Abiding Together

Heather Khym, Michelle Benzinger, Sister Miriam James Heidland
Abiding Together

Providing a place of connection, rest and encouragement for women who are on the journey of living out their passion and purpose in Jesus Christ.

  1. S15 E7 - The Sacred Heart - Dilexit Nos (Part 1)

    19 HR AGO

    S15 E7 - The Sacred Heart - Dilexit Nos (Part 1)

    In this week's episode, we begin a three part series on Pope Francis’ recent encyclical Dilexit Nos (on the human and divine love of the Heart of Jesus Christ). We discuss how God, as the Divine initiator, loved us first and continuously calls us deeper into His most Sacred Heart. We also reflect on the meaning of our hearts, being captivated by Jesus’ love, and the beauty of allowing Him to set our hearts aflame.   Heather’s One Thing - Man and Woman and the Order of Creation Conference at Franciscan University (view the livestream here) Sister Miriam’s One Thing - Tomato Basil Soup Michelle’s One Thing - The book Sons in the Son by Fr. Innocent Montgomery, CFR, and Fr. Angelus Montgomery, CFR   Other Resources Mentioned:  “Dilexit Nos”: A brief guide for busy readers Dilexit Nos audio version   Journal Questions: Who am I, really? What am I looking for? What direction do I want to give to my life? Why and for what purpose am I in the world? How do I want to look back on my life once it ends? What meaning do I want to give to all my experiences? Who do I want to be for others? Who am I for God?   Discussion Questions: How do you belittle or dismiss the movements of your own heart? When do you feel distanced from your heart in this season? How can you minimize the distance you have from your heart this week? How do you self-protect instead of making a self-gift? What direction do you want to give to your life? Why and for what purpose are you in the world?   Quotes to Ponder: “The heart is also the locus of sincerity, where deceit and disguise have no place. It usually indicates our true intentions, what we really think, believe and desire, the “secrets” that we tell no one: in a word, the naked truth about ourselves. It is the part of us that is neither appearance or illusion, but is instead authentic, real, entirely “who we are”.”  (Pope Francis, “Dilexit Nos”, Paragraph 5) Scripture for Lectio:   “He loved us first.”  (1 John 4:19)   Sponsor - Reform Wellness: Reform Wellness is a Christ-centered functional medicine and holistic wellness ministry. Reform redefines health as the state of your body and soul. Their mission is to empower the whole person to find well-being in Christ and become the best versions of themselves physically and spiritually. Reform works with private clients, corporate teams, religious communities, and educational institutions worldwide, both in-person and online. They offer valuable information, educational resources, and lifelong tools to improve your physical and spiritual well-being.   We invite you to learn more about Reform’s foundational course Reform Online which offers educational tools, best practices, and community through their nine wellness pillars centered in Christ. Reform is extending an exclusive discount for all our listeners on their upcoming Cohort: Reform Your Home and Family. We highly recommend this three-month foundational course; we’ve each taken Reform Online and still benefit from the fruits in our daily lives. Use code “Abide10'' for your exclusive discount through November 15.    Timestamps: 00:00 - Reform Wellness 01:39 - Intro 02:31 - Announcement and Welcome 05:04 - About the Encyclical 06:53 - The Importance of the Heart 11:16 - The Heart as the Locus of Sincerity 14:54 - Our Heart is Meant for Love 18:46 - Being Captivated by Jesus’ Love 24:20 - The Sacred Heart Aflame with Love 25:51 - One Things

