Are You Really Busy, or Are You Avoiding Each Other?

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In today’s episode of Relationship Reset: Reignite, Reconnect, Rebuild, we dive deep into the myth of busyness and explore how it may actually be a cover for emotional avoidance in long-term relationships. If your life feels like an endless game of Tetris, juggling back-to-back meetings, appointments, and to-do lists—you're not alone. But what if some of that busyness isn’t just life coming at you? What if it's a way to avoid facing deeper issues in your relationship?

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding the difference between being "busy" and avoiding emotional intimacy
• The metaphor of juggling glass balls vs. rubber balls: Why your relationship is a glass ball that deserves your attention
• How busyness can become a shield from facing tough conversations and deepening your emotional connection
• Reflection questions for couples to assess whether they are emotionally avoiding each other
• Tips on carving out space for emotional presence and connection in your relationship

Reflective Questions to Consider (with Your Partner):

1. What am I juggling right now? Which of these are truly glass and which ones might be rubber?
2. Have I been choosing busyness as a buffer against vulnerability in my relationship?
3. When was the last time I felt emotionally connected to my partner?
4. Are there moments when I avoid slowing down because I don’t know how to be with my partner anymore?
5. What's one small shift I could make this week to carve out space for emotional presence in my relationship?

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