Legally Clueless

Legally Clueless

Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790

  1. 14 hr ago

    How Much Of Yourself Have You Abandoned For Love? | For Mannerless Women

    What happens when loving someone slowly becomes abandoning yourself? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with businesswoman, creative and MC Dushy Kuria for an honest conversation about divorce, relationships, therapy, self-worth and finding your way back to yourself.For the first time, Dushy speaks publicly about her divorce, from what led her into marriage at 26, to the moment she realised that if someone was going to choose her, it had to be her. They unpack the ways women can be conditioned to confuse love with endless sacrifice, why chaos can feel familiar when you haven't experienced calm love, and how low self-esteem can shape the relationships we choose, even when we appear confident on the outside. Dushy also shares the messier side of healing after divorce: partying, dating, missing her marriage, trying again, going to therapy and learning that knowing better doesn't immediately mean doing better. And eventually, finding her way home to herself. In this conversation: Why women can confuse love with self-abandonmentDushy's journey through marriage and divorceSearching for safety through romantic relationshipsThe pressure of being a firstborn daughterConfidence vs. self-esteemWhy chaos can feel like loveWhat therapy taught Dushy about why she stayedThe messy, nonlinear reality of healingRebuilding self-trust after a relationshipLearning to leave relationships soonerFinding safety within yourselfRediscovering the parts of yourself you lost in loveLetting go of the need to be chosenWhat healthy love and marriage mean to Dushy nowDushy also shares Maya Angelou's Still I Rise as her Mannerless Message, a powerful reminder of our capacity to rise, rebuild and reclaim ourselves. CONNECT WITH DUSHY: https://www.instagram.com/dushykuria CONNECT WITH LEGALLY CLUELESS AFRICA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LegallyClueless Website: https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Subscribe/follow For Mannerless Women wherever you get your podcasts and share this episode with a woman who might need the reminder: choosing yourself isn't selfish, sometimes, it's how you find your way back home. #ForMannerlessWomen #DushyKuria #SelfAbandonment #ChoosingYourself #HealingAfterDivorce #SelfTrust #Relationships #AfricanWomen #LegallyCluelessAfrica

    How Much Of Yourself Have You Abandoned For Love? | For Mannerless Women

  2. 2 days ago

    The Lies We Tell Ourselves To Stay In Relationships | Mid Week Tease

    Sometimes the hardest part isn't realising a relationship isn't working. It's admitting that you've known for a while.This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories we tell ourselves when we're trying to stay in relationships we've already begun to outgrow: maybe I need to give it more time, maybe I'm expecting too much, but they're a good person, maybe I haven't communicated clearly enough, what if I regret leaving? She explores self-abandonment, the sunk-cost fallacy, our attachment to potential, the difference between intuition and anxiety, and why we sometimes keep asking for another sign when our bodies have been giving us information all along. Plus, a question worth sitting with:If you trusted yourself completely, what would you already know? In this episode: Why “relationships are hard” can keep us tolerating chronic unhappinessFalling in love with someone's potential instead of the relationship you actually haveWhy someone doesn't have to be a bad person for you to leaveThe sunk-cost fallacy and staying because you've already invested yearsWhen communication becomes negotiating against realityListening to your gut without treating every uncomfortable feeling as intuitionWhy fear of what comes after leaving can masquerade as uncertainty about whether to leaveHow self-abandonment slowly erodes self-trustQuestions to ask yourself when you know something isn't workingNew episodes of the Mid Week Tease every Wednesday. JOIN THE LEGALLY CLUELESS COMMUNITY Sign up for our newsletter: https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Follow Legally Clueless Africa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ Follow us on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube SHARE YOUR STORY WITH US Have a story you’d like to share on the Legally Clueless podcast? Submit it here: https://forms.gle/JMrQD55jcrazKFKX7

    The Lies We Tell Ourselves To Stay In Relationships | Mid Week Tease

  3. 4 days ago

    I Thought I’d Marry Him. Then I Learned the Truth | Legally Clueless Ep 392

    What happens when the beliefs you have about love, marriage and relationships are shaped long before you ever fall in love? In Part 1 of Ann Wachera’s story, Ann takes us back to losing her mum at just seven years old, being raised by her grandparents and the experiences that shaped how she came to understand womanhood, sex, pregnancy and marriage.Years later, at university, Ann meets a man she believes could be the soulmate she has always imagined. What starts as a very sweet campus crush grows into a serious relationship but Ann has always been someone who asks questions, searches for answers and wants to know the truth. So when she hears something about her boyfriend’s past that doesn’t match what he has told her, she goes looking for answers. And she finds her first lie. In this episode, Adelle also shares more about For Mannerless Women Live, happening on 26th September at Trademark Suites at Enaki Town, and teases one of the conversations we’ll be having about what our 30s actually teach us about identity, starting over, boundaries, love, career, motherhood, choosing to be childfree and shame. This is Part 1 of Ann Wachera’s three-part story. Part 2 continues next Monday. JOIN THE LEGALLY CLUELESS COMMUNITY Sign up for our newsletter: https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Follow Legally Clueless Africa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ Follow us on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube SHARE YOUR STORY WITH US Have a story you’d like to share on the Legally Clueless podcast? Submit it here: https://forms.gle/JMrQD55jcrazKFKX7

