Not From Here

Jaafar Issa
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  1. Cheating, Porn, and the Secrets We Keep From Our Partners: What Betrayal Really Is

    14 Jun

    Cheating, Porn, and the Secrets We Keep From Our Partners: What Betrayal Really Is

    Most marriages don't fall apart over one big betrayal, they unravel quietly, with two people blaming each other instead of the bond between them. In this episode of Not From Here, couples therapist Hamed Fatahian breaks down attachment, betrayal, intimacy, and what it actually takes to repair a marriage. We get into: * How childhood attachment shapes the way you love, trust, and fight with your partner * The negative cycle every couple gets stuck in (and how to break it) * What actually counts as cheating (it's not what you think) * Why men cheat more than women, and how affairs really start * Pornography in marriage and the expectations it creates * Whether a relationship can survive an affair and why forgiveness comes last * Why couples drift apart after kids, and how to reconnect * The two minutes a day that can save a marriage Hamed Fatahian is a licensed marriage & family therapist certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy, with over a decade helping couples across cultures and faiths. Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ Connect with Hamed: https://www.instagram.com/hfatahianmft/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/hfatahiantehran/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 00:00 Intro 02:08 Why your whole life runs on relationships 07:09 What attachment really is and how childhood forms it 20:29 How your childhood shows up in your marriage 22:38 The cycle every couple gets stuck in 33:13 What actually counts as cheating 44:36 You're not the problem, your relationship is 50:53 Why couples fight about the same thing forever 59:10 The soulmate myth & why marriage is only step one 1:03:33 Can a marriage survive an affair? 1:12:50 Why men cheat more than women 1:17:46 The truth about porn in marriage 1:26:12 The spouse who won't open up 1:32:43 Two minutes a day that save a marriage 1:35:51 When the baby comes and the marriage "dies" 1:44:22 The biggest takeaways 1:52:31 A therapist who goes to therapy

    1hr 55min
  2. 11 Lessons After 4 years Of Podcasting

    9 Jun

    11 Lessons After 4 years Of Podcasting

    Four years ago I started this podcast with no audience and no idea what I was doing. Today it's the first episode in the new studio.** So I pulled the 11 lessons four years behind the mic actually taught me. A few I'd stake my life on. A few sound wrong until you hear me out. We start with why embarrassment is the price of entry and end with why the joy in life was never about you. Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ 🛏️ Detroit Furniture: https://detfurniture.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/va 00:00 Intro 01:18 Embarrassment is the price of entry 03:34 You are never going to feel ready 09:25 bite off more than you can chew then figure out how to chew it 10:56 overthink the effort not the result 13:31 research your childhood 15:35 leaving home destroys you before it builds you back up 19:44 feeling disappointed in your life is a very good thing 21:14 political views are different from religious views 24:49 AI will wipe us out 26:33 death is very peaceful 28:45 the joy in your life doesn't come from you

    31 min
  3. The Unexpected Rise Of Qahwah House & The Plant That is Destroying Yemenis | Ibrahim Alhasbani

    25 May

    The Unexpected Rise Of Qahwah House & The Plant That is Destroying Yemenis | Ibrahim Alhasbani

    Ibrahim Alhasbani is the founder of Qahwah House, the first Yemeni coffee shop in America and the brand that put Yemeni coffee on the global map. His family has been growing coffee in the mountains of Yemen for eight generations, and in this conversation he breaks down why Yemen is the real birthplace of coffee and what building Qahwah House looked like when nobody believed in the idea. We also get into the harder stuff, the plant destroying the Yemeni community that nobody wants to talk about, and what it's going to take to save the next generation. Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Ibrahim: https://www.instagram.com/ibrahimalhasbani/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 00:00 — Intro 05:50 — Yemen, the Birthplace of Coffee 11:35 — Why He Took It Personal 18:37 — Ad 19:56 — Nobody Believed in the Idea 29:31 — What Makes Yemeni Coffee Different 33:52 — Inside the Process 43:30 — When Everyone Started Copying Him 50:57 — Khat: The Plant Killing Yemen 1:08:13 — Saving the Next Generation 1:15:05 — Ad 1:15:46 — A Message to Young Yemenis 1:28:09 — If Coffee Disappeared Tomorrow 1:34:57 — Building a Hundred-Year Company 1:36:55 — Losing His Mother