    31 min
  2. S15 E6 - Practical Aspects of Living Out Community

    28 OCT

    S15 E6 - Practical Aspects of Living Out Community

    In this week's episode, we continue our discussion on communion and focus on the practical aspects of living out in community. We reflect on the four main pillars of building a community: intentionality, vulnerability, proximity, and organically. We also talk about community as a journey and that we learn to love others by experiencing the love of God ourselves. This experience brings communion within us, which bears fruit, and then we are then able to give that love away to others.    Heather’s One Thing - Friends of the Bridegroom Sister Miriam’s One Thing - What Vegetable are You? Quiz Michelle’s One Thing - Monk Manual   Announcement: Check out our new Small Group Resource page!   Journal Questions: How can I express more mercy and curiosity within my community? Who in my local community can I extend an invitation to? Is there variety in my family’s community (vocations, ages, stages of life, etc)? For those not currently in an Abiding Together small group: Consider praying about starting an Abiding Together small group or study group. What fears or concerns do I have about starting a group?   Discussion Questions: When do you feel more tempted to speak out harshly instead of conversing gently with those you’re in conflict with? What repeating strains and roadblocks have you observed in your relationships over the years? What do you think God may be teaching you through those strains? Throughout the episode, we covered four different aspects of community (intentionality, vulnerability, proximity, and organic engagement). Which of these aspects is hardest for you within your relationships? How can you initiate moments of organic community in your current season? Set a goal for yourself this week and check back in with each next time you connect.   Quotes to Ponder: "God is love and in himself he lives a mystery of personal loving communion. Creating the human race in his own image .... God inscribed in the humanity of man and woman the vocation, and thus the capacity and responsibility, of love and communion." (CCC 2331) “The person who loves their dream of community will destroy community, but the person who loves those around them will create community.” (Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Life Together: The Classic Exploration of Christian Community)   Scripture for Lectio:  “And fear came upon every soul; and many wonders and signs were done through the apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common; and they sold their possessions and goods and distributed them to all, as any had need. And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they partook of food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.” (Acts 2:43-47) Sponsor - Nazareth Organics: Nazareth Organics (@nazarethorganics) is a Catholic family-owned natural skincare company that handcrafts balms with high quality, wild-crafted, and organic ingredients from nature. From facial moisturizers and serums to diaper creams and body butters, Nazareth Organics carries nourishing natural products for a wide array of skin conditions. They use grass-fed tallow from a local Catholic farm as a base for many of their balms, because it is rich in fat-soluble vitamins and fatty acids that can increase collagen production, strengthen the skin, and calm inflammation. The best thing about this business is that it’s dedicated to the Holy Family of Nazareth. From website to packaging, every sustainably sourced product points back to the faith and the ultimate source of creation. They also donate a portion of all proceeds to Catholic charitable organizations. If you want to honor and care for your body using pure and natural ingredients straight from God’s hands, then check out Nazareth Organics. Find them at nazareth-organics.com and use code ABIDE10 at checkout for

