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Every week, Danny M. Lavery brings on a guest to answer questions from listeners before diving into conversation about relationships, dissatisfaction, drives, regrets, estrangement, embarrassment, self-assessments, and feelings from the monumental to the minute.

Big Mood, Little Mood with Daniel M. Lavery Slate Magazine

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.3 • 954 Ratings

Every week, Danny M. Lavery brings on a guest to answer questions from listeners before diving into conversation about relationships, dissatisfaction, drives, regrets, estrangement, embarrassment, self-assessments, and feelings from the monumental to the minute.

    The Point of It All

    The Point of It All

    Danny Lavery welcomes Inkoo Kang, a TV critic for The Washington Post, and host of the podcast, All About Almodóvar. 
    Lavery and Kang give advice to a letter writer experiencing job burnout and wondering if she’ll feel hopeless forever. They also take a deep dive with their own experience with job burnout, which somehow leads to a discussion on who was actually wearing wigs on the TV show Mare of Easttown.
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    Email: mood@slate.com
    Need advice? Send Danny a question here.
    Production by Phil Surkis
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    • 47 min
    How Do I Look?

    How Do I Look?

    Danny Lavery welcomes actress Gates McFadden. McFadden is the host of the new podcast, Gates McFadden Investigates: Who Do You Think You Are? 
    Lavery and McFadden give advice to a letter writer who’s not thrilled about his wife’s botox injections. Also, McFadden talks about her transformative experience at the Jacques Lecoq school in Paris, and connecting with her former Star Trek co-stars on her new podcast.
    Slate Plus members get another episode of Big Mood, Little Mood every Friday, sign up now for just $1 for your first month.
    Need advice? Send Danny a question here.
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    • 42 min
    Man-Baby Syndrome

    Man-Baby Syndrome

    Danny Lavery welcomes author of How to Write an Autobiographical Novel, Alexander Chee. Lavery and Chee give advice to a letter writer whose partner revealed his abusive, jealous personality only after moving in together. Also, Lavery and Chee talk about finding a good therapist, couples therapy via 90s films, and all sorts of monogamies.
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    • 47 min
    That Orson Welles Feeling

    That Orson Welles Feeling

    On this first episode of Big Mood, Little Mood, Danny Lavery starts to shed his almost 5 years of being “Dear Prudence”, and stretches out with his first guest, Aubrey Gordon. Gordon is a columnist for SELF Magazine and the author of What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat. She also co-hosts Maintenance Phase, a podcast that debunks and decodes weight loss and wellness trends.
    Lavery and Gordon give advice to a letter writer who is unsure where she stands with her husband after 18 years, and another letter writer whose partner’s picky eating may be a health risk. Also, Lavery and Gordon chop it up on diet culture, books tours, John Candy as Orson Wells, Warhammer, and so, so much more.
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    • 1 hr
    Bite Fight

    Bite Fight

    Listeners: This will be the last week of the Dear Prudence podcast, as Danny Lavery is ending his run as Prudence. But keep listening to this feed—Danny’s new show, Big Mood, Little Mood with Danny Lavery, will premiere next week!
    Prudence is joined this week by Kate Duffy, a licensed clinical social worker in New York. 
    Prudie and Duffy dig into letters about what to do when your husband bites your finger hard during an argument, should you intervene when you hear a neighbor yelling at a child, how to handle finding out that your friend group is always hanging out without you, how to know if a friendship with your one-time bestie is still salvageable. 
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    • 55 min
    Unconscionable Ex

    Unconscionable Ex

    Prudence is joined this week by Maddy Court, a writer and zinemaker. Her first book, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend is My Girlfriend, an almanac of relationship advice for queer women with art and comics by Kelsey Wroten, is forthcoming from Chronicle Books.
    Prudie and Court tackle letters about how to protect your daughter from sexual harassment in her first restaurant job, should you tell your mom to stop talking about how much she regrets her past, what actions to take when you find out that your ex-husband cheated with your now deceased mother, what to do when you and your husband don’t agree on how to handle an your increasingly aggressive dog. 
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    • 50 min

Customer Reviews

4.3 out of 5
954 Ratings

954 Ratings

mbsr31 ,

Love love!

Dear prudence offers great advice and honestly there have been times when her answers to people’s problems have helped me with similar issues. It’s helped me not feel alone in this crazy time.
Update:I still like the show and I’m giving the new format a chance but there was a question today with that person who wrote who said their life being meaningless and I’m not really sure I guess it was a joke but then He was like well ‘if your life feels meaningless you should transition!’ Then he double downed on it and said it again it didn’t really sound like a joke and the person who was answering questions with him seemed a little put off and transition os serious and can be a great thing for a person but you don’t just transition because you’re depressed and you feel like life is meaningless .I don’t know I just “ found that strange I still like the show. I just had to mention it

HannahDoubleU ,

Miss Dear Prudence

I’m primarily interested in the advice so the new show doesn’t have enough of that for me. (Although, I’d be open to something like this old show had at the very beginning where Danny would riff on something random for a little while). I wish we were getting more than one question and less of the guests.

liontotema ,

Been a listener since day 1 - never got bored of this pod

I don’t necessarily agree with everything Danny days but the questions and discussions are always engaging and thought provoking and the guests are great. Thanks Danny !

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