    1hr 49min
  4. What Retatrutide Actually Does to Your Body & The Harsh Truth Behind The New Weight Loss Era

    18 May

    What Retatrutide Actually Does to Your Body & The Harsh Truth Behind The New Weight Loss Era

    Everyone's on it. Your friend, your coworker, the guy at your gym, the influencer in your feed. Peptides, retatrutide, TRT, it's the most recommended thing in 2026. But nobody's telling you what happens next. Doctor Mike Eldirani is a board-certified physician who's spent over a decade in this space, and what he's seeing inside his clinic doesn't match what's being sold to you online. In this conversation, he breaks down what these drugs actually do, who they're for, who's getting hurt, and what's coming next. What we cover: * Why retatrutide could be the most powerful drug to ever hit the market * The peptides blowing up online and where they're really coming from * The patients walking into IVF clinics with zero sperm count * Why he refuses to put anyone under 30 on TRT * How he avoided surgery on his own body using peptide therapy * The truth about Ozempic, Wegovy, Mounjaro, and Zepbound * What shredded influencers are actually injecting behind the scenes * The hidden long-term dangers nobody is studying yet If you've ever thought about taking any of this — or you know someone who has — this is the episode to send them. Sponsors: 🛏️ Detroit Furniture: https://detfurniture.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Dr. Mike: https://www.instagram.com/mike.eldirani/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 00:00 – Intro 01:41 – Where the Peptide Craze Actually Started 05:23 – The Wolverine Stack and the Peptides Blowing Up Online 08:55 – How Doctor Mike Avoided Surgery on His Own Body 13:18 – Why He Tells Young Guys No 26:30 – Powder From China, Syringes From Amazon, and the COVID Hypocrisy 31:30 – Why 2026 Looks Nothing Like 2016 37:20 – GLP-1s Explained: Ozempic, Wegovy, Mounjaro, Zepbound 42:40 – Retatrutide and the Drug That Could Change Everything 44:50 – The Quick Fix Problem and What Happens When You Stop 49:40 – The Truth About TRT and Who Actually Needs It 55:40 – The Zero Sperm Count Conversation 58:45 – Natural Ways to Boost Testosterone 1:02:15 – Fight Medicine, Jiu-Jitsu, and What Losing Teaches You 1:11:15 – Who's Really Winning From the Peptide Boom 1:13:10 – FOMO, Comparison, and the Lie of the Shredded Influencer

    1hr 21min
  5. Yaza Founder: I Had No Money, No Network, No Plan & Built The #1 Labneh In Whole Foods Nationwide!

    11 May

    Yaza Founder: I Had No Money, No Network, No Plan & Built The #1 Labneh In Whole Foods Nationwide!