    29 min
  3. S15 E5 - Theology of Communion

    21 OCT

    S15 E5 - Theology of Communion

    In this week's episode, we talk about the theology of communion. Our desire for communion with others is very good and comes from God Himself. In fact, our ache for community is an ache for eternity. God desires to bring us into an eternal communion with Him and the community here on earth points towards this in a small way. We discuss what happens when we experience a broken community, the challenges faced in building community, and how community changes throughout the seasons of life.   Heather’s One Thing - My art on the “They That Hope” podcast mug (add photos to website) Sister Miriam’s One Thing - Best Ever Crock Pot Roast Recipe  Michelle’s One Thing - Every Sacred Sunday Mass Journal   Announcement: Order your Abiding Together shirt in our shop today!   Journal Questions: How have I been wounded within community? How have I been healed through community? In what ways are my friendships free, total, faithful, and fruitful? In what ways are my friendships not free, total, faithful, and fruitful? What kind of friend do I need to tend to my heart? What kind of friend am I to my friends’ hearts? How have I withheld belonging from others?   Discussion Questions: How has your need and capacity for community changed over the years? How can you extend belonging to people in your community? What lies isolate you from entering into friendship? How is God inviting you to cultivate and receive community?   Quotes to Ponder: "God is love and in himself he lives a mystery of personal loving communion. Creating the human race in his own image .... God inscribed in the humanity of man and woman the vocation, and thus the capacity and responsibility, of love and communion." (CCC 2331) “The person who loves their dream of community will destroy community, but the person who loves those around them will create community.” (Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Life Together: The Classic Exploration of Christian Community)   Scripture for Lectio:  “And fear came upon every soul; and many wonders and signs were done through the apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common; and they sold their possessions and goods and distributed them to all, as any had need. And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they partook of food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.” (Acts 2:43-47)   Sponsor - CORDA: Connect with the saints through scent with CORDA’s handcrafted Catholic candles. Each candle scent is directly inspired by different saints and aspects of the faith, and is made with clean coconut wax and a beautiful, modern design.  Be sure to sign up for the CORDA Fan Club, too: it’s free and an awesome way to earn points that you can redeem for free products, gift cards, and free shipping.  You can join the club and explore CORDA’s gorgeous Catholic candles (and 3,000+ reviews!) at cordacandles.com. And when you’re placing your order, don’t forget to enter code ABIDINGTOGETHER to save 15% on everything, now through the end of the year. Thank you for supporting this Catholic small business!   Timestamps: 00:00 - CORDA 01:23 - Intro 02:15 - Announcement 02:42 - Welcome 04:23 - Scripture Verse and Guiding Quotes 05:47 - Initial Thoughts 08:41 - The Desire for Communion is Good 13:39 - Community Takes Work 16:36 - Learning How to Love 18:04 - Identifying the Lies 24:34 - Understanding the Wounds of Others 29:00 - One Things

    35 min
  4. S15 E4 - Lectio Divina

    14 OCT

    S15 E4 - Lectio Divina

    In this week's episode, we model what it looks like to pray Lectio Divina, which is a divine reading of Sacred Scripture. We begin by sharing the different ways we spend time in Sacred Scripture, how it has impacted our lives, and model how to pray Lectio Divina. We invite you to follow along and join us as we spend time reading and reflecting on John 15:5-8. Sacred Scripture is the voice of God and what He has said is alive forever and relevant to our lives in all situations. We encourage you to journey with us as we deepen our relationship with God through His word. Heather’s One Thing - Franciscan University’s Austria Study Abroad Program and Guadalupe Pilgrimage Sister Miriam’s One Thing - FOCUS film Radiating Joy: The Michelle Duppong Story (trailer here) Michelle’s One Thing -  Praying for anyone affected by hurricane Helene  Catholic Charities, Samaritan's Purse, Change Lives Now Other Resources Mentioned:   Steps for Lectio Divina and  The Art and Practice of Lectio Divina    Announcement: We are so excited to announce that we will have new Abiding Together shirts in our shop next week! Follow us on social media for all the latest updates!   Journal Questions: When do I encounter the Scriptures throughout my day? Do I incorporate Lectio Divina into my prayer routine? What obstacles prevent me from entering into Lectio Divina? How can I begin to incorporate Lectio Divina more frequently into my prayer?   Discussion Questions: How have you been nourished by the Word of God? Have you struggled to hear the voice of God in the past? When do you hear the voice of God in this season of your life? What stuck out to you during the Lectio Divina within the episode?   Scripture for Lectio:  “I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who abide in me and I in them bear much fruit; because apart from me you can do nothing. Whoever does not abide in me is thrown away like a branch and withers; such branches are gathered, thrown into the fire and burned. If you abide in me and my words abide in you, ask for whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit, and become my disciples.” (John 15:5-8)   Sponsor - Emmaus Road Publishing: Introducing Saints Around the World for Little Ones, a new six-volume collection from Emmaus Road Publishing! Following the success of the original Saints Around the World, this set for ages 0-8 shares the inspiring stories of 90 saints, presented through stunning illustrations and child-friendly text. Each book focuses on different types of saints—from young adventurers to warriors and royalty. You can purchase the books individually or get the whole set at a 15% discount, and you can use promo code Abide10 for an additional 10% off your purchase! Get them today at stpaulcenter.com/saints.   Timestamps: 00:00 - Emmaus Road Publishing 01:09 - Intro 02:01 - Welcome 07:23 - Sacred Scripture in Our Lives 12:45 - How to Pray Lectio Divina 15:37 - First Reading 17:59 - Second Reading 19:23 - Third Reading 21:01 - Reflections 28:23 - One Things 32:06 - Announcement

