You built the life you were supposed to want. The career, the wins, the whole thing. And lately you've been quietly wondering why you don't want it anymore, and then feeling insane for wondering, because nothing is technically wrong. You're not insane. It's happening to almost every woman I know. Krista posted a reel about it that went viral, and the second I saw it I thought, there it is. That's the thing. Every woman she knows is pivoting. Walking away from careers they spent a decade building, from lives that looked good from the outside, toward something they can't fully explain yet. And I couldn't scroll past it, because it's happening everywhere I turn. My friends. The group chats. Me. So I brought her in, because we had to talk about it. Here's what we got into. So much of what we've been calling ambition our whole lives was never ambition. It was a trauma response in a nice outfit. We performed. We over-functioned. We achieved, and got rewarded for it, and quietly ran ourselves into the ground doing it. Nobody tells you the thing that built your whole life can be the same thing making you disappear. We got into the difference between being called to leave something and just running from it, because they feel identical and they are not the same thing. The pieces of ourselves we left behind chasing all of it, and how a lot of us are quietly going back to get her. And then female friendship, which is where I cried, because that's the part nobody prepares you for either. This one is for the woman quietly outgrowing her life who hasn't told a soul. The one running a life that fit her five years ago and doesn't anymore. And the one starting to suspect that the ambition that got her here isn't the thing that's going to take her where she actually wants to go. If this is you, tell me in the comments. And if it helped, subscribe. That's what tells the algorithm to bring more women like you here. FOLLOW KRISTA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristawilliams Almost 30: https://almost30.com/ FOLLOW VALERIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog FOLLOW NOT ALONE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notalonepod TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.pod Podcast: https://www.notalonepod.com/ SHOP THIS EPISODE Shop my look: https://shopmy.us/collections/7925852 Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT 2:00 The pivot every woman is quietly making 3:08 The year and a half we've been circling this 4:30 Beyond achievement, beyond what everyone told me to be 5:42 When ambition is really a trauma response 7:03 Playing the roles: mom, wife, the woman who has it together 8:18 How our relationships are changing too 9:19 The marriage that ended at thirty-four 11:52 Why women are done performing 13:47 You don't have to fix everything 16:24 What the twenty-year-olds are eating up 18:30 I want visibility: the wanting we perform at work 20:58 I love everybody, I'm having the best time (are you?) 22:22 Giving your emotions to your little girl 25:00 Sometimes it's a gift, sometimes it's a lot 28:20 What her flow actually looks like 30:40 The leadership coach, and doing the work 33:00 Called to leave, or running away? They feel identical 33:59 What do I actually want? 35:15 Why the saying-no conversation triggers her 36:07 Can I? Should I? Do I even want to? 38:40 Loneliness, and what it's really telling you 40:00 How to truthfully answer what you want 43:50 You're becoming a whole new woman 45:53 Watching it happen to the women around her 48:48 The divorce phase, and coming out the other side 51:20 How she showed up in the hardest times 54:00 The premonition, and trusting what she knew 57:36 Holding good and grateful and still wanting more 1:00:00 Female friendship, and learning how to receive love 1:02:30 When we feel like we're overdoing something 1:05:00 Her village of women 1:07:17 Making your next choice a soulful one 1:08:30 The women over fifty living the most beautiful lives 1:10:54 A decade in spirituality, and what it taught her 1:13:00 The need to optimize, and letting it go 1:15:00 Rapid fire 1:16:00 What women aren't saying out loud Disclaimer: The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links, I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