    Karim Khalil is the founder of Yaza Foods, the #1 selling labneh in Whole Foods nationwide. His apartment in Beirut was destroyed in the Beirut port explosion. He moved to the US with what he had left, knew no one, and started building a Lebanese food brand in a country that had no idea what labneh was. In this episode, we get into: — Why he picked labneh — Why it's technically illegal to strain labneh in the US — The 500-store Whole Foods shipment he threw away — Losing his mother during the biggest growth year of his life — Why money was never the motivation — A blind taste test with four labneh brands where I made him guess his own A conversation about food, identity, immigration, and what it costs to actually be the best at one specific thing. Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Karim: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christian-karim-khalil-8b615b185/ https://www.instagram.com/karimkhalil1/ https://www.instagram.com/yaza.foods/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 00:00 - Intro 01:28 - Karim’s journey around the world 04:13 - August 4th, 2020: The Day Beirut Exploded 09:03 - Why Labneh 13:12 - Ad Break 14:15 - Why Labneh (continued) 8:55 - "$0 in Your Pocket and a Map of the World" 20:17 - What "Outworking Everyone" Actually Looks Like Day to Day 27:23 - The Production Failures That Almost Killed Yaza 34:36 - When He Knew the Product Would Actually Work 42:32 - The Dark Side of Building a CPG Brand 46:23 - Where the Name "Yaza" Came From 50:17 - "This Isn't Even Lebanese" — The Pushback He Gets 51:43 - Ad Break 52:22 - Blind Labneh Taste Test 59:29 - The Best Advice Karim Gives Every Founder Who Reaches Out 01:10:45 - The Trap of Comparing Yourself to Everyone Else 01:12:15 - The Bucket List That Matters More Than Whole Foods 01:13:36 - Losing His Mother While Building the Company

    1hr 19min
  6. Clinical Psychologist Reveals What 1.3 Million Displaced People Are Actually Going Through

    3 May

    Clinical Psychologist Reveals What 1.3 Million Displaced People Are Actually Going Through

    1.3 million people in Lebanon are displaced right now. This episode is about what that actually does to a person. I sat down with Hassan Koubayssi, a licensed clinical psychologist who spent the war dispatching teams of psychologists into Lebanon's shelters. We get into why displacement is trauma by itself. Why people in shelters started unraveling over things that had nothing to do with the war. What really happens inside those shelters when structure breaks down. And what no one tells displaced people about going home. If you're carrying this from near or far, this one is for you. Connect with Hassan: https://www.instagram.com/hassan_kob/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v Sponsors: 🛏️ Detroit Furniture: https://detfurniture.com/ ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 0:00 Intro 1:30 Why displacement is trauma by itself 6:22 Forced displacement vs. choosing to leave 9:30 The rupture in your personal story 11:31 Ads 12:29 The threshold model: when everything explodes at once 18:30 Why symptoms appear out of nowhere 22:45 When shelters re-traumatize 26:00 Week one vs. month one vs. year one 29:20 Can people return to who they were before? 35:40 The on-and-off switch of displacement 38:08 Ads 38:46 Stabilization, not therapy 44:30 Why children remember everything 47:30 Faith, anger, and the people who reject everything 51:30 What happens when the war ends and people go home 54:00 Society-wide effects of accumulated trauma 56:30 Hassan's advice to anyone displaced right now 1:00:00 Why families fight more in displacement 1:03:30 How this work affects Hassan personally