    35 min
  5. S15 E3 - Suffering & Love

    7 OCT

    S15 E3 - Suffering & Love

    In this week's episode, we reflect on suffering and love. We all have deep and tender places in our hearts where we suffer. Sometimes we feel alone in these sorrows and because of this, turn inwards into our pain. But the reality is, we are never alone in our suffering; God is always with us. We also reflect on fear in suffering, suffering in isolation vs suffering in communion, and how to allow God’s light to shine into these sorrowful places.   Heather’s One Thing - The Liturgy of the Hours subscription and Providential Co. (especially this Sacred Heart candle) Sister Miriam’s One Thing - Magnificat (particularly a recent excerpt from Spe Salvi paragraphs 37-40) Michelle’s One Thing -  “Home: A Blessed Conversations Study on the Virtues of Mary” from Blessed is She and all the women in her small group (use link or code MICHELLE10 for 10% off)   Announcement: Friends, we are excited to announce our 2024 Advent Study will be the book Encountering Emmanuel by Heather Khym!   Journal Questions: What suffering am I running from? Take some time to identify your current fears. How can you let these fears bring you into an encounter with Love Himself? Do I have a friend I can invite into my suffering? How can I be present to her suffering as well? How has Jesus transformed injury into compassion in my life?   Discussion Questions: Are you suffering in communion or in isolation? How can you suffer more like Jesus in this season? What habits in your spiritual toolbox protect your heart in moments of suffering and desolation? How can you love well when your heart is broken?   Scripture for Lectio:  “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to throw away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace” (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8)   Sponsor - Laura-Anne: Laura-Anne is a Catholic wedding photographer and marriage mentor who will help you thrive during your engagement, capture heirloom-quality photos of your wedding, and prepare for a joy-filled marriage that reflects God’s design. Because it's possible to plan a beautiful, thoughtful wedding reflective of both you and your fiance and, ultimately, surrender your desires for the day to the Lord…all while preparing your heart for the Sacrament of Marriage. Laura-Anne’s resources, like The Catholic Wedding Kit, will help you do just that. The Catholic Wedding Kit is a collection of digital tools to guide you through every decision you need to make about your wedding and the why behind each one, helping you communicate, pray, and discern as a couple. Learn more about The Catholic Wedding Kit and the rest of Laura-Anne’s resources and photography services at laura-anne.ca or on Instagram @lauraannesmid  Use code ABIDE for 15% off any digital resources.     Timestamps: 00:00 - Laura-Anne 01:28 - Intro 02:20 - Welcome 06:57 - Scripture Verse and Guiding Quote 09:02 - Fear in Suffering 12:13 - Suffering in Communion 19:28 - Choosing to Love 27:41 - Transformation in Freedom 29:23 - Prayer 34:20 - Advent Study Announcement 36:13 - One Things

    42 min
  6. S15 E2 - Living the Mysteries (Part 2)

    30 SEPT

    S15 E2 - Living the Mysteries (Part 2)