    I Thought I’d Marry Him. Then I Learned the Truth | Legally Clueless Ep 392

  4. 20 Aug

    Starting Over in Your 40s: The Life You Didn’t Plan | For Mannerless Women

    Season 6 of For Mannerless Women is here and we're beginning with the brilliant Kaz Lucas. What happens when the life you're living no longer looks like the life women are told we're supposed to want? In this episode, Adelle sits down with Kaz for a deeply honest conversation about divorce in your 40s, grief, loneliness, being childfree, queer womanhood, friendship, community and the courage it takes to build a life outside society's expectations. Kaz opens up about navigating separation and the grief of losing not only a relationship, but the future she thought she would have. She shares why being lonely on her own feels different from being lonely inside a relationship, how she's learning to sit with difficult emotions instead of numbing them, and what it means to come home to yourself even when that journey can feel lonely. They also reflect on losing their mothers, carrying grief through different chapters of adulthood, finding connection with their ancestors, and learning to recognise beauty and magic even while life is difficult. Kaz shares the story behind reopening her pole and movement studio and why she's intentionally creating a shame-free, judgement-free space where women, queer people, Kenyans and Africans can move their bodies, find community and simply be. The conversation also explores the relationships we're taught to prioritise. What happens when we stop placing romantic relationships at the centre of our lives? What could our friendships become if we poured the same intentionality into them? And how do we create community when the structures around us were largely designed for people who followed the conventional path? Kaz's Mannerless Message: "The hardest thing you're ever going to have to do is learn to forgive yourself. Your biggest relationship with any human being is going to be the relationship that you have with yourself.” In this episode: Grief and losing a motherStarting over in your 40sDivorce, separation and the grief of an imagined futureChoosing yourself after a relationship endsBeing childfree in your 40sLoneliness outside conventional womanhood *Queer identity, shame and belongingBuilding intentional female friendshipsLearning to sit with difficult emotionsPole dancing, body connection and shameBuilding community outside traditional structuresCreating safe spaces for African women and queer peopleForgiving yourself and coming home to who you are CONNECT WITH KAZ LUCAS: Website: https://www.kazentertainment.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kazkarenlucas TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kazkarenlucas BIRDS OF PARADISE STUDIO Website: https://www.kazentertainment.com/birdsofparadisepoledancestudio Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birdsofparadisestudio/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@birdsofparadisestudio FOR MANNERLESS WOMEN LIVE For the first time ever, we're bringing For Mannerless Women off your screen and into a room full of African women. For Mannerless Women Live takes place on 26 September 2026 at Trademark Suites, Enaki Town, Nairobi. Find out more: https://www.legallycluelessafrica.com/events

    Starting Over in Your 40s: The Life You Didn’t Plan | For Mannerless Women

  5. 18 Aug

    Would You Let Anyone Else Talk To You Like This? | Mid Week Tease

    What happens when the person you hear most is constantly criticising you? This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks negative self-talk: the cruel, critical and sometimes deeply familiar voice we can mistake for our own truth. She explores where our inner critic comes from, why being hard on ourselves can feel like a form of motivation or protection, and the important question we rarely stop to ask: whose voice is this? Adelle also gets into how negative self-talk can shape our confidence, relationships, willingness to take risks and even the identities we build around our mistakes. Plus, practical ways to change your inner dialogue without forcing yourself into positive affirmations you don't actually believe.Because the goal isn't to tell yourself you're amazing every minute of the day. It's to build an inner voice that can be honest, accountable and compassionate a voice that feels safe to come home to. Plus, a special thank you to everyone who got their ticket to the now sold-out For Mannerless Women Live! Ticket holders, keep an eye on your email and the Legally Clueless socials as we share updates in the lead-up to the event. In this episode: How to recognise negative self-talkWhere your inner critic may have come fromWhy self-criticism can masquerade as motivationThe difference between accountability and crueltyHow the inner critic turns experiences into identitiesWhy “Whose voice is this?” is such a powerful questionHow to replace cruel thoughts with more accurate onesBuilding an inner voice you can actually trustNew Mid Week Tease episodes every Wednesday. Stay connected with Legally Clueless Africa: Website: legallycluelessafrica.com Instagram: @legallycluelessafrica YouTube: Legally Clueless Africa Join the Legally Clueless Africa newsletter: Sign up via legallycluelessafrica.com