    1hr 9min
  7. Inside The Hidden World of Narcissism | Berak Hussain

    27 Apr

    Inside The Hidden World of Narcissism | Berak Hussain

    Narcissism is one of the most misused words on the internet right now. Everyone's ex is a narcissist. Every difficult boss is a narcissist. The word has lost its weight. This episode puts the weight back on it. We covered: - The four-step manipulation pattern (DARVO) that makes victims feel like they're the crazy one - Why love bombing should always feel off, even when it feels good - What narcissism looks like inside a marriage when no one else is watching - Why so many narcissists end up in positions of power, including religious and communal ones - What to do when the narcissist is your own mother or father - The cycle of abuse, apology, and charm that keeps people stuck for decades - Whether a narcissist can ever actually change - And why the world right now feels like it's being run by them If you've ever walked out of a conversation questioning your own memory, your own sanity, or your own worth, this episode is going to give you language for what was happening to you. Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ 🛏️ Detroit Furniture: https://detfurniture.com/ 💆🏻‍♂️💆🏻‍♀️ Thrive Physical Therapy and Massage: https://thrive1.simplybook.me/v2/#book +1 (313) 429-9079 ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 Connect with Berak: https://www.instagram.com/berak_hussain/ https://www.instagram.com/the_muslim_counsellor/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v 00:00 Intro 01:30 Catching Up A Year Later 02:00 What Narcissism Actually Is (And What It Isn't) 07:30 The Spectrum: Confidence, Arrogance, And Something Darker 12:00 DARVO: The Manipulation Playbook Every Narcissist Uses 15:46 Ad Break 17:23 Are They Aware Of What They're Doing? 19:18 Love Bombing And Why It Should Feel Off 25:00 Charm As A Weapon: Narcissists In Positions Of Power 33:44 How They Choose Their Prey 34:35 Inside The Marriage: The Charming Husband, The Broken Wife 45:36 The Original Narcissist And The Lesson Of Drowning 47:45 When It's Your Mother Or Father 57:39 Ad Break 58:35 Bosses, Workplaces, And Power You Can't Walk Away From 1:08:00 Diseases Of The Heart: The Spiritual Side Of It 1:18:54 Can A Narcissist Actually Heal? 1:20:28 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore 1:25:00 Standing Up To Tyrants: Strength, Lineage, And Confrontation 1:32:30 Where Do You Draw The Line In A Marriage? 1:36:30 Does Cheating Tie Into Narcissism?

    1hr 39min
  8. We Keep Losing Men To Suicide And Everyone's Too Afraid To Say It

    20 Apr

    We Keep Losing Men To Suicide And Everyone's Too Afraid To Say It

    Ahmad Hamade lost his brother Muhammad to suicide. In a community where this is taboo, where a death gets a post and then silence, he refused to stay quiet. In this episode, Ahmad sits down to talk about who Muhammad really was, what actually happened, and why we keep losing our men without seeing it coming. He opens up about the guilt of not knowing, the version of himself that died with his brother, and what he believes really happened in Muhammad's final moment. We get into the bag of bricks men are taught to carry in silence, the 8-minute rule that can pull someone back from the edge, the red flags most of us miss, and a direct message to the wives, mothers, and sisters who hold these men together. If you've ever loved a man who won't open up, or you are that man, watch this one all the way through. Connect with Ahmad: https://www.instagram.com/gunnysgarage1/ Connect with Jaafar: https://www.instagram.com/podnotfromhere/ https://twitter.com/JaafarrIssa https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaafar-issa-8046a419b/v Sponsors: 🏠Venture Title Agency: https://vtclosings.com/ 🛏️ Detroit Furniture: https://detfurniture.com/ 💆🏻‍♂️💆🏻‍♀️ Thrive Physical Therapy and Massage: https://thrive1.simplybook.me/v2/#book +1 (313) 429-9079 ☕️ Detroit Perk Coffee: https://detroitperk.com/ Download the app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/detroit... ⚖️ Hall Makled: https://www.hallmakled.com/ +1 (313) 788-8888 00:00 – Intro 01:30 – Who Ahmad Sees in the Mirror, and Who Muhammad Saw 04:20 – The Bag of Bricks: What Men Are Actually Supposed to Carry 10:39 – Who Muhammad Was and What Happened to Him 15:02 – Ad Break 17:05 – Losing a Brother and the Version of Me That Died With Him 20:52 – Why I Refused to Stay Silent About This 23:33 – The 8-Minute Rule and How to Actually Show Up for Someone 38:47 – The Best People at Hiding It Are the Ones We Lose 43:32 – Ad Break 44:48 – Ask the Question Three Times 51:34 – A Message to the Wives, Mothers, and Sisters 53:34 – The Last Conversation I Wish I Had 56:08 – How Muhammad Wants to Be Remembered 1:02:33 – Was It a Mistake? What Ahmad Really Believes Happened

    1hr 5min
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You don't feel like you belong here, you go home and don't feel like you belong there either. Congratulations, you're not from here. Join the club.

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  • Creator
    Jaafar Issa
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    126

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