You can do everything right. You can show up as your authentic self. But if you misrepresent who you are just to impress someone, the moment you say I do is the moment the real you comes out and the problems begin. In this raw, wildly entertaining episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with John, Ghana's self-proclaimed enjoyment president and owner of Soho, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about authenticity in marriage, why boundaries matter more than constant togetherness, and the uncomfortable truth that long-distance marriages are a breeding ground for infidelity because nine months alone is nine months too long. John holds nothing back. He breaks down why the person you present during dating is the person you must maintain because women require consistency, why misrepresentation only works for so long before you slip back into your old ways, and the one thing most couples refuse to accept: whoever you start as with them is the person you have to maintain or they'll think your feelings have changed. He reveals why his wife met him as a party person and he didn't change when he got married because what she saw was what she got, how some brothers meet a girl and decide to change and be what the girl's ideal was only to slip back into their old ways after the wedding, and the moment you realize that there's nothing you would do that they find nice anymore because the feeling has changed. He also explains why staying together in the early part of the marriage is vital, how the version of someone you see once in a while when you're dating is very different from the version when you're living with them 24/7, and the one question every long-distance couple needs to answer: is he moving here or are you moving there because this on and off is not the best. This isn't just about being yourself. It's a masterclass in understanding why boundaries are important because everybody needs their space for mental clarity and peace of mind, why to not allow those boundaries is to have the person get fed up with you, and how the strength of your foundation determines how long that relationship is going to stand the test of time. John dives into why he told his friend that her husband probably has a girlfriend because she's only in the States three months a year leaving nine months where he's on his own, how she wanted him to break it off with whoever when she's there but he'd have to go and beg or find somebody else when she leaves, and the uncomfortable reality that unless you want to cultivate the habit of phone sex and masturbating over the phone eventually he will start talking to someone. He also tackles why the first year of marriage is critical because the fights will happen the financial ahala comes and you need to figure out who's doing what, how eight out of ten if you survive the first year you survive the rest of the years, and the one rule every couple needs to follow: no brother of yours sister of yours uncle anybody should live with you in the first year of marriage because family gets involved and things that should stay in your house end up in family discussions. If you're about to get married, wondering whether you should keep pretending to be someone you're not, or asking yourself why your long-distance relationship feels like it's falling apart, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop misrepresenting and start building a marriage where both of you show up as exactly who you are. Guest: John ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you 📤 SHARE with someone who NEEDS to hear this