    In this week's episode, we look back and remember both the glorious and luminous moments in our lives. We share how allowing the Holy Spirit to overshadow us has brought forth an overflowing of grace and restoration in our lives. We also reflect on how God desires to restore our voices in places where we are afraid and have become silent. Today, join us in reflecting on your recent faith journey to discover the beautiful ways God has been shaping your soul through your own glorious and luminous mysteries.   Glorious - something you see the Lord redeeming and restoring (it can be in process) Luminous - something the Lord brought to light, an area or pruning, longing, and an ache   Heather’s One Thing - The song Hell or High Water by Amanda Cook  Sister Miriam’s One Thing - All moms whose kids went away to the first day of school Michelle’s One Thing - Spindrift half lemon & half tea and this  Ice Maker   Journal Questions: What were the glorious mysteries (something you see the Lord restoring) of my summer? What were the luminous mysteries (something the Lord brought to light, an area of pruning, an ache) of my summer? How is God restoring your voice in this season? How have I forgotten that the Gospel is costly?   Discussion Questions: What have you been carrying by your own power, instead of by the Holy Spirit’s overshadowing? “You do not need a new plan, you need a new posture.” What new posture is the Lord inviting you to? What parts of your life need the gentle, healing touch of Jesus? How has God responded to the aches and longings of your life right now?   Quote to Ponder: "Dear friends, what an immense joy to have Mary Immaculate as our Mother! Every time we experience our frailty and the promptings of evil, we may turn to her and our hearts receive light and comfort. Even in the trials of life, in the storms that cause faith and hope to vacillate, let us recall that we are her children and that our existence is deeply rooted in the infinite grace of God. Although the Church is exposed to the negative influences of the world, she always finds in Mary the star to guide her so that she may follow the route pointed out to her by Christ.” (Angelus, December 8, 2009)   Scripture for Lectio:  "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." (Proverbs 3:5-6)   Sponsor - Ascension: It may seem like holiness is unattainable for normal, everyday people. But one saint shows us that our littleness is actually the way to holiness. In Story of a Soul, St. Thérèse of Lisieux’s autobiography, this little saint has taught generations that God can make us saints through unbounded confidence in his love and an embrace of our littleness. Starting October 1st, the feast day of St. Thérèse, you can listen to the only authorized full English translation of Story of a Soul, along with expert commentary, for free on the Catholic Classics podcast! This podcast is available to you on all major podcast platforms including Apple podcasts and Spotify. Plus, you can get the beautiful Catholic Classics edition from Ascension of Story of a Soul to follow along with the podcast. Ascension’s Catholic Classics edition of Story of a Soul is created in collaboration with the Institute of Carmelite Studies. Included in this new edition are photos from St. Thérèse’s life, additional expert commentary, plus more to help you understand and dive into this important Catholic text. Download the reading plan and order your copy of Story of a Soul at AscensionPress.com/Abide.   Timestamps: 00:00 - Ascension 01:12 - Intro 02:05 - Welcome 03:36 - Guiding Quote 04:44 - Glorious 15:22 - Luminous 24:32 - Scripture Verse 24:52 - One Things

    30 min
  7. S15 E1 - Living the Mysteries (Part 1)

    23 SEPT

    S15 E1 - Living the Mysteries (Part 1)

