polina 43:22 — Where to Follow Lucy Quote: "If you follow me anywhere, follow me on Instagram — it's where I speak most freely." 43:52 — Polina's Closing Reflection Quote: "Wisdom is having the courage to say: I was wrong."

    48 min
  5. 09/29/2025

    The Queen of Kefir: Julie Smolyansky on CEO Guts, Courage & Stamina

    Our guest is Julie Smolyansky, CEO of Lifeway Foods, the company that pioneered the kefir market in America and today produces 95% of the kefir sold in the U.S. Julie's story begins in 1976, when her parents immigrated from Kiev ( the former Soviet Union)  to Chicago. Her mother opened a deli, while her father, a mechanical engineer, missed the kefir he had back in the Soviet Union so he started making his own, and from that, Lifeway Foods was born. In 2002, tragedy struck. Julie's father, Michael Smolyansky, died suddenly of a heart attack. At just 27, Julie stepped into the CEO role, becoming the youngest female CEO of a publicly traded company. Under her leadership, Lifeway expanded its product lines and grew internationally. Today, with revenues topping $200 million, Julie has proven herself a powerhouse CEO—while also raising two daughters, running marathons, reading voraciously, and giving back through philanthropy and community leadership. This is the kind of conversation we love: a woman courageously living a full, multidimensional life. In this episode, we cover her parents' immigrant journey, the rise of kefir in America, the science of gut health, and Lifeway's latest innovations, including kefir with collagen and creatine.   This conversation is about courage, resilience, and building a full life. We get into: ✨ Her family's immigrant journey from Kiev to Chicago ✨ How kefir conquered America ✨ The science of gut health ✨ Lifeway's bold new products (yes—kefir with collagen + creatine!)   Check out our website: https://meantforyoupod.com Reach out to us: meantforyoupod@gmail.com Follow us on IG

    50 min
4.9
out of 5
107 Ratings

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We believe we all have paths that are meant for us, but getting to a place where we are living a life we won't regret, while juggling the demands of our families and everything life throws at us is a daily saga. In each episode, we give you a new perspective or idea, introduce you to fascinating people, make you smile or help you realize you are never alone. When you are openminded, even the smallest shifts in mindset, can set you on a path that allows you to live your fullest life. We aim to give you the mindset shift that connects you to choices that feel meant for you. As moms, and news junkies, alongside books, philosophy, travel, culture and careers, we also cover current events. Our topics revolve around living a full life and finding the courage to reveal our true selves. Clarity comes through action, so we want to encourage you to take the next step. while not missing the beauty and lessons each day brings us. We are just getting started on our midlife adventures and excited for you to join the ride. Follow us on Instagram @meantforyoupod or reach out to us at meantforyoupod@gmail.com

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