    Would You Let Anyone Else Talk To You Like This? | Mid Week Tease

  6. 16 Aug

    What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 391

    What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Legally Clueless Ep 391 What happens when achieving the career you fought so hard for comes at a cost you never expected?In Part 2 of Ella’s story, she takes us deeper into her experience as a young woman working in aviation maintenance. Ella opens up about navigating a male-dominated workplace, experiencing sexual harassment, the victim-blaming and silence that can make it difficult for women to speak up, and eventually reaching a point where she knew she could no longer return to that environment.But walking away from aviation wasn't the end of her story. Ella shares how her experiences led her back to African Women in Aviation and Aerospace Mentorship (AWAM), an organisation she had started years earlier and how she began creating the mentorship, community and support she wishes she'd had when she was entering the industry.This is the final part of Ella’s story. FOR MANNERLESS WOMEN SEASON 6 IS HERE! Season 6 of For Mannerless Women has officially started! We kicked off the season with Kaz Lucas and a beautiful conversation about entering your 40s, letting go of the timelines we thought our lives would follow, and what becomes possible when we allow ourselves to imagine a life beyond society’s expectations.If you've ever looked at your life and thought, “I thought I would have done this by now,” this conversation is for you. WATCH FOR MANNERLESS WOMEN SEASON 6: https://www.youtube.com/@LegallyClueless VISIT OUR WEBSITE: https://legallycluelessafrica.com/ FOLLOW LEGALLY CLUELESS AFRICA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica SHARE YOUR STORY: https://forms.gle/JMrQD55jcrazKFKX7 New episodes of the Legally Clueless podcast are out every Monday. If Ella’s story resonated with you, share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

    What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 391

  7. 12 Aug

    How to Trust Yourself Again: 7 Ways to Rebuild Self-Trust | Mid Week Tease

    What happens when you stop trusting your own decisions, feelings and instincts? This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks how self-trust can slowly erode, through being constantly second-guessed, people-pleasing, gaslighting, overriding your own needs, breaking promises to yourself, or making a decision that went badly and deciding it means you can't trust yourself anymore. But self-trust isn't about always getting it right.It's about knowing that even when you get something wrong, you trust yourself to listen, learn, adjust and meet yourself on the other side. In this episode, Adelle shares 7 practical ways to rebuild self-trust, including: Keeping small promises to yourselfMaking decisions without always seeking external validationLearning the difference between seeking advice and seeking permissionPaying attention to your internal “no”Giving yourself permission to change your mindTreating mistakes as information instead of evidence against yourselfCreating a record of the times trusting yourself served you wellAnd at the end of the episode, there's a 7-Day Self-Trust Experiment designed to help you actually practise what you've heard.Because self-trust isn't something you think yourself into. It's something you practise yourself into. Catch new episodes of The Mid Week Tease every Wednesday on the Legally Clueless Africa channels. Website: https://legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LegallyCluelessAfrica

    How to Trust Yourself Again: 7 Ways to Rebuild Self-Trust | Mid Week Tease

  8. 9 Aug

    What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Legally Clueless Ep 390

    What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Ella’s Story Part 1 What does it take to find your place in an industry that constantly makes you feel like you have something to prove? In Part 1 of Ella’s story, she takes us from her childhood in Western Kenya, through moving between different sides of her family, bullying in school and the years she spent trying to figure out who she wanted to become. Eventually, that search leads her to aviation. Ella shares how she found her way into aeronautics, the scholarships she fought for, the unpaid internships, the pressure to prove herself and what it felt like entering aviation maintenance as one of very few women in the space. Along the way, she also reflects on something deeper: how different environments taught her to become different versions of herself and what happened when she finally found spaces where she could be fully Ella.This is Part 1 of Ella’s story. Part 2 continues next Monday. FOR MANNERLESS WOMEN LIVE IS OFFICIALLY SOLD OUT! Thank you to every single woman who bought a ticket, joined our waitlist, shared the event and chose to gather with us. We cannot wait to see you on 26th September FOR MANNERLESS WOMEN SEASON 6 STARTS THIS THURSDAY! A brand-new season of For Mannerless Women premieres Thursday, 13th August on the Legally Clueless YouTube channel. Subscribe and turn on your notifications so you don’t miss the first episode: https://www.youtube.com/@LegallyClueless VISIT OUR WEBSITE: https://legallycluelessafrica.com/ FOLLOW LEGALLY CLUELESS AFRICA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica SHARE YOUR STORY: https://forms.gle/JMrQD55jcrazKFKX7 New episodes of the Legally Clueless podcast are out every Monday.If something in Ella’s story resonated with you, share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

    What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Legally Clueless Ep 390
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Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790

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  • Creator
    Legally Clueless
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    563
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Copyright Legally Clueless
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