    In this week's episode, we look back over the past year and remember both the joyful and sorrowful moments in our lives. We discuss the importance of regularly bringing our attention to what God is doing in our lives and reflecting on the opportunities we have to deepen our surrender to God’s provision. Today, join us in reflecting on your recent faith journey to discover the beautiful ways God has been shaping your soul through your own joyful and sorrowful mysteries. Joyful - an area of delight or gratitude where you have felt the tangible presence of the Lord Sorrowful - a hurt or an obstacle we’ve noticed    Heather’s One Thing - Big Apple Catholic’s new shop! Especially the Holy Spirit crew neck Sister Miriam’s One Thing - A quote from St. Catherine of Siena “He will provide the way and the means, such as you could never have imagined. Leave it all to Him, let go of yourself, lose yourself on the Cross, and you will find yourself entirely.” Michelle’s One Thing - LifeTeen Summer Camp and Camp Chosatonga   Other Resources Mentioned:  The Women Doctors of the Church Podcast Series   Announcement: New Abiding Together merch is coming soon! Subscribe to our weekly email newsletter to receive updates.   Journal Questions: What were the joyful mysteries (delights, tangible gratitude) of my summer? How are you waiting on the Lord’s Providence? What were the sorrowful mysteries (hurts, obstacles) of my summer? Where in my life do I believe that if “it feels bad, it is bad?”   Discussion Questions: Who walked with you throughout this summer? How have you tangibly experienced Christ’s presence in the midst of sorrow? Where have you experienced healing from the Lord this summer? What changes are you sensing (internally or externally) with the start of fall?   Quote to Ponder: “Looking at Mary, how can we, her children, fail to let the aspiration to beauty, goodness and purity of heart be aroused in us? Her heavenly candor draws us to God, helping us to overcome the temptation to live a mediocre life composed of compromises with evil, and directs us decisively towards the authentic good that is the source of joy.” (Angelus, December 8, 2005 Pope Benedict)   Scripture for Lectio:  “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)   Sponsor - Called to Communicate Our baptism equips and compels us to extend the prophetic mission of Jesus Christ.  Each woman who has encountered Christ has a story and a message of hope. We live in times that need women’s voices to reclaim the power of words and put them in the service of the Gospel. Called to Communicate is a free 5-day online conference beginning September 30, 2024. This online event promises encouragement, laughter, tears, practical advice, and spiritual wisdom from the women leading in the Church’s mission of evangelization. Register at CalledtoCommunicate.com. If the event dates have passed, the entire conference is still available to purchase and watch!  Listen to powerful interviews with Heather, Michelle, Sister Miriam and many others. Use code “Abide” for $10 off extended access and bonus gifts.   Timestamps: 00:00 - Called to Communicate 01:28 - Intro 02:21 - Welcome 06:37 - Guiding Quote 07:40 - Joy 15:36 - Sorrow 30:05 - One Things 33:02 - Announcement

    36 min
  8. Bonus: Abiding in Hope

    5 AUG

    Bonus: Abiding in Hope

    In this bonus episode, Heather is joined by Fr. Dave Pivonka, TOR live at the National Eucharistic Congress (NEC) for a special Abiding Together and They that Hope podcast mashup. They reflect on their experiences at the NEC and share how they hope God will transform the lives of not only those in attendance, but also those at home. Heather and Fr. Dave also discuss finding Jesus in our daily lives and the importance of feasting on God instead of earthly things. This episode is a production of Franciscan University and OSV. Special thanks to MAX Studios for recording and hosting the live podcast stage.   Heather’s Highlight from the NEC - Adoration with Floriani  Heather’s One Thing - Receiving a copy of her new book:  Encountering Emmanuel (A Guided Advent Journal for Prayer and Meditation) Fr. Dave’s Highlight from the NEC - His time spent with the young people at the Congress Fr. Dave’s One Thing - Deep friendships Other Resources Mentioned:  Msgr. James Shea’s Full Speech at the National Eucharistic Congress   Announcement: Season 15 begins September 2024 - join our email list to receive updates!   Journal Questions: How have I experienced Eucharistic revival this year? Have you allowed the stress of your duties and burdens take your eyes off Christ in this season? How can I shift my gaze from my inner world to Christ?   Discussion Questions: How has Christ encountered you personally when you felt lost in the crowd? What obstacles cause you to miss Him when He’s right in front of you? How can you put yourself back into the reality that God is sovereign and in control?   Quote to Ponder: “The One whom the Father has sent into our hearts, the Spirit of his Son, is truly God. Consubstantial with the Father and the Son, the Spirit is inseparable from them, in both the inner life of the Trinity and his gift of love for the world. In adoring the Holy Trinity, life-giving, consubstantial, and indivisible, the Church's faith also professes the distinction of persons. When the Father sends his Word, he always sends his Breath. In their joint mission, the Son and the Holy Spirit are distinct but inseparable. To be sure, it is Christ who is seen, the visible image of the invisible God, but it is the Spirit who reveals him.” (CCC 689)   Scripture for Lectio:  “When he was at table with them, he took the bread and blessed, and broke it, and gave it to them. And their eyes were opened and they recognized him; and he vanished out of their sight. They said to each other, “Did not our hearts burn within us while he talked to us on the road, while he opened to us the scriptures?” (Luke 24:30-32)

    43 min

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