In 2023, on my very first trip to Paris, a man I loved leaned across the bar at the Ritz and told me I didn't have the resilience to be an entrepreneur. I cried. Three years later I walked back into that same bar after speaking at Cannes Lions, took the last seat, ordered a French 75, and toasted a year with multiple six figures, 50+ women coached into their own brands, and a second book underway. This episode is the how. Seven shifts I made over the last six months that took me from burnt out and doubting myself to happy most days and certain of my work. The throughline is the part nobody tells you: you don't wait until you feel resilient to act. You act before you're ready, the proof stacks, and one day you notice the validation you used to cry for is beside the point. I recorded this one live and unfiltered, with a long audience Q&A at the end. Pour a coffee, or a French 75, and let's get into it. In this episode (00:00) The DM that stopped me at a Paris bus stop: "how does it feel to be living your dreams?" (00:01) What Cannes Lions actually taught me, plus the food poisoning, blisters, and lost voice it came with (00:05) Why I retired the word "manifest," and what actually moves things into your life (00:07) Shift 1, Listening. The thing everyone already comes to you for is the business you're avoiding. (00:12) Shift 2, Act before you're ready. Action creates data, data creates better action. (00:16) Shift 3, Reframe your resources. Name the one big constraint, then count everything else you have. (00:21) Shift 4, Experimentation and detachment. Hold the goal loosely enough that it can get good. (00:25) Shift 5, A new feeling is just a new feeling. Discomfort is your body clocking a new normal. (00:30) Shift 6, Get your desire back. Say the outrageous want out loud. (00:33) The Cannes moment that made me expand my money capacity on the spot (00:37) Shift 7, Value and service-based creation. Your why is what gets you off the floor. (00:47) The seven-shift recap (00:49) Audience Q&A: selfish eras, building an audience versus building an offer, and figuring out what you're actually built for Mentioned in this episode Dr. Suzy Welch's Becoming You and the Values Bridge exercise, the room that gave me permission to start teaching The Too Smart For This journal, wherever books are sold (Amazon, Barnes & Noble). A good place to start planning your H2. My newsletter, where the written version of this story lives. Subscribe on Substack: alexisbarber.nyc Come scale with me We have enough well-documented women on the internet. We need more well-rounded ones, the kind building their content around an actual skillset instead of a camera roll. The Authority Edit, my small-group advisory, is for the six- and seven-figure girls, and the ones scaling fast toward it. Over the last four years I've helped women gain hundreds of thousands of followers and make multiple six figures from their content, the same thing I've built for myself. If you're truly serious about scaling your impact, and scaling it fast, comment or DM me AUTHORITY on my latest IG post and we'll see if it's the right fit: https://www.instagram.com/p/DabPkAuNoem/?hl=en This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.alexisbarber.nyc/subscribe
