A Codependent Mind

This chapter broke me. I have been in a therapy group and have realized that I’m codependent but this chapter..wow. I just realized that I have been monitoring my environment since I was 3 for signs of threat. How could I have ever been curios about anything? How others felt was of the utmost importance for my well being and safety. Them being ok was how I was ok. I’m grieving not ever getting to know myself. Thank you for this.

This podcast has been an integral part of my recognition of my codependent tendencies, and the catalyst to finding agency, a voice, and eventually understanding who I am and what I want from this life. I’m deeply thankful for the vulnerability it took to share - and keep sharing - the journey as it twists and turns. I’m impressed and thankful for them for sharing their journey.

Wow, so this podcast is so vulnerable and informative, also presented in a very caring and respectful manner. I love the amount of love Brain and Stephanie share in these conversations. They are modeling healthy relationships in real time - or so it feels? So many moments were like. Mirror for me - since my unfortunate childhood filled with neglect and abuse also led me down the avoidant, shameful, powerless maladaptive behavior. This podcast validates so many of my own struggles in intimate and even friendships. Lack of boundaries being a big one. Abandoning self another. I have to say I envy the closeness they share and Stephanie’s calm and intelligent demeanor and how she sees Brian not just for his trauma or behavior - and actually sees his authentic self. Being with someone healthy - I often think healthy people as rare as unicorns. I wonder so much about how Stephanie managed to become so invested in something so often painful and confusing. I assume it has been very much worth the effort and this is why the relationship functions for both! Anyway thanks for digging so DEEP into all these concepts and layers of relationship dynamics!

Very thoughtful. Two intelligent people who have made their way through some stuff! Such good information. I love it and recommend it